I Don’t See Nothing Wrong w/ The Bump & Grind Online
I don’t see nothing wrong with a little bump and grind online. Last night while holding a twitter after dark session with my followers on Twitter. A follower by the name of @itsjessika said something to the likes of finding sex online was for lames. I completely disagreed w/ her statement. I mean sure you can find jerks online, but you find jerks at the club, supermarket or where ever. I like to argue you actually know more about someone you met on line when you meet then than you do when you’re in the streets. Allow me to explain.
In The Streets You Might Get A Business Card…
- Online you have a whole google search engine full of information. If you meet someone one myspace, facebook, twitter or any social network chances are there will be tons of information about this person. A profile gives you a lot more information at first glance than a pick up line like “Can I check the tag on the back of your shirt to see if you were made in heaven?” ever could. At first contact you should do a little bit of research before reaching out.
- Read The Person’s Profile - Is it all booty pics, real friends, what are their status messages like, what do they tweet about. This is like observing someone in the streets. Ask yourself the right question and come to a conclusion with the information you find. If they have Snoop or Maxwell on their page you can come to a safe assumption of who you’re involved with A Player or a gentleman.
- Comments & Friends – I firmly believe you are the company you keep. Is this person’s friends list full of donkey butts? Are their comments full of glitter pics, hearts, wine glasses and teddy bears? Now chances are even if it’s a one sided conversation a normal person isn’t going to be talking about sex and glitter during their online time. Check for regular conversation, it was nice seeing you, and hey did you know such a such did…
- Pictures – Does this person post a lot of pictures online? I have discovered that if a person doesn’t post a lot of pictures of them self they are either not who they say they are, ugly, or Don’t like the way they look. Also be aware of head shots only. I mean you telling me you have 500 pics and not one of them are of your body?
Take Your Time…
- Another one of the wonders of online dating is that you can take your time and you should take your time. When you meet someone in person, they go from a stranger to having your phone number, yet when you meet someone online its a gradual process. First the social network screen name, then the email, then the IM name and then the phone number.
- IM’s & Emails – I will tell you that is it very hard to keep up a front via instant message. A lot of people can’t even keep a IM convo going. Notice the signs and take advantage of this getting to know you tool. If you find yourself spending hours on chat and email then it’s a good look. If your chat isn’t filled w/ LOL’s and smiley faces then maybe this person is not for you.
- Phone Numbers & Dates – Now if you’ve bagged a jerk online chances are they would have shown them self by now. So exchange numbers and go on a date. Remember what your convo’s were like, and know that some people are simply more entertaining online than in person. It’s sad, but it’s fact. Do your best to keep make it work and it will.
Overall dating online can be beneficial. If you know what you’re looking for you can find what you want w/ just a few mouse clicks. If you want love, you search for it, if you want a sex, it’s being offered for free. Regardless of what you want you can find it on the right social network.
Have you ever meet someone online? Did you sleep w/ them? What is your screening process like?
