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When it comes to sex, just call me “Daddy Long Stroke”. I’ll admit it, I love it when my lady calls me daddy during sex, and I never really had a problem getting any of my women to call me daddy during sex. But, I have noticed a lot of women say they don’t understand the phenomenon. So allow me to splain it to you. Here are 5 reasons men like to be called daddy during sex.

The James Evans Factor: Think about dads of old. Back when being a father was common in the urban community and not something to be rewarded. I think power, respect, compentence. When I think of fathers I think of a man who takes care of home. A man who protects her so good its sexy. James Evans was the type of father who you knew would beat that ass. He had a look that would send chills up your spine. So when my lady calls me daddy I feel like superman like right at that moment while I’ll all in her ribs with the manxilla. I’m her protector, I’m her super man.

Kiss My Boo Boo: Ever girl needs their daddy. So when my lady calls me daddy she’s telling me she needs me. She needs me to kiss her to make her feel better, she’s telling me she needs me to drive the manxilla deeper inside of her, to make all of her troubles go away.

All Girls Say It: Another one of the main reasons men like to be called daddy is because all girls have said this at one time or another. I think y’all know what that phrase is: “You ain’t my daddy” well now that’s not what you said last night. I know for me, once a girl says that to me, it is now my goal to make her not only call me daddy, but to make her scream it. Once she screams daddy ain’t much else she can say after that.

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Should friends of the opposite sex have sex and start relationships? Well actress Malinda Williams writes a blog for essence documenting her wedding and in her latest post she describes the moment she knew her former best friend and current husband was the one.

“what could be better than going with someone I absolutely adored. I had met Derrick when I was eighteen and had always remembered him to be a complete gentleman and felt none of the usual angst a woman might feel about going on a trip with a man who is not her “man” per se. We would just be two friends hanging out, having a good time. No pressure and no expectations. Just pure fun.”

This happens a lot, you’ve been friends since childhood, and then at a totally unsuspecting moment a light goes off in your head, and you realize you’re in love with your best friend. People often wonder if best friends can become lovers without ruining the friendships. I mean this is the person that knows you best, when your ex boyfriend cheated with his co-worker he was there. When your girlfriend started acting funny and started spending so much time in the streets that you thought she had a part time job as a street lamp, she was there. Not once had it cross your mind to look at them “like that” until that one moment they said exactly the right thing to cheer you up and its then, that you kick yourself in the rear for not loving them sooner.

You probably think as Malinda thought:

An attraction that made me think to myself, “Is he feeling me? Cause I think I might be feeling him.” I was also thinking, “I don’t wanna ruin this great friendship by starting anything with him so let me just chill”.

But let us as Sexual Intellectuals discuss if men and woman can be friends, and if you don’t want to join the discussion just think is your best friend of the opposite sex the person of your dreams? Or just made to be the perfect friend who’ll always be in your corner

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Quote of the Day: for the sake of some little mouthful of flesh, we deprive a soul of the sun and light and of that proportion of life and time it had been born into the world to enjoy.

I got a sweet tooth for you girl I’m tempted to taste. I can’t wait to drink your milk You’re looking like a big ole piece of cake. There is a fundamental mistake made by men all over the world, and it give us good oral guys a bad name when we get in a mood like I am in today.

You see a lot of men go down and place a few licks on her, just so she can get frustrated and say let’s just have sex! I know this because I’ve done it before. I’m in that mood today, I want to take a fly shorty and lay her down and eat her from A to Z and from Z to A. I mean eat her like a competitive food eater in one of those competitions. Y’all know what I’m talking about when you see those dudes holding a trophy w/ pie smeared all over their face. Yea like that I want to put my face all up in her middle, b/c my mind tells me that the next woman I eat will taste just like a bag of skittles.

Eating is an art, and there rules to this. So if you men wanna know how to eat it until you need band-aids for your knees here is a step by step guide to going down like a pro.

Ease Down On It

• Before you get ready for your meal it’s best to set the table. Foreplay! It works fellas, kissing is a very sensual move, start by kissing her mouth, soft pecks w/ moist lips, with your hands caressing her face, fingers running through her hair as you move and suck her bottom lip, kissing her neck and running your tongue down the length, work her breast licking your lips again, so they are wet when you graze them across her nipples. A nice way to treat the nipples is to lick from 3 to 9 while massage the other breast and showing both of them equal love. Ease on down stopping at the belly button, and while your down there play w/ her insides from the outside. Push down on her lower abdomen with your outstretched fingers, in sort of a Vulcan death lock, there are some organs in there which stimulate her private part and this will make her just right for eating. If you don’t believe me ask your anatomy professor.

