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I Should Have Know She Was A 2 Bit Sl*re
Posted in Rated Grown Up on 20. Aug, 2009
Written by Marvelous Mo for Blogxilla.com
F*ck forgiveness! That bish f*cked my MAN!
Whoa! That was an Angry Black Woman spazz out on my end, my bad! Every now and then, ya girl wakes up in a cold sweat holding an imaginary butcher knife with fresh blood on it thinking I killed the whore who screwed the love of my life (at that point of my life). I’ve since moved on emotionally from this guy and a few relationships later, I still have flash backs of the anger I felt when my closest friend from school did the ultimate taboo: f*cked my boyfriend.
You see, back when I was in school I had no clue what the hell I was getting into with certain things and certain people. The magnitude of a person’s words and actions weren’t apparent and obvious at the time and I sure as hell wasn’t smart enough to suspect anything. I took people for who they SAID they were, not by what they have proven themselves to be. So, my situation was with a friend who SAID she would never betray me and a boyfriend who SAID he never lie to me, and in most cases try to make me look like I was the idiot for noticing his bull shit. I was head over heels for this guy and was deeply in love with him. It was a major thing for me.
To make a long story shot, I had to snoop in peoples email addresses to figure out why my man and my best friend were acting so different around me, walking away when I entered a room, stopped looking me in my eye, and the whole bit. Point blank, it was my fault why these two people ended up fucking each other. Their sexcapade is the product of what happens when you’re 19-20 years old, naive and in a serious relationship with someone. I allowed them to get too close thinking that they both loved me enough to not even think about going there. And even though I exclude my family from my personal life, my own Mom picked up on that odd paring and warned me to keep my man and my friends separated. I rolled my eyes thinking she was being nosey, but damn it if mothers aren’t the smartest people you could ever know sometimes!
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AHHHH Mo! You touched nerve with this one!
I was going through the same thing, but the thing was, I liked the guy that my (EX) best friend went to high school with. (We all didn't go to the same high school) He and I liked each other, but then I found out that she went to hang out with him. Her response after confronting her over the phone, “well you hung out with him 3 times already and I didn't get to hang out with him.” The hell? So when I asked if anything happened, she said no, but knowing the kind of person she is and the tone of voice didn't convince me. It was one of the reasons why I had to cut her off, along with other things. And it's going on 3 years. I have completely shut down emotionally over that ish.
And do you know how she attempted to make me feel better days after that incident? She sent me a yahoo greetings card with a picture of some man with the caption “there are other fish in the sea.” The hell?
I say, don't tell your friend everything about your new man because then they start getting curious and want to sample him themselves.
“I say, don't tell your friend everything about your new man because then they start getting curious and want to sample him themselves.”
my mom told me this as a teen & I swear by it. To date, I've never had such an incident as described here happen to me. Maybe my homegirls know better, or we just don't like the same type of dudes, or maybe mom's advice is just so dead-on.
but if someone close to me DID lose her ever-loving mind and betrayed me like that? I have no qualms grabbing my butcher knife and paying her a visit. And for HIM? Oh, I'd have to call Pookie n dem right quick. No one crosses me… NO ONE!
(let me stop showing my ghetto on these here internets…lol)
if you can't tell your FRIEND about your w/o them stepping to him..THEY WERE NEVER YOUR FRIEND…EVER..they aren't your friend..and will NEVER BE
You SHOULD be able to tell your friends surface details about your relationship…but if you have a so called friend you can't even tell you have a man..then THATS NOT THE BIZNESS..get rid of him/her
hell..dont even keep ASSOCIATES around that would do that?
Been there whipped azz and moved on, but Seriously Moe – It seems like your giving the guy a freebie. Why did ya ex-girlfriend f*ck herself. He was the one you were with on a intimate level. Whats good with that
If your bf has sex w/ your bff it's her fault! Point Blank Period. She shouldn't have came on to him, accepted his advances. Its never the guys fault. We are weak by nature!
@ mspeechhez
I see your point, but a man will do shit like that regardless…that's what men are known for. But I expect some ethics on my friends behalf to be exercised.
its a reason why you don't chose your man over your friends rule: men come and go but friends are [supposed] to be there for a life time.
I'm a need more loyal friends in my life. Friendships are vital.
WOW I really did not know how frequently this happens until it was done to me. Its heart-breaking for sure. I put most of my heart-breaking situation on being young, naive and too trust worthy…feeling like Oh My BFF of 9yrs loves me way too much to cross me like that and oh My Boyfriend of 4years would never want to hurt me…BULLSHIT people can be so selfish and such whores….as you my mama and other friends try to warn me about my then BFF but my blinders were on…sorry for your heart-break mama. I'm sorry that any of us have to be betrayed in such a manner.
