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Since More Men Should Wife H*es, Here’s How You Do It
Posted in Rated Grown Up, Relationships on 04. Nov, 2009
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I was having a conversation with my homegirl about what is wife material. It was a very interesting conversation, she believes that Amber Rose is not wife material. She explained that Amber isn’t the type of woman that comes to mind when a man wants to settle down . Me on the other hand, believes that Amber could certainly be wife material. So to settle this debate I decided to bring this up on my blog. Here is what I came up with.
I had to ask myself does a man really want a woman with a clean slate? I remember my boy Modi over at DCtoBC had a post where all the men were talking about how a particular chick has been around the block and had a lot of miles on her, but I thought, so what? Would I really want settle with a woman I would have to train to f*ck me right? No, I want a girl who is going to do things to me that I’d be ashamed to tell my momma! Things that will make even me blush, and I openly eat p*ssy until I burp.
Back to Amber, my homegirl stated that Amber is publicly known to eat the puss too, and that she has booty pics all over the internet that are easily googleable. My answer to that is Yeah AND! Every woman I’ve ever been w/ has sent me naked pics to my phone. I firmly believe all woman have them, its just a matter of who has seen them. Honestly I like my freakiness sexual intellectualism right out in the open for all to see. I wouldn’t mind if my woman was sexually free. Wouldn’t bother me one bit, if we have that understanding. Or if that is what I was looking for. We all want different things and some people are more comfortable with stuff than others.
I say all of that to say this, sure you can wife a sexually free you just need a few things to make it happen.
- Be secure. In order to wife a sexually free chick you have to be secure in yourself. You can’t accuse them of cheating or even care if they cheat. For one it won’t happen. If you handle things like an adult a healthy relationship can form.
- Set Rules. This isn’t a conventual relationship, you would have to set boundaries and rules. So figure out what you like and what you don’t like and make it work. You can do anything if you’re willing to deal w/ the reality of the matter.
- Stay Open. Nothing is ever set in stone, you have to be open to things changing and things not being normal. If you can do that a relationship can work.
- Don’t Care. If the woman he’s trying to date is really free, he’ll run the chance of hearing a few horror stories about the things she did. Maybe she sucked a few dudes off at once, maybe got caught giving head on a pier, or maybe the entire high school football team ran through her while she laid on red plastic cups on the bed in the kicker’s dorm. Needless to say he’ll hear stories. That was in the past. We all have skeletons in our closet, and our past mistakes are no reason not to love someone NOW.
- Business. It’s none of your business. Remember that and never forget it.
- Be A Man. The reason most loose women are… loose is because they can’t find a man to make them want to settle down. If a woman loves a guy she loves him, and regardless of who or what she is she’ll be loyal to him.
- Check The Time. Most importantly the time has to be right, you can’t wife a “sexually free” woman when she’s not ready to be settle. It’s like a rodeo, some of those heifers are just not ready to be rode and steered into the pasture. Some of them just can’t be broken. When she’s ready to settle down she’ll settle and you can’t force her that’s why other rules are so important.
At the end of the day it’s to each it’s own. I believe all women deserve love and deserve to be married if that’s what they want. Yet my friend hit me with something that sorta killed my whole argument. She said who’s to say Beyonce doesn’t do all the freak ish Amber Rose does, you just don’t know about it because it’s not all out in the open. She’s right, but again I believe so what if it is… I would rather be w/ a woman who shits in the streets and stands by it proudly with a sign that say look world this is my pile of crap and I’m proud of it.
*Standing Ovation*
*Standing Ovation*
I found this post to be interesting and a bit ironic, because I was just thinking about this earlier today. I over hear my brother and his friends talk about the females they have pursued or plan to pursue with much pride. All of these experiences that they live to tell. Life is about experience to me and that they have plenty of. As I ride the train everyday I look see a few guys who i just want to have intercourse with, Hell I even want to have intercourse with my brothers friend. Ofcourse I dont though. The main reason is because of what people would think of me. And it sucks because I feel like I am missing out. I'm missing out because of everybodys judgement. It seems that everybody has their veiws on whats wrong and whats right. Is it bad if I just want to feel good ? Or if I choose lust>love? It may not be “bad” but people will judge. If people didnt judge and it was made acceptable I'm pretty sure men will wife the “Hoe.” (Really dont like that term.) The main problem I think that comes with wifing a woman who has experience with several men is the mans “Ego”. Nobody can handle the judgement. People have to learn not to care what others think including me because guess what, we are all going to die, not to sound harsh but thats how i see it. It really doesnt matter. This may have been alittle all over the place but yeah, thats my view. And I love True2me based on her comments. I would like to end it with this wonderful quote “You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.”
