I don’t see nothing wrong with a little bump and grind online. Last night while holding a twitter after dark session with my followers on Twitter. A follower by the name of @itsjessika said something to the likes of finding sex online was for lames. I completely disagreed w/ her statement. I mean sure you can find jerks online, but you find jerks at the club, supermarket or where ever. I like to argue you actually know more about someone you met on line when you meet then than you do when you’re in the streets. Allow me to explain.
In The Streets You Might Get A Business Card…

• Online you have a whole google search engine full of information. If you meet someone one myspace, facebook, twitter or any social network chances are there will be tons of information about this person. A profile gives you a lot more information at first glance than a pick up line like “Can I check the tag on the back of your shirt to see if you were made in heaven?” ever could. At first contact you should do a little bit of research before reaching out. 

1. Read The Person’s Profile - Is it all booty pics, real friends, what are their status messages like, what do they tweet about. This is like observing someone in the streets. Ask yourself the right question and come to a conclusion with the information you find. If they have Snoop or Maxwell on their page you can come to a safe assumption of who you’re involved with A Player or a gentleman. 
2. Comments & Friends – I firmly believe you are the company you keep. Is this person’s friends list full of donkey butts? Are their comments full of glitter pics, hearts, wine glasses and teddy bears? Now chances are even if it’s a one sided conversation a normal person isn’t going to be talking about sex and glitter during their online time. Check for regular conversation, it was nice seeing you, and hey did you know such a such did… 
3. Pictures – Does this person post a lot of pictures online? I have discovered that if a person doesn’t post a lot of pictures of them self they are either not who they say they are, ugly, or Don’t like the way they look. Also be aware of head shots only. I mean you telling me you have 500 pics and not one of them are of your body? 

Take Your Time…

• Another one of the wonders of online dating is that you can take your time and you should take your time. When you meet someone in person, they go from a stranger to having your phone number, yet when you meet someone online its a gradual process. First the social network screen name, then the email, then the IM name and then the phone number.

1. IM’s & Emails – I will tell you that is it very hard to keep up a front via instant message. A lot of people can’t even keep a IM convo going. Notice the signs and take advantage of this getting to know you tool. If you find yourself spending hours on chat and email then it’s a good look. If your chat isn’t filled w/ LOL’s and smiley faces then maybe this person is not for you. 
2. Phone Numbers & Dates – Now if you’ve bagged a jerk online chances are they would have shown them self by now. So exchange numbers and go on a date. Remember what your convo’s were like, and know that some people are simply more entertaining online than in person. It’s sad, but it’s fact. Do your best to keep make it work and it will.

Overall dating online can be beneficial. If you know what you’re looking for you can find what you want w/ just a few mouse clicks. If you want love, you search for it, if you want a sex, it’s being offered for free. Regardless of what you want you can find it on the right social network.

Have you ever meet someone online? Did you sleep w/ them? What is your screening process like?

Photo Credit: Kirk McGirt

There are many reasons why people do and don’t date people from the hood. If you remember the first House Party both Kid & Play were scared to venture into Sharane’s hood. Honestly who could blame them? Nevertheless here are a few good things and bad things about dating someone from the hood.

Weed Galore - If you date a real hood chick chances are she knows where to get the best weed on Earth. Now this feature covers both reformed hood chicks and hood hood chicks. Sex on weed is one of the best types of sex one can have. Dating someone from the hood with a weed connect on speed dial is like free ice cream. Who doesn’t love free ice cream? No Lactose!

Endless Grape Soda – Also add Grape Drink, Grape Now & Later, Kool-Aid and Orange Soda.

The Voice - There is nothing like the voice of someone from the hood. Is it me or does almost everyone from the hood have a deep voice. My nephew is 14 and he sounds like Barry White, maybe it’s all that screaming they do.

Rent - Section 8 Apts are awesome, if you work at McDonalds and can pay your rent with one check… *uck what you heard that is dope. It’s one less thing a man would have to trick off on.

Fights – If you’re ever in a fight, which you probably will be dating someone from the hood, you can count on your boo jumping in the fight and fighting with you. They’ll also fight for you, with you, might get you into a fight, and might get you jumped.

