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Dear Xilla… “Help Me My Man Can’t Stay Hard”
Posted in Rated Grown Up, Xilla on on 21. Oct, 2009
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As you know I sat down w/ Melanie Fiona and I asked her to answer one of my reader’s questions, asked her about the I love you, but I’m not in love you idea and we talked about emotional women and when to call me. It’s a great video. First here is what my reader wanted to know.
Dear Xilla,
Have you ever saw someone and knew instantly that there was connection. Like you knew that eventually something was going to happen. Peep this: I saw lil buddy freshman year. He was walking in the student union with his little black backpack, gray sweatpants, white tee and black cap cocked to the side. You know, that regular, college, ‘I just rolled out of bed but I’m going to class’ look. Dude had that aura about him.
Fast Forward to senior year: we connect and start hanging out. We soon find out that we are true sexual intellectuals, but there is a hitch in the giddy up. If the IOC gave out medals for oral interpretations, we would sweep every category. But get this: he cannot stay hard when we trying to fuck. He literally gets 6 pumps and goes soft. I’m like WTF? I take that shit as a insult. Real Talk. It bothers with him too. He gets mad cause he can’t stay up and wants to fuck so badly but the manxilla ain’t cooperating with him. Matter of fact, he suggested I write you for help. LOL.
Now, don’t get me wrong, every time we get it in the sparks are there. He speaks life to the kitty. She gives him a special welcome and vacation package. Its crazy the response he elicits. I just want him to give it to me right or don’t give it to me at all © Melanie Fiona. It isn’t like he can’t do better. I know so. He’s done it before.
Now it seems like we are strictly oral. I mean is that possible? Wheretheydothatat? I usually have to play with him and slob on the manxilla to get it back up, but this gets old real quick. Xilla, do you have any ideas for us? I refuse to get TMJ. Confession: he has a porn habit.
Signed,
Made hard to STAY hard
What Do You Think This Lady Should Do?
He could try changing the condom type that he is using, well if you are using one(I hope). Or you may need to boot him….he could be one of those dudes who rarely use condoms and because he doesn't.. he can not perform well with one on..I'm just saying……
Of course there can be many other factors BUT these 2 stick out me.
He should try extra sensitive ones, trojans have one that comes in purple package that is bigger than the one that comes in the grey package. So if its because of the condom thing that may help out.
You never really connected when you saw him in the 1st place that was your mind over imagination. It would have been a complete connection instead of fractionally. Thats why its better to wait on God to bring you somebody. He know what you have needs for. Stop trying to fix your ownself up. Pray child.
God can send him somebody who don’t need but six pumps. Wait..AND PRAY
You never really connected when you saw him in the 1st place that was your mind over imagination. It would have been a complete connection instead of fractionally. Thats why its better to wait on God to bring you somebody. He know what you have needs for. Stop trying to fix your ownself up. Pray Girlfriend.
God can send him somebody who don't need but six pumps. Wait..AND PRAY
His porn habit IS the problem! My ex used to like that with me when he had a habit.. Your dude needs to get help for his problem first and then he will be good to go..
It may not be his porn habit.
It could be a compatability issue. I'm referring to the phermones between the two, could be causing him to go limp.
I had a similar situation with one particular female. No matter how hard I/she tried, I could not stay up for her. Every other female I was good to go.I did some research and just attributed the problem to the whole phermone thing.
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Tell him to lay off the porn for a month or two and then check him out.
There is a good chance that his porn habbit may play a part in him not stayin hard. I am a 27 year old male who started watching a lot of porn at a young age(14) up until last year…Masterbating too much while watching porn over the years caused me to either, not get hard when it was time for me and my girl to get busy or going limp shortly after gettin into sex. Suggest that maybe its time for him to lay off the porn and if he can't he may need professional help. tell him to go cold turkey on porn and masterbation for a week then holla at him
try cock rings?
To be honest he is probably masturbating to much and in the wrong way. Its called TMS (traumatic masturbation syndrome). what happens is that a man can masturbate a million times a day, but he has to use his hand grip. Some men instead do it layin on their stomach or something. Well what happens is that that puts bad pressure on his penis which cannot be replicated in a vagina. He needs to refrain from sex and masturbation for 7-10 days. then do it correctly for 5 days. U will see a difference.