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I Just Want To Put Your Ankles On Your Earlobes
Posted in Rated Grown Up, Relationships on 22. Jul, 2009
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I just want to put your ankles on your earlobes. I want to put you in so many different positions that when you fill out the paper work at for next job, you’ll put doggy style, and reverse cow girl w/ a speciality in putting your own ankles near your ears. I want to do things to you that you’ve only imagined, like having sex in a hot air balloon. I just want to have sex, and I don’t see what the big deal is.
Everyone is not meant for everybody. That’s something that my home girl Mona told me a while back. I’m not meant to be with the beautiful video vixen in everyone’s video. I’m not meant to be with the girl who works at the big investment firm, or the beautiful broke college student who spends her day texting me and sending me comforting emails throughout my day. But, does that mean that the sexual attraction we all share should go to waste? I don’t think so. I firmly believe that a sexual relationship can exist and function with out a hitch if we all understand that “I just want to put your ankles on your earlobes.”
Now just because I want to bend her up like a pretzel doesn’t mean that we cannot enjoy the finer things in life. I’m all for going to expensive restaurants, plays, concerts and even trips out of town, but we must understand my only duty is to put her ankles on her earlobes. I vote yes when it comes to making dinner for her. Honey roasted chicken, steak, broccoli and other scrumptious sides, but at the end of the night, her ankles will be on her earlobes. Hell if things are great I’ll help out with a bill, buy her a nice gift for her birthday, December 25th, and even on Valentine’s day. As long as we understand that I’m a jump off, the dude who is breaking her back on a regular basis and nothing more. As long as we protect ourself and understand what we have, I don’t see what the big deal is.
When it comes to putting her ankles next to place she hears from, I need to let y’all know there is always an option to buy. A full pledge relationship can appear out of things like this, but is it unlikely? Maybe because, everyone isn’t for everyone. This ankle to earlobe thing does not have a time limit, it can last a week, a month or even years, but that’s not important. What is important is that we got to spend time with each other and both had a memorable experience enjoying what we had.
I know there are some people out there who will say but you have to respect yourself, or how can I degrade myself to be only a jump off, and not the main course. To those people I say this, you can be steak, but everyone doesn’t like steak more than they like broccoli. Some people can enjoy the wonders of broccoli every day all day and be content with it. If you want to let your sexual attraction go to waste then so be it. I personally think a lot of the complaints or hate comes from people not wanting to order their ’steak’ like they want to order someone else’s broccoli. But hey that’s just me.
Have you ever had a sexual relationship with someone? A relationship where sex is the only reason the two of you even converse? Are you one of those people who have to be in a relationship in order to be intimate with someone?
To me sex is sex. I separate sex from making love. I am a grown woman (28) and if I am attracted to a man, and we are in a position where sex is going to happen then that is what it is.
My virginity has been long gone and I don't feel the need to deprive myself from something if I want it. If I'm going to sleep with a guy early on, chances are I know this is not someone I am going to have a relationship with anyway, so I really couldn't care less what he might think of me for jumping in bed early on. We're both getting what we want and that is that.
yea i know cheating sucks cause it has happened to me countless number of times and i promise myself that i would never hurt anyone like that but it is like i wish i would have never did that with my bestfriend because i want for us to just be able to hang and not do anything and i always just expect that when he comes over but its like if i tell him no he gets upset and will stop talking to me for a couple of weeks and our friendship is important to me but i know i shouldnt worry about it cause my relationship is the most important thing to me
yea i know cheating sucks cause it has happened to me countless number of times and i promise myself that i would never hurt anyone like that but it is like i wish i would have never did that with my bestfriend because i want for us to just be able to hang and not do anything and i always just expect that when he comes over but its like if i tell him no he gets upset and will stop talking to me for a couple of weeks and our friendship is important to me but i know i shouldnt worry about it cause my relationship is the most important thing to me
I would be telling a lie if I said I never had a friend for the sole purpose of getting mine. He was actually an old boyfriend but when I called him or he called me we both knew what it was. If he came over and his dick wasn't hard then he already knew I would be talking shit, lls!!
