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What I Hate About Women Who Say… “I Like Him So I’m Not Going To Sleep w/ Him”
Posted in Rated Grown Up on 20. Oct, 2009
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Every now and then I have to stop, and pull myself away from a situation and actually think about how could this possibly make sense to a female. When I do this, my brain pops out of my head, like toast out a toaster, hits the floor and melts into pizza cheese. The other day I watch a video by @LadyW87, and her dude had his peen out, and said why not just do it and she answers “Because I Like You!” WTF! This happens to me very often and it’s the dumbest thing I ever heard in my life.
As a guy it simply doesn’t make sense, if I like a woman I am going to try my hardest to put it on her like a world class peen slinger juiced up on some viagra specially enhanced in the offices of BALCO. Now, if I really like the women I am going to wine and dine her, give her my last and be the best damn man I can possibly be, and maintain that level because I can’t possible get worst, I have a legend to live up to.
Despite my way of thinking women all over the world, will choose not to sleep w/ a guy because they really like him, or think he’s a good person, or think he can be husband material. Peep game, back in high school a friend of mine was pretty much the black Zach Morris of our high school. He was cool, dressed well, drove a nice car, and was the apple of all the women’s eye. Only problem, he was dating a chick from out of town. A girl who he continuously brought to school functions, posted pics in his locker and talked about. The women saw how he treated her and fell in love w/ him even more. Women threw the vagina at him, and he turned it all down because he loved his girl. Fast forward to when they broke up, and things changed he couldn’t get laid to save his life. I mean some chicks had a brain and gave it up to him and they started long agreements of being friends w/ benefits. Most of the other chicks who were known jumpoffs, skeezers and pretty much referred to as an easy lay wouldn’t give it up to him because they didn’t want him to think they were jumpoffs, skeezers and pretty much an easy lay. But, thats the point, a man is going to think you’re easy regardless of if you give it up to him or not. Actually a woman is more likely to be a whore to a guy if she doesn’t give it up to him, rather than if she does.
I wrote about this numerous times already, yet it still hasn’t sunk into the skulls of women. It’s human nature for us to ASSUME that if two people go out then pretty much they’re sleeping together. (Regardless of if it’s the truth or not) I know when I see a guy and a girl together that’s an automatic go into don’t holla at his chick mode. Later if I see this chick alone, and we exchange numbers and kick it, and she doesn’t give me the goods, because oh I like you and I don’t want you to get the wrong idea… than in my mind I’m am going to think oh she gave it up to Charlie, Moe and Larry, but not me… Am I lame? Maybe, but maybe just maybe she’s a whore and she doesn’t want to whore herself to the good guy. This is an extreme, but nine times out of ten the end result won’t end up in a guy being lame. Probably because we are lame, stupid and dumb… But hey that’s life. Women just need to stop being emotional needy.
Why in the hell would we give the pussy too you quick fast and a hurry and you aint done anything to earn it? It's all about respect and men will not respect a woman who doesn't have enough class to keep her pussy exclusive…so your saying we should just fuck you regardless of the relationship were striving for and hope that the man will stick around?
Story goes..Men love under cover whores..Whores who will give up the P*ssy but is not talked about. An exclusive whore who spaces out her partners in different area codes and does not appear to be a whore to friends, family, co-workers etc. The End.
Your comment is the greatest story never told. Men Love the undercover whore.
What in DEE HELL!? In my experiences sometimes this is true for women BUT IN MOST CASES, some chicks do not know that the guy KNOWS that they have been FCUKIN left and right BEFORE they got with them, NOW ALL OF A SUDDEN, you a changed person, and you dont wanna give up the skins cause YOU LIKE ME? C'mon shawty, what are we doing here? Its like this with me and maybe its the wrong way to think, you got 2 months, 3 if i really like you, I not gonna BEG you for the P PACK when you've been giving up to THUGS who dogged you out before!!
Did you read the same thing I wrote? Where do I say give the coochie up quick? Where? I'll wait….
