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A Man Will Cheat If A Woman Doesn’t Understand These 8 Things
Posted in Relationships on 06. Jan, 2010
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Women get upset at us men for the dumbest things. Now I’ll admit what may be dumb to a man may be a giant issue to a woman, but there are certain things a woman should simply understand and accept as fact in order for men to truly be comfortable in a relationship.
- Just because I want to give your home girl hard peen in the bathroom of a club doesn’t mean I will. – Ladies if you have a pretty friend it’s only nature that a man would want to do her. He probably thinks damn I would do x y and z to her and put her pink fuzzy panties on my head and let her take pictures of me, but then again I would never do anything to lose my boo, because I love her.
- I’m going to tip strippers and let them get me hard and cop a few feels, but I’ll be home when my money runs out. – The strip club is essential to many happy relationships. Some men need to have that interaction with other women and strippers make men feel great for a few dollars placed in their butts that swallow up g-strings.
- My sneakers mean a lot to me and you should definitely be able to understand that. In serious relationship sometimes bills need to get paid, but as long as my bills are paid, I might buy a new pair of kicks before I pay your light bill. #KanyeShrug
- I will look at women on the internet, deal with it. God bless Rosa Acosta, Bria Myles, Kitty and the other video vixens. A woman should understand that this is the internet age, and women send sexy twitpics, facebook and myspace profile pics and all of that. As a man I am programmed to look at them and say things like Damn! Whoa! And OhMiGosh!
- I know I am a pervert, you should know too. – If you tak me to the mall with you to go shopping I am going to sneak looks at other women and admire their swag. I’m going to be looking to see who’s skirt is too short, who has a fat butt and more. I may even smile at a few, but I promise I will come home w/ you when you’re done. You don’t bring a crack head to the crack house and expect him not to act out, now do you?
- I will give my boys cover from cheating, advice on how to cheat and be an excuse for them if they need me too. You got a few hoe friends too again you should understand… but I know you won’t, and I fully understand if you don’t like him, but we will still hit the strip club and go out for drinks. I will always love you.
- You should let me be great, worship and obey me. My ego is huge and I am not only a king I am your king. There comes a time where you should bow down to me and respect that I am your man. Listen to and respect me and I will do the same because you are my queen. So let me watch the game in piece.
- I have no clue what you’re talking about unless you’re upfront and direct with me. – Women give too many hints and quite simply men don’t do hints we are direct and we beat around the bush when we don’t want to talk about a subject.
There are a million more things men need women to know, but hey… I can’t tell all y’all everything. Beside it’s also a man’s job to mold himself to his woman’s liking. We need to understand who we are involved with and treat them how they want to be treated. Even if that does mean changing some of our ways.
(sucks that I have to right this, but this is a general post and not intended to be taken as all men think this way… Just most of us)
I have to say I disagree. And as for the looking at other women on the internet, it better not exceed looking. No contact needs to be made if he respects me!
wow…i can definitely understand if a woman cheats on you…. lol j/k However, I get what your saying..men are pretty simple, we complicated women just need to understand and respect it.
REAL TALk, I always thought strip clubs (and regular strip-club goers) were for losers, and i know for a fact many men out there agree, and would never waste their money on a hard peen and/or blue balls. *shrug*
I also think “worship and obey” is an unhealthy expectation. Understand me, give me my space, respect my opinion and affinity to sports, beer, and guy-time, and treat me like the good man I am is MUCH, MUCH better.
Giving advice on how to cheat is also kinda lame– definitely makes you seem un-trustworthy. I mean, if you co-sign it with ur bff, what would ever lead me to believe you wouldnt co-sign it in your own life?
See Vanessa, what people need to realize is that these things happen. Are you going to tell me you haven’t been with a dude who at least had one of these traits? These type of things happen. and at the end I cleaned it up! lol
Wow this is soo lame. Yes men are simple and women can complicate things but in relationships its an overall issue of respect. You mean to tell me a man cannot respect himself, his girl, or his relationship enough towards where he just has to be allowed to do these things or he will cheat. B.S. Come on men yall have to do better. Have some self control about yourself and have some respect for your relationship. Those are things single guys do not guys in serious relationships. Its the same ol story guys thinking with they little heads and not the big head that holds the brain.
Wow this is soo lame. Yes men are simple and women can complicate things but in relationships its an overall issue of respect. You mean to tell me a man cannot respect himself, his girl, or his relationship enough towards where women just have to be understanding that things aforementioned should be allowed to happen or are men will cheat. B.S. Come on men yall have to do better. Have some self control about yourself and have some respect for your relationship. Those are things single guys do not guys who are in serious relationships or who are looking for one and cant seem to understand why they cant find love. Its the same ol story guys thinking with their little heads not with their brains.
