Maybe You Should Re-Think Sex w/ An Ex
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Written by Brook Lynne Carter For BlogXilla.com
Having sexual relations with someone who you are no longer with, usually sounds like it is not such a good idea. Since that person is indeed in the past, it kind of gives you the sense that you are moving backwards, even if it is just for intercourse. Anyone you have had some kind of history with, complicated or not, will make it almost impossible to not re hatch these feelings during some late night rendezvous. I know I may get a backlash for this, but women, we know that along with sex there are times we also develop an attachment and/or emotion with that person we have chose to bring back in our bedroom. Now add an EX into the equation, and it further complicates things. Which is ironic, because “X” in mathematical terms, means nothing, so when it comes to sex, why does the X mean so much?
Sex with an ex isn’t always a bad move. Sometimes its necessary, keeping you from making any impulsive casual sex decisions after the club, that you will later regret! We usually find comfort in the familiar, which is why sometimes we settle for what we already know is there, and the quality of it. And if your going back to an ex, yes, its settling, because the placement you gave them is in your past-but I suppose the fact that it is GOOD sex would be another good reason to back peddle a bit. The most crucial thing about sex with an ex is the emotional factor or in some cases lack there of. Really that seems to be the only problem. Sometimes that ex caused us some kind of emotional harm while giving us sexual pleasure, both being unforgettable, its amazing that we dismiss what takes so much time to fix (broken heart) with something that was never broke (the sex).
So. Even if you are going to take that inevitable ride in the time machine for some nookie, I guess we should think of things that will have us driven by hormones and not jilted hearts. First off, think about your motives for the sex. If you’re sleeping with them to get them back, bad idea, your just bringing more life to the idea that the relationship was and IS all about sex. Make sure this all about the physical, if you even get one goose bump in the presence of you ex, there is still an emotional factor, don’t do it. You don’t want a physical attraction to compromise your better judgment. Personally I find that separating your mental answer from your heart’s answer tends to put you at a more logical stand point, which is what you need addressing something as simple as sex, sex with an ex should be straight forward WAM BAM thank you ma’am/sir and the only thing you think about the next day is what the weather will be.
In the end, why did you break up with this person? Are they even worth the time? And even if you and this ex are on good terms, isn’t it good terms because the relationship aspect is over? Sometimes its just better to leave things where they are, unless of course you can control the right side of your brain. Which, I hate to say it but, most women can not. You will meet new sex soon, anyway.
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