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The Trails x Tribulations Of This Indian Hair
Posted in Life, Relationships on 28. May, 2009
Written By Marvelous Mo For BlogXilla.com
Last week I wanted to switch it up and talk about head boppin/crotch diving/ shaft licking… you know, giving head. Nothing repulsive or anything. Unfortunately, most birds in the comment section focused on two words out of the entire blog post: INDIAN HAIR. I tried and tried to steer back on the topic of head wondering why these commenters focused solely on my self description, but nothing worked. So once again I will describe myself to you…. I’m 5’ 8” 132-135 lbs, brown skinned with INDIAN HAIR.
Wonder why I chose “Indian”? It’s because my grandparents who aren’t from Puerto Rico are from India. The fucktards in the comment section demanded that I try to rock my hair in its natural state, like letting it air dry or something. Now why in the HELL would I do that? That’s what salons are there for: wash and roller set with the occasional hair coloring. I started to take this issue a little TOO personal, but then I realized that I don’t have the problem, YOU DO.
Most of my life I’ve been told I’m “too dark” by kneegrow women who realized my skin was beautiful, even and clear. I’ve been told I “wear weaves” or “that shit ain‘t her hair” by kneegrow women who WISHED they had hair like mine and who felt it was thoroughly impossible to be my complexion and have nice hair like that. I’ve been told that my overbite sticks out when I laugh. Now that may be true, but your man loves my laugh and also finds me quite funny. You mad? Ladies, put down the knives and guns. Is it THAT serious to put down a chick if she is prettier than you or have features you WISH you had? Do you know why most of my friends coming up weren’t black? Because of this stupid shit right here; I befriended first generation chicks from Dominican Republic, Puerto Rico, Spain, Virgin Islands…the heritages I felt I most related to. I never had to hear anything negative from them or their families.
You know what I do when I see a pretty female who’s rocking a fly pair of shoes, a fly outfit or perhaps nice hair? I tap her on the shoulder and let her know what I think. “Hey, I noticed your shoes and I think they are dope. Great taste!” and then I walk away. Women with confidence and security in themselves are able to do that without an underline motive. I bet most of you on the keyboard right now couldn’t do that at all.
Ladies, talk to me. What do YOU do when you notice another female rocking fly accessories or have a nice hair do? What’s up with you? What’s up with kneegrow chicks, too? Why the hate? Why is there a lack of camaraderie with young ethnic women? Why are most of you so confident on the keyboard? I bet some of you were sending “A/S/L” IMs in AOL chatrooms and sending twat pics to men because you’re wack in person.
And yeah, I called some of you “kneegrows” just now. Part two of this blog post next week will touch on complexion issues.
You’re pretty lucky for never having heard or experienced this behavior. I wish I could say the same.
If it’s all the same to you I may still bring it up on occasion 'cause it’s funny to me too and we can all use a good laugh
It's just so crazy (kind of refreshing, sorry) for me to hear that i was not the only that had problems/insecurities growing up…now i have regular black people hair my parents are black and i'm pure chocolate but i can't lie and say i wasn't a bit insecure for a while because it did seem like the dudes would for the light skin chick or the chicks that were exotic with the “indian” hair but to hear/read that everyone had their own issues makes me feel kinda not so alone about it anymore…i think some people let those insecurities though permeate and manifest into their adult lives and then become overly touchy/sensitve when hearing about other women that have a feature that was seen as “superior” in comparison to their “inferior” feature (i.e. hair, skin tone, speech patterns, etc.)
I don't understand why people are so upset about her using the word “Indian” when describing her hair. It is no different from when other people use the word “good” hair, except her description is ethnically correct.
While attending one of the last meetings in Philadelphia for the Native American Cultural Society before they lost funding and had to shut down, they told everyone in attendance this:- Skin color has nothing to do with your ethnicity.
I have more things in my blood stream than what people would consider a mutt for dogs, but the majority of my blood line comes from Cheyenne and Cherokee..people get mad that I don't solely claim being black when the closest relative I had that was the “blackest” was my great great grandma and she had blue eyes.(yes I saw it in person).
We all need to accept that none of us has ever met any “pure” blacks in our lifetime….unless you meet someone from African and they consider themselves “Africans” and not “black”.
I guess after years of fighting for equality, black people still allow the “one drop rule” to dictate how they think…(not all, just the ones that have a problem with people acknowledging their roots).
Number one, many people get “Indian” confused with “Native American”. And I bet you a lot of those people don't realize that your ancestry is truly part “INDIAN”. Black people need to get PAST this self-hatred of ourselves. WE come in different shades, different hair textures, different body shapes, we are a diverse group of people! That is the beauty of us, is the lack of homogeneity. I am extremely dark-skinned and many people assume I am from Africa including many Africans I have encountered. Or most people assume I MUST be mixed with something because although I am dark-skinned, my features are not stereotypical. I have a thin nose and thin lips. My hair is jet-black and curly-soft not curly-coarse (if that makes any sense). I know I look different, I always have but I embrace my African part of myself because its part of who I am. Yes, my father's grandmother who raised him was Tsa-la-gi but I'm not going to go around talking about how my great-great whatchamacallit is Native American. Whatever. And all these women on here sounding like ignorant buffoons need to grow up. I am not pretty to be dark-skinned. I'm just damn pretty and being dark-skinned brings it out more.
