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Last night while having a “conversation” with someone who reads my blogs she explained to me how she sent her ex man my blogs and how it really helped his ability to give tongue spankings because she deserved it. Well I wanted to help a few ladies out whose men don’t reach the bottom and blow their back out. So I have compiled 10 Back busting moves for men to do in the bedroom and keep their women like smurfs… Except that angry one who’s always pissed.

1. Give it to her deep:

• Skipping all the four play and assuming that you are in the middle of breaking her back his stroke is very important. Strokes should be long and fast. Pull the tip out until only the head is inside of the woman and drive it in her deeper than the ocean. I’m talking deep like a Muslim who just came home from prison after a 15 year bid.

2. Bend Her Up:

• The female body has joints that should be used. Take her legs and attempt to put her ankles where her ears are. Legs on shoulders and just holding the legs helps to take control away from the woman. This allows a man to have his way with her.

3. From The Back:

• It’s almost a given that in order to break a woman’s back you have to hit it from the back. I wrote a whole guide for doing her doggy which you can read by clicking here.

4. Head

• Not oral this time folks but what must be done is grabbing a handful of hair and pulling while digging the manxilla inside of her.

5. Shoulders

• The man takes his hands and grabs her shoulders and pull her towards him with every inward thrust, while drilling in and out of her. If you hear the sound of balls and booty slamming into each other then you know it’s being done right.

The next round of tips deal with the mental aspect of breaking a back. Because truth be told, no man can ever give a woman more than she can handle… She has the ability to have children and I don’t care how big the manxilla is, it can’t compare to 7lbs 8oz.

6. Words That End In ‘UCK

• Saying words that end in uck will make the sex seem dirty and naughty and when it comes to breaking backs that’s exactly how sex should be. Use your imagination or just read the comments on this site to see what type of things women like to here.

7. Smack That Ass:

• The sting a woman feels when her ass is smacks helps her achieve the most from sex. Pull your hand back and as high as possible and give it to her as hard as you can.

8. Dirty Names

This one you have to be careful about, not all women like being called the B-word or a dirty little slut either. However if you know you’re doing the damn thing just say it, call her the most terrible name you can think of, and the worst you’ll get is a little tap for calling her out of her name.

9. The Other Hole

• Again this is something you want to use caution with, but most woman don’t know they like a finger or just a thumb being presses on their anus until a guy has the courage to do it. I know me personally I just simply do a lot of extra stuff during my blow her back out sessions. While hitting it from the back I like to stick my finger in her butt or just simple put my thumb in my mouth and then press a warm wet thumb against her other whole. Every time I’ve done this I always got a wow, I didn’t know I would like that.

10: You

• This one is on you. What are some other tricks to blowing a woman’s back out?

A couple of days ago I got an email from a young lady, who wasn’t so experienced in being a sexual intellectual. Her boyfriend in coming home for the holidays and she wants to put it on him. So I decided to drum up a few scenarios for her.

Xilla,

Hi! I am a regular on your site and I’ve read your advice on certain topics so I was wondering if you could help me out. I am dating this guy and really like him…no, I love him and he’s in Iraq. He’s been gone for about 6 months and will be back at the end of January for 2 weeks and then he’ll go back to Iraq. I am 24 and before he left we had sex and it was my first time (yes I was a 24 year old virgin…so shoot me!) And I was really nervous, confused, scared etc. I want to make our sessions special when he gets back so do you have any advice or suggestions for me since I’m new to this?

Yours Truly,

The Army Boo

Dear Army Boo,

The best thing you can do is to let go of your fears, and try some things out. The fact that you are willing to try will bring the two of you closer together. Here are some ideas.

Road Head - When you pick him up from the airport, let him drive home. While he’s driving pull out his penis, get it rock in your hands and then put it in your mouth. This is something that I want whenever I am in the car, but it just doesn’t happen for me often. Mainly because I live in NY and don’t drive, but it’s still something I want ALL THE TIME.