I found this post to be interesting and a bit ironic, because I was just thinking about this earlier today. I over hear my brother and his friends talk about the females they have pursued or plan to pursue with much pride. All of these experiences that they live to tell. Life is about experience to me and that they have plenty of. As I ride the train everyday I look see a few guys who i just want to have intercourse with, Hell I even want to have intercourse with my brothers friend. Ofcourse I dont though. The main reason is because of what people would think of me. And it sucks because I feel like I am missing out. I'm missing out because of everybodys judgement. It seems that everybody has their veiws on whats wrong and whats right. Is it bad if I just want to feel good ? Or if I choose lust>love? It may not be “bad” but people will judge. If people didnt judge and it was made acceptable I'm pretty sure men will wife the “Hoe.” (Really dont like that term.) The main problem I think that comes with wifing a woman who has experience with several men is the mans “Ego”. Nobody can handle the judgement. People have to learn not to care what others think including me because guess what, we are all going to die, not to sound harsh but thats how i see it. It really doesnt matter. This may have been alittle all over the place but yeah, thats my view. And I love True2me based on her comments. I would like to end it with this wonderful quote “You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist.”
PREACH!!
Mistress- I agree with ALL you said on this post!
What?- You were on point too!!
PREACH!!
Mistress- I agree with ALL you said on this post!
What?- You were on point too!!
I agree.
I agree.
I think it is perfectly fine to give in to hoe tendencies every now and then. As long as you protect you heart and body. Don't let sex screw you up in the head or make you feel less than. And of course, use the appropriate profilactics (sp?) at all times.
Just don't be a sorry hoe (low self esteem/no self respect). Don't be a lifetime hoe (never growing up and maturing). Don't be an icky hoe (not taking healthy care of your bodily business). Don't be a triflin hoe (pushing up on OPP).
I think it is perfectly fine to give in to hoe tendencies every now and then. As long as you protect you heart and body. Don't let sex screw you up in the head or make you feel less than. And of course, use the appropriate profilactics (sp?) at all times.
Just don't be a sorry hoe (low self esteem/no self respect). Don't be a lifetime hoe (never growing up and maturing). Don't be an icky hoe (not taking healthy care of your bodily business). Don't be a triflin hoe (pushing up on OPP).
Thanks for the shout
Thanks for the shout
LOL!
Great minds!
Great minds!
Hahaaa – the Do's & Don'ts – love it!
Hahaaa – the Do's & Don'ts – love it!
You’re gonna live a pretty sad and reclusive life if you put that much stock in what other people think.
We all judge, and we’re all judged – all day, every day, everywhere we go – people are judging us and we’re judging them right back – sometimes it’s positive, sometimes it’s negative. Every decision we make and every decision made about us, in our favor or against, is a judgment.
Whether you’re accepted into the college of your choice, whether you get the job, whether you’re approved for the loan, whether you get the apartment, whether you get a date or dick or pussy – All Judgments – some valid, some not, some fair, some not, some should matter to us, and some shouldn’t.
“Eat the meat and throw away the bone.”
You’re gonna live a pretty sad and reclusive life if you put that much stock in what other people think.
We all judge, and we’re all judged – all day, every day, everywhere we go – people are judging us and we’re judging them right back – sometimes it’s positive, sometimes it’s negative. Every decision we make and every decision made about us, in our favor or against, is a judgment.
Whether you’re accepted into the college of your choice, whether you get the job, whether you’re approved for the loan, whether you get the apartment, whether you get a date or dick or pussy – All Judgments – some valid, some not, some fair, some not, some should matter to us, and some shouldn’t.
“Eat the meat and throw away the bone.”
To the HeadMistress
I dont care what many people think about me but sometimes it's the people who are closer to you to have an affect. Anybody looking from the outside, I really dont care. Its not easy when your parents cant't understand you and they get mad at your opposing views. My grandfather is a pastor and my family grew up in a church. The judgement may also come with non acceptance because I am not the reserved lady as I should be to them. Right now my parents dont understand my views but hey, I have a lot to learn myself. Im only 18, so i really cant complain.
