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Okay… I know there are plenty of women out there that constantly seek out and are drawn to "the bad guy", so I won’t argue there. However, I don't think Chris is one of them "ain't shit" dudes you’re describing. It’s 2 different issues at play here..

Yes, Chris made a huge mistake with the Rihanna situation, and while some fans try to downplay it, for the most part we acknowledge it. But Chris is a cute, young, loveable personality. That’s what he was before, and that’s what he is now. I don’t believe that female fans getting excited over him has anything to do with him being a “bad boy” necessarily… because if you think about it, nothing else about him has really changed. It’s not like he’s gone on some public binge of destruction or anything. From what we’ve seen in pics/read on gossip sites, he’s the same young man from VA…just with a police record. I think as far as many female fans are concerned, the Rihanna confrontation was something COMPLETELY out of character, so after the initial shock and outrage died down, a lot of fans went back to just loving Chris.

I mean, he’s still cute/loveable/famous. All these girls want is a pic and a hug.

Good point!

Im not even gonna lie, i would hop on Chris breezy in a min... I really dont think he is a bad guy , he just made a mistake. I dont believe he should be outcasted or shunned...do people want the man to be lonely? I mean jesus... I think he deserves another chance.. and he could have one as long as he learned his lesson and never thinks of putting his hands on another female again..and he should find a female who wouldnt put her hands on him..period..
On the flip side...i would never let a guy treat me like crap, because my daddy didnt treat me like crap..and the minute he does would be the last time he see's me..

I agree with shorty girl. Chris made a huge mistake in putting his hands on Rihanna, but is everyone gonna beat dude down like this??? He should never have done it, he was wrong and like Janee says as long as he realizes that and never EVER puts his hands on a female again, then give him a break. People act like this dude been runnin' around smashin chicks in the face. In no way does this justify anything, but why is it that when the stories of Rihanna having an outrageous temper, putting her hands on him, wildin out, does that not matter???
However, about the post, damn near every guy will say "I just can't do that to a woman"; "I was raised right".... But come on now, how many dudes are going to admit that they shit on chicks and don't give a fuck. Some women may have a constant run-in with dudes that ain't shit but hell at some point them niggas was the business and was doin' the most to get her. Once dudes get comfortable they act up. And women generally stay in that type relationship because they feel that they can get that ol' dude back...

"at some point them niggas was the business and was doin' the most to get her. Once dudes get comfortable they act up. And women generally stay in that type relationship because they feel that they can get that ol' dude back..."


THAT is what people don't realize. A lot of times we are invested emotionally, the guy starts acting up, but we do hope that things will improve and that he'll return to the guy he once was. It can be hard. Sometimes you have faith in a person and want things to change, as opposed to going out and finding someone new.

One day they'll wake up and realize things aren't going to get better and they will look for a man who will treat them right.

Fuck that , Chris Brown, aint shit......and thats just plain and simple...the only reason why this nigga aint getting as much grief as he should be is because he was the poster boy for good clean wholesome R&B......but we dont know that dude.....and all we can go on is what is presented to us.....he whooped that girls ass and then is pleading not guilty, like there is some sort of ass whooping lepracun running around this piece secrectly punching dudes girls in the foreheads....pleasseeee!!!!! And I do think it is something wrong with us chicks.....we do that ish all the time....waiting around for the bad boy, or that nigga that dont love u, or that nigga that consisently cheat on you, or keep you at jumpoff status, or that God forbid beats your ass on the regular...hoping that he'll either change or allowing ourselves to get high off the thrill of the chase...trying to conquer some unobtainable object..... Its rediculous! And it needs to stop! Stop falling head over heels for niggas that aint falling for you period! I know hes fine, and all. And maybe he got a big dick and put it on you....but you really shouldnt know that shit yet anyway....stop fucking and thinking we can handle that no strings shit cause we cant....because if we could women wouldnt be walking around with their heart broke all the time...we gotta start asking the hard questions of ourselves ladies...why dont we like the dudes that like us? Is it that, the niggas that like you, you think are ugly and dont like them, or is it....that the niggas you like think that your ugly and dont like you??? if thats the case starting dating niggas in your bracket....and stop going for them niggas that arent ever gonna take you home to meet mommie!

He hit once, he'll hit again. And who knows if that 'once' was the first time..

He ain't shit.