There is no rule on the time frame to give up the goods. None. All I'm saying is that if you like someone you should reward them. I've been w/ women who made me wait months and they turned out to be the wrong one for me and I been w/ women who gave it up on the first day and we stayed together for years. I'm sure someone on here will co sign me… I know a lot of my readers who gave it up on the first night and married their man. No offense babes but you might want to open your mind just a smidget.
one time this guy i was dating told me that it didnt matter if he slept with a girl the first night or two months later she can still be a hoe. That confused me b/c ive heard all my life if u have sex with a guy too soon he will think ur a whore. Until i had what i thought would be my 1st one night stand, we ended up being “friends with benefits” until he started tryin to act like my man, askin me where i had been and who was i with? so i ended things, anyway as a female i agree with this post. maybe it wasnt the sex that u gave up right away that didnt make things works out maybe yall werent meant to be. i always hear my girlfriends say ” i shouldnt have had sex with him” Sex had nothing to do with why he ddnt call u back maybe it was ur nagging clinginess & stank attitude that turned him away.
“Maybe, but maybe just maybe she’s a whore and she doesn’t want to whore herself to the good guy.” LMAO. It be like that sometimes.
I had a thisclose experience 1 time. I mean, I went over to his house knowing what the end was going to be. He did one thing to just throw it off: he was too eager. Dude had this “Yeah I'mma get some pussy” aggression going on, not the “Dayum we bout to have an experience” aggression. Trust: there is a difference. In the end, after playing around I was like “go to sleep, I just came over to get some sleep”. [off topic: how the hell you tell someone else to go to sleep in their own house is funny anyways]
1. Dude was a GOOD dude. Had it been me and someone came to my crib teasing, it would been a whole notha situation. Wouldn't have been no sleeping, you woulda had to get ya ass out!
2. Dude was a GOOD dude. It just wasn't the right time. Sex is mental. If the mental ain't all there, the visual and physical can be on point, but it can turn out to be a pointless waste of time for both parties.
Yup, My brothers wife did that. They've been happily married 24 years. Yeah Xilla, it happens just like you said it! Easy..
The only time I said to a dude, I like you too much to f you. Was when I already decided I wasn't going to sleep with them. Women decide who they're giving it up to within like 5 seconds, so months or 2 day usually doesn't matter.
I have no idea why some women do this, I think it's a B.S. mind game or old fashioned “rules”.
I have a question.. What's up with dude's wanting their woman to initiate sex all the time?? I NEED my man to control our sexual activities and I will follow UNLESS I am in the mood to take the dick.. Just saying..
Ok, I can relate to what she is saying about a n*gga bein “this close” to gettin it and then doin something to f*ck it up…
But really liking someone and randomly withholding, I don't get that, makes no sense.
“Maybe, but maybe just maybe she’s a whore and she doesn’t want to whore herself to the good guy.” LMAO. It be like that sometimes.<– I SOOO needed that laugh!!
@ “Sex is mental. If the mental ain't all there, the visual and physical can be on point, but it can turn out to be a pointless waste of time for both parties.”
This soooo true!
This is some backwards ass shit. Xilla you have wrote about this time and time again and I still don't understand it. Hell I even discussed this with my friends and we all agree…. If we like you then we are gonna turn ya ass out. Personally it's when I don't feel a vibe that I take my time with a dude. And it's not so much time I just experiment with different settings to see if maybe it's the atmosphere that's throwing us off . But other times it's been that I have my main that I go to for booty and the others are for pure entertainment or head.
Just my opinion but if you get a line like “I like you too much to give you some” or “you're too nice” they are scared of being dickmatized
Sometimes a woman thinks that this guy is potential mating material so I'm just gonna pump my brakes and see how things progress, gulp BEFORE I sleep with him. Basically, if you're a woman, you can't be sleeping with every damn body you date cause then you wouldn't be able to count on two hands how many partners you've had over the years. You want to be a minimalist to some degree. Sometimes you realize AFTER the fact that this relationship just isn't going to work. I'd rather be grateful that I got to know him and figured that fact out than after sleeping with him and realizing it. Now, he is part of my eternal string of dudes I've slept with for no reason except I was horny. Things are far less complicated for a man but let's be realistic, no dude wants to marry a woman that half the wedding guests have slept with as well. Be honest. Every dude wants to think that their woman is “different” meaning haven't slept with the entire starting lineup of their college basketball team AND the opponents combined. It's not that a hoe is trying to fake being a hoe but maybe she's just looking for the right mate to let her retire her hoeness. If you've been sleeping with dude's left and right and never taking time to let the relationship evolve then you've got to try something else. The definition of insanity is to repeatedly do something and expecting a different result.