Work The Middle… Rock The Boat

• Gradually move down w/ your fingers, intentionally brushing against her clitoris, and massage the lips of her vagina. I like to take my index finger and my ring finger and push her lips together causing her cl*t to pop up and then massage it w/ my middle finger which I have already made moist, by placing my freshly washed hands into her mouth for lubrication. A guy might want to place her hands on her happy place so she can rub herself the way she likes while he tongue tap her in between her fingers. Forcibly grab her wrist away from her spot and move his tongue across it like Thumper! Tap, Tap, Tap. 

Go for the Kill

• The man should be in a groove now, so pull her lips back and reveal the inside goodness of her goodies, lick it, suck it, poke it, he should do as many things as he can do to it, but pay attention if he does something that she likes she’s going to do one of 2 things moan really loud and tell you not to stop. If she moans real loud keep doing what you’re doing. If she tells you don’t stop, Tell her to shut up and keep doing what she told you not to stop doing. This will turn her on to no end. Females like to feel like they are w/ a MAN! So show her you’re in control and you got this. Eating out is 75% mental.

Batteries Not Included

• The Clit is a delicate flower, and sometimes a guy might need a little help. So just like a gardener needs tools, he should invest in some toys of his own. Buy a bullet! Now sure you can just use hers b/c most women have them, but then you run the risk of licking around a plastic dildo and that’s not a good look. There are a lot of types of bullets, and some changeable tips this adds excitement to the feast you are having. Think of the bullet like hot sauce for the cl*t since it taste like chicken. If you need tips how to eat her w/ a bullet (A sex toy for the none sexual intellectuals) Read this blog I wrote about the topic

After you have ate her right her pussy will be perfect for a wild night of sex and you’ll be more likely to make her cum, so dive in, kiss her to share your meal, bang your manxilla into the side of her walls, throw the head of your manxilla into the bottom of her vag, give her that D that is so good it will make her slap her mama!!!

A few of my followers on twitter, including MissMedidijah, believe that having sex in front of a infant child is disrespectful to yourself and the child, but is that really the case?

Tasha was a single mother, about her business. She worked at a decent job, had her own car, and struggled to make ends meet. Despite not being rich she didn’t need a man for anything else but companionship. As many of you know it’s hard for single mothers to find love.

Many a weekend nights she spent alone in her one bedroom apt with her 6 month old child. Until she met Craig, a tall dark and handsome brother she met buying groceries at the supermarket.

Normally she wouldn’t give a guy the time of day, but he was fine and he made her baby laugh. Damn it who says she has to be lonely, she thought as she wrote her number on her check out receipt. They had went on a two family friendly dates befores, so she felt comfortable enough to invite him over for dinner. After dinner things got hot, Craig leaned in and kissed her. She hadn’t felt a mans lips in months, overwhelmed before she knew it the two of them were having sex in her bed, while her child slept only inches away from them. Both of them were extra quiet as to not wake the baby. Occasionally, she would let out a small moan and he would fight hard to withhold his grunts, nothing was disrespectful about his movements of actions, he really liked Tasha. They enjoyed a few more moments watching tv together before he left later that night.

The next day, Tasha told her girlfriend all the details of what happened. Her friend called her all types of whores and sluts, eventually ending in the two of them no longer speaking. Tasha felt terrible, she couldn’t see Craig anymore, her conscious wouldn’t allow her, and to make matters worst, she couldn’t bring her self to date any man after that.

Since that time Tasha has advanced her career and upgraded her situation. Maybe it was the loneliness that fueled her to advance her career, but she lives in a nice sized townhouse now, but deep inside she holds a lot of resentment towards her child due to the extreme amount of loneliness she feels.

Is having sex with a baby in the bed really that bad? I mean a young child who will never remember anything even if the child does wake up and sees it’s mother with a mouth full of the manxilla lodged in her throat. Well you’ll be surprised, at how often this happens. I’ve f*cked in front of snoring babies, been sucked in front of kids, rode and swallowed in front of somebody else’s sleeping child, and yet not all of the women who performed these acts were slurs, jumpoffs or whores. Some of them were good honest women who didn’t think there was anything wrong w/ this.

I’ll admit a time or two I gave more than a few of them the sexual side eye, but I understood the struggle of living in a small house as a single parent trying to have a love life. And besides it’s not that uncommon, one person wrote:

I am the mother of a 17-month child. As we do not have a separate cot or room for him, he sleeps with us in the same bed. My husband and I generally make love after he has slept but there are times when he wakes up and stares at us strangely. Please advise if it is appropriate for us to continue like this. I am always in a dilemma and it is affecting my relationship with my husband. I am not as comfortable making love any more as I fear that this might negatively impact my child’s psychology ~ SOURCE

While doing some research for this blog I found that, many Western parenting experts and websites state that having sex with a baby in the room is not an issue at all. “Don’t worry about having sex while the baby is in the same room. She won’t have a clue what’s going on,” many of them say confidently. So why is this such an issue for some women to accept that some people have sex in front of sleeping babies? Do you think you’re parents never had sex in front of you when you were a small child? Do you think these subconscious memories can lead to a deep-rooted fear/anger/disgust with one or the other parent? Let’s talk about it.

