Comments on: I Slept With Your Sister In Our House http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2009/06/02/really-awesome-reasons-to-tell-your-boo-youve-cheated/ The Premiere Urban Relationship Blog Online Sat, 21 Nov 2009 04:32:13 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.1 hourly 1 By: chloeamara http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2009/06/02/really-awesome-reasons-to-tell-your-boo-youve-cheated/comment-page-1/#comment-20024 chloeamara Tue, 01 Sep 2009 03:42:30 +0000 http://blogxilla.com/blog3/?p=6486#comment-20024 So saturday night I'm "slightly" intoxicated(lol) in the car on the way home from a night of clubbing and as I went to update my twitter I saw this link and it piqued my interest... so I clicked on it. As I read it, I grew more and more upset, probably because I was tipsy and was tapping into all those not so burried past experiences. I wasn't upset so much at what you wrote because you're not condoning unfaithful behavior, I was more upset with how many people responded saying that they had cheated. I immediately tried to comment then, but luckily I couldn't figure out how to comment from my Bberry because my response would of been more of tipsy ramblings than anything else. Take it from someone who has been cheated on It might possibly be the worst feeling ! It's like having your whole world turned upside down while you're being turned inside out.... My take on cheating is this.......<br>I strongly feel that I am more than enough for any guy on an intellectual level as well as sexually, Therefore there will never be a good enough excuse someone can give me for why they cheated to allow me to overlook it. However honesty is key it may not always reverse the effects or save the relationship but I have WAY more respect for the man who cheated on me and is willing to accept responsiblity for his actions than the guy who can look me in the eyes everyday knowing what he's really doing on the DL. I spent 3 years in a less than perfect relationship, but like many females I liked to think that I could be the one to change him and though he did reform his ways in MANY he inevitably backslided. We can't make someone something they're not just like we can't expect much from those who don't have the depth to give it. I also feel that it shouldn't take seeing the immense hurt you've caused someone, (though that can sometimes be an awakening), to know what you're doing is going to crush you're bf/gf/wife/husband. I mean we look at fire and know not to touch it because it's hot. Why can't we than appply that same method of thinking to not cheating? When I'm with a you and you've got me sprung than I am completely blind to the guy who tries to spit game at me when you're not around. We are all sexual beings who are looking for a counterpart to share intimacy with...but once we've found it why is it not enough ? Here's the thing I completely empathize with the husband whose wife is ALWAYS "too tired" or the girlfriend who got fed up with her boyfriends neglectful tendencies...but don't stray just know when to call it quits. Basically If I have a man and I'm even thinking about being with another person that means you're not keeping me satisfied on any level emotionally or physically...that doesn't make me want to cheat, It makes me realize that our relationship has reached the end of it's run....and all there'll be left to say it "PEACE OUT" So saturday night I'm “slightly” intoxicated(lol) in the car on the way home from a night of clubbing and as I went to update my twitter I saw this link and it piqued my interest… so I clicked on it. As I read it, I grew more and more upset, probably because I was tipsy and was tapping into all those not so burried past experiences. I wasn't upset so much at what you wrote because you're not condoning unfaithful behavior, I was more upset with how many people responded saying that they had cheated. I immediately tried to comment then, but luckily I couldn't figure out how to comment from my Bberry because my response would of been more of tipsy ramblings than anything else. Take it from someone who has been cheated on It might possibly be the worst feeling ! It's like having your whole world turned upside down while you're being turned inside out…. My take on cheating is this…….
I strongly feel that I am more than enough for any guy on an intellectual level as well as sexually, Therefore there will never be a good enough excuse someone can give me for why they cheated to allow me to overlook it. However honesty is key it may not always reverse the effects or save the relationship but I have WAY more respect for the man who cheated on me and is willing to accept responsiblity for his actions than the guy who can look me in the eyes everyday knowing what he's really doing on the DL. I spent 3 years in a less than perfect relationship, but like many females I liked to think that I could be the one to change him and though he did reform his ways in MANY he inevitably backslided. We can't make someone something they're not just like we can't expect much from those who don't have the depth to give it. I also feel that it shouldn't take seeing the immense hurt you've caused someone, (though that can sometimes be an awakening), to know what you're doing is going to crush you're bf/gf/wife/husband. I mean we look at fire and know not to touch it because it's hot. Why can't we than appply that same method of thinking to not cheating? When I'm with a you and you've got me sprung than I am completely blind to the guy who tries to spit game at me when you're not around. We are all sexual beings who are looking for a counterpart to share intimacy with…but once we've found it why is it not enough ? Here's the thing I completely empathize with the husband whose wife is ALWAYS “too tired” or the girlfriend who got fed up with her boyfriends neglectful tendencies…but don't stray just know when to call it quits. Basically If I have a man and I'm even thinking about being with another person that means you're not keeping me satisfied on any level emotionally or physically…that doesn't make me want to cheat, It makes me realize that our relationship has reached the end of it's run….and all there'll be left to say it “PEACE OUT”

