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Jasmine Guy told Essence “I think our younger women have lost the ability to embrace their womanhood. There’s so much we try to do that’s against our nature, and it’s made us hard, cold, bitter and fearful.” The writer of the article said it was a great point to which “Whitley” added:

“…a lot of us are without partners, so we have to do double duty. We develop another part of ourselves to compensate for that. We haven’t been taught that those things that are innate in us-being maternal or being soft or being vulnerable-are good things. We’re taught to be strong and in that strength comes a certain dismissal of what we’re really feeling inside.”

I’m not sure where I stand on this one, on one hand I believe that women should be strong. Strong enough to support her man if needed. Yet she should still be a woman who is able to do things that are generally associated with being a woman, like cooking, cleaning, and all the things Donna Reed did.

At the same time a woman has to be strong because some men have never received home training. I can understand how a woman would develop a hard exterior shell with the way men, lie, cheat and break hearts all for the chance to stick themselves in a woman. A good looking woman can’t walk 20 steps without a man trying to bang them. I guess this is a yet another no win situation for the woman.

Neck twirls, finger snaps, cuss words, rolling eyes and ripped out tracks of yaki weave on the ground are all sign that an angry black woman is in the area. The media portrays black women in the worst light. A quick glance at the evening news and your guaranteed to see at least one toothless dark skinned woman within the first 10 minutes.

I used to think that these images of black women on the news were due to all the sane black women with teeth actually having jobs and not being able to witness crime at 2 in the afternoon. However I am sadly mistaken. These days if you’re not buying a woman a drink, or being told that she can buy her own damn drink then 9 times out of ten you’re going to get some neck twirls, finger snaps, cuss words, and a SMCH [official definition - the act of sucking ones teeth in utter disgust.]

Sadly, the reality of today is that these women are still pissed Raheem

• left her angry ass for Becky
• used her for a pair of Jordan’s, a ride to probation, a Lil Wayne CD & 3 Quickies
• never pays her any attention, but drools at her best friends enormous boobs
• is more in love with No Job Having Quisha and her 4 kids than her and her ivy league education

Some of those reasons may not apply to certain black women, another woman might simply be pissed off that she whored her self out for 24 years and all she has to show for it are 2 cured std’s, a stretched out coochie and a neat trick she can do with her tongue.

Now surely in no way do I believe all black women are angry b–ches and we’ll all be kidding ourselves if we try to pretend that there aren’t a few angry black b–ches out there, messing it up for all the real black queens. I believe Whoopi Goldberg said (more…)