Submit - The easiest thing for you is to simply submit. As soon as the two of you walk in the door, give him a passionate kiss and tell him to do whatever he wants to do to you. I mean whatever. Anything. Remove no from your vocabulary. If he wants you to do cartwheels, do it, if he wants to have sex on the hood of the car, do it. If he wants to pour syrup on your, dress you in his military boots, do the dance from Cadence and put it in ever single hole in your body… let him. Simply let him have his way w/ you. This way you can just go w/ the flow and he’ll have the time of his life.

Take Control - I’ll admit I don’t know much about the military, but one thing I have noticed is that they all travel in their uniforms. When you get him home, demand him to have sex w/ you in his uniform. Tell her it’s a direct order. Sure it’s corny but I’m sure he’ll get a kick out of it. Make sure you remain in charge, and this way you have your way w/ him. Do all the things you always wanted to try. Click the Sex Tab at the top of the site and try a bunch of things I have written about before. If not, I do have a blog titled 40 Things To Try Before The New Year

Xilla

Women still don’t want a man with a small penis. Yet, I’ve spoken to many women who claim that it really is the motion in the ocean that really counts. So while these women mock men w/ small wood, or splinters, other women relish in a man who knows who to work his tool. So to help I found an article to help men w/ small wood make their women reach orgasms.

Focus on foreplay
Foreplay should include anything and everything your woman enjoys. Kissing and caressing are always appreciated, but don’t limit yourself to the old standbys. Not if you want to really rock her world. Toss in some sexy pillow talk to start, and be sure to have her favorite sex toys on hand. If she’s a bit kinky, you may want to try some sensual biting or even a bit of a spanking. The key here is to lavish her with the kind of attention you know she responds well to; you want to get her so hot that she can’t help begging for sex.

Stimulate the clitoris
Prior to intercourse, you’ll want to spend as much quality time with the clitoris as she can handle. Whether you do this via oral sex or manual stimulation, make sure she climaxes at least once before you move on to penetration; this will help alleviate any performance anxiety you might experience once you’re ready to try the following small penis sex positions.

THE POSITIONS
The doggie

• When performed at the correct angle, the doggie can make even the smallest penis feel quite large. You’ll want her positioned in such a way that she’s able to comfortably place her head and shoulders on the pillow, while having her bottom raised in the air. To help create the most effective angle, her back should be arched and her thighs should be drawn together. Not only is this the easiest small penis sex position on our list, but it’s also one of the most popular.

Bite-sized tip: Lean forward during penetration, maintaining as much physical contact as you can comfortably manage; this will keep things intimate, enabling her to reach her sexual peak as quickly as possible.

These small penis sex positions will make any guy feel huge…

The snake

• For this small penis sex position, you’ll want your woman lying flat on her belly with her legs closed. For the sake of ease and comfort, slip a pillow beneath her hips until her bottom arches upward. Keeping your knees bent, straddle her hips while maintaining an upright position and place your genitals just behind her bottom. Gently spread her thighs just enough to allow penetration and slide your way in. Take care to keep your weight off her body during intercourse; if you feel the need to brace yourself against something, bend forward until you’re able to touch the bed — it won’t detract much from the position.

Bite-sized tip: If you really want a tight fit, hold her thighs together as you penetrate her. This is also an excellent position from which to administer a sexy spanking.

The rabbit ears

• Lay your woman down on her back, spread her thighs and draw her legs up until her knees are close to her ears. Slip a pillow under her bottom, as this will place her vagina at an angle better suited for this small penis sex position. When you penetrate her, it will feel as though you’re filling her vagina completely. Once sex starts to get wild, however, it can be difficult for a woman to hold her legs in that position. We suggest using your own arms to hold her knees in place; simply place either arm in the crook of her knee before you brace your hands on the bed.

Bite-sized tip: This is an excellent position for her to masturbate in. You may want to encourage her to slip a hand between your bodies to stimulate her clitoris while you’re rocking her world from inside.

