167 Reasons The Educated Black Woman Will Remain Lonely
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The other day there was a hail storm of comments on my blog post, the educated black woman doesn’t get enough sex. It seems like for the first time I have to clarify exactly what I mean. Not because I was wrong, I feel like I’m 100% right, but rather because the the inability for smart black women to open their minds. Allow me to explain.
We all know that its hard for people to find someone who will truly treat them right, but I feel like there is a lot of truth to what I wrote, but you must understand I use humor and sex to make a point. It may be extreme, but in SOME cases its very true. While it may not fit to all, it definitely fits to a lot of women in corporate america. For example I wrote ” successful black woman aren’t made of sugar and spice and everything nice. They have some evil in them.” If any of you women who objected to this statement will sit here and tell me that, Black woman have it easy in the world I might Chris Brown you and make a youtube apology in a blue bow tie and funny looking orange shirt. Black women have to work 100 times harder than their counterparts for less pay, while doing double the work. So in most cases finding time for love is very hard. Especially when all most men want to do is high five a vagina with their penis. So instead of taking the risk to get to know someone they ignore people and may miss a chance to find love.
Also in the comment sections I explained that more women should build their men up, instead of hoping to find a successful black man to match their success. One reader ever wrote “Why must a woman help you build your career to me that sounds like a lack of ambition and drive. BE A MAN. make your own way and for alot of black men they dont want to reach a education black womans expectations because they consider it too high to NOT HAVE BABYMOMAS, value family in the true sense, have a education (or be cultured) and to have your own good income and things..if black women can go out here and be educated,smart,have their own, and not feed into this recent black phenomena of baby mama culture, then of course we are gonna expect the same of out our men…black men need to get it together!”
First off this is why a lot BLACK women successful or not will never find a good man b/c they refuse to help each other out. Love is about helping one another, sharing and making the person you love better. It should be an equal partnership regardless of who makes more money. If the guy makes more money the wouldn’t should still be an equal partner in the relationship. Whether it’s cooking or cleaning or giving the man some he considers valuable. It could simply be her time, but still. Same goes for a man, if a man doesn’t make as much as his woman he should provide her w/ something she considers valuable. Be it his protection, cooking cleaning taking out the trash! Whatever. Also when you’re in a relationship shouldn’t we help each other out in every aspect of our lives if we can? If I know my wife is a painter and I come across someone who paints, I’m gonna recommend my wife. If she works customer service and I hear of another job paying more w/ a better opportunity I’m going to let her know.
It would appear that some women & men would just sit there and do nothing b/c their boo didn’t go out and get it them self. I have seen this happen before couples together and neither one of them are making each other better. I feel like couples like this are DOOMED!
Also the article stated some things about being a baby momma. No one ever said women should ONLY be baby momma’s what I tried to say is that women shouldn’t let their fears or value of their beings to be more than a baby momma get in the way of them finding love. We should place our heart higher on our to do list. We should cherish love and respect it, and if you get a little nookie along the way so be it. More Vehicular Feliatio for all. That doesn’t mean to get a guy you have to suck him off while he’s driving the car. It means that you shouldn’t feel like you’re too good to do certain things b/c of your status or b/c you’re a lady with class!
I feel like a lot of times women are too hard on them selves w/ these standards and rules for who they will and will not be with, talk to or give their number too. Who knows the guy who works at Micky D’s today could be the next CEO of the company. Don’t cut off someone on the path to greatness before they get great. Last year I was homeless, this year I’m in a much better situation, able to go where ever, whenever, I want when I want. Able to say hey I’ll pay your rent momma, alright sis, I’ll pay your phone bill, pay child support and still buy all my friends drinks at the bar. I mean I could save the money and be selfish. But, I like going to $$$$ restaurants with a woman I may or may not sleep with, because I refuse to not allow myself to have fun. I stunt hard b/c I’m not promised tomorrow.
Xilla The Sexual Intellectual.
PS, Don’t mind the title… I just said that to get you mad!! **Ma$e voice**
