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Does She Like Me or Is She Just A Tease?
Posted in Relationships on 09. Feb, 2010
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I know there are a lot of men out there asking them self the question, does she really like me or is she just leading me on. For some odd reason most women think it’s alright to lead a guy on. It may be because the guy takes her out, buys her nice things, or he has money. It may even be that he shows her attention she doesn’t get or never got from her father, but whatever the reason is, women feel like its alright to tease a man.
Now while I took the liberty to say most women, fact is only some women choose to tease. They must feel like its okay can flaunt their vagina and huge boobs around, post half naked pictures online and portray every aspect of loose women and not be loose. Now while I do feel it’s totally all right for women to think this way, she shouldn’t feel any sort of way when a guy treats her in a way that make women who get urinated on, choked and slapped for their job, feel disrespected.
Maybe women choose to tease a man for reason unbeknown to rational and sane people, but they continue to tease. What are some ways a guy can tell if a woman actually likes him. Some clues, but be phone calls, and progression. Progression like a kiss one week, a boob in your mouth a few weeks later and so on and so on. If a relationship is not progression and after numerous dates the guy is still going home with a hard penis, then chances are he’s being teased.
I can go on and on about women who tease, but I would love to have a wonderful discussion about women who tease men, and why women tease.
Well, I’ve never been one to “use” or “tease” a man because it’s just not in me. I can’t let you take me out, buy me clothes ,shoes, etc., and invest your time and emotions in me then dismiss you like a dirty rag. At the end of the day it’s just not right. Some women do it all the time and the reasons vary from person to person but the most common reasons are obvious. One reason is because a woman has been hurt and they come to the conclusion that “men aren’t shit anyway so why not use/tease them?”. Another reason is because they’re just not into you! If you’re paying their bills and taking them to 5 star restaurants they’ll keep milking it until the man figures this out. Also, some women tease men just to see how many guys they can pull. It’s almost a competition at times. The chick with boyshorts and baithing suit top on may not be a hoe she might just be an attention whore! She likes the attention from men. Whatever the reason may be it’s never ok to tease or use someone because Karma is a b#&@% and it will come back on you.
@Army Boo Yeah i think its all of those reasons and more. Karma is crazy but at the end of the day what goes around comes around and these women will get what they dish out. A bunch of men who will only sting them along and give them semen breath. It sucks b/c people deserve true love and when you purposely abstract that process life takes a dump on their head.
i def do not agree, i think it happens to women all the time so why is it wrong if the women do it to men??? besides, some men deserve to be treated this way bcos not even the simplest clue wont get them to realize that the girl doesnt like them!!
Im sick of ladies using revenge as a excuss. You taking out past issues on a guy or girl who potentally could make you a happy person.This is why nobody trust each other and so many people around are ages are scarred from relationships.Its not right on either side,therefore just give the new person you meet a fresh start,dont go in thinking what you can get out of someone.
Many people date for different reasons. the word “date” is so misused. It is simply a time spent getting to know someone which does NOT have to be physical. Its called friendship building to build a friendship.
If men would stop looking at dating as a an opportunity to get some, rather than a simple outing of company with another… they may not feel like they are being tease or used. Its an even exchange. Just because a dude takes a woman out and shows her a great time does not mean she has to kiss you or pull out a boob 5 dates later. what you get in return should be good conversation. it’s an even exchange. I dont care how much dude takes me out and spends money, if he doe not interest me, i wont keep going out with him. Dating = friendship building. And men (women too), pay attention to the person you hang out (date) with; pay attention to the substance of their conversation, and time will tell you what they want. matter fact.. ask questions.. and see if the answers line up with their actions and you will eventually know if they are a tease or not.
Many people date for different reasons. Matter fact the word “date” is so misused. It is simply a time spent getting to know someone which does NOT always lead to sexual activity. Its called friendship building.
If men would stop looking at dating as a an opportunity to get some, rather than a simple outing of company with another… they may not feel like they are being teased or used. Its an even exchange of TIME spent. Just because a dude takes a woman out and they have a good time together doesnt mean she has to kiss you or pull out a boob 5 dates later. what you get in return should be good conversation and fun being around the person. Again, it’s an even exchange. I dont care how much dude takes me out and spends money, if he does not interest me, why waste time continuing to go out?… UNLESS you are in the business of using him.
Therefore men (women too), pay attention to the women you hang out with (date); pay attention to the substance of their conversation, and time will tell you what they are about. Ask questions.. and see if the answers line up with their actions and you will eventually know if they are an opportunist or just “friendship building.”
Many people date for different reasons. Matter fact the word “date” is so misused. It is simply a time spent getting to know someone which does NOT always lead to sexual activity. Its called friendship building.
