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More mail from one of my readers. I always like getting emails, asking for advice. This one is an interesting topic, that keeps popping up in my inbox. I thought I should address this one in public.

Hi, my name is “Tasha Tweet” and I have 1 question. Do u think twitter/fb/myspace is enough 2 break up? This morning a coworker of my boyfriend says im messing around with someone on twitter. He gathers this b/c in a reply 2 my status about it snowing, a guy said if it snows, come over here. Like 5 days later I replied what if it doesn’t snow?? Ok. That’s it. Now my bf won’t talk to me over offing twitter. Do you think lightweight flirting over networking sites is enough to break up a relationship?

Continue reading for my response.
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Yesterday I got an email from one of my male readers and well… It’s a rollar coaster ride…
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Last night on my podcast I spoke with one of my readers about her situation. Her man, verbally and mentally abuses her and she was wondering if she should feel guilty for wanting to leave. Of Course the answer is no, she should leave the first chance she gets. I know that she is not alone and other women are stuck in a relationship with an abusive man and don’t know how to get out. So if you or someone you know here are some things they can do.

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I’m checking my email like I do every morning when one of my frustrated female readers sent me the following email.

Dear Xilla,

I was with his guy and we basically discussed sex on a everyday basis.
We talked about everything from fetishes, different positions to sex toys, it was always an enjoyable topic.
One day he asked me if someone had ever licked my ass. I asked him did he mean my ass cheek or my asshole. He said my asshole. I speedily told him NO!!!!! Then he went on to tell me a story about a girl who tossed his salad. He explained to me in great detail of his encounter with this anal delight.

I immediately expressed my disgust with the thought of placing my tongue on someone’s asshole. I told him that I felt like it was unsanitary and grounds for bacteria growth in the mouth. He jokingly agreed and told me how he felt wierd about it for a few days after it took place.

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OK since I’m remaining anonymous, and you are “THE” Blog Xillionaire (lol) I will give you background on my situation. This is a problem I’ve been having for a few weeks. I can’t stand it and I’m going out of my mind!

I’ll warn you, this story is long. But you’ll get all the background of how I’m in the situation I’m in:

I am still best friends with my ex. (We were best friends before we dated off and on for two months. It was long distance and we couldn’t handle it anymore but we’ve remained best friends since the break up.)

Last summer when I started to become attracted to my best friend/ex again, he wasn’t feeling me. He just wanted to stay friends as he was talking to someone else. So I moved on, and just kept my options open. I ended up becoming platonic friends for about 6 months with this other man, then I started to fall for him. A week after I started looking at the new guy as “more than a friend”, here comes my best friend/ex, talking about, “I want to get back with you!”

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Dear BlogXilla,

I read a lot of your blogs and it seem like you give really good advice so I have a question for you. If I was your woman what number would I be on you friends list? I have been dating a guy for about 2 two years and I am ONLY number four on his list. Right now I feel like our relationship is at a cross roads and I am not sure this is where I need to be. Am I wrong for taking that personally? Not that four is a bad number if you fall under very important people, but does that mean I am just not all that important in his life? what do you think?

Signed,

FOURida Evans,

Dear FOURida Evans,

It all depends on who is in front of you, I personally feel like their should be rules to the myspace top friends list. Should be concerned? On one hand it’s just myspace, but on the other IT IS myspace! (more…)

Dear BlogXilla,

I read a lot of your blogs and it seem like you give really good advice so I have a question for you. If I was your woman what number would I be on you friends list? I have been dating a guy for about 2 two years and I am ONLY number four on his list. Right now I feel like our relationship is at a cross roads and I am not sure this is where I need to be. Am I wrong for taking that personally? Not that four is a bad number if you fall under very important people, but does that mean I am just not all that important in his life? what do you think?

Signed,

FOURida Evans,

Dear FOURida Evans,

It all depends on who is in front of you, I personally feel like their should be rules to the myspace top friends list. Should be concerned? On one hand it’s just myspace, but on the other IT IS myspace! (more…)

Dear BlogXilla,

I read a lot of your blogs and it seem like you give really good advice so I have a question for you. If I was your woman what number would I be on you friends list? I have been dating a guy for about 2 two years and I am ONLY number four on his list. Right now I feel like our relationship is at a cross roads and I am not sure this is where I need to be. Am I wrong for taking that personally? Not that four is a bad number if you fall under very important people, but does that mean I am just not all that important in his life? what do you think?

Signed,

FOURida Evans,

Dear FOURida Evans,

It all depends on who is in front of you, I personally feel like their should be rules to the myspace top friends list. Should be concerned? On one hand it’s just myspace, but on the other IT IS myspace! (more…)