I trust my man to the fullest but he definitely carries half of these traits, but at the end of the day he shows that it’s me forever. But trust some shit just can’t fly by without me saying a word or two. I can unsterstand where he’s coming from but you also gotta see things my way too and see how you woud feel about the whole situation.
@Amanda22 Yes but we are all single until we get married… I’m just saying. At the end of the day and even in this post I do say… “its a man’s job to mold himself to his woman’s liking.” we just all have to do our part.
I guess this should apply to us too…like if we fantasize about your cute homeboy, or you nag us about our latest purse purchase, or if we drool over guys like Boris Kodjoe and Tyrese…then that should be cool too! LOL
I understand where you are coming from in this article, but there comes a time when you have to exercise control. For example, if your girl started eating a lot without exercising and therefore started to gain a few pounds…wouldn’t you try to hint at her to exercise some restraint? Or lets flipthe tables: how would you feel if your girl stared at every single dude that walked by or even fantasized about your homeboy? It wouldn’t be a good feeling. RESPECT YOUR PARTNER’S FEELINGS.
I know that this post does not speak for ALL men, but for the men that it does speak for…they need to grow up. I was really hoping this was a joke, but I guess its not. These are pretty much the lamest excuses that I have ever heard, well read. If a woman actually tolerates this type of behavior that shows a lot about her self-worth because no woman deserves to be in this type of relationship. I mean really I’m supposed to accept my boyfriend lusting over my friends and video vixens? He might as well cheat then…I hate when people say…”It’s just looking” ridiculous. Oh and “birds of a feather flock together” so if your girl has hoe friends, chances are she is one too…smh. And the worship and obeying….last time I checked (according to my Christian beliefes) there was only One God and His is not (insert boyfriends name here). It is true wives should be submissive to their husbands but worship that is a bit extreme. Your last point however was very interesting and I totally agree. Women sometimes beat around the bush and they do not state exactly how they feel or tell their mate exactly what they want….so I do agree with that point we need to be more direct but the rest…smh
I agree with most of these. The real column is the 80 things a man needs to understand so his woman doesnt cheat.
Just because I want to give your home boy the bizness in the bathroom of a club doesn’t mean I will…until you do me wrong.
When you go see your strippers I’ll just be mad you spend your money on another bish and not me. But no worries, I’ll be pooring my heart out to that hot co-worker.
My sneakers, pumps, boots, and open toe sandals mean a lot to me and you should definitely be able to understand that. You benefit from me looking fly, so when I come to you for help after a little shopping spree, think of it as serving yourself too.
I will look at men on the internet, deal with it. God bless Mekhi Pheiffer, Allen Iverson, Michael Ealy and the other fine specimens.
I know you’re a pervert, you should know you should get me tipsy first.
I will give my girls cover from cheating, advice them not too, but help them with tips if they are going too regardless. I might even justify it with a he doesn’t deserve you anyway.
You should let me be great, worship and obey me. I am queen, what I say goes. You might think you run this, but truth of the matter is I let you think that. And yes you will watch the game, and I’ll be feasting my eyes on all the hottie ballplayers and pretend they are putting their slam dunk on me.
You have no clue what I’m talking about, and I just keep hope that one day you will. That’s why I put up with it
Fun stuff lol. Good one Xilla!
I can only agree with the strip clubs, women not being upfront and kind of with the sneakers thing (as long as ALL the bills are paid you can splurge on sneakers)
I don’t like this one I feel like men feel as if we need to except there bullshit and dirt they do but us women need to be perfect and mold to a mans wants and needs this shit is hella dumb my ex treated me this way and I worshipped him like he was my king but in the end I still got burned and he was no good…
@ xillionaire I agree that both parties have to do their parts. But we are all single until we get married is the problem with marriages today. If you cant handle being in a serious relationship (which is the prelude to marriage) then how do you expect to ever find love and be married in the first place. You cant just turn it on and off because your married and your ready to get serious. Good luck finding a “wife” thats gonna except that.
Don’t look at asses when you with me, reserve that for when you with the fellas. I like my man as fly as me so so what about the kicks. When I shake my ass for you throw dollas at me and stick em in my gstring too. You can look at woman you can’t have on the internet i.e. Gabby Union but ya ass shouldn’t be getting emailed pics from bishes. Respect what I say because what I say means alot to me. When WE watching the game Negro sometimes offer to get me a beer too! Im tired of missing nice ass plays DAMNIT!