The V-formation

• With your woman lying flat on her back, move between her thighs and enter her as you normally would from a kneeling position. Next, raise her legs and grasp either one around the ankle; you’re going to elevate her legs entirely and then spread them apart until they form a “V.” You’ll be able to thrust quite deeply from this small penis sex position, so you may want to gain leverage by bracing your palms against the wall or a headboard. To do this without changing the position, simply drape her legs over your shoulders.

Bite-sized tip: This position will give you an excellent opportunity to tease her clitoris. Free one of your hands up by resting one of her legs on your shoulder, and stimulate her clit until she orgasms.

At the end of the day, its all about preference and luckily for men with small penises there are some women who simply can’t take, can’t stand and don’t like a giant penis pushing their organs up into their throat. So follow these tips and things will work out for the best. Ladies if you man isn’t well equipped with a 2×4 sized wood, then this tips can make his splinter hurt you in a good way.

Xilla

Tips Pulled from AM

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Have you ever had amazing sex? I’m talking so amazing that you still feel it hours after the sex is over. Ladies are left walking funny, and men are left unable to concentrate on anything because all he can think about is that wonderful woman hole he was just inside. Have you ever wondered how can you achieve this feeling every time you have sex? Well, I got you covered.

I remember back in my Atlanta days I had a nice session with one of my Cinderella’s and she sent me a text message that simply read “I still feel you inside of me”. Maybe it was bull crap but it sure did make me feel like a champion. Grunts of her saying I feel you in my stomach, moans of her calling me daddy and forceful declarations of her being my B*TH all made the sex some of the best I’ve ever had in my entire life.

I gave her that everlasting “manxilla” by doing what I like to call the hammer. This is when a man lifts the girl’s legs on his shoulders and drives his man tool inside of her like there is no tomorrow. Like the only thing that is important in the world is for him to try to make his peen come out of her back. He should insert himself inside her then pull it out just to the tip and jam it right back inside her. Over and over and over again. Until she inches back and sex which started at the end of the bed, is some how at the headboard. Then he should continue “the hammer” until she has a mild concussion from her head hitting said headboard too many damn times.

Another thing a man should do is the “eat it up beat it up”. This is when he takes a break from using the hammer and go down on her like she is the last meal he will ever taste. Then hitting her with the hammer some more. He should The Almighty himself told him to put his entire head inside of her body or else he will spend the rest of eternity in purgatory. He should part her lips with his tongue, flick and move it, suck on her body parts like he’s eating clams or drinking the last bit of milk from his cereal bowl. Again if you need any hints, just click here.

Ladies you can put it on your man as well. Make that dude feel so good that he will be willing to wear your scent on his face like it’s the freaking Medal of Honor. If your man is a sexual intellectual he will have no problem with you grinding his face into your lady goodies. A woman should brush her vagina along his tongue like she’s painting with her waist. She should use her stroke to paint a picture that would make Picaso him self want to quit painting. Then she should climb on top of her man and let his manxilla savoir the moistness of her essence. Grind on him slowly so you don’t bust his balls and ride him like a cowgirl. Now, I know a lot of ladies can’t ride the peen, so those women should give it to their men doggy style and just push her rear into him so he can’t move and he just have to be inside of her and love it.

Women should say things that will let him know he’s having some of the best sex ever. Men are mental beings and while good cooch is an acquired thing, men can be fooled into thinking he enjoying the Kobe Beef of Vagina. FYI, you don’t need an amazing vag if you know how to f*ck.

Bottom line if you do it to your boo the right way they’ll be thinking about the sex so much that they’ll still feel the goodness of the sex the two of you just enjoyed.

Xilla

We all want to find the greatest lover we can. many of us even want to be the best lover to our boo that we go through great lengths to do so, but as I said numerous times before you don’t have to be porn star or even do porn star things to be the best.

Moral Oral – Oral might be the greatest part of sex after the orgasm. When your lover is simply willing to go down, it can make the sex a lot better. Their willingness to do it whenever, or whereever goes a long way in a person’s mental. Whether on the pier on South Street Seaport or an eating session at the movies head is always great. The fact that your lover enjoys it, and the way they flick their tongue on that special part… I’m sure it brings back memories. I eat until I burp.