When it comes to sex the goal of all men should be to hit the bottom of the vag. Yet not all men are long enough or even know how to do that. There are a few creative ways to go deep. Tonight I will give you a few methods for the fellas to try out and for the ladies to forward a LINK to this blog to their man.

Balls Deep:
Hitting the bottom has its’ benefits like sandwiches after sex, a nice cold glass of the good juice or even some get it back up head. So a good way to hit the bottom is to simple go balls deep. From the moment of insertion slide the manxilla as deep as you can. Pull it out to the head and dive in deep again.

Sneak It Deep:
When having sex it’s always a good idea to please or stimulate the entire vaginal tunnel as I like to call it, so give her a few short strokes, and get deeper w/ every inward motion and then throw it inside of her as deep as you possibly can. Arrange your footing on the bed to get a better angle to go deeper. You’ll know if you’ve done it right based on her moans and screams if you go deep enough.

Extra Leverage Deep:
Doggystyle is the favorite position of women all over the globe. So, going deep from the back is a key maneuver to have in your arsenal. After you’ve gave her a little missionary love, flip her over and make her get on all fours. (I love the sound of all fours it sounds so dirty) The guy should slide his self into the woman, grab her hips and pull her back towards him like he’s playing a tug o war w/ his crotch as he’ tries to put make his penis come out of her out.

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Live from Atlanta, Georgia I an going to tackle a serious topic. One of my friends told me she was having a conversation about men, and how women should just give up the goods right away because other girls are doing it and that seems to be the only way to get their attention. Seemed like a logically thought after she broke it down. It’s like getting a 20 dollar an hour job offer. Sure it’s great but what if another company offers the same pay but with benefits from day 1? Which job are you going to take?

Then I received an email from a loyal reader asking me

 I’ve been noticing that more and more men are going towards the “easy chicks” or “whores” and making them their jump-offs instead of us regular chicks. What gives? Do I have to be a whore to get some vitamin D now?  This guy is super cute, and I keep hearing that he wants to hook up, but he’d rather go for this chick who’s slept with pratically ever guy she meets. Ick!

why don’t I have this guy? Everybody else says he’s just shy. I even got up the nerve to call him and let him know what’s up. I told him that I wasn’t looking for a relationship or anything, I was just trying to get some vitamin D. I even asked him if I scared him off, and he said no. We still hang out, I even went to his house and everything, but NOTHING HAPPENED! Do I have to resort to ho3 S#it?

My heart skipped a beat when I read this, at first I thought the price of p*ssy has plummeted, but then I remembered how many girls I want to just smash. Nothing is wrong with a woman simply wanting to have sex, but do you have to resort to hoe sh*t to get laid? Surely women are better than that. 

Written by Marvelous Mo for Blogxilla.com
So it was my sophomore (or junior) year in high school when the notice got out that an all boys private high school in Harlem was throwing a dance and they extended their invitation to our school.  Being in an all girl Catholic high school was a BITCH, so any type of testosterone involved I tried to be around it.  At the dance, which happened to be during the height of the Coogi phenomenon, I spotted this guy [Let's call him JEFF] who was checking me out.  We danced, exchanged  numbers and I left smiling on cloud nine.  It wasn’t long when he asked me on a date and introduced me to his funny friends.  We talked and hung out more, but my mom grew concerned at how much time I was hanging with this guy on my weekends.  Mom proposed that she speak with his mom just so she can figure out what type of person I’m hanging out with.  While I’m on AOL chatting in a chatroom and doing homework (by the way, AIM-ing casually & doing homework isn’t even possible to do), my Mom calls me in the kitchen while she’s wiping a tear from her eyes from all the laughter she experienced in her phone call. With hardly any self composer, she attempts to tell me, “Hun, I don’t know how to tell you this but… ::blurted giggle:: JEFF is your cousin! ::roaring laugh on both ends of the phone::

Somehow, our parents found it funny, but I was left with a dilemma.  I kind of liked this guy but he’s my cousin.  We already kissed and he implied that he wanted to do some other things to me by trying to tell me through 112’s song “Peaches & Cream” (that I totally didn’t get until he just bluntly said it), but now I’m finding out he’s my cousin. Hmm …. although he wasn’t really blood related, just through marriage, it was still a creepy ass situation to the point of me breaking it off.  Til this day, I am SO thankful that I was young, a prude, a virgin & totally disconnected from the world of sex because you know I would have took that peen down.  He had a huge one…it was thick.  I nearly fainted when I felt it. smh…