If men would stop looking at dating as a an opportunity to get some, rather than a simple outing of company with another… they may not feel like they are being teased or used. Its an even exchange of TIME spent. Just because a dude takes a woman out and they have a good time together doesnt mean she has to kiss you or pull out a boob 5 dates later. what you get in return should be good conversation and fun being around the person. Again, it’s an even exchange. I dont care how much dude takes me out and spends money, if he does not interest me, why waste time continuing to go out?… UNLESS you are in the business of using him.
Therefore men (women too), pay attention to the women you hang out with (date); pay attention to their character and the substance of their conversation, Time will always tell you what they are about. Ask questions.. and see if the answers line up with their actions and you will eventually know if they are an opportunist or going out with you to genuinely build friendship.
Maybe she does like you, but she’s not ready for what you are ready for…. sexual activity after a certain amount of dates. Which leads me to my next thought–the misuse of the word “date.” It is simply a time spent getting to know someone which does NOT have to lead to sexual activity. Its called friendship building.
SO, if dudes looked at it in that way– dating without the expectation of some type of sexual activity- they wont feel like they are being teased or used.
The question is, if a girl is flaunting and exposing all her goods.. dressed like a “loose woman” then what else are men really expecting to get from that other than teased? so with that said.. if men are looking for real love from women who “appear” to be loose, they are setting themselves up and may want to revamp the type of women they are going for.
I agree w/ SM but at the same time if a relationship isn’t going anywhere why would a guy just continue to take a woman out if all he’s doing with this girl is talking to her?
Conversation is cool, but if they are only talking and nothing else then it’s a tease situation. Especially when there are other girls out there who will sleep with a man after 2 dates. I am not saying I have sex after 2 dates but i am going to give them something to look forward too.
dammmn.. my badd for posting so many times. i didnt think it went thru and i was making adjustments to what i was saying. you can delete the first 3 posts please… lol
but if you have sex after 2 or however many dates.. 9 times out of 10.. that wont be a lasting relationship. conversation and time well spent allows two people to build a “friendship” and get to really know each other.. which can actually take years and develop into a loving and lasting relationship. Sex will not make that happen.
it all boils down to what each person is looking to get out of the dating experience….
Its alright SM You can post as many comments as you want. But I do believe that a relationship can last after sex on the first date. Sometimes a first date isn’t the first date.. if that makes sense. Also the fact that people converse makes it more likely for them to have sex. You can’t gain a connection with someone without it, but at the same time if you’re talking to them for years and don’t feel the need to have sex with them… maybe that person isn’t for you.
Would you agree?
I agree @Xilla. 1st date 19th date.. either you have a connection or you don’t. Sex isn’t everything, but for most of us with equipped with sexual organs (lol) it naturally is a realistic portion of a healthy relationship. I reiterate sex is NOT everything, for me love is number one and the rest falls into place.
Now back to the teasing part, personally I don’t tease purposely. Sometimes if you’re attractive and outgoing that can be misconstrued as your teasing them. And I have been there many times.. akward lol. I’m pretty upfront, if I “like you- like you” I have no problem reciprocating any dating gestures, but if I’m not feeling you “like that” than I’m probably gonna keep my distance so they wont get the wrong idea. That goes with flirting too. Because even as a female and I have been teased and that is irritating. I’m grown hell. lol
I agree @Xilla. 1st date 19th date.. either you have a connection or you don’t. Sex isn’t everything, but for most of us with equipped with sexual organs (lol) it naturally is a realistic portion of a healthy relationship. I reiterate sex is NOT everything, for me love is number one and the rest falls into place.
Now back to the teasing part, personally I don’t tease purposely. Sometimes if you’re attractive and outgoing that can be misconstrued as your teasing them. And I have been there many times.. akward lol. I’m pretty upfront, if I “like you- like you” I have no problem reciprocating any dating gestures, but if I’m not feeling you “like that” than I’m probably gonna keep my distance so they wont get the wrong idea. That goes with flirting too. Because even as a female and I have been teased and that is irritating. I’m grown hell. lol
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Xilla, i agree to an extent. i believe you can definitely have a connection without having sex (it’s happened to me). My thing is, if you choose not to have sex, yet you are both very sexually attracted to one another… i dont think it’s teasing… maybe they just choose to wait… (which is a whole notha topic)
Yes I’m a tease I can admit it but I don’t do it to every guy its just for fun its like when u know a guy like u but u really don’t like them u tease them @ least I do its just for fun plus some guys like it ….there’s many resons y I do it I’m a scorpion its in me to tease
Nobody goes out on dates just to have a conversation.If A man takes a girl out more than two or three times and noting going on but talking,that guy just made a bad investment. He mite as well thrown his money in the trash.Men and Women can be friends and have a good time going out,but thats not a date.Thats two people having a good time and spiltting the bill.
I think some woemn out there maybe a tease just to see how far they can go with dude and then drop them.