On occasion we would have drinks and some stuff to choke on but it was never a requirement. Afterwards we hit the showers and go about our day. The crazy thing is is that although we nolonger have sex (3 years later) he now does work around my house…with my husbands approval. Although hubby doesn't know the details he knows that we use to see each other. He is really a cool dude and it all goes back to me respecting his marriage and he respects mine….
I would be telling a lie if I said I never had a friend for the sole purpose of getting mine. He was actually an old boyfriend but when I called him or he called me we both knew what it was. If he came over and his dick wasn't hard then he already knew I would be talking shit, lls!!
On occasion we would have drinks and some stuff to choke on but it was never a requirement. Afterwards we hit the showers and go about our day. The crazy thing is is that although we nolonger have sex (3 years later) he now does work around my house…with my husbands approval. Although hubby doesn't know the details he knows that we use to see each other. He is really a cool dude and it all goes back to me respecting his marriage and he respects mine….
i used to do the whole “waiting for a relationship to have sex thing” but i eventually got tired of waiting around for that to come.
now i have this dude..we started out as friends but eventually became fuck buddies. it sucks because i actually want more out of it and have actual feelings for this sucker ..but i know that's not possible so i'll just settle for the sex.. emotions get in the way!!
i used to do the whole “waiting for a relationship to have sex thing” but i eventually got tired of waiting around for that to come.
now i have this dude..we started out as friends but eventually became fuck buddies. it sucks because i actually want more out of it and have actual feelings for this sucker ..but i know that's not possible so i'll just settle for the sex.. emotions get in the way!!
I'm currently in a 6 months long sex only relationship with this guy I've known for many years. Everything started out great, now we've hit a bump. Recently when he comes to visit, instead of a little company and then getting to our thang–he wants to argue and fight. All these emotions have come out of NOWHERE!!! And I don't understand it, because its not like he's the type to actually settle down! (I've known dude a long time, so I know his track record….he's a dog, so why would I allow myself to get attached…come on!) At this point and time I believe our good thing will soon come to a sad end. I really dont want it to (his sex game is on POINT!). ADVICE PLEASE
I'm currently in a 6 months long sex only relationship with this guy I've known for many years. Everything started out great, now we've hit a bump. Recently when he comes to visit, instead of a little company and then getting to our thang–he wants to argue and fight. All these emotions have come out of NOWHERE!!! And I don't understand it, because its not like he's the type to actually settle down! (I've known dude a long time, so I know his track record….he's a dog, so why would I allow myself to get attached…come on!) At this point and time I believe our good thing will soon come to a sad end. I really dont want it to (his sex game is on POINT!). ADVICE PLEASE
Love and sex aren't synonymous for a lot of people to some people sex is just a form of instant gratification nothing more and maybe less…So I don't know if sleeping with someone else means that she doesn't love her man in regard to the feeling bad that is on your conscience but you are probably feeling bad b/c you aren't being honest with your man but that is just my two pennies
Love and sex aren't synonymous for a lot of people to some people sex is just a form of instant gratification nothing more and maybe less…So I don't know if sleeping with someone else means that she doesn't love her man in regard to the feeling bad that is on your conscience but you are probably feeling bad b/c you aren't being honest with your man but that is just my two pennies
wow lol
well those are very lucky young ladies.
wow lol
well those are very lucky young ladies.
Oh, okay, well when you put it like that then sure! So… *in Joey Tribiani's voice* How YOU doin?
lol
Oh, okay, well when you put it like that then sure! So… *in Joey Tribiani's voice* How YOU doin?
lol
Yes the biggest and I've seen plenty ..I have a penis fetish so men tend to dont mind to show them to me when I ask…however I don't sleep with all of them.. lol. Was it good…not at all…more like painful extremely uncomfortable.Let's just say for me personally, big is not always better…I was sore for 2 weeks after and it wasn't the good kind of break your back sore either. which would probably explain why I wasn't inclined to do it again. He wanted to be the “boyfriend” but I couldn't do it…sex is important and that just didn't live up to the hype. He still tries tho although the time and gets shot down…Im just not interested in riding that ride again…..