Cleanliness Is Next To Godliness - We may not admit it, but we are all shallow in our own way. So when our lover is clean, and well put together it makes the love making that much better. Trimmed pubic hair, manicured nails or a great cologne does something to build our sexual attraction.

Brand Spanking New - I call myself the sexual intellectual for the fact that I’m always willing to learn new things. I’m sure we’ve all said or have met someone who said they are willing to try new things. That’s a key part of all sexual relationships, our partners willingness to try something new. It might not be new to you, but it might be new to them. I learned a lot about eating because of different request my women have asked me to do. I’m never afraid to shout out a few orders during sex. Your lover might not be aware that doing something different can make the sex better unless you tell them.

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The wonderful body of a woman never cease to amaze me. In my quest to be a supreme sexual intellectual it is not possible to locate the exact location of the female g-spot.  This is great news for men all over the world, and not so good news for some of you women.

“For the first time, it is possible to determine by a simple, rapid and inexpensive method if a woman has got a G spot or not” Dr Emmanuele Jannini University of L’Aquila  

Ultrasound was used to measure the size and shape of the tissue beyond the “front” wall of the vagina, often suggested as the location of the G spot.

In the nine women who reported being able to achieve vaginal orgasm, the tissues between the vagina and the urethra – which carries urine out of the body – were on average thicker than in the 11 women who could not reach orgasm this way.

So to all of you ladies who have those thick Lil Kim Hardcore type yum yum’s between your legs this is your chance to jump for joy and rejoice because you can now direct a man to the location of your g-spot, now the bad news is that not all women have this section of thick tissue inside of their body. Some doctors say that this thicker tissue could just be the result of women getting their backs broke, put to bed, and having amazing sex more so than women who consistently sleep with men w/ small tools and can’t make them reach an orgasm.

The official word from the doctors who are skeptical of this study say that, rather than being the cause of more orgasms, having these frequently might actually lead to better-developed musculature in this area.

Dr Petra Boynton, a sexual psychologist at University College London, said that an entire industry had grown up around the idea of a G spot, and it was unhelpful to label women unable to find theirs as “dysfunctional”.

She said: “We’re all different. Some women will have certain area within the vagina which will be very sensitive, and some won’t – but they won’t necessarily be in the area called the G spot.

“If a woman spends all her time worrying about whether she is normal, or has a G spot or not, she will focus on just one area, and ignore everything else.

“It’s telling people that there is a single, best way to have sex, which isn’t the right thing to do.” Source

I love sex, and if you’re on my website chances are you do too. I always feel like sex can be better. So I’m always reading up on different sex acts, watching different adult films so I can learn a thing or two. If it’s not too kinky, best believe I am going to try it, and try it until I get it right. But, what about the every day normal sex acts that we tend to take for granted in our efforts to be the best sexual intellectual in the sea.

What Works – I have yet to meet a person who doesn’t have a favorite position, sexual act or move. Do it! If it makes sex better then why try to do something you’re not yet a master of? Your end goal in sex is to reach the mountain top, so why fly if you have a car? Get it? Got it, good!

You’re F*cking Who Cares? - I get a lot of emails from women who say they don’t like their stretch marks, complain about their body, or some other negative remark. Honestly as a guy I never even noticed. We are having sex, so if your lover is offering up their body to you then 9 times out of ten the only one who cares about your imperfections are you. Get over it, it can block you from doing your job. Now, if you under perform in bed that’s when you need to be worried.

What’s Around You? - I f*cked in a lot of beds before and if I learned anything I know that sex is always better when you’re in a nice bed. Clean sheets, no clothes on the bed, no baby toys or condom rappers. Have you ever rolled over on an opened magnum wrapper? Well let me tell you it’s not dope! If you expect to get some, make sure the room is nice, neat and amazing. (I’ve learned this the hard way. I’m a man in a man’s house)

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Yesterday, during Say What Now Radio with the Classy Deeva & Xilla, one of my readers called up the show and said she learned a lot of new things to try on her boo, by reading my site. Then later on, while chatting with a friend of mine, I told her how I was doing a few sit ups so I could be come a better person. (I’ve been eating a bit much lat

I was reading Cosmopolitan to check out what women think about sex and relationship and they have an amazing article of hot sex moves so I decided to give my take on 50 of these moves that will be perfect for a day when you’re locked in the house do to bad weather.