Seems to be true that nice guys really do finish last. The only time I tend to keep a woman around, who isn't a friend, is when I'm acting like an a$$hole or just flat out ignoring her, which more often then not is unintentional and I've actually been told I'm acting like an a$$hole and they still wouldn't leave me alone. Yet, when I'm the opposite, I get dismissed, I really can't explain it, I'd love to have some imput on this myself.

Some chicks got issues. I definitely played the bad boy status through most of my twenties and I can clearly say that these chicks obviously have some serious issues. My girl is drama free. I'm drama free. Almost two years,an 8 month old son, and not even one argument, and we both appreciate it much. I've been super ugly to alot of chicks and I can honestly say that they think it makes the relationship more interesting because when everything was cool these psycho's were still looking for trouble. ...drama queens!

Now usually i don't comment on things like this but this time hold up with I'm stick my two cents in it. You are always talking like it is a one way street.But check the facts look at who Chris him self picks up rihanna? This girl not only came on the scene with a scandal for getting it in with Jay-z but has come under fire time and time again for doing people wrong.As matter of fact Google how rihanna slept with the girl who was key in getting her signed boyfriend.These girls that men want are bad girls too. It just seems men fight for women who want or desire to conquer and destroy.No one wants a nice girl either that's just to boring for a "man'" to deal with.Personally its a dog for a dog in the rihanna Chris situation.She's a bitch he's a dog who barks.Now it just proved its really a true puppy love situation. The women men chase are twice as bad as any bad boy a real chick would peruse. Don't believe me look at chris brown going back to her after they fight,she reports him to the cops(yeah real loyal for a guy has been spending like its 1999 on you),and you both feel the need to cheat on one another. Blogxilla please reply

ok ok....i do agree with Anna. i was watching this documentary intitled the diary of a tired balck man....and it does come down to who you choose on both sides....usually neither the man or the woman are making good decsions on who they are picking. Both sexes go after bullshit people, and then wonder why they cant get along....why yes looks are important..you need to have something in common on what you believe a man and a woman should do in a relationship to have some longivity!

I was waiting on someone to say it. Kudos!!!!!!

@Shannon,
Did you get a chance to read her statements to the cops? Well, she hit him, while driving, she tried to push her back in her seat while he was driving, he pulled onto a quite street and tried to get her out of HIS CAR, she didn't want to. Her excuse was that the seatbelt was on, so she couldn't get out of the car, but if you look at the Lambo's seatbelt, you CAN get out, its designed that way; not only this, but if you can think to take the keys out of the ignition then when he's telling you, no pushing you to get out of the car, you should just get out of HIS CAR, bu NO, you are trying to still hit him again and again; WTF are you thinking, this isn't about a "bad boy", this is about you and your crazy azz.
This blog is new to me, but you should do a piece on this: if you're in/on someone's property and ya'll get into it an argument, and they ask you to leave, and more importantly, they give you the chance to leave, and you then hit them, don't they have the right to defend themselves? How is this assault? I have rights in/on my property that you don't. When you don't want to leave, it now becomes tresspassing, no?
Rhianna is using that boy, and she wants him to cop to 2 felonies, I'm just glad he didn't fall for it, I want this to go to trial and for Shannon to see what really happened; but you know, Chris should have done the white thing and file counter changes against her, this would have squashed everything.
Shannon, please respond>>>>......
@Anna, he "spent" on her, wanna expand on that? I thought it was he who co-wrote disturbia and gave it to her and wasn't it her biggest seller to date?

@ indireneed......Im not saying he a bad guy for beating the living shit out of her(that goes without saying) Im saying hes a bad guy for pleading not guilty to it, hell there was an assult and clearly she was on the losing end of that battle, so clearly there was a winner...and ima role with one for C. Brezzy. I dont care if she wouldnt get outta your car or not, pick her little ass up...toss her out and keep it moving....but to whoop her ass, bite her on the neck, and attempt to choke her till she fail asleep and be like naw i cant take the fall for that! Please

Of course not all females look for guys that treat them like crap, it's usually the ones who have daddy issues (meaning they didn't have a daddy there at all or only there part-time). Most of my friends and family (myself included) who have had their fathers as a big part of their lives are in committed relationships and marrieges with good men who care about them and treat them like queens. Most of my friends who grew up in single parent households (with just their mothers) jump from man to man and stay in abusive relationships just to say they have somebody. I don't get why some women allow themselves to be treated that way but I can say that most women just want love, in whatever form the "think" it comes in.