]]> By: amandaling http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2009/06/02/really-awesome-reasons-to-tell-your-boo-youve-cheated/comment-page-1/#comment-17263 amandaling Mon, 22 Jun 2009 23:02:10 +0000 http://blogxilla.com/blog3/?p=6486#comment-17263 I told my current boyfriend that another guy and I kissed I'm glad I told b/c all the past relationships where the guy cheated on me I wish they would have told me instead of his lies catching up on him or just leave me in the wondering. I told my current boyfriend that another guy and I kissed I'm glad I told b/c all the past relationships where the guy cheated on me I wish they would have told me instead of his lies catching up on him or just leave me in the wondering.

]]> By: OohKeeKee http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2009/06/02/really-awesome-reasons-to-tell-your-boo-youve-cheated/comment-page-1/#comment-16497 OohKeeKee Fri, 05 Jun 2009 09:16:22 +0000 http://blogxilla.com/blog3/?p=6486#comment-16497 'YOU CANT HANDLE THE TRUTH' - SOMEONE SAID THAT... I CAN'T REMEMBER...<br><br><br>BUT ANYWAYS, IT ALL DEPENDS ON WHAT KINDA RELATIONSHIP YOU HAVE WITH YOUR PARTNER... I PERSONALLY WOULDN'T TELL "IF" I CHEATED CUZ IM GOOD AT IT N I'D NEVER GET CAUGHT N BY THE TIME I DID IT WOULDN'T MATTER B/C IM THAT GOOD BUT THATS THE OLD ME... IM WITH A GUY NOW AND HIS LOVE MAKES ME WANNA FULLY COMMIT ... BUT UH YEA 4 EVERYONE ELSE JUST DONT CHEAT SO YOU DONT HAVE TO SNEAK OR HAVE A 3 SOME WITH YOUR LOVER SO U CAN CHEAT RELATIONSHIP LEGALLY... LOL 'YOU CANT HANDLE THE TRUTH' – SOMEONE SAID THAT… I CAN'T REMEMBER…

BUT ANYWAYS, IT ALL DEPENDS ON WHAT KINDA RELATIONSHIP YOU HAVE WITH YOUR PARTNER… I PERSONALLY WOULDN'T TELL “IF” I CHEATED CUZ IM GOOD AT IT N I'D NEVER GET CAUGHT N BY THE TIME I DID IT WOULDN'T MATTER B/C IM THAT GOOD BUT THATS THE OLD ME… IM WITH A GUY NOW AND HIS LOVE MAKES ME WANNA FULLY COMMIT … BUT UH YEA 4 EVERYONE ELSE JUST DONT CHEAT SO YOU DONT HAVE TO SNEAK OR HAVE A 3 SOME WITH YOUR LOVER SO U CAN CHEAT RELATIONSHIP LEGALLY… LOL

]]> By: onebaddboo http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2009/06/02/really-awesome-reasons-to-tell-your-boo-youve-cheated/comment-page-1/#comment-16371 onebaddboo Wed, 03 Jun 2009 20:41:55 +0000 http://blogxilla.com/blog3/?p=6486#comment-16371 Remember that song "I dont know know if your playing me, keep it on the low..." I forget who sings that at the moment but thats essentially what my bf told me. Kinda crazy.<br><br>Cheating requires too much...lying, sneaking around, covering up your tracks, etc... I don't have time for all that... <br><br>If you have to cheat, then that should be a clue to you that maybe (for whatever various reasons) you dont need to be committed to that person (yet, or ever). Remember that song “I dont know know if your playing me, keep it on the low…” I forget who sings that at the moment but thats essentially what my bf told me. Kinda crazy.

Cheating requires too much…lying, sneaking around, covering up your tracks, etc… I don't have time for all that…

If you have to cheat, then that should be a clue to you that maybe (for whatever various reasons) you dont need to be committed to that person (yet, or ever).