1. Have a naughty-movie marathon. Rent a bunch of flicks with famously steamy sex scenes. How could you not get inspired?

• Xilla’s Take: Believe it or not I’ve never seen Monster’s Ball, but I’m dying to do a chick like Halle Berry

2. Intensify his orgasm by placing two fingers an inch behind his balls and feeling for a dent (the perineum, a big pleasure trigger). For the last 30 seconds before he comes, massage the spot in a circular motion.

• Xilla’s Take: Boo if you’re reading this, I need you to try this one on me asap!

3. Tie two or three knots in a nylon stocking, and gently wrap it (don’t tie it) around the base of his penis so it’s snug but still has some give. The compression makes him even more sensitive, and the knots stimulate your clitoris as you move in girl-on-top.

4. Put a small mirror out to the side, parallel to his body, while you’re going down on him — he’ll have an eye-popping view.

5. To make his orgasm explosive, gently squeeze the base of his penis for five seconds before he comes, then release.

6. Close your eyes and masturbate in front of him. It’s a turn-on because he’ll feel like the only viewer of a private porn show.

• Xilla’s Take: This is very true, only a few things are hotter than watching a female masturbate. If he’s not around to watch… call him up

7. Text your man racy one-word messages that, when strung together, hint at what you want him to do to you that night.

8. Make a playlist of sultry songs, and set it to shuffle during sex. Change up your pace and mood to match each new tune.

9. Buy a small, bullet-shaped vibrator that has a remote operation. Hold it over your clitoris, and hand him the controls.

10. While your man is hard, use one hand to push his penis up toward his stomach. Lick the underside of his shaft by keeping your tongue flat and moving your head from side to side to cover more surface area.

11. While he’s giving you oral sex, tell him to insert a finger in your vagina and stroke your G-spot with a come-hither motion.

12. Get it on outdoors in a sleeping bag in your backyard. The cozy space makes missionary position even more intimate.

13. For increased sensation for both of you, apply a warming lube designed for sex to his penis right before he enters you.

14. Straddle your guy, then lean forward and rest your upper body on his torso. Bring one leg out to the side, and bend it so that the inside of your leg is against the bed. Then straighten the other leg, and slide it in between his legs. You’ll be better able to rock your clitoral area against his pelvis.

15. As your man goes down on you, ask him to draw figure eights with his tongue over your clitoris so he hits every angle.

16. Challenge yourselves to have sex every day for a month. More frequent encounters rev your libido, culminating in a big domin-O effect with each session.

• Xilla’s Take: Sex games are great, having sex everyday for a month would be impossible because I’m not sticking through blood.

17. Before sex, take a hot shower together and rub each other’s bodies with salt scrub. The steam and rubbing action will stimulate the nerve endings and blood flow.

18. Sit on the sofa with your legs spread, feet on the ground, and your hips slightly off the edge. Have your man kneel in front of you and enter you, then use your legs and arms to slide yourself up and down on him.

19. Explore tying each other up by getting a sport sheet — which slips over your bed and has four Velcro restraints at each corner — from a sex shop.

20. While on top, straddle your guy and clench your legs so his arms and torso are pinned down. As he keeps still, roll your hips in a clockwise direction. Switch to counterclockwise, then back, every 30 seconds.

21. Play porn star by bringing a camcorder into bed to view yourselves. But don’t record the action — just seeing each other through the lens is a huge turn-on.

22. Trade butt-cheek massages, using firm, kneading motions to stimulate the surprisingly sensitive gluteus muscles.

23. Kiss and lick your way down his torso, stopping short of his penis, then give him a smile and work your way back up. Repeat several times until he begs for mercy.

24. Pop an erotic film into the DVD player, and let the noises serve as inspiration — you’ll feel like you’re in the midst of an orgy.