Didn't you see if ur were once a real rihanna fan logging on to fan sites everyday almost every day u would see that they were always in stores and he was always buying expensive stuff for riri.

defend themselves??? some of ya'l mofos are nuts, defend himself by beating the shat of of her,..not some group of dudes trying to jack him but a woman in the passenger seat SMH
black folks would give SATAN a pardon LMAO..
."girl thats the debil". "I know but he is such a gentleman" hahahahahahhaa

i wouldnt hop on Breezy..after the whole chr/rih-gate not a huge fan..
just doesnt do it for me...
muh brest friend even pointed out that as soon as c breezy song come on i immediately turn...didnt even realize it.

And neither do I

@ Kikiwest

Your right it is usually the ones who have daddy issues. I was wondering were any females going to bring that up.

I don't think Chris is a bad guy. I still like Chris Brown. He made a bad decision just like a lot of us do in our lifetime. I wouldn't want anyone deeming me good or bad based on one bad relationship full of bad choices. I have done some things in my life that are not good things but I'm not a bad person.

@Shannon and @Orange
I'm not sure if you read what I wrote completely, can you and get back to me, I'd like to really know what everyone thinks.
Shannon, was there in fact an "assault?" Or was there self defense or was there tresspassing? Did you know that she tried to gouge out his eyes too, and she did bit him too. I mean, I really think that this is one of the reasons that she wants him to plead out; so that she does not have to take the stand. I saw what Mark Garrigos can do to a...shaky witness, if it goes to trial, it should be .....interesting!
She stated that she took off her heels and was hitting him with it - while he was driving, this is before he pulled onto the side street and tried to get her out. K, so he pulls onto the side street, he askes her to get out, he even tries to get her out, but she just keeps on hitting him, does, as I asked in my previous posting, he not have the right to self defense? This is where you and I differ, I'm asking if you have someone on your property, it could be your house or your car, and you two start to argue and then the other person hits you, you ask them to leave, they hit you and DON'T WANT TO LEAVE don't they now become a tresspasser? And if they hit you, and you hit back is that now not self defense, and NOT assault.
Shannon, Orangestar if Chris get to talk and Garrigos shows pictures of him looking messed up, would this change your mind? The only way this'll ever come out is if this goes to trial, I'll tell you what, if he cops out to whatever, I'll never support him in anything he does. I think Rhianna is....is...evil.
So Orange, what you're saying is that he should have picked her up and thrown her out of his car? This is HIS CAR, HIS PROPERTY, why does he have to go to such extremes, 'eh?
But back again to my point, if the letter of the law says that once you're asked to leave and given due opportunity to do so and refuses, and become belligerent, is this not "menacing" /"Tresspassing?" If could be you and a "friend" in that same situation, you know?
I'd like to tell any young woman/lady/girl out there, if you get into a heated argument with someone and he asks you to leave, HIS CAR and he pulls over to let you out, then just get out and cool off and maybe later on your and he or she can talk things out. if you hit him, he has the right to defend himself, especially if you hit him with an object like the spike of your shoes or cell phone.
@Shannon and @ Orangestar >>> let use educate the young, please reply!!

LOL of course people have the right to defend themselves LOL, what he ALLEGEDY did went FAR beyond self defense was my point ......and how much danger was he really in , not like she had a gat.. not saying its right for anyone to put their hanbs on anyone else out of anger etc.......but whateva tho you are hard to press defend CB so defend em........ but me I can never defend a man who BEAT THE BRAKES off a woman even if she did slap him first.because a mans strength>>>>a woman, and he can do far more damage.Thats situation should have been handled alot diff.

Whoever wrote this article is so closed minded or maybe just unaware of what Chris Brown has shown the world since he first came out. He's shown how decent, fun-loving, down to earth,and NON-VIOLENT he his. He's drug free and a 'normal' teen. The pressures and frustrations he endured to become the star that he has probably had a lot to do with his over reaction the night him and Rihanna 'fought'. This is probably the first break he's had since he made Run It. No One can with stand that kind of pressured life style - plus the paparaazi in his face every minute since he got with Rihanna. We love Chris Brown because he has shown to be ultra decent and nothing but a GOOD guy. And look it up, because he 'hit' Rihanna back, does NOT mean he would ever hit another woman. False rumor started by the media - not based on Domestic Violence statistics..

I AM NOT ONE OF THESE WOMEN. My man treats me so good, has his head on straighter than 6 oclock, and respects all the women in his family and mine. But i have many friends who go for and even love bum nigglets. My bff's current boyfriend got our girlfriend preggo, then she had an abortion, he was not there for