Really??? this is ridiculous. I know if I pulled any one of these 8 things with my man he would be all butt hurt. You guys can dish it out but you can never take it. If you want us to understand and accept these 8 things it better be a 2-way street cause if we’re letting you do these things I promise your girl is doing them too whether you know about it or not. Girls don’t complicate realtionships guys just like to feel like they’re a man but it’s pretty simple give us respect and we’ll respect you too. You get what you give and if this ia all you have to give… don’t expect a whole hell of a lot back.
1. If ur penis is small I will cheat
2. If you smell bad I will cheat
3. If you leave ur socks in the living room I will cheat
4. If you don’t tell me im beautiful once a day ill cheat
5. If you think im fat ill cheat
6. If your fat ill cheat!
this is my list! thats all..
WOW.. i wonder to myself why I even come to this site sometimes..the advice is so ridiculously ignorant its not funny!! wait *chuckles*..this is the sole reason that there are relationship problems now because men TRY to “educate” women on how to basically PUT UP WITH THEIR BEHAVIOR..FUCK NO!! Why should we drop our standards and our dignity to be with a man who feels he can do whatever he wants? Why dont you try to educate men on what to understand so that a woman wont cheat (because believe it or not, women cheat almost as much as men)? Like Have a job, an education, money, stability..no, cuz you worried about tellin women to put with their men goin to strip clubs, spending money on shoes and lookin at and fuckin other women..
Now we know this list is kinda suspect. Men, don’t how to just LOOK at anything. They always wanna touch and that’s the damn problem.
I think everyone needs to relax cuz the things on this list are far from shocking and definitely can be applied to females.
1. It is natural for people to find others attractive, even if they’re in a relationship. The thing you should be concerned with is whether they act on this attraction or not. Are you really trynna sit there and say that you’ve never looked at one of your man’s friends and used your imagination? Fcuk outta here wit that bull.
2. You wanna go to the strip club? Ok cool. Just make sure you don’t come home covered in booty dust and smellin like stankness. Better yet, take me with you once or twice. I’d like to possibly help pay for someone’s college education too [no insult intended].
3. You have your sneakers, I have my heels. As long as you don’t live beyond your means to the point where I’m supporting you extensively, who am I to tell you how to spend your money. Moving on.
4. I also can appreciate the beauty in the human form. Thank you Google for putting me in contact with the likes of Beckham, Songz, and others with some bomb ass genes.
5. I’m a perv too, it’s ok. Imma look at a dude and play ‘guess how much?’ but don’t you worry, you’re the only one who will get the benefits of my freaky side. Make sure you can say the same thing for me.
6. I will also look out for my friends, depending on the situation. Just make sure that you’re not making excuses for yourself or that’s a whole ‘nother story.
7. I’ll treat you like the king you are if you treat me like the queen I am. 50/50 baby.
8. Seeing as you’re not a mind reader, I’ll give you as much information as possible.
Long story short, all these women boo-hooing about “Xilla how can you be so rude/wrong/this, that, and the other” need to wake up. This list isn’t saying that EVERY man thinks like this or that EVERY man cheats; it’s merely a list of things that you should consider when trying to have a successful relationship: understand your man, stop jumping down his throat, and let the dude live. Goodness.
As others have implied men would sh*t bricks if they knew the things that reside in a woman’s mind.
*You have at least one homeboy, brother, cousin, etc that could get it anyway he wanted it…
*We see several dudes on the daily especially when we’re with you that one ups y’all in every way the only thing y’all have on them is the fact you got our heart.
*What about when we’re thoroughlly engrossed in a real good book and here y’all come acting like we’re giving a dude a lap dance or something. I could go on but I think you get the picture.
*Any mature person realizes that your signifcant other has thoughts and temptations that don’t envolve their partner but the attributes you listed screams that of a immature BOY not a man. The dudes that possess all those attributes is like unto a cake that needs to bake a little longer cause you ain’t ready for a good woman.
As others have implied men would sh*t bricks if they knew the things that reside in a woman’s mind.
*You have at least one homeboy, brother, cousin, etc that could get it anyway he wanted it…
*We see several dudes on the daily especially when we’re with you that one ups y’all in every way the only thing y’all have on them is the fact you got our heart.
*What about when we’re thoroughlly engrossed in a real good book and here y’all come acting like we’re giving a dude a lap dance or something. I could go on but I think you get the picture.
*Any mature person realizes that your signifcant other has thoughts and temptations that don’t envolve their partner but the attributes you listed screams that of a immature BOY not a man. The dudes that possess all those attributes is like unto a cake that needs to bake a little longer you’re undone & you ain’t ready for a good woman.
Am I outgrowing this site or are you devolving Xilla? I know there is a lot of jest in your posts but I seem to remember a time when your relationship posts were geared more toward men and women understanding each other on real relationship issues and were occasionally/appropriately peppered with some “women need to just give more head and swallow” jest.
