Dear Xilla, This One Time At BasketBall Camp
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I Received an email from a young lady who needed a males point of view on her current situation. A guy from her past as reappeared and she’s feeling him, but she just doesn’t know what to do. Check it out and maybe you can give her some advice of your own.
Dear Xilla,
I met up with a guy I went to high school with, I don’t remember him but he remembers me. He played on the basketball team, I don’t understand why I don’t remember him. I was the administrative assistant for all the sports coach’s so I knew all those guys (so I thought) anyway he says he had a crush on me and use to watch me all the time; he remembers how I wore my hair & the jeans I use to wear. Without giving away my age…..that was a lot of years ago. So he started flirting with me on a website created just for my school. Then he followed me over to Facebook and created a page for himself. I finally gave in and we’ve been communication with each other through FB and text messages and some phone calls. We mostly SEXTEXT and it does get steamy at times….it has gotten me READY for him. BUT; we have not gone on a date once. We’ve only seen each other once we both like what we saw. He is just recently divorced 1 year. And I do live with my daughters father….but we’re JUST roommates NO SEX….I haven’t had that in 2 1/2 years. Didn’t tell my friend that bit of info. But I want him….can’t tell if he’s ready; he say he is but…if he was why no date????? Oh and by the way I see ur a Libra…..so is he.
Signed,
That’s Just My Baby Daddy
Dear, That’s Just My Baby Daddy,
I say go for it. What do you have to lose? It sounds like this guy had a big crush on you back in the day and you never noticed him. This can even be a way out of your Baby father’s house. I also don’t think you should hold back either. You have already been sex texting with him, so I’m going to assume he has already seen most parts of your body so go for it. As far as a date, why don’t you make the first move? There are no laws to say he has to be the first one to ask you out. He might be a little scared, he remembers details about you and you don’t remember details about him. So here is what you should do.
- Ask Him Out
- Plan a date where you can converse with him about various topics
- Find out more about him, does he live alone, with his mother, etc,
- Get him to invite you over, even if you have to ask if you can come over.
- After the first date, if you’re still feeling his vibe then make a decision on when you want to give him the goods. I know this sounds weird, but it’s clear to me you want to jump his bones. So do it.
Like I said earlier he could be your way out of your baby father’s home. There is something keeping you there and if the two of you aren’t sleeping together anymore you might as well move out and get your own spot, but I do understand that it’s a recession out there. Best of luck and as always follow your heart.