To the HeadMistress
I dont care what many people think about me but sometimes it's the people who are closer to you to have an affect. Anybody looking from the outside, I really dont care. Its not easy when your parents cant't understand you and they get mad at your opposing views. My grandfather is a pastor and my family grew up in a church. The judgement may also come with non acceptance because I am not the reserved lady as I should be to them. Right now my parents dont understand my views but hey, I have a lot to learn myself. Im only 18, so i really cant complain.
@ “Its not easy when your parents cant't understand you and they get mad at your opposing views. My grandfather is a pastor and my family grew up in a church.”
Trust me, I've been there…and my answer is the same: “You’re gonna live a pretty sad and reclusive life if you put that much stock in what other people, parents/family included, think.”
Make well thought out decisions based on what you know to be right from your upbringing combined with your own views and do what you believe is right for you – they'll probably not like it but if their love is unconditional as it should be they'll still love you despite disagreeing with your views and eventually they'll get over it for the sake of having you in their lives
btw…church girl gone wild fresh out the gate is more likely to lead to regret than feelings of freedom – nothin wrong with having sex and feeling good but take baby steps, at this stage of your life limit it to someone who truly cares for you and whom you trust – give yourself some time to live comfortably outside of caring too much what your family thinks, you got plenty of time and there will always be cute guys on the train
@ “Its not easy when your parents cant't understand you and they get mad at your opposing views. My grandfather is a pastor and my family grew up in a church.”
Trust me, I've been there…and my answer is the same: “You’re gonna live a pretty sad and reclusive life if you put that much stock in what other people, parents/family included, think.”
Make well thought out decisions based on what you know to be right from your upbringing – “Eat the meat and throw away the bone.” – combined with your own views and do what you believe is right for you – they'll probably not like it but if their love is unconditional as it should be they'll still love you despite disagreeing with your views and eventually they'll get over it for the sake of having you in their lives
btw…church girl gone wild fresh out the gate is more likely to lead to regret than feelings of freedom – nothin wrong with having sex and feeling good but take baby steps, at this stage of your life limit it to someone who truly cares for you and whom you trust – give yourself some time to live comfortably outside of caring too much what your family thinks, you got plenty of time and there will always be cute guys on the train
@ HeadMIstress
I understand what you are saying completely. But as far as the church girl gone wild that is far from me lol. I've made my mistakes a few years back while I was in church. Then I stopped going to church. Now I am an atheist and a feminist. Although this topic is about sex it can represent so much more being the feminist that I am. So I'm not going to rush to have sex with just anyone. The connection has to be there for me. Sex is good. A great conversation and sex is even better.
Btw. I love how you express your point of you. The ending was great “you got plenty of time and there will always be cute guys on the train.”
@ HeadMIstress
I understand what you are saying completely. But as far as the church girl gone wild that is far from me lol. I've made my mistakes a few years back while I was in church. Then I stopped going to church. Now I am an atheist and a feminist. Although this topic is about sex it can represent so much more being the feminist that I am. So I'm not going to rush to have sex with just anyone. The connection has to be there for me. Sex is good. A great conversation and sex is even better.
Btw. I love how you express your point of you. The ending was great “you got plenty of time and there will always be cute guys on the train.”
Thank you – you struck me when you mentioned the religious people…my early life story
An atheist and a feminist, huh? The double whammy – I Love It!
Parents will push and push and push and count on their disapproval being the thing to make you do things their way
I've always been a rebel so I figured out quite by accident that one of two things happens:
You do it their way, they're happy, you're not
OR
Do it your way, you're happy and they'll adjust (quite nicely I might add)
Thank you – you struck me when you mentioned the religious people…my early life story
An atheist and a feminist, huh? The double whammy – I Love It!
Parents will push and push and push and count on their disapproval being the thing to make you do things their way
I've always been a rebel so I figured out quite by accident that one of two things happens:
You do it their way, they're happy, you're not
OR
Do it your way, you're happy and they'll adjust (quite nicely I might add)
Look Im a married man and there is NO WAY I would have married a hoe.. absolutely not… Bottom line is men want a hoe…just for what she is.. a piece of ass only…not to flaunt around on his arm.. You get the “wholesome” wifey type for that period… I have no problem with sexually free woman.. shit those are the ones you just add to your f***d roster! and MIZZEBONI is totally right… NO NIGGA! NO NIGGA wants another man to be able to tell him what his pu** looks like, feels like ect. Its a pride thing! Thats my mutha f***n pu**!! straight up. If a man came up to me and said that I might lose it on him and wifey…LOL