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As you know I sat down w/ Melanie Fiona and I asked her to answer one of my reader’s questions, asked her about the I love you, but I’m not in love you idea and we talked about emotional women and when to call me. It’s a great video. First here is what my reader wanted to know.

Dear Xilla,

Have you ever saw someone and knew instantly that there was connection. Like you knew that eventually something was going to happen. Peep this: I saw lil buddy freshman year. He was walking in the student union with his little black backpack, gray sweatpants, white tee and black cap cocked to the side. You know, that regular, college, ‘I just rolled out of bed but I’m going to class’ look. Dude had that aura about him.

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Last week I got an email from a new reader who has a problem. Read her letter and check out my response under the cut. I also asked R&B Singer Olivia about this situation, you can check out what she had to say and leave your opinion in the comment section.

Dear Xilla,

I am new to your blog and I think it is GREAT!!! You are talking about things that most adults are afraid to talk about. I have a question for you. The guy I am currently dating and I are both in our early 30’s. He performed oral sex on me and when I came I squirted (or as he puts it gushed) all over his face and now I am afraid to do anything else with him.

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I Received an email from a young lady who needed a males point of view on her current situation. A guy from her past as reappeared and she’s feeling him, but she just doesn’t know what to do. Check it out and maybe you can give her some advice of your own. 

Dear Xilla, 

 I met up with a guy I went to high school with, I don’t remember him but he remembers me. He played on the basketball team, I don’t understand why I don’t remember him. (more…)

I don’t want a threesome anymore. Mainly because I don’t trust these hoes. These days you have to be more cautious of your girl’s female friends than you do her male friends. There is a new breed of female who appreciates a woman’s beauty more than she appreciates a man’s excellence. While these niggas are busy trying to get a woman’s opinion on his salmon colored shirt and how it matches his kicks. Kanye approved of course.

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Yesterday, I got an email from a faithful reader who was seeking advice. A lot of times I just simply answer their question, but this one deserves it’s own blog. Check out what she needs help with.

Hey Xilla!!!
I read your blog everyday without fail I wonder if you can help me out on a situation…..Ok first things first I have a brain tumor that constantly keeps me having a period, day after day, month after month etc. I stop for about a week out of maybe two months. I am going to the doctor and so far no kind of treatment is working,but my question is I am with a guy that I have been with, going on 2yrs, when I am bleeding all I can do is give him head. I know I have mad skills and I have stunna head, but I know that is not enough for him because everytime we are together he asks am I bleeding that day which 9 out of 10 times the answer is yes.

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I’m facing a bit of writer’s block this morning. So I’ll just take this time to talk to my readers. This pass week has been crazy. Each day moves faster and faster and before you know it, it’s time to start another week. Anyway I guess I can ask you all a question. What do you do when you want someone even though you know you shouldn’t even have that thought in your head?
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More mail from one of my readers. I always like getting emails, asking for advice. This one is an interesting topic, that keeps popping up in my inbox. I thought I should address this one in public.

Hi, my name is “Tasha Tweet” and I have 1 question. Do u think twitter/fb/myspace is enough 2 break up? This morning a coworker of my boyfriend says im messing around with someone on twitter. He gathers this b/c in a reply 2 my status about it snowing, a guy said if it snows, come over here. Like 5 days later I replied what if it doesn’t snow?? Ok. That’s it. Now my bf won’t talk to me over offing twitter. Do you think lightweight flirting over networking sites is enough to break up a relationship?

Continue reading for my response.
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I had the chance to ask the great Stephanie Stradley a few questions about love and relationships. Stephanie, is a writer for AOL Sports’ FanHouse as well as a Houston Texans specific blog for the Houston Chronicle. While she makes absolutely no claims of any relationship expertise other than being happily married, her answers are both thought provoken and helpful. However she would like to make it known that if you follow any of her advice, it is totally at your own risk.

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