]]> By: OrangeStar616@gmail.com http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2009/06/02/really-awesome-reasons-to-tell-your-boo-youve-cheated/comment-page-1/#comment-16351 OrangeStar616@gmail.com Wed, 03 Jun 2009 18:29:44 +0000 http://blogxilla.com/blog3/?p=6486#comment-16351 No Xilla thats NOT the norm for me anyway in relationship or not..thats reserved for folk I am dealing with only, as far as the sexual flirting goes...but then I am a whole diff breed darling, I don't even put ideas like that in random mofos heads.....could be the type of women with whom you associate.<br>and possibly yes trust issues as a result..........the masses are trife 4 sho No Xilla thats NOT the norm for me anyway in relationship or not..thats reserved for folk I am dealing with only, as far as the sexual flirting goes…but then I am a whole diff breed darling, I don't even put ideas like that in random mofos heads…..could be the type of women with whom you associate.
and possibly yes trust issues as a result……….the masses are trife 4 sho

]]> By: supercars http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2009/06/02/really-awesome-reasons-to-tell-your-boo-youve-cheated/comment-page-1/#comment-16342 supercars Wed, 03 Jun 2009 14:45:20 +0000 http://blogxilla.com/blog3/?p=6486#comment-16342 well either way of leaking the truth, both of it will end up the same it all depends on how much your boo loves you is it enough to forgive or not. well either way of leaking the truth, both of it will end up the same it all depends on how much your boo loves you is it enough to forgive or not.

]]> By: EbonyLolita http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2009/06/02/really-awesome-reasons-to-tell-your-boo-youve-cheated/comment-page-1/#comment-16335 EbonyLolita Wed, 03 Jun 2009 08:44:30 +0000 http://blogxilla.com/blog3/?p=6486#comment-16335 I'd rather cry at the truth then laugh at a lie. I've never cheated on anybody, don't have time to play those types of games. Unfortunately I was cheated on. I found out in a very public forum *Cue the dramatic musice Dahhhhhhhh!* What hurt most is that mutual friends were aware of it and kept it from me b/c <br>"We didn't want you to get hurt" I ended up leaving him and honestly leaving these "so called friends" too. Cheating will hurt no matter who ends up telling, but I think it should come from the cheater and not off the street or from friends. I'd rather cry at the truth then laugh at a lie. I've never cheated on anybody, don't have time to play those types of games. Unfortunately I was cheated on. I found out in a very public forum *Cue the dramatic musice Dahhhhhhhh!* What hurt most is that mutual friends were aware of it and kept it from me b/c
“We didn't want you to get hurt” I ended up leaving him and honestly leaving these “so called friends” too. Cheating will hurt no matter who ends up telling, but I think it should come from the cheater and not off the street or from friends.

]]> By: get like me http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2009/06/02/really-awesome-reasons-to-tell-your-boo-youve-cheated/comment-page-1/#comment-16332 get like me Wed, 03 Jun 2009 08:21:31 +0000 http://blogxilla.com/blog3/?p=6486#comment-16332 i once told this guy that i was going with that i cheated, he still stayed with me..but it was me that ended the relationship months later, in fact i truly think i cheated on him as a way of him breaking up with me...anyhoo, im mos def not ready 2 be in a committed relationship...dude really tried 2 tell me that i couldnt go 2 the club, knee grow must be crazy..and this was b4 i cheated..anyhoo r relationship was doomed 4rm the start. just not 4 me...but i think honesty is the best policy i once told this guy that i was going with that i cheated, he still stayed with me..but it was me that ended the relationship months later, in fact i truly think i cheated on him as a way of him breaking up with me…anyhoo, im mos def not ready 2 be in a committed relationship…dude really tried 2 tell me that i couldnt go 2 the club, knee grow must be crazy..and this was b4 i cheated..anyhoo r relationship was doomed 4rm the start. just not 4 me…but i think honesty is the best policy

]]> By: DopeAlicious http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2009/06/02/really-awesome-reasons-to-tell-your-boo-youve-cheated/comment-page-1/#comment-16329 DopeAlicious Wed, 03 Jun 2009 06:55:17 +0000 http://blogxilla.com/blog3/?p=6486#comment-16329 lol i'm not fuckin witchu!! lol i'm not fuckin witchu!!

]]> By: BlogXilla http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2009/06/02/really-awesome-reasons-to-tell-your-boo-youve-cheated/comment-page-1/#comment-16327 BlogXilla Wed, 03 Jun 2009 06:31:47 +0000 http://blogxilla.com/blog3/?p=6486#comment-16327 you probably have a guilty conscious because you date thugs and you know they'll go upside your head! lol just kidding. you probably have a guilty conscious because you date thugs and you know they'll go upside your head! lol just kidding.

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