The Ultimate Guide To Making A Guy “Blow” From A BJ

Last night while literally falling into the lap of one of the most beautiful woman I’ve seen in my life I got an email from a reader who learned how to give head by reading my blog.

Hey Xilla,
I had to take the time to say Thank YOU!!! I’ve been visiting your site for a while now. I appreciate ALL the articles you have on giving head. Basically i’ve never been a big head person cuz I was self-conscious – thought I wasn’t that good. I was with my BF for 4 yrs & in that time he only came once from head – according to him he can’t cum from that I think that’s BS. BUT since i’ve been on your site…that shit has changed. I’m not sayin i’m the greatest…but I know i’m doin the damn thing now. I’m no longer self conscious & actually giving head now cuz I know i’m doing a good job and i’m makin ninja’s cum …So I def had to THANK YOUUU!!! Keep up the good work.

It’s good to know that there are women out there who aren’t afraid to learn new tricks. Now, I know I’ve written about oral sex a lot, but there has never been a guide to teach women how to make a man achieve orgasm by getting some BECKY. So I’ve gather some information from a white woman who must have her master’s in being a sexual intellectual because this is intense. Read and take notes.

Face F*cked:

It is rather extreme. You (in either a flat-on-your-back position or a kneeling position) will allow him to grab the back of your head, insert his cock in your wide-open mouth, and simply fuck your throat as if it were a pussy. Yes, you’ll gag and yes, you might throw up, but some girls do actually enjoy that, and I can guarantee you that many men LOVE that kind of whore-like throat-fucking BJ. If you let him use your throat like that he’ll either love you to death and worship your body afterwards, or he’ll start disrespecting you because you let him use your mouth as if you were a whore. Be careful that your man is the kind who loves a sexually deviant, liberated woman, not one who is scared of them, before you try the “fuck my throat” tactic.

For every girl who hates to be fucked in the throat till she gags, there are three that hate it. If you hate it, DON’T DO IT and don’t let him fuck your throat hard like that. Don’t let him have control of the BJ if he’s abusing your throat and not being gentle. Only let him do that if you like it.

Sloppy Blows:

Most important: make sure it is wet. Wet, slushy, sloppy blowjobs are the ONLY kind of blowjobs. Just like when he’s eating your pussy and driving you crazy with his mouth, it HAS TO BE WET to feel good. Use LOTS of spit, and LOTS more. Make it really wet with your mouth.

Next, the swirling, French-kissing technique is usually good. French kiss the head of his cock as if you’re in a porn movie… kiss it, suck on it, swirl your tongue around it, over it, under it, encircle it. Purse your lips and let it slip inside, and then swish your tongue all over the head.

Anyone who tells you guys don’t like their balls licked or shaft sucked is generalizing. Many, many guys like for you to vary it up, lick down their shaft, lick their balls, suck on their balls, lick the place between their balls and ass, and hey, if you’re up for it, lick their asshole. 75% of men ADORE having their asshole licked. Lick it good, like you’re licking clitty – it’ll drive him crazy ‘cause that’s where all his nerve endings are.

Do it for maybe ten or fifteen minutes. Then, when you want to make him cum, if you’re not willing to let him fuck your mouth, it’s best to still attempt to recreate the fucking motion, you know, open your mouth a little wider (so your teeth aren’t involved) and try bobbing your head up and down on it (or back and forth), letting it slide between your lips and into your mouth, then out again. Imagine you are a pussy, riding a cock, and you are trying to go faster and harder to get him and yourself off. That is the kind of rhythm you should be looking for. That will get him off.

One thing I preach on my blog is that sex is mostly mental. So doing a few little things can help a guy like myself or a man in general bust a nut deep down a woman’s throat, or catch on in his hand for the women who still don’t swallow.

Lots of lipstick never hurts. Some guys like no make up but just as many like slutty red or pink lips sucking their cock. Be his fantasy girl and use pink lipstick and suck it like you worship it.

LOTS OF EYE CONTACT. If you have his head in your mouth and you look in his eyes like you wanna rape him and fuck his brains out, the BJ will feel that much better.

LOTS OF SPIT – spit on it and pull your mouth away, holding it in your tightly-clenched fist… let the strings of spit and drool hang from his cock to your lips, then suck it and spit on it more – that’s what a lot of guys like, and that’s how the pornstars do it.

When he’s coming, it’s best to just keep doing what you’re doing. That’s my best advice for that. If you don’t want him to cum in your mouth, then jack it really hard, pump it with your fist, and aim the cock wherever you want the cum – tits, face, tummy, guys like cumming on those places – but usually nothing as much as in your mouth.

Ladies, one thing you must remember if your guy doesn’t cum from head alone is to use your hand. The key to making a man cum from head is to jerk him while you suck. It’s not really cheating and I know I love a little hand action w/ my BJ’s. I love it when a woman does the twist motion w/ her stroke and mouth motion. That will help him reach the mountain top.

Xilla

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