You cut the two of them off. The broad should get jacked up, and that dude should get kicked in the shins. There is no way to ever trust a broad who does something like. She gets cut off. I'd say only forgive her in the sense that you just let go of that negative space she has in your mind, and keep it moving like she doesn't exist to you anymore. As far as dude goes, its not even worth that much thought. Yeah men think with 1 head, but that's no excuse for betrayal. Deuces to him too.
Kicked in the shins…I LOVE IT!! LMAO
If you kick me in the shin imma be the Chris Brown of Blogging!! lol
Wow!!!! Had no idea it was such a high percentage of us that went through the same thing with these fake ass bish's! This just happened 2 me last summer so its ironic that I just happened 2 read this. So check this out I had a homegirl who dropped my ex & I off @ the airport 4 hawaii knew how much of a dog this nigga was then started fuckin em when we broke up behind my back. As if he would treat her any better! Tell me y I heard about it & confronted her & she lied & started shit with me & my other so called friends needless 2 say I no longer speak 2 any of them! I have zero tolerance 4 fake bish's and in my opinion loyalty isnt something that can be taught, either u have it or u dont. Anywho, what ive learned is “ppl dont like u but want u 2 like them at the same time”..the many faces of a friend. The cold part about it is u can expect that frm a man but u as a friend and as a woman u should never cross that line. u have 2 remember that sex is always up the woman, he aint getting shit unless u open ur legs!
Mo, Ima take some of these quotes & put em on my twitter. I would @ u, but Idk ur twitter name
Just in case u see it & b like, look @ bish's stealin my stuff
Thanks for the reminder “trust nobody”
I don't catch cases over any man. It's not that serious. If they want to kick it with each other, that's cool. Trust and believe that friendship is over and so is my relationship. Why fight over the dude? and don't give me that it's the principle that counts cause it doesn't. Having some kind of dignity and pride won't allow you to stoop to their level. When you give people something to talk about, you are the ONLY person who looks like an a** and gets laughed at.
Some people aren't worth a second thought or even a broken finger nail.
OOHHHH LORD!!! You got me riled up with this one. Luckily, this has never happened to me. This is why I barely talk to my friends about what's going my relationships. Not that I don't trust necessarily trust them, but I prefer to keep the two separate to avoid unnecessary confusion and he said/she said drama.
CTFU I hate to admit it but you have a point…still doesn't make it excusable on the dude's part either. Friendships with BFF should home more weight though….so sad that we as woman have to ever experience something so hurtful. Recovering from this has been a painful and hurtful journey but I've learned a lot from it. As Alicia Keys's song goes “Lesson Learned”
the funny thing is… guys get over stuff like this & hold on to friendships & women hold grudges 4ever N don't tlak to their BFF. like xilla said…. men are weak by nature… how many u know gone pass up sex w/ a new chick that WANTS it from him. hummm
Thankfully I've never had to deal with this *knock on wood*, but if I ever found myself in this situation both parties would get their walking papers. Both are guilty equally because they crossed the same line together.
I'm lucky to have known my girls for so long; they're like sisters. And most men can tell from watching us interact that his shit would be put on blast with a quickness if he ever tried that mess. Surround yourself with positive women and you won't have to worry about this kind of nonsense.
I agree 100%
People need to be more careful when choosing their friends. I've never been through this nonsense and while it seems like good advice on the surface I reject that whole “don't tell/bring your man around your friends” bullshyt
Who has the time to lead two seperate personal lives?
I hate to generalize and say men can't be trusted but since it's in their “nature” to want to concur random pussy…weeeeelllllll, they can't be trusted
However, If you choose to befriend chicks who stay embroiled in unnecessary drama and/or flirt with and fuck around with their other friends/sisters/cousins/strangers boyfriends, hell if she cheats on her own man, then yeah that chick is quite likely to make a move on yours or fail to resist if he makes a move on her
Check a chick's character before you call her your friend and these situations are easily avoided – this applies to family members too, just cause she's your cousin don't mean the bitch is trustworthy
lol..u stooopid lmao
umm why would you go to jail over two VD infected losers..I say dont do shyt..just walk away…
oh and naw…its the men fault..being all fine with their good sex game and big peen…your girl shouldn't brag about how good his stuff is..otherwise..he wouldnt get stepped to..he shouldn't give the out bomb dickity (TRADEMARKED) …he needs to be wack in bed that way..none of this would happen
Wow, I appreciate your honesty.
