I don't count guys I let give me some head......for what? They ain't dig in me, I just let them taste it....so I should count them?

b/c what is eating cooch? Oral SEX is it not? I mean i don't know... The logic behind it was if you can get an STD from it it should be counted.

I think head counts...you technically went inside her and you got the same sensation you would get being in a pussy so why not count it.

People, quit being coy!

Head does count... unless I wasn't in a relationship and I was the receiver and that's all I got

In which case it's the same as having a toy

I would think it would count more for a guy than a girl. Girls don't always get off doing it regular though, and well, isn't getting off really what it's all about?

oh but sierra it is not the same sensation!!! never is it!! it's totally different.

No, I wouldn't say that head counts in the numbers, I'll ask around and invite a few folkes this is very interesting. Btw, I had this conversation the other day with one of my closest friends and she said she doesn't count guys that were trash in bed either, I thought she was the only one that thought that way.

Q' how have you been? I been waiting for you to come back round these parts!!! B/c your bloglog doesn't send me to your page... anyway how have you been? and you're a wild girl w/ that one so it only counts if you were in a relationship huh? why is that?

I can't imagine getting head and not finishing off the job. Don't get me wrong, I like it as much as the next girl, but I need penetration afterwards. So I would have to count in the head givers because after the head came the real thing.

hey La'Keya why do you ladies skew the number? I count everyone i was inside be it a minute or just those old sschool lemme stick it in encounters... but y'alll be like he had braids so i don't count him....

Regardless if they are trash or not in bed you still went there so why wouldn't you count them. That's not being real with yourself, imo. Don't be mad that it will bring your count up,lol.

Hey Nikz, Really? So is it mandatory? For the real thing to follow?

What if the person in question is a virgin? If she/he gives head does that make her not a virgin anymore because she gave head?

Hey Xilla. Hell yeah it's mandatory!

It's an act of sex, so yeah I would count it in. Sex does not just mean intercourse. You might even wanna throw that phone sex you had,lol.

i know it doesn't Nikz but... i mean.. c'mon i can't see how it should count!! I don't count it and if i did i'm wilt chamberlain

That was a joke about the phone sex,lol. That doesn't require physical touching so it doesn't. I know not everyone will agree with me but I think intimate touching is sex, even mutual mast. Just my opinion.

really? wow that's interesting. I would count PS i mean we played a game what you did on your end of the phone was your business

Q' how have you been? I been waiting for you to come back round these parts!!! B/c your bloglog doesn't send me to your page... anyway how have you been? and you're a wild girl w/ that one so it only counts if you were in a relationship huh? why is that?

Hey Xilla Baby!... well the way I see it I hardly ever count single-girl head being given to me.... but my stuff is da bidness so dudes are always telling me THAT counts LOL

but basically If I don't have to take my bra off OR nap it off it doesn't count

I also don't count none of that "Fingering in public business" or "phone sex" (and really dudes, let's be real WE ARE BULLSHITTING YOU, that stuff doesn't make us come any) or anything or the sort

Hey Nikz, Really? So is it mandatory? For the real thing to follow?

Posted by: BlogXilla | December 13, 2007 09:35 AM

UH, yeah, it's very anticlimactic i it doesn't lead to the real stuff
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What if the person in question is a virgin? If she/he gives head does that make her not a virgin anymore because she gave head?

If the person in question is giving head or ass of masturbating like a 14 boy SHE is not a virgin, that is a state of mind... matter fact if you decide to put a celibate lock on your kitty for a few years and are not even messing with the stuff or playing with yourself, you just get your virgin card handed back to you

WOW Q' It would count if i did it!! i'm a master of my craft!! lol I could take off your bra w/ one finger! mainly b/c i can't move my right thumb but 30% but still. Do people still finger though? WOW!! Thats why that dude from Payback pulled a condom out of his chick!!!

Nah the V card Never comes back!!! lol Never ever ever!!! once i take it i keep it and put it over my fire place like a deer's head!!!

sure...it's a sexual act...no matter how short...no matter how bad...it is what it is...a form of sex...period.

Sup Mokojah!! how are you doing?

I guess I don't count alot of shit then. Bad sex doesn't count. It actually gets erased from my psyche as soon as it's done and oral doesn't count either. Good Oral done to me doesn't necessarily count but let's say it gets an Honorable Mention.

That's just wrong Slimting!! wrong!!! lol

If I'm going to take the time out to moan on the phone, I wanna get something out of that. It may not be real to some women, but why do it if you don't get anything out of it? I'm into pleasing men but what about me.? So speak for yourselves ladies, I know I'm speaking for myself when I say that it must be mutual gratification going down or I'm not a part of it. And no, I don't believe you can get it back no matter how long it's been. What's done is done, what gone is gone.

