Comments on: Dear Xilla: Running Red Lights

By: Jaded

Jaded — Thu, 14 May 2009 03:49:24 +0000

I NEVER comment on your blog. Although I am a reader. Please suggest that your reader try some of the following items: the Instead cup. It basically holds the blood in a cup until removal. http://www.softcup.com/ I'm surprised her DR hasn't recommended this as this is a serious barrier to a healthy part of a relationship.

http://www.softcup.com/

Hope this helps and there are other products on the market...I just dont feel like googling (ps. they sell the instead cups at CVS)

By: yes

yes — Wed, 13 May 2009 13:05:53 +0000

wake up girl!!!!!! he doesnt have the heart to give it to you real, he is not tryin to be with you but he doesnt want to break your heart and make your situation worse than what it already is and apparently that bomb head is worth keeping u around, but um if u been talkin him for two years and he dont want to put a title on it, it AINT HAPNIN!! just move on

By: maymajesty

maymajesty — Wed, 13 May 2009 12:47:09 +0000

This is a horrible situation. I think for you to even question it, is to pretty much answer what you should do. First off, you need to have a heart to heart with him to get an underlying reason as to why he's “staying” with you but doesn't want to put a title on what y'all have. Either way, if you're not happy in the situation, then you should leave it. It does appear that you're doing all of the giving and none of the receiving, but we don't know the whole story so…

By: maymajesty

maymajesty — Wed, 13 May 2009 12:34:26 +0000

Took the words right outta my mouth

By: SW1

SW1 — Wed, 13 May 2009 03:33:58 +0000

I totally co-sign to the above.

By: Ness

Ness — Wed, 13 May 2009 02:52:34 +0000

Cuz…..ur situation and her situation are TWO different sitations

I told u to stick it out if you weighed the pros and cons and if it's not worth it then do what u gotta do

Homegirl situation is a totally different animal

By: JMK

JMK — Wed, 13 May 2009 02:13:32 +0000

As a guy I can tell you for sure if a guy ever tells you that two things he loved about you were sex and head, then you are just a jump off. In all honesty, even if the sex is great, and the head is the best, any guy thjat “loves” a women wouldn't give those two reasons for loving them. They would say something else…. loving 2 sex acts though means that is all he wants.

On the real, I have been there and done this… still go back to her for head sometimes just cause its that good… never could I committ to her, but when she used to say she loved me and wanted to spend forever with her etc, I just said it back to keep the sex/head comming.

My advice to her would be move on… find someone who loves you for you, not just loves the sexual benefits of the relationship.

By: black_barbi510

black_barbi510 — Wed, 13 May 2009 00:50:18 +0000

Good advice…but she does have to make that decision on what she really wants.

By: streetz

streetz — Wed, 13 May 2009 00:34:46 +0000

Good answer fam. Real too. Couldnt agree more

By: babydoll

babydoll — Wed, 13 May 2009 00:25:13 +0000

Yea she is just caught up, because she is vulnerable right now. And yea guys do us dirty, but it is because we allow them to. This girl don't need to stay around for that mistreatment, but she will and he will continue to do the least, because she is showing him that his behaviour is acceptable.

I hope she re-reads everything she wrote and answers her own damn question.