Written by Miss Sex E.D.

So this is what happened next…

The End of the Date:

I went ahead and paid the $21 tab and I still left the bartender a generous tip. She was great and it wasn’t her fault I was out with a cheapskate. But at the same time I’m heated! So he comes back and I’m staring at the TV screen watching the game, really just trying to calm myself down. He asks, “Did she bring my tab?” I shrugged my shoulders and kept looking at the TV. He pulled out his cash and paid for his stuff and said, “Are you ready to go upstairs now?” to which I replied, “No, I’m ready to go.” He looked at me kind of crazy and said, “You’re ready to go?” I just stood up and began to put my coat on. He said, “Okay, well we can leave.”

We get outside and he was like, “Are you okay?” I told him “no” and when he tried to talk about it I told him it’s best that I just don’t say anything right now. So I’m walking to my parking garage and he’s still walking with me. I stopped walking and said, “Where are you going?” “I’m walking you to your car.” I told him that was not necessary, but he insisted (as usual). About twice during the date he mentioned going out again and I would jokingly say “Oh, I don’t know about that.” So while we were walking to my car he asked again and I said a straight out “No.” He was like, “You’re serious?” and I told him I was very serious. So we (reluctantly) hugged goodbye and for some odd reason I said, “Thank you.” But for what?!? This date was horrible.
He called me about 10min after I left and said, “You know I should call you Cinderella. It’s like the clock striked and you were ready to go. It’s making me feel like I did something wrong.” Dude are you serious? So I let him have it. “It is something you did. You are a cheapskate and tacky as hell. How dare you ask me out and tell me to pay for everything. Especially the second drink. That’s like me going out with my girls and saying, “Girl, you need a shot, why don’t you buy yourself one?” Just tacky.” So then came his excuses:

Going Dutch basically means, for whatever reason, when we go out I am going to pay for everything I have, whether it be food, alcohol or a movie and you will pay for everything you have. Many women feel like if a man asks you out, he is perusing you, which means that he should pay for the entire date. You may leave the tip for the evening, but it is expected that he will pay for everything else. While some men agree with this wholeheartedly and want to show a woman a good time on their dime, others don’t. One guy I know put it like this, “I don’t want to go all out and keep spending money on this girl because what if things don’t work out? I will have wasted all that money.”  Now I’ll be honest, the whole idea of going Dutch is new to me. Why? Because I haven’t been on too many dates where the guy has brought this up. Until recently that is….let me break down what happened the easiest way possible: 

The Beginning:

I met this guy who I will say is old enough to know better. Okay, I’m jumping the gun already. We met, and he kept asking me to go out with him. I was apprehensive at first and kept telling him, “Let me think about it and get back with you.” After about 2 more weeks I finally gave in and we decided to meet at this bar downtown. He recommended the place because they have a great live band that goes on around 9:00 p.m. That night I was running a little late because I had to gas up the car. I called him and let him know that I was a little behind but I wasn’t far. So he asked me if I wanted a drink. I let him know to order me a beer. When I got closer to the bar, I saw the only parking available was $10. So I called him and asked him where I was supposed to park. He told me to pay to park. I told him not only did I not have cash on me but I was not paying $10 to park, so I opted to park at my job for free, which was only half a block from the bar. Now I’m slightly agitated that he didn’t tell me about this. But I wasn’t going to make a big deal or even say anything.  

Are you tired of just going out to eat or to the movies? Well every once in a while you have to go on the big boy date. The none couple above are seen in Barbados splashing around in the sun and riding waterskis. Here are a few ideas for the big boy date that you can use. [Oh yeah more pictures inside]

The Cruise – Going on a cruise can be a great getaway and nine times out of ten you’ll have to fly down to the departure point. So the flight is your chance to join the mile high club.

Weekend in the Woods/Lake – A lot of rural places have resorts or cabins for rent where you can enjoy a nice quiet weekend with your boo. Make love by the fire place, or soak in a jacuzzi by the lake.

Change Coast and Go – If you’re on the West coast fly to the easy coast and if you’re on the East coast fly to the West coast. A change in time zone can do a relationship good.