^^^ AMEN!! WHich is why you wont catch me playing that ridiculousness with dudes!!!

Is like Quit talking stupid and low, come over or we'll see each other when we do!

head does not count

Q? how do i get there? Sike nah

Nikz I truly understand where you're coming from... but the whole process is mental for both men and women!! so we have to get into each others minds and you don't need to touch someone to get inside their minds. this i hope we all know.

I guess I don't count alot of shit then. Bad sex doesn't count. It actually gets erased from my psyche as soon as it's done and oral doesn't count either. Good Oral done to me doesn't necessarily count but let's say it gets an Honorable Mention.

Posted by: slimting | December 13, 2007 11:11 AM

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slimting, we think alike.

I guess my number is very skewed. I don't count bad sex and giving head. Those are footnotes.

Don't worry abount none of that, baby . YOU count! ;-)

Cassie. "footnotes" is a good word for it. If i was to count ALL the bad sex and head (good or bad) I may be beating Xilla's number. Now THAT's bad! LOL

Cassie not you... why do ladies skew the numbes?

my number ain't all that geez you make me look like my number up there w/ like the victims of 9/11 or something.. lol

It counts DEPENDING On WHO's counting with YOU! Ha ha ha

TAKE that BACK.

I've never GIVEN someone "JUST HEAD" so IF were talking about SOMEONE who just gave me head, NAW I wouldn't include that in the count, UNLESS the question was specifically asked "DID anyone JUST give you head"?

Yeah it's not lying is it Tianna its just withholding informaitionon

I guess my post got eaten up by the blog monster. I think I need to break my position on ps down further because I think there is a misunderstanding. What I am saying is that if I am to partake in ps I am going to be totally into it or it is a big waste of time. Yes Xilla it is a mind thing you gotta take yourself there. I am referring to what Q said about women bullshitting men about what's going on at the other end of the phone. Girl, why waste the time moaning on the phone if YOU are not into it?

I do concur!! I sound wonderful!! I'll get in your head and if you go there w/ me mind boning is great.

thanks, slimting.

Xilla, yes, I have skewed my number. I remember during my freshman year in college, my roommate and I stayed up one night doing the number game. The thing is we had to count EVERYTHING.

I don't know why we skewed the numbers, but I know that men skew it big time. Question: why do men get all bent out of shape when a woman has had more than 3 partners in her lifetime?

Tianna, that is true. If the question is not specific, information will be withheld.

How oral sex doesn't count when it is followed by sex! That doesn't make sense! Oral Sex counts! LOL

Xilla why does it take so long for your page to load?

Now that I'm done cracking up in my office (@ lunch)...I would count it but seeing as how I saved my "head giving days" for my husband that's in "my count". I just couldn't go down on some dude I wasn't going to see the next day. I have standards you know. *ROFL*

At any rate, I have to agree with your female friend, if it goes in--regardless of WHERE it goes in--it's counted.

Cassie, I only count those i've entered... all that other extra curricular stuff... nah!! it's a wrap. if i counted those i kid you not i'd be putting up barry bond numbers.

I've definitely skewed my number...but only to an inquiring party...not myself. If there was penetration involved, then I count it (even if I do want to forget it, fell asleep in the middle, laughed out loud during, couldn't feel it, or anything else that implies that it was garbage). Head most certainly does count...toward experience. I think that head is just a part of sex...nothing extra...not a treat...and does not require any emphasis relative to the omission or inclusion of it in my number.

Xilla - I think that women skew their number to someone that they really like/love/care about. We want to feel like you feel like you got the "good girl" even if our prowess and secret number implies that we're anything but - in theory of course.

hey LadyT I'm glad you enjoyed your time here!

I dont see the reason for cooking the books... we always have a higher number!!

yeah but how aghast do most men act when their girl's number matches OR surpasses theirs??

right

I don't know about most dudes but i dont want a good girl. I want a girl whose been leased before, and has some miles on her. i don't want to be teaching an adult anything. i want to know that when i say let's do the Tulsa Turnbuckle thrust there isn't going to be too much instruction needed. lets be real here... its 2008

Cassie, I only count those i've entered... all that other extra curricular stuff... nah!! it's a wrap. if i counted those i kid you not i'd be putting up barry bond numbers.

Posted by: BlogXilla | December 13, 2007 01:38 PM
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I am totally done for today. That was the comment of the day!!

Xilla, but what if the girl has too many miles?? Then what??

If there was penetration involved, then I count it (even if I do want to forget it, fell asleep in the middle, laughed out loud during, couldn't feel it, or anything else that implies that it was garbage).

