Why do fools fall in love? Don’t get your panties in a bunch, because if you have ever been in love then you played a fool at one point in your life. What I want to talk about today is something common, it’s the lust factor.

All too often I am bombarded with phone calls, emails and IM’s from both male and female friends lusting over their latest soon to be flings. I myself have lusted a time or two but WHY? I mean really, what is it that intrigues us so much about another person that suddenly our whole day revolves around that person. You know you’ve done it, picture this

– you are sitting at your desk hard at work only to trail off into a daydream of that person being there when you get home. Or even replaying how you want your first sexual encounter with that person to go in your mind. I can admit it, I’ve done it, especially when I think about my boo Raheem  

Why do you have that weird feeling when you first get someone’s number? Then you part ways only to find yourself picturing your first date together before you reach the corner?

Have you ever instantly replaced the role of your current partner with someone you really crush on and then played out certain scenarios in your head? Go on -- admit that shit -- you know you have, everybody has.

I know folks that start going out with someone and all of a sudden their ass is taking off work, diverting phone calls from friends, and even cutting back on pastimes all for this new found lust. I only call it lust because that’s what it is. You barely know this person and you fuckin up your rent money. Spending all your spare time with this new flame can only result in overkill. Really, you can’t possibly think you are the only one this person is seeing now can you? Okay some can think that, but that “some” is a bunch of damn fools! Try this on for size:

Ask your new boo to umm take off work for a day so yall can spend more time together, I mean why not? You took off on your “boo’s” day off without a problem.

Better yet, ask your new baby for some ends to cover a bill or two- I mean after all you are only short because yall have been seeing so much of each other, right?

Oh! or how about asking this person to help out on rent, without them suggesting they move in if they gonna be giving up rent money

Or even better – THE CAR NOTE – will they help you out without wanting to drive?

– So what’s the big deal? Well, the big deal lies all in their answer, if this fresh out the box new love won’t do for you equally or more then um ---

Houston you got a problem!