Today, not much has changed with me besides having experienced a few men in my life (a story & question I’ll share with you perhaps next week) including my stance on this type of situation.  However, in the moment of need and desire, your brain and body tends to blend the code of ethics that normally would be fair and stern during any time of a normal circumstance.  It’s hard to fathom incest or to even try and understand the justification behind a person sexing their cousin or step relative, but it happens more often than you think.  The all mighty Morgan Freeman has had some trouble in paradise where it was recently discovered that he took down his step granddaughter’s putang .  If  I’m not mistaken, he’s been hitting that since she was 17 years old.  As a woman who loves her father, the thought of taking down a step relative makes me want to jump  into a cage of lions.  I even thought about circumstances where nobody would EVER find out about us and still, I prefer to circumcise my clit off my body…

But I do live for a freak tale.    The platform is all yours!

QUESTIONS:

• Have you ever thought about having intercourse with your relative?
• Have you had sex with a step cousin, distant cousin, step sibling, step parent…?  If so,  was it only a one time thing, or was this a continuous relationship?
• If you currently have a relative who is fuckable, under what circumstances would you be in inorder for you to have a fling with them?
• What are your personal views on taking down a socially forbidden person?

Disclaimer: In no shape or form will I judge you if you have or have not crossed the line to bite into the forbidden fruit.

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Check out Lip Service with Angela Yee which always promises to be entertaining. Trey Songz gets asked about his twitter, his balls, and moisturizing…hmmmm

Lip Service Part 1
Lip Service Part 2

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props to DJ Wonder

Before I had my website I used to blog on myspace and every so often a female would make me an offer I couldn’t refuse. Which ended up being my most embarrasing sexual moment ever!

Long story short this lovely thick girl who just so happened to live around the corner from me in Atlanta wanted to hook up with me. We conversed via messages, im and phone and one Sunday night we decided to go out. I took her to this little poetry spot in Atlanta. We had a great time. She had the nicest booty on the eastside of the A. After the night was over we got a bite to eat and headed back to my place. We started to kiss, next thing I had a handful of ass and a boob in my mouth. The manxilla was hard as a rock. I pretended to need a break, I walked into the back to get a rubber and when I got back we were at it again. I was about to sleep with one of my readers. I pulled her panties off and fingered her, her moans sounded like sweet music being played in a semi drunk state of mind. Then I reached in my pocket pulled out the condom opened it and realized I was only half hard.

I tried to roll it on anyway and it just wasn’t working. She was determined and she put her mouth to work, it was great head, but the manxilla still wouldn’t pay any attention. All I could think about was the legend of BlogXilla is now tarnished. She was sucking and sucking, and I can’t remember if I came or not, but if I did… she doesn’t know that I did, I may have ran to the bathroom with my nut in my hand… (Pause) Needless to say this was my most embarrassing sexual moment. I never attempted to make up for it either. We just couldn’t connect. I did go over her house late one night, and we were interrupted by her daughter waking up and her male friend popping up at her house. Maybe those were signs. Who knows. 

I did ask some of my twitter/facebook friends what were their most embarrassing sexual moments and they have me topped by a lot. Trust me when I say this is some of the funniest stuff you’ll ever read.

How many times has the pull out method failed you? If you don’t know what the pull out method is it’s when a man and a woman have unprotected sex and the guy withdraws his “manxilla” right before he reaches the promise land. Many women believe that they can still get pregnant if they use this way instead of birth control pills, but if done correctly there is only a 4% change of pregnancy. I’m happy to announce that BlogXilla.com proudly supports the pull out method for the following reasons.

It Feels Good: With all the advances in technology and science they have still yet to make a condom that feels like the real thing. While you can’t run around using the pull out method with every man or women you come across, if done correctly with a trusted and experienced partner you can have the feeling with out the life changer that follows nine months later.

* It can be used to prevent pregnancy when no other method is available.
* There are no medical or hormonal side effects.
* No prescription is necessary.
* It is free.

It works according to planned parenthood, of every 100 women whose partners use withdrawal, 4 will become pregnant each year if they always do it correctly. Even when a guy is a little “nut” happy still only 27 women became knocked up.

I mean I know the pull out method has never failed me. I know the computer screen probably got a side eye from some of you, but let me explain. I can feel when I’m about to bust and I’ll admit I’ve intentionally let off a few drops to get that inside feeling not caring about whether it would produce a child or not. When I am with a woman whom I’m in a committed relationship with, but know I do not want to have a kid by her I pull out, or never get to experience unprotected sex with her.

Men know what we are doing at all times, sure we may play like it was a mistake or we couldn’t help it, but we do. I didn’t want to let myself believe I had control until I had children. I’ve been childless for 7 years now… There are no excuses for a mistake, I pull out effectively.

But there is something else that is equally amazing about the pull out method and that’s busting a nut on a woman. I love it so much that I’ve came up with the top 5 body parts to come on.