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I Don’t See Nothing Wrong w/ The Bump & Grind Online
Posted in Rated Grown Up on 29. Oct, 2009
I don’t see nothing wrong with a little bump and grind online. Last night while holding a twitter after dark session with my followers on Twitter. A follower by the name of @itsjessika said something to the likes of finding sex online was for lames. I completely disagreed w/ her statement. I mean sure you can find jerks online, but you find jerks at the club, supermarket or where ever. I like to argue you actually know more about someone you met on line when you meet then than you do when you’re in the streets. Allow me to explain.
In The Streets You Might Get A Business Card…
- Online you have a whole google search engine full of information. If you meet someone one myspace, facebook, twitter or any social network chances are there will be tons of information about this person. A profile gives you a lot more information at first glance than a pick up line like “Can I check the tag on the back of your shirt to see if you were made in heaven?” ever could. At first contact you should do a little bit of research before reaching out.
- Read The Person’s Profile - Is it all booty pics, real friends, what are their status messages like, what do they tweet about. This is like observing someone in the streets. Ask yourself the right question and come to a conclusion with the information you find. If they have Snoop or Maxwell on their page you can come to a safe assumption of who you’re involved with A Player or a gentleman.
- Comments & Friends – I firmly believe you are the company you keep. Is this person’s friends list full of donkey butts? Are their comments full of glitter pics, hearts, wine glasses and teddy bears? Now chances are even if it’s a one sided conversation a normal person isn’t going to be talking about sex and glitter during their online time. Check for regular conversation, it was nice seeing you, and hey did you know such a such did…
- Pictures – Does this person post a lot of pictures online? I have discovered that if a person doesn’t post a lot of pictures of them self they are either not who they say they are, ugly, or Don’t like the way they look. Also be aware of head shots only. I mean you telling me you have 500 pics and not one of them are of your body?
Take Your Time…
- Another one of the wonders of online dating is that you can take your time and you should take your time. When you meet someone in person, they go from a stranger to having your phone number, yet when you meet someone online its a gradual process. First the social network screen name, then the email, then the IM name and then the phone number.
- IM’s & Emails – I will tell you that is it very hard to keep up a front via instant message. A lot of people can’t even keep a IM convo going. Notice the signs and take advantage of this getting to know you tool. If you find yourself spending hours on chat and email then it’s a good look. If your chat isn’t filled w/ LOL’s and smiley faces then maybe this person is not for you.
- Phone Numbers & Dates – Now if you’ve bagged a jerk online chances are they would have shown them self by now. So exchange numbers and go on a date. Remember what your convo’s were like, and know that some people are simply more entertaining online than in person. It’s sad, but it’s fact. Do your best to keep make it work and it will.
Overall dating online can be beneficial. If you know what you’re looking for you can find what you want w/ just a few mouse clicks. If you want love, you search for it, if you want a sex, it’s being offered for free. Regardless of what you want you can find it on the right social network.
Have you ever meet someone online? Did you sleep w/ them? What is your screening process like?
yoooo I JUST RECENTLY blogged about this..*dont know if you allow links to be posted in here..but yeah I blogged the same thing a few days ago*…but I totally agree w you hun..great post
One of the points I made was that it makes you less shallow. You already Kinda know them from twitter, Iming, dming..WHATEVER..which can lead to phone convos, and eventually meeting up…
And yes..you can meet jerks in real life. This is the digital age and what not so (another point I made) and we are moving more towards meeting ppl online, whether for networking, love, like or a sexual romp
again…great minds think alike..great post
hey blogxilla…its jessika, the chick who made the comment. now that i see your standpoint, i cant understand where you are coming from. The variety of social network sites online does give you more of an understanding than first meeting someone in person. ive met friends online, since i am a young college student and a blogger as well, but i have found from my experiences that getting to know someone on twitter, facebook, myspace, skype, etc… extensively before meeting them in person can make the initial meeting awkward as hell….because most people i know tend to hide some flaws or lie online so they might not be what you expect. i just think that in person meetings allow you to see past all the bullshit that could possibly be online…but i loved your standpoint too, so now im not so skeptical lol
it shouldn't be awkward because when you like someone you like everything about them… even that funny extra toe on their left foot to the way their right eye wander when they say words that start w/ the letter M. All I'm saying is by the time you meet someone you should like them already and seen so many pics of them that it's like you've seen them in perfect. we all put on our best face when we are trying to get to know someone its just a matter of location in peson or online.
Not meeting people you talk to online is like still sending letters to people instead of sending an email. And yes great minds do think a like…. did i tell you i like your profile pic? so cute.
Ppl do lie in their profiles but I don't see anything wrong with finding love online.. Just keep in mind that the same way they found you, they could be entertaining someone else. The same as meeting a person in the streets.
*agrees* and thank you *blushes*
*agrees* and thank you *blushes*
I don't see nothing wrong – online dating is the business – but I do see something wrong with that pic – somebody Photoshop a Mac in between that chicks legs!
I did the whole online dating thing in the past (Yahoo, Match, etc) and have had dates, hook-ups and all that, but nothing long-lasting and meaningful, even though I'm still cool with one of the dudes I met via Yahoo (it's no longer physical; that ship has sailed. But we had a lot in common so the friendship remained).
When I think about it today… it just doesn't do it for me. I treated it too much like a meat market, like catalog shopping for a date. I only looked at pics & height & whether or not they smoked & graduated from college. I didn't like who I was turning into and missed the days of just getting to KNOW someone first, become friends and then have something bloom organically later.
I'm happy for those who've found love (or whatever they were looking for) online, but me + online dating have broken up for good!
My longest relationship was with someone I met online and I have dated a few people from online since. I think meeting people over the internet is great. I've gotten a chance to meet people that I would never meet in the street because they are in a different country and so fourth.
I'll continue to meet people..It's always great to have friends in different area codes lol *ahem Xilla* lol j/k
I love, love, love this topic. I agree 100% with this subject. I feel you get a lot of free throws without having them on your cell until you feel comfortable with them. You have the chance to really google the person out all while you are having a nice time chatting with them. Its just a different means of getting to meet somebody.
I personally have dated online. I have met some wonderful people. I guess i don't understand why people think that the people online aren't people in real life. What i mean by that is. I'm convinced that some people who ward of online dating think, that the person online has nothing better to do then to be online, or that the person is always there online. I think that you have to a very open minded person.
I work, go to school, I'm very outgoing. Never had an issue getting anyone that was interested. I think that alot of the times, when i got out, I realized that a guy just isn't interested. So i don't look, I don't crush, I don't pursue. When I post something online, they can get a feel for me and then reach out to me if they want to.
A lot of my friends dismiss it, but i have met alot of well rounded men offline. We remain good friends, and honestly I don't respond well to a man trying to get at me out in public anyway. I think sometimes its awkward, or sometimes they come at me wrong. Anything thing is, i have a lower rate of getting an ignorant thug from my area being online or certain sites.
You are so on point with that first paragraph!
Add to that the fact that all we knew and all we heard about were “online predators” (complete with horror stories) loooonnnggg before online dating became popular so I think that still stands out in a lot of people's minds – and I don't think we can ever really overcome it 100% because we still have to teach kids not to accept friends, talk too, give info too or arrange to meet in person anyone they've met online…
Yes, I agree, its all about getting a feel for that person. You can meet crazies in the market, all over the place. But if you gonna meet someone online, then you just have to take precautions, and if you feel like you have to be that paranoid then its not for you, but you can't judge others for doing it.
I'm Lady Jei….and I approve this message LOL!!