This is like some Benjamin Buttons Blog shit lately! You’ve gone from writing from a real grown man with a reasonable head on his shoulders point of view to writing like a man who knows nothing about women (except how to fuck ‘em)
Mizz_Caliber hit the nail on the head! These attempts to educate women on how to put up with BAD behavior while funny at times is becoming a little tiresome especially for those of us who became accustomed to better from you. I won’t even get started on the incessant promotion of “hoe” shit. You commented a few months back on the “community” being gone – I think I may know why they left.
I know, I know
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Moral of the story… single advice differs greatly from relationship advice from those that have established and maintained one. Perception is different for the helpful vs. the hurtful. Always be yourself. Someone will love you for who you are. Diffrent strokes for diffrent folks.
Mizz_caliber I so agree with you this blog is really annoying me this just shows how some men are ignorant I feel as if us women are not being complicated but being real confronting certain situations but men like to play silly games and make us seem like we are over dramatic when really that’s not the case at all!! This blog pisses me because I recently experienced this….
Well I understand them all bein that I am bisexual so I can relate to my shoes mean everything 2 me (sneackers & hells),lookin at the video vixens ont he internet, I loove the strip club and I dont mind u starin at other woman bcuz I do it 2 just dont stare 2 hard or Ima knock sum teeth out you mouth
I am really agreeing with Mizz_Caliber and HeadMistress on this one. After reading this I was thinking, why am I still visiting this site. It really does seem like you’re trying to educate women on how to deal with the stupid behavior of most men. I know what HeadMistress means when she said that a while ago I could come to this site and find various blogs that would help men and women understand each other and not be biased. But lately, something has been off…it’s like you’re justifying men for their ways and somewhat blaming the women for their men doing wrong. And there have even been a few blogs where you’re encouraging women to “get their hoe on.” I mean, in some cases there is nothing wrong with that, but that’s not a lifestyle anyone should encourage. I really miss the old blogxilla.com, a site I used to brag about to my friends ALL the time. I even talked about you like I knew you personally. Now, I have no idea who you are.
one of the dumbest,most immature things ever written on a blog site.The writer can’t be over 25 years old..grow up homeboy.
one of the dumbest,most immature things ever written on a blog site.The writer can’t be over 25 years old..grow up homeboy.No woman with any self respect would accept these silly terms of disrespectful behavior.ask your mother.And no man would accept it from their lady or they would be ready to go OJ on her.lol
i like it i love d honesty and to be honest i do all a dat but d strip club thing boo im not goin to ever agree with dat so me n him hav to get a trade off dere but i see ppl had dere issue wit dis article cant see why doh, love d blog u know ppl hate d truth
keep good
I can agree with most of those, even the King thing. Because sometimes a woman does have to respect her mans wishes without arguement and vice versa. And there are some guys who think about fuckin their girls friends but they would never act on it. But the thing I do disagree with is the strippers. I don’t agree with any man routinely going a strip club after marriage. Your income is my income. Theres a stripper at a bachelor party, thats cool. You and your boys want to go out and get a lil crazy, thats cool. But for some random hoe to know you by name that shit ain’t cool at all!!! Thats my money you’re putting down her pants and unless she’s shakin tities for me too that ain’t gonna fly.
When your woman can put her legs behind her head and can make it drop low low low … the strip club becomes boring quick…. actually… it makes you want take her to the club and set up classes to update the bs they trying to do.
Look all you want…. touch if you want… when your the best… its not a concern… what you but out is what you get.Alot of people learn the hard way, but this man sounds like he is way smarter than that… specially when he knows the true value of his woman….and sees a drunk load of dudes praying for his down fall.
Bless your heart…. since when does a rehabilitated crackhead walk around with crack in there hands puts it in the pipe and doesnt smoke.What men dont understand is the more you ignore the other chicks when you with your woman… the more sexy and attactive you are to other women. everybody wants what they cant have.The same rule applies for both male and female.
…. I love shoes…. we good.!
communication is very important… i agree.
As far as the friend thing….lol…the grass always “looks” greener on the other side… It
is good you would never act on that impulse however, if you did ..lol … i know you disappointed… God is good!
Caliber and Headmistress have hit the nail on teh head. Blogxilla, what happened man? You were really cool and respectful. I even told my man about this site and he grew to love it but EVEN HE think you’re now below par.
If however the plan is to change the audience then ok…… its been real.
All the best.
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i want respect, and if he wont give me the respect that i deserve, then good bye,
oo man u r so wrong. hope ur girl cut ur penis and make u eat it.