Its a problem because you couldnt say you have nice hair, long hair, two-toned hair. You picked a distription that makes you something other than Black. What do you say when you talk about your eyes,-chinky, asian. What about your lips,- black, nigga, dsl. Start the paragraph with a background of your heritage. Most of us have something mixed up in us but to be excepted we add some other culture. Im not saying dont be proud of your other ethnic traits but most people go with what you look like. You look like you go too the Korean store for hair products like the rest of the women. Dont take offense, it just hurts when a person doesnt think being Black is not enough.
Woooww…. Xilla I been on your site and have enjoyed it… But this shit right here make me not wish to explore anymore of Miss Honay's rants about the “hate” that she has received..
I really hate to get into what I really feel because obviously her mind is not open to what those are saying…. Long hair, who cares??? Really was it that serious for her to post this? Shorty girl, it's obvious that those that hate on you are a problem but I'm assuming you've had this INDIAN hair all your life, so you should be quite used to it and not feel the need to post ridiculus blogs on the internet. Deep down inside you're a chocolate girl that has some issues… and hair is not it…
thank you for this post. i too have “good hur” and wish i had yo body to match bo! ha!. i'm 5'7.5″ 170lbs[flat stomach big boobs and butt] and i can relate! would u believe people thought my mom put weave in my hair when i was younger so i wouldn't be jealous of my younger, LIGHTER sister?[who by the way has nappier hair than mines and is proud of it!] i recently went from past my shoulders to a shaggy frohawk and my mother bout lost it”u know dark girls WISH they had hair like urs and u just choppin it away. whas WRONG wit u!” i just laugh and keep it movin!
my hair and confidence have definitely deterred black women[and some men] from befriending me. when i found this new “thick” shape combined with my hair niggas thought i was stuck up/would play them. and black bitches SWORE i was checkin for their man! smdh whatta mess! it took me a while to get where i am and i'm dayum proud! and my body is RIGHT for once, my hair is fun, and muthafugg a HATA!
i am easy with the compliments, because i love me. if u rockin that bag i can't get or ur shoes got me haute in the toes i'ma SAY DAT! word! i love to let somebody know they're ON and when i get a compliment, sometimes its the highlight of my day especially when times are so tough. it disgusts me how sistas can never just SHINE on anotha sister instead they'd rather shit on her. GROSS! no other race i kick it with is like that towards me!
I didn't read the comments, but as a young black man with green eyes, good hair, and the face of a greek god (some girl told me this and I was lol'ing for a min)… I'd knock you up and make gerber babies with you.
In the West Indies (Jamaica) they call it coolie hair. And yes, coolie hair is INDIAN HAIR. That's just what it is. Not sure what a better description would be because you can be part indian and not have indian hair. Like you can be mixed race (black and white) but still have dark skin and afro type hair, or you can be light skin and have caucasian type hair.
Ryan J simply isn't an expert on hair.
why are you so closed minded and ignorant,. just because YOU simplass ain' never seen or heard some of these things, you think its unbelievable!?!? lmao! i missed ur retardation[wiggle woky arm in salute] MUAH! hata!
LMAOOL!!!!
You seem like a bright girl otherwise Thoney so one would have to conclude that these intermittent boughts of your inability to properly comprehend what you're reading is somehow triggered by your all-consuming thirst to confront The HeadMistress?
Go back…
Start at the beginning of this comment thread…
(a hint: FanceeFoxx {w/out the pic} 5/30/09 05:41PM)
Take your time and read slowly….
And just for shits and giggles let us know what you come up with
WELL I TOTALY AGREE WITH THIS! IM EXTREMELY DRK WITH CURLY HAIR AND WAS TEASED ALL MY LIFE ABOUT LOOKING DIFFERENT ! I'VE BEEN TOLD ” YOU'RE PRETTY TO BE SOO BLACK” AND RANDOM PEOPLE WHITE OR BLK ASKING, “WHAT ARE U?” AND MY ANSWER WOULD ALWAYS BE, “HUMAN” AND I WALK AWAY.. AND GIRLS ASKING ME IF I HAD A JERI CURL OR WHAT COLOR WEAVE WAS I WEARING! WTF!! YES I FELT AND ALWAYS HAVE FELT THEY WAY U HAVE. THIS IS WHY IM SOO F*ING BLUNT! AND DONT HAVE MANY FEMALE FRIENDS…..
I am so jealous that you've never experienced titty sweat… it's the bane of my existence every damn summer *sigh*
lol
tru….cuz, u r soo intelligent
I agree with you completely. I've always been a complimentary female. I enjoy seeing people look nice, so if a chick has on some pretty shoes or her hairdo is nice, I've got compliments coming(even if the hair is store bought). My bff say im too damn friendly but i live by the premise that a few nice words could save someone's life.
I completely understand where Mo's love for her hair comes from…its long, manageable, and pretty. Why not take pride it what you feel is an outstanding quality? I will never know straight, manageable hair–shit, perms don't even work but unlike %95 of these insecure females…that doesn't cause me to feel certain type of way about someone who does. I have been reading these comment and the shit is ridiculous…..
…I'm a thick chick and i have experience hate for no reason for the majority of my life for reasons beyond my understand. The comment usually begins..”that bitch thinks shes……” What i don't get is why every female doesnt “think she is_________” (you can fill in the blanket.) My grandma told me that a woman should always exude confidence even at her lowest moment. To hate on the next chick only shows chinks in your armor.
Awww thanx cuz *humbled* where you been hidin? we miss you
I agree wholeheartedly, especially with “The comment usually begins..”that bitch thinks shes……” What i don't get is why every female doesnt “think she is_________” “
EXACTLY!!!!
Damn that's even better than my standard response of “No bitch, you think I'm ____”
Waiting for a good topic. Where the hell iz NESS?????