I am married. My mother always told me to never bring woman around my husband. Her past experiences have helped her to guard me.
I would just take it as a lesson learned that no, you cannot trust anyone and never bring your friends around your men.
But what if it was someone that you loved, trusted and were thinking about marrying. When all those emotions are put into play, he wasn't just a random dude, he meant something to you. And not to mention the amount of years and growth you and this friend went through. Now add the betrayal. Dignity and pride are great but that pain is also something that you can't ignore. I think it's less about fighting over a guy and fighting to understand how people could be so fucked up. Imagine yourself in that position. And believe or not, it could happen to ANYONE, no matter how great, pretty, or intelligent. Shit happens and it hurts.
You hit the nail on the head Headmisstress, it experience that leads us to recogize the signs in the next situation. I am quite surprised that this has actually happened to a whole lot more of us ladies that I previously thought.
We all need a ride or die chick/friend.
I say life is too short to let hate consume you, I've held a grudge for those, only to see them years later and see that they weren't even worried about me, to quote The Great Buddha: ” Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned”
And as far as mother's and Nana's, that's the truth.
A person will always tell you about themselves through their behavior, it's just up to you whether you choose to notice it.
On a side note: It takes two to tango, I couldn't allow him to slide because they're both just as wrong, but situations like these make you appreciate when you do find a sincere person, whether they're a girlfriend or a mate.
The best revenge is to Live well…
What you said Mistress is the BOTTOMLINE!!!
You must not trust your husband NOR those fake friends you have..
@ “” Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned”
I Love IT! So True!!!
Nevermind the fact that my little handful of friends don't make up a fraction of a fraction of a percent of the women he will come into contact with daily, weekly, monthly etc…
How the hell am I tryna keep ALL women away from him?
There's bitches at his job, bitches at the gym, bitches at the gas station, bitches at the park where he plays ball, bitches at his homeboy's house on fight night, bitches at Walgreens when he goes to buy shaving cream and condoms, bitches on line at Burger King – I mean seriously, that's a lot of damn “keep away” for one chick to handle alone…LMAO
Whew. Girl you are a true scorpio. we love deep and will do anything for you, but the minute you stab us in the back…that stinger comes out and we NEVER forget. We hate people that are unfaithful, thats the ultimate act of betrayal (although it;s ok for us..sometimes)lol. My inner scorpion would love to say get over it, it's not worth holding on to the baggage and anger. But the “true” me…knows you never will…
Men need to stop using that excuse. You can do ANYTHING you set your mind to…including not fukking your girl's bf…
Actually I don't have any friends. My husband is my friend and I associate with people. Trust has nothing to do with it. My mother said that it's not a good thing for women to bring their friends around. And I'm gonna listen to moms!
I don't think anyone should have to worry about the daily contact that their signifigant other has with different sexes. But if you are aware that girlfriends are capable of these things and you don't take head. It's your fault if you don't protect yourself. (not u, just a broad statement)
Every woman should be a little concerned about the daily contact our SO has with the opposite sex – truth is if your SO is untrustworthy it's more likely that he'll have an affair with a random broad than with one of your friends
As far as girls who are “capable of these things” go – they should never make it to the friends list
Everybody should do what works for them, but not all women are scandalous and treacherous, and I want it all – my man and my friends
i hate when women get mad at the WOMAN ..why?? he was YOUR MAN AND HE SHOULD BE THE ONE TO GET THE ASS WHIPPING DREAMS…
Wow!
Let's See…
I learned this very lesson the hard way also! You Never… EVER… EVa Eva Eva EVa EVa Eva Let People Get 2 Close… Keep Everything On A Need 2 Kno Basis… It may be hard cuz us females like to “gush” to our so called friends… but what for? as long as you kno the truth then what does anyone else opinion matter? I like having a sense of mysteriousness about my personal business… it keeps the haters wondering.
P.S
I'd Beat that Hoe's Ass
A Nigga Can Be Replaced …. But I Thought U Were My Friend N I Trusted U… Bitch U Gonna Die!
But it's different if that woman was ur best friend/close friend
If it was any other woman… i'd attack the guy first cuz he knows better… the ignorant female is not to blame…. but if ur my best friend and u kno more than anyone how i feel about someone… then you're sorry excuse for a person and a waste of oxygen
smh. nobody can f*ck your man. If she was able to fuck him, he wasn't committed to you in the first place, making him not YOURS.
i totally understand being upset with the friend…my cousin fucked my man(she doesn't know that i know) and I'm more upset with her because i thought i could atleast trust family because at the end of the day a man is still a man and weak when it comes too women….but trust and believe I'm planning my revenge and they both will feel my wrath!