Just My Humble Opinion
Back in my days of being on of Myspace's most popular bloggers I held a series called Advice You Can Not Refuse so recently I got an email asking for some advice here's what it said
Dear BlogXilla,
I've been dating this guy for about 3 months now.... For most of the relationship except the past week... He has been lying to me about his sexuality... Since his confession of liking boys, I've tried to except it and stick by him and be understanding... Honestly... him being bisexual doesn't really bother me... But it keeps coming up that he is cheating with and x or something... I've even heard with one of my close homeboys... Everyday its something new and a new issue...If ask him about something i heard about him he flips out and flies off the handle.... but if he hears something he will spread it to all of his friends as if its true and then ask me about it.... then if he doesn't like the answer i give him or thinks i have an attitude... he acts childish and immature.... Honestly the relationship is pointless... I know it is... Its obvious to see.... and he obviously wants to be with guys.... But its seems like he is in denial.... I've given him opportunity after opportunity to leave and do him.... but he wont... When i try to leave he throws temper tantrums and refuses to leave.... I will be leaving for college aug. 12 and he will be a senior in next year.... Ive tried to thoroughly explain that its time i go my way and he go his... especially with college calling me... but he aint tryna hear it... he'z the type of guy who will stalk me and act as a crazy baby moma or sumthin..... So what should i do??? Because he is driving me insane... and I want to move on and be free of him and enjoy the college life come next month....
Signed,
ClUeLeSs SwEetHeArt
Dear Clueless Sweetheart,
First let me just say I applaud you for having an unconditional love inside of your heart, now on to business. Your situation is an all too common one in today's world. But here is what I suggest you do, first get an HIV test, well get checked for everything, there is too much stuff going around out here and your health should be your number 1 priority. Secondly you need to have a talk with him and straight up tell him you will not be his fag hag. You see I feel like he's trying to keep you around to hide his sexuality of him liking boys. You're lucky though you've only been w/ him for 3 months so it's not that deep in the relationship. So even though he's the crazy baby mama type his heart isn't too much into it.
Now you have an out, when you go away to school cut off all contact with him. I mean for serious take a long shower and wash him out of your system, maybe even find you a fly upper classmen to take you on a ride if you know what I mean. If you don't want to do that just relax and a new man will find you. The great thing about college is someone is always looking to be a BCSS (broke college student supporter) I myself played the role of a sponsor a time or two. But chances are if you do this, he'll find some other women to be his pseudo queen while he cruises the down low street looking for new meat. You don't need that in your life. I firmly believe every women needs a man who is willing to be their 100%. There are a lot of good men out there and chances are you can bag one. Just keep your options open and maybe try to find a man who isn't the norm. You'll be alright.
Now if dude does act up and gets all stalkerlicious on you simple trot up to the local police station and file a restraining order. Simple as that. He'll get the picture sooner or later. If that doesn't work you might want to invest in a wig and some of those big bug glasses Mary J rocks from time to time. J/K
BlogXilla
