Yesterday, I got an email from a faithful reader who was seeking advice. A lot of times I just simply answer their question, but this one deserves it’s own blog. Check out what she needs help with.

Hey Xilla!!!
I read your blog everyday without fail I wonder if you can help me out on a situation…..Ok first things first I have a brain tumor that constantly keeps me having a period, day after day, month after month etc. I stop for about a week out of maybe two months. I am going to the doctor and so far no kind of treatment is working,but my question is I am with a guy that I have been with, going on 2yrs, when I am bleeding all I can do is give him head. I know I have mad skills and I have stunna head, but I know that is not enough for him because everytime we are together he asks am I bleeding that day which 9 out of 10 times the answer is yes.

I really care about him, but I don’t have a title with him (which is the subject of one of your blogs today!!) so I usually don’t question the fact if he has sex with other females due to my situation. I know that he loves me because he has told me that but I ask him if he wants to be with me he just gets upset asking why do I want to put a title on what we have. I just am wondering if he does want to be with me but because of my condition is he hesitant? He does not want to have sex with me because of the bleeding and he does not like to do it when I am bleeding.

Since you are a guy and don’t really know me like that I figured that I could ask you and get your opinion on the issue. Do you stay with someone because you want to be with them or out of sympathy if they have a serious illness? Also side note when we first started messing around I was not bleeding the way I am now and we had AMAZING sex, and he said that was the best two things that he loved about me my head and sex. I just wanted to know what you think.

Yours Truly,

Miss OnDa Red

Dear Miss OnDa Red,

You’re in a sticky situation and I’m going to be as real as I possibly can. I can tell that you love this guy, but you have to put yourself in his shoes. While sex isn’t that important, it is extremely important in all relationships, as weird as that may sound. It seems to me like your guy needs sex more than just a week out of every 2 months. So here are some things you can do.

 
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