Yes the biggest and I've seen plenty ..I have a penis fetish so men tend to dont mind to show them to me when I ask…however I don't sleep with all of them.. lol. Was it good…not at all…more like painful extremely uncomfortable.Let's just say for me personally, big is not always better…I was sore for 2 weeks after and it wasn't the good kind of break your back sore either. which would probably explain why I wasn't inclined to do it again. He wanted to be the “boyfriend” but I couldn't do it…sex is important and that just didn't live up to the hype. He still tries tho although the time and gets shot down…Im just not interested in riding that ride again…..
sound like to me you wanna be with ur best friend more than you wanna be with your boyfriend…just my 2 cents.
you can't follow those rules, that's just human nature. you begin to feel a certain way about that person… but yeah, in a perfect world.
ah! finally got to a PC to post this…lol
this one guy and I have been f-buddies for 4 years now…started right after HS, thru shitty relationships and all. when i left for college i started seeing other people, but always called him when i was home on break. matter of fact, he has a girl right now, but i kinda don't care since i was there first. we just can't let it go, even though neither one of us wants a relationship with the other. i mean, after all this time he knows exactly what gets me off, and vice versa. besides the sex, he talks to me when he is having relationship issues or what not since he knows i'm not feeding him what i think he wants to hear. works well for us.
I used to be just like bestkept512..w/ thinking that I couldn't have sex w/ a guy unless he was my bf! But shit I got older and stop giving a fuck! I'm all about my nut and then I'm ready to roll or he has to go! LOL..it isn't anything wrong w/ having a jump off or being a jump off as long has you have rules!
@ Ms. Dominique Law I am in the exact same situation with you. The chemistry between the young man I am involved with sexually is BANANAS that shit is so intense. I enjoy what we do and how we do it LOL!!!
Hmm, I don't know I have mixed feelings about this. I have this guy that I've know since hs, and we saw each other after many years about 2 yrs ago, he called me, we met up and it was on and poppin. We've hooked up a few times, but I really don't like how I feel after. I think because of the fact that it is really a sex only thing that bothers me. I like to go out, have drinks, movies, or whatever but that's not the case. Needless to say, he's been calling and I haven't been answering lol. I don't want to say I have to be in a relationship to have sex because sex it really important to me, so if the sex is bad the relationship will probably be worse. I have stayed with a few exes because the sex was good, but they irrated the hell out of me, so I really don't know at this point. I'm getting older and I just want a man who can sexually satisfy me, and I him and we enjoy each others company at this point. I can't seem to find that, it's always good company, bad or aight sex, or bad company and great sex, oooor bad company, worse sex. Also, I just have to say men need to really step their games up. I don't know what the hell is goin on, but these men are so damn wack in bed. I think the fact that sex had kind of become, let's say, “easy” to come by men don't really put any effort into it. I am really sexually frustrated because I'm sure you can tell is been a few months, but I feel like I'm just gonna be disappointed when I do get some anyway so what's the point.
Ok, I'm done with my rant, lmao. I really need to get laid…
If you get into that kind of relationship each party has to be very clear about their intentions. Too often one party or the other catches feelings which would force the two of you to reexamine the relationship. When it gets to that point one or the other may not want to step up to the plate so to speak. Which means somebody gets hurt. So rules have to be established and occasionally enforced.
Lust and Love are so easily confused. I had a relationship based on sex for 6 years, well that is according to me. He says it's love, but that just because the chemistry between us be so raw. Some call it “making love” I call it “passionate sex”. That's why you should never share one of them slow, look into the eyes , while I bust type kisses, unless your ready to take it from “just sex” to full blown relationship.
i had one before. although it was fun for a while, i just came to the conclusion that i'm better in an actual relationship.
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I've been wanting a purely sexual relationship with someone for the longest. Just like you specified in your post, I want all the “benefits' of a relationship, but I really just want to be f**ked all day everyday. Real Talk.
My only problem is that, how do I approach a guy. What am I supposed to say? “Hi, I'm my name is Monay, & I am looking for a jumpoff? Let's be real lol