25. Build momentum by keying in to an ocean legend that the seventh in a series of sea waves is the strongest. Lie on your back on a bench and have your man make every seventh thrust his most powerful.

26. For a superintimate move, have him sit Indian-style (with legs crossed) on the bed or floor. Then straddle him, wrap your legs behind his back, and rock back and forth.

27. On a cold, rainy day, pick five spots in your apartment, and challenge each other to have sex in every one before sundown.

28. When out at a party, lean your back against him so it looks like you’re just affectionately resting your body. Then subtly grind your butt into his package instead.

29. Flash back to high school by keeping your panties on during sex. He can massage you through the fabric — with both his hands and his mouth — as foreplay. Then, when you’re begging for skin-on-skin contact, have him pull the panties to the side to enter you. Put lube on his penis, then get on top, slip it between your labia, and slide up and down along his shaft, targeting your clitoris.

30. In girl-on-top position, lean back and place both hands on the bed behind you with your head tilted back. He’ll get a full view of your breasts and torso and a tickling sensation from the feeling of your hair on his legs.

31. When giving him oral sex, invite him to finish on your breasts.

32. Run your fingertips over your nipples and gently squeeze your breasts in your hands, all while holding eye contact with him.

33. Ignite all his senses by giving him light, fluttery, barely there kisses all over his body, from his forehead down to his toes.

34. Put a frozen grape in your mouth and warm it up a bit. Then hold it between your teeth and glide it down his neck, around his nipples, and over his lips. Finally, use your tongue to slip the grape into his mouth.

35. Have him tease you by varying his thrust technique: entering you with just the tip and then going only halfway in or stroking you on the outside with his member. He can even swirl inside you, grinding with a circular motion.

36. In the middle of intercourse, dig your nails into his butt and pull him in closer.

37. When he’s giving you oral sex, have him approach you at a perpendicular angle so he can move his tongue across your clitoris, rather than up and down. It’s easier for him… and superintense for you.

38. While kissing him, lick and suck his tongue to simulate action below his belt.

39. Ignite all his senses by giving him light, barely there kisses all over his body, from his head down to his toes.

40. In doggie-style, make a downward V with your fingers, and place them over your labia to put pleasuring pressure on your clitoris.

There are 75 Hot sex tips in all and they will make your sex life off the chain… at least before the year is over.

Click here to read the rest of these hot tips

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Has your sex life become boring and predictable, and on every Friday night at 10pm you assume the position to have sex with your boo? Well probably not because you read this site, but if it is than this blog is for you. The next time you expose your private parts to the fresh air I want you to try something different, and break a few boring sex habits we’ve all fell victim to at one time or another.

The Same First Move: It’s sort of like when you hear the lyrics “It’s not unusual to be loved by anyone” you know someone around you is going to start doing the Carlton Dance, sex habits are the same thing. It’s cool at first, but no one wants to be with the person that’s actually doing that dance at every party. Do This: The opposite of whatever it is that you normally do, or just try this. Blindfold your lover, and let them explore your body, guide their head anywhere you want it, or just have fun watching them trying to undress you without looking.

Turn Off the Lights and Do It: I know when I was living with my girl, it seemed like every night we turned out the light, cut off the television and had sex. Well not every night, but on the nights that we would, it was very routine. I would have loved to do something different like reading a very passionate book to her, while she laid on my chest. Which sucks because this idea popped in my head right before I typed the previous sentence and now it would be an act of passion that’s sort of planned. lol It’s still sure to gain some serious cool points if you do this. I wonder how many females can read and get head at the same time?

Same Bat Channel and The Same Bat Time: Another giant mistake we make is to keep doing it in the same place every single time we make love. It could be something as easy as having sex in a different room that can turn your lover on tremendously. I haven’t had sex in the shower in a real long time, and although none of my shower sessions ever happen like it does in the movies one day it can. Put on a show, in the steamiest room in your home. Lather your body, get your hair wet and do the damn thing. If you don’t want to get all wet, you can always have a quickie.