I love the last part. Women need to stop being emotionally needy. See I have this new thing. I won't try and be with a dude if I don't know how the sex is going to be. Like I think it's ass backwards to make a guy your man FIRST then give him the goods. Seriously, How you gon know if you like the goods or not unless you have sex with him. I have lost complete interest in a guy after having wack sex. PERIOD.
I like this post. I mean, I do act more “lady like” when I'm around a guy I like, but I still stay me. I may hold out on doing it longer or I may not..actually I try to get him to stab me as soon as I realize I'm feeling him. Cuz I'm not wasting my time liking someone that can't satisfy me sexually.
Oh..and you know that I dont give 2 shyts what some lamo thinks about me being a slut or not. I won't even give a ninja the time of day if some immature guy even refers to women as sluts or whores or such because of who they MAY have slept with ..thats just too silly for my taste.
but yeah women…stop worrying so much about what he thinks of you if you want to do it. …shit like andre 3000 said, you may just know what you want out of life..you dont bullshyt and play fake ass good girl mind games. Besides, as we all know, if he aint getting it, most likely someone else is..stop faking the funk..IM EXPOSING YOU
*raises hand*…I gave it up the first night on 3 long term relationships, one turned into marriage. (for the record, each relationship was over 3 years)
If a man will respect you he will respect you. I know virgins who dont get respect..its not about Your COOCHIE …men should respect the woman you are. If he can't respect you outside of what you have done sexually…he aint SHYT PERIOD..MOVE ON
Duuuudde, I hate that BS. As I get older I understand it a little more but it's still stupid. You lik eme then you'll LOVE my penis. Simple.
As for the chick in the vid, if dude is that close to the lower lips I wonder how far he is from the upper ones at least? She said she liked him, right? I'm juts saying
I have not always been one to make a man wait for sex…but only once did that have a good outcome (marriage). Since my divorce 3 years ago, its been tough to find a guy who is willing to be in a committed relationship once he gets the goods for free. I've seriously considered withholding from sex until a relationship is established. But I think each situation is different and should be addressed appropriately…sigh…
not if I orgasm
Preach girl preach!!!!
haha..true!
If I like someone then I would take the time to get to know them before I jump in the sack with them and realize that it was a complete waste of time and energy…..lol….
And it's not girls who say that they don't want to have sex b/c they like that person. I've heard guys say that they didn't want to have sex with a female b/c they liked her a lot and wanted to take their time to get to know her before taking it to that level b/c they're not looking for a quick lay, but someone they could build a relationship with and possibly a future and those situations resulted in marriage
or LTR's
So it's not that bad if what your waiting for is of any worth
I never post here but I had to….
GTFOH!! This is all fine and dandy to say if you are a MAN. I respect the opinin though. I'm sure there are various reasons why women choose not to sleep with men they are attracted to the instant they find themselves attracted, like a man would. But you have to look at the motive behind this strategy. I am kinda tired of men dissecting “stupid” things they think women do without even considering why we do them. As women, there are reasons behind everything we do! I guess that's why men never understand us (that's BS too btw).