Posted by: Special_Intent | December 13, 2007 03:02 PM
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I would classify that in my "footnote" section under THIS CAN"T BE HAPPENING.

If there was penetration involved, then I count it (even if I do want to forget it, fell asleep in the middle, laughed out loud during, couldn't feel it, or anything else that implies that it was garbage).

Posted by: Special_Intent | December 13, 2007 03:02 PM
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I would classify that in my "footnote" section under THIS CAN"T BE HAPPENING.

Posted by: Anonymous | December 13, 2007 04:32 PM
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This is my comment

Yeah, head counts. I think people should be counting the number of people they've been "sexually involved" with. And that incompasses manual, oral (giving and receiving), anal and any other kind of sex u can cook up.

I'll admit this is fairly new for me too. Anybody, who lasted less than 10min didn't get counted.

Peace.

I agree with a lot of the comments here, however, the guys I let eat me, I did not want them to finish....whats the purpose of adding a notch for nothing...those guys had small packages...so "we just made out"....

For a guy, he should count it....maybe I'm just being biased....I don't know, if the guy made me orgasm from it...then maybe I should count that one huh...lol

I don't know about most dudes but i dont want a good girl. I want a girl whose been leased before, and has some miles on her. i don't want to be teaching an adult anything. i want to know that when i say let's do the Tulsa Turnbuckle thrust there isn't going to be too much instruction needed. lets be real here... its 2008

Posted by: BlogXilla | December 13, 2007 04:04 PM

Xilla, but what if the girl has too many miles?? Then what??

Posted by: cassie | December 13, 2007 04:29 PM

I'm with Cassie...what determines whether she's a been leased or totaled and just has a nice paint job??

Xilla, but what if the girl has too many miles?? Then what??

Posted by: cassie | December 13, 2007 04:29 PM
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Hence the reason why i never answer that question. If a woman has a higher number than her man, i feel he will start looking at her crazy. Even if he may not want to. I LIED one time to someone about my number and he STILL gave me attitude. Totally reconfirmed why no one i date gets the actual number.

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I'm with Cassie...what determines whether she's a been leased or totaled and just has a nice paint job??

Posted by: Special_Intent | December 13, 2007 05:06 PM
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My point exactly. She may be a LEMON. Look good and ish on the outside, all effed up on the inside.

Hence the reason why i never answer that question. If a woman has a higher number than her man, i feel he will start looking at her crazy. Even if he may not want to. I LIED one time to someone about my number and he STILL gave me attitude. Totally reconfirmed why no one i date gets the actual number.

Posted by: slimting | December 13, 2007 05:37 PM

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Preach It, slimting, Preach It!!

I lied too and got the same reaction. Dude couldn't look at me for a whole minute. Men want you to be truthful, but can't handle it when you are!!

I'm not giving out numbers & I don't need to hear his numbers. Like Slimting said about the dude getting an attitude, it leads to people catching feelings and is unnecessary. I leave the past were it's at.So I'm not answering that question, and I haven't been asked that question in quite a while. When men mature they realize that's something they don't want to know anyway.

Ladies I concur - no matter what number you give, it's not going to be what he wants to hear. And it kills me when they throw a number out there for you and then want you to confirm or deny it's correct. Most of the time that number is the max that they want you to own up to. You can tell by that glimmer of hope in their eyes:

"Alright, alright. Real talk. Is it more than..."

Get the eff outta here! You are not gonna set me up for the okey doke.

C'mon Special Intent.. drop your number in an anonymous comment... matter fact why doesn't err body do that drop their real number in a no named comment.

*ROFL* It's me Xilla...the Lady who abhors stupidity but I like your new page though. I don't get on like I used to because I'm so busy.

hell no head don't count. and i don't skew my number... i just don't tell anyone because it's nobody's biznass but mines.

I don't count it. No guy has asked for my "number" since high school...so it doesn't really matter anyway.

F*ck that! I don't count wack head. I don't count lame n*ggas. So I guess after i delete exhibit A and B I'm left with C which is all of 2 people. Damn my mileage running like a new car now

Damn Necole... 2? WTF imma need you to be a little more experienced than that baby.

I say it doesn't count.
When I count,all I count is wheather or not
I "Broke the Plane"

if you can catch an STD, you just had sex. It's 2007 and folks better be managing their shit right, unless they WANT to die of AIDS. Your blog is humorous. In fact, its probably the best blog entry I've read in about 3 weeks and since I usually read bloggers that are supposed to be getting paid for their lame jokes thats saying a whole lot. But again, they didn't get us with Slavery, Jim Crow or bad record contracts (lol) - but they will serve your ass a helping of Herpes or AIDS out of this world.

If your dick or pussy touches mouth - you just had sex son.

- fuck your hometown. there all run by white folks.