A while back, I spoke about females who still date thugs. So today I would like to flip the script and talk about grown men who still date hoodrats. You know that girl who is loud and obnoxious for the sole reason of keeping it real. Real ignorant. I often wonder why men mess with these types of females, because men being the geniuses that we are, will also mess with a civilized woman at the same time and that’s when all hell breaks loose. And below you’ll find the top 3 problems with dating a hood rat chick

A hood rat chick has very little home training so be prepared for public arguments and embarrassing situations. She is likely to show up at your job, family cookout, or mama’s house to start a fight and trust me you don’t want this.

For some odd reason hood chicks are very fertile, so one slip or condom pop and you’ll be paying child support payments for the rest of your life to a woman you never had any intention of staying with, but that’s not really her fault now is it?

The hood chick will stoop to new lows in order to find out if you’re cheating. This means if she find out you’re cheating with a civilized business woman she’ll track her down and whoop your non-hood girls a*s from here to Afghanistan. Chances are this will end in 2 angry females calling your phone nonstop. One trying to find out why you cheated and the other trying to get you to make this hood chick stop calling her job cursing and screaming.

There are many more down falls to dating a hoodrat chick but I’ll save that for another blog.

Today when you’re at lunch, walking through your local office park look around the eating area. I’ll bet you’ll see a woman reading a piece of urban lit, True to the Game 3, Bad Girlz 4 Life or any other novel written by someone fresh out of jail. Woman like thugs, d-boys and men with bullet holes or stab wounds etched on there skin. I think for the hope of one day having their life resemble one of their favorite books with out the bloody ending. Yet in the age of straight legged jeans and big man scarfs is the thug still appealing or is his sex appeal starting to sag?

Style – As complicated as woman are, they are the simple at the same time. A tattoo, a wife beater and a pair of Jordans can make a woman gush with moisture. An oversized Yankee fitted hat covering the brow can automatically make a man marriage material.

Talk – Broken grammar, slang and curse words can make a woman feel like she’s living on the edge. The risk of losing it all drives her to give more. All for the love of the challenge.

But, the most important reason woman still dig the thug, is because most thugs know how to FCK. We are not talking about makin love, going downtown or whispering sweet nothing in her ear. We are talking about spankings, hair pulling, choking, and calling her dirty names during the act. Its rough, mildly painful and highly enjoyable and may happen anywhere.

Good sex can make a woman put up with loudness, drug paraphernalia, warrants, baby mama’s and putting stuff in their name. As long as the backstroke is there, the mind can not function right, so although thugs are going out of style, they still are a prominent force in dating.

You’re on a double date and the person on the other side is getting all the attention reminding you why you don’t double date. But your best friend begged you to come along because their boo had their friend with them. You figured a night out and a few drinks couldn’t hurt so you tag alone, now you’re regretting your decision.  Well here are some tips to help you shine.

Think about all the double dates you’ve ever been on, there was the one who looked good, but couldn’t keep their eyes off your friend, the one who could only talk about sex, and the one was so loud and classless that Lil Jon & Khia would be embarrassed to be next to them. If any of those people are you, you have a problem. If you dated any of those people then you need to be on the look out for the following.

Eye Contact – Looking someone in the eyes is very important you have to know when you give and when to take it. You don’t want to be the person staring at her breast or his arms the whole night. It’s just rude. Also you don’t want to give a long strong intimidating gaze into your date’s eyes, they may think you’re a crazy boxer with a tattoo on your face who wants to bite their ear off.

Bring the Bum – Another way to ensure that you’ll stand out is to bring your ugliest, worst behave friend along with you. It will make you look that much better. If your friend looks a little like you that even better. I read a book called Predictably Irrational which stated we choose based of what is similar, rather than what is best. So even if a super model is around if the person you’re with looks like you, and you look better than them… you’ll stand out more than the super model.

The Walmart of Conversation – Think about the genius of walmart, you can get groceries, books, clothes, electronics, and that thingamagiggy you needed to fix your car. Walmart has everything, just like your conversation should. If you can talk about, life, sports, soaps, and politics chances are your date will fall in love with just talking to you. So expand your sexy. I’ll be dropping a post on how to do that later today so be sure to check back.