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Have you ever said I love you and didn’t mean it? Well I recently sat down with a man who lied about love and he’s not ashamed to say it.

“Jerry” recently emailed me to inform me that his jump off doesn’t want to jump off anymore and after a heated exchange between the two she threw the L word in his face. Saying “You were the one who always said I love you and I missed you.” Jerry laughed it off by saying neither one of us believed that. After reading his email, I sort of thought that maybe he had a point. There are signs to know if a person’s claim of love is valid or not.

1 – He Only Call For Sex - Jerry explained to me that he only called this chick when he wanted sex. This is a clear sign that someone doesn’t really love you. It’s all a game. If your phone rings late at night and if ALL the calls are about hooking up and having sex, love is probably the least bit legit.

2 – He Never Takes You Out - Jerry informed me that he and his jump off rarely went out, except for the occasional we ain’t did anything else but f*ck so we have to go out dates. I feel like you have to look at your relationship and figure out if it’s just blockbuster nights and sleezy hotels, love is probably the furthest thing going on.

3 – He Always Try To Have Sex – Jerry stated in his email that he would never go out with this girl if sex wasn’t some where in the factor, and he would try to have sex all the time. Does your man try to sex you anywhere? Is your relationship or agreement solely based on the two of you having sex? If that’s the case great, enjoy it, but know love has nothing to do w/ the two of you being together, even if you do call it making love instead of f*cking.

You can learn a lot about love by watching a married couple and how they interact. So I have compiled a few lessons of love based off Beyonce and Jay. Check it out and tell me what you think.

Notice the kid behind them, he’s been on more blogs than a little bit courtesy of Jigga and Beyonce. I hope he’s okay because according to the first picture it looks like he got his as* whooped. Back to the picture, nothing says love like talking about other people in public.

A man can never be a whore, only women are whores. NOW DEAL WITH IT. A woman who has too many sex partners is a whore, a woman who takes money for sex or gifts is a whore, a woman who sleeps with a guy and his friend is a whore. Point, Blank, Period.

The fact that this is reality bothers me a lot and I’m a guy. Who says a woman can’t enjoy some of the benefits of life that a men take advantage of all the time. A man who sleeps with a lot of women is a player or a ladies man, a man who uses money and gifts for sex is a baller, and a man who sleeps with a woman and her friend is a mutha freaking Gee.

Now that we got that out of the way let’s take a look at why this is, and what makes a whore. I believe that women have a monopoly on being whores. Simply because they are quick to call another woman a whore. Ask a woman about Amber Rose, whore! Lisa Raye, WHORE! Super Head… well that’s unanimous, but you get my drift. It’s these same women who are so eager to be with another man simply because he sleeps with a lot of women. If all those other women want him then surely she must want him too. He has to possess something that brings all the girls to the yard.

Women don’t want a man who doesn’t have women chasing him. They don’t want a man who can’t get a girl, instead they want a man who slices through women like a hot knife cuts through butter. Its this mentality which allow men to be players and leave women with the moniker of whore. Surely a man is a whore, but it’s accepted, encourage and rewarded with more sex.

On the other hand, while us men will sleep with any women who will open her legs. We are guys and a guy is going to be a guy. How many of you ladies have said that before? I’m betting on mostly all of you. Women allow a man to be “players” through music, actions and their ways. So ask yourself can a man be a whore or do women allow men the option to be free? But what truly makes a whore?

I just got finished listening to Michael Jackson’s The Remix Suite III and I’m blown away by the remixes to his classics. The Remix Suite is a five part series of MJ Classics produced by some of the biggest names in the game, including NO ID & Akon among others. I’m happy I got a new version of BEN, it’s one of my favorite songs. (Don’t Judge Me) I added a bit more information as well as 2 of the 5 tracks off this volume of The Remix Suite. Enjoy. 

MICHAEL JACKSON: THE REMIX SUITE is not a somber tribute to an iconic legend gone too soon. It is a fun, fresh, and funky testament to the infinite mass appeal of the early works of Michael Jackson and The Jackson 5 that will inspire, uplift, and electrify listeners for generations to come. Complete your listening experience and your collection with the album, MICHAEL JACKSON: THE REMIX SUITE, in stores October 20th, featuring 12 remixes, plus three bonus tracks.

October 6th                    MICHAEL JACKSON: THE REMIX SUITE IV
October 20th                   MICHAEL JACKSON: THE REMIX SUITE V

Michael Jackson – Ben produced by Akon

Michaal Jackson – Who’s Loving You produced by NO ID

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Bros before h*es, money over b*tches, and chicks before d*cks are all mottos many of us live by. With all these crazy sayings I had to ask myself do we put too many things before the person we are having sex with?

I often wonder where these things come from. I can just see it now, the ugly friend sitting in the house one Saturday night alone and hating on her friend because she’s out with her man enjoying a nice evening on the town… Then it pops in her head chicks before d*cks.

Is money more important than sex? I mean sure we need money and sure getting money should come before sex, but I’m sure we all called out of work in order to have sex. Or at least schedule some vacation time in order to get laid.

I could go on, but I have a bad case of writer’s block and I’m sick so I can’t think how I want to think. So I’ll pose a scenario for you. If your best friend and your signifacant other wants to chill on the same day, who are you going to hang with?

YOUR PARTICIPATION IS REQUIRED

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We all play the game, whether we know it or not. We might not know what the game is, or exactly how to play it, but it gets played… By men, women, boys and girls of all ages. From the school boy hitting on the girl he likes, to the grown woman who won’t call back in the 15 minutes she says she will but rather in a few hours to keep the guy guess. My point is, a lot of women want to know how to keep a guy from cheating and how to lock down a good man. Well its really simple, but it might be hard to actually accomplish.

Men don’t want much. Sure we claim to want the chick with the nicest body, longest hair, prettiest eyes and all that, but at the end of the day none of that is important. It’s not important because great looks fade over time. The real beauty is on the inside. I’ve written blogs on things to do to keep a man from cheating, things to keep the bedroom hot, and many more. Still despite all of that none of those things are important. Here is what is:

Be Supportive:
A lot of women have no idea what it takes to actually support a man. We don’t need your money, but why must a man pay for every thing? Why can’t she offer to help me out with my idea and make it better. Without criticizing a man and making him feel like he’s not smart? A woman should support a man and help make him better, but in today’s world our women will bring a man down faster than Katrina swallowed New Orleans. Support can from in a lot of different forms, you just gotta ask yourself are you truly supporting the one you love?

Be Understanding:
Few things are important to a man. We are simple creatures at heart. We care about sports, news and maybe our favorite television shows. Why can’t we watch the game on the big screen and you watch ANTM on the small tv? Even if it’s just for this one night. Why must a man explain the game to a female who has no real interest in it. A major problem when it comes to relationship is because we don’t bend for our lovers. Men and women. If we take a few moments to try to understand why something is important to our mate. Everything can be better.

Listen to me:
I hear everything that is said to me, but I don’t listen as much as I should. That is unless I actually want to listen. As humans we only remember a small percentage of what we hear, see, smell and touch, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t pay attention. Sometimes I just need an ear. An ear that won’t judge me, clown me or even give me any advice.

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Summer is almost over and soon everyone will want to be boo’d on for the chilling night and cold days. While right now I’m single, one thing I know how to do is treat a lady. So no jump off talk today. Today we discuss some fantastic fall date ideas. 

Play Dress Up: One of the fun things about this time of year is that the stores start to stock halloween costumes. Why not go to the store and pick up an outfit. Surely some of you ladies want to make love to a fireman and I know every man wants to sleep with a sexy school teacher or school girl. Why not make it happen? Make it even more fun and don’t get naked, leave the costumes on and have fun. It’s even better if you do this before October 31st.

Try a P & P: What’s a P & P you might ask? Well that’s when you go to see a play and the other P well that’s not that simple (after is over you get laid), but be spontaneous, and do it outside. There is nothign like the cool evening air on your bare skin. Find a spot, maybe take a walk  through a park w/ red and orange leaves and…

Plan To Stay In: There is no rule that says you have to go out to go on a date. Why not plan a day lounging around the house. Now you can’t just not do anything. Actually plan things to do, movies, games, sex or anything your heart desires. Adding the element of stripping to your bedroom games can be fun. Strip Monopoly. You landed on my property now strip! 

XXXTreme Home Makeover: Go down to your local hardware store and pick up some paint, a new sink or some other household item and spend the day putting something together. It could be as big as a complete new room or as little as painting a wall. The time you share together, working together can be a wonderful experience and you can always remember the amazing time you shared, eating skittles, next to a bucket of paint. 

Have a ConverSHAVEtion: Maybe my Sexual Intellectualism is on another level, but I’ve always wanted to shave my woman’s lady parts. Most women won’t trust a man with a razor next to her privates, and I know I damn sure won’t leave a woman around me w/ anything sharp, but there is no rule against having her watch while I trim the area her mouth will be after I’m done. She should do the same and we can have a wonderful conversation while we partake in some body maintenance.

WHAT ARE SOME OTHER FUN AND EXCITING IDEAS FOR A DATE? HAVE YOU GONE ON ANY DATES LIKE THIS?

I can’t be the only one this has happened to. Have you ever found yourself in the middle of terrible sex and couldn’t stop thinking about awesomeness of last person you slept with? Well I have. I often want to stop in mid stride, put my clothes on and leave or kick her out, but I don’t. Sometimes I even go soft or just spend the rest of the time laying some half flaccid pipe. Here are some reasons this person is cant match up to the last and methods to deal with a terrible new partner.

Close your eyes:

What are some things that make sex terrible? 

For me it’s smell, wetness, or I should say lack there of, no movement, and the feel.

Dear Lindsay Lohan,

Have you ever hated someone so much that you wouldn’t spit on them if they were on fire? Ok maybe that was a little bit extreme, but wanted to set the tone of how much I dislike this person. Before I continue let me explain. There is this girl who is an ex of mine and she stole from me. It’s crazy because most of the ladies I have been with have only stole my heart, but this one stole my most prized possession.

Maybe I’m just like my mother because she can’t stand my dad. She hates his guts, but he Chris Brown her ass for years so I understand where the hatred comes from. One time we were in the car and she started to compare me to my father then she started to hurl insults at my dead dad. I asked her to have some respect being that he had just died, but I guess after years of keeping me sheltered from her hatred she decided to go in like rapper penis in the mouth of Karine “I’m a NY Times best selling author” Steffans, aka don’t ask me why I’m famous, but I digress. 

I often wonder why people can’t forgive, I consider myself a forgiving person, but when it comes to this spec of vomit on the wall of a fat man’s house after eating maget pie… I simply can’t bring myself to forgive her. Which is sad, I’m not holier than thou, I’ve cheated, lied, and manipulated women in my day but I never stole from one. Not a dime, a penny and definitely not an idea or furmula to ones livilihood. I once cut a friend off because she stole 3 bucks from my house to buy a beer. I mean I did owe her 20 bucks but I paid her as soon as she came back from the store with the beer. I guess life is crazy like that huh? We do things even though we know they are wrong and know we shouldn’t do it. I probably shouldn’t even have written this letter.

Why do people hold grudges? Do you hate or dislike one of your exes? If so why? Could you ever forgive them? If so what would they have to do to earn your forgiveness.

Yours truly
Xilla your number 1 fan who ate general tso’s chicken for lunch.

I love sex, and if you’re on my website chances are you do too. I always feel like sex can be better. So I’m always reading up on different sex acts, watching different adult films so I can learn a thing or two. If it’s not too kinky, best believe I am going to try it, and try it until I get it right. But, what about the every day normal sex acts that we tend to take for granted in our efforts to be the best sexual intellectual in the sea.

What Works – I have yet to meet a person who doesn’t have a favorite position, sexual act or move. Do it! If it makes sex better then why try to do something you’re not yet a master of? Your end goal in sex is to reach the mountain top, so why fly if you have a car? Get it? Got it, good!

You’re F*cking Who Cares? - I get a lot of emails from women who say they don’t like their stretch marks, complain about their body, or some other negative remark. Honestly as a guy I never even noticed. We are having sex, so if your lover is offering up their body to you then 9 times out of ten the only one who cares about your imperfections are you. Get over it, it can block you from doing your job. Now, if you under perform in bed that’s when you need to be worried.

What’s Around You? - I f*cked in a lot of beds before and if I learned anything I know that sex is always better when you’re in a nice bed. Clean sheets, no clothes on the bed, no baby toys or condom rappers. Have you ever rolled over on an opened magnum wrapper? Well let me tell you it’s not dope! If you expect to get some, make sure the room is nice, neat and amazing. (I’ve learned this the hard way. I’m a man in a man’s house)