The Happy Ending: Stop Crying Over Facebook x Twitter
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It seems like more women are crying over their man’s facebook status or comment. In today’s world, a flirtatious twitter message or comment can lead a woman to snap like Sara from Da Band. A new study even suggest that you may be caught in the facebook feedback loop. Don’t worry it’s not new at all, the only difference is now you can see the things your boo says.
“If your boyfriend is calling or texting another girl, you can’t really see it. But on Facebook, you can see it and so can everyone else, so in a way, you do get jealous because he might be hanging his dirty laundry, and not only are you seeing it, but other people are, too.”
Colin Booth of West Virginia University said he is not the jealous type, but finds it a strange, modern phenomenon to watch your girlfriend develop other relationships in real time on Facebook.
“It’s been happening forever. You’re with a girl, she meets a guy, they’re friends at first,” Booth said. “But it’s the way you see it and what you see. And then you think: What’s going on under the surface if this is what’s going on in public?”
It’s this public disrespect that can lead someone into going crazy and spending the night on the bed crying their eyes out. A lot of time for us men, we really don’t care, sometimes it’s just a matter of our pride getting in the way and taking control of our emotions. This can lead us to asking too many questions and calling our women saying stupid stuff to our women like “Whose d*ck you sucking?”
Now certainly for us average normal sexual intellectuals out there we are not going to go to this extreme but we have to take our time before we jump to conclusions. We are in a new world, one our elders can’t give us any advice on. We are learning by ear. So take the time to listen, talk and love one another. Don’t be afraid to answer a few extra questions from the person we are involved with because a quick bit of explaining can save a relationship. All too often we feel like we don’t have to answer to anyone, but we do. At least we do if we really want to find true love.
“It seems like Facebook is creating jealousy even where there was not jealousy to begin with,” said Amy Muise, a doctoral candidate at the University of Guelph’s psychology department who led a recent study on how Facebook can spark jealousy in romantic relationships among college students.
She said Facebook doesn’t necessarily make people more jealous than they would be normally. But all the information divulged on Facebook — those answers to “What’s on your mind?” and reactions to those posts — can increase “triggers” for jealousy.
The study was based on anonymous online survey data from 308 undergraduate Facebook users, three quarters of them women. The study, published in CyberPsychology & Behavior, found Facebook users can get snagged in a “feedback loop”: Their interest piqued by a cryptic wall comment, they become suspicious and start monitoring their partner’s pages, thus finding even more suspicious information.