Most women I know choose not to sleep with a man they really like because they don't want to ruin a good thing, so I'll speak from that point of view – I can relate. We chose not to submit to the flesh until we are emotionally ready to handle the consequences and balance expectations – while their body may be saying yesss pleeeease, they may feel like sh*t the day after. Most women have experienced that. It's not a good feeling. I never used to wait. I used to just wanna know like yesterday what my boo was like intimately. It was fun, and I love a man's body, I love sex, I love the act, and I could care less about standards others set for MY body. But now, I make them wait. And it's my business if I choose to. In this world of whores and hookahs on every corner with no class I'd think men would appreciate that….? The point is this: men don't be so quick to think everything we women do is for YOU. A lot of it is, YES, lol, BUT – We do know how to act without you in mind! I make men wait because it's good for ME. If you think that's stupid and you pressure me you'll end up getting the ignore button indefinitely. :0)
A man's respect for a woman is based on a variety of things, including but not limited to the way she conducts herself sexually…
Ok, I've been commenting on the run today (Yay Netbook!!! Boo to having to read & type while scrolling down and over simultaneously) but color me confused, maybe my reading comprehension skill is off today, I need clarification o_O
Are we taking about liking a guy and not giving it up AT ALL
OR
Liking a guy but “making him wait” ???
When you like someone there is a lot to be said for waiting to get to know that person. There is so much that is worth knowing about a guy or a girl before jumping into bed with them. But as a woman, waiting should have to do with taking that step when you are ready not just holding out on him for some random period of time that you think may be acceptable to society or until he spends enough money or jumps through enough unrealistic hoops to prove himself worthy…maybe it's just a standard expression that is used but I abhor the idea of “making him wait” to me that implies teasing, game playing…he shouldn't be waiting for you, he should be waiting with you…
There is nothing wrong with waiting if that is what is best for you, but there's also nothing wrong with giving it up on the first date if that is what is right for that situation…
The problem arises when either action is taken to extremes…
As for liking him and not giving it up at all ??? as stated before, doesn't make sense to me, kinda falls in the same category as “I love you, but I'm not in love with you” – the only time I could see saying this is with an amendment “I like you, as a friend, so I'm not going to sleep with you”…but you certainly wouldn't have gone on several dates and made him believe it was going somewhere just to hit him with that somewhere down the line…
I think someone said it already but as women, we know almost immediately in most cases if there is an attraction and if a guy can get it…but there are other factors that have to fall into place before the deal is sealed – mentally, emotionally, intellectually, & spiritually (for some).
You all (men) want us to accept your nature and accept that maintenance of your ego requires certain concessions on our part so what's the big deal with accepting that we have emotional needs that need to be met as well?
I must be the virgin Mary, i dont sleep around I been with the same guy for 13 yrs and just recently cheated on his ass. He deserved that shit, does that make me a whore. I still feel inexperienced
I definitely dont want an insecure ass man that will judge me off what I did with my coochie, and on another note..how will he know anyway…yall ladies be wilding. No dude can really KNOW how many partners you had unless you tell them or you recorded it on video..yall like silly as hell w that mess
because its up to u u know we want it so the decision is urs. we cant jus initiate sex cause if u dont want it then its like nigga get the f off me. then do u think u gone pick up a phone call from us….no not at all. so thats y u have to at least give us some kinda hint that u want it too.
and then u wonder y we call women hoes
The thing about NOT having sex with a guy u actually like seems a bit backwards but when u have been played before it makes a lot of sense (at least from the female perspective). Let me explain… somewhere in a females history she gave some guy “the cookies” that she really really really liked and the next day the guy went on a M.I.A. mission. No phone calls, text, e-mail, IM, smoke signals, pages, two-way messages, etc. Thus, reaffirming what every girls brother, father, uncle, cousin, best friend, homie, wino on the corner has ever told her “Guys are after ONE THING and ONE THING ONLY!!!” Now the female associates giving “the cookies” away a dude taking them, enjoying them, and getting M.I.A. and when a female has sex with a guy she really really really really likes she doesn't want him to go M.I.A. So the thought of giving said guy “the cookies” is a bit troubling.
Just as many of you have stated(in so many words), if a man ONLY wants sex from you, he'll stick around as soon as he gets it from you. Point blank. So the waiting game is on you. But if a man has a genuine interest in you, he will stick around regardless of if he gets the goods or not.
However, I don't think you should feel the need to sleep with each and every guy you encounter and talk to. Although I'm in a long term relationship, I still run into guys all the time, and if I was single, I wouldn't see a feasible reason to sleep with them all. It should be your own personal choice, but whether you truly like a dude or not shouldn't be a reason NOT TO have sex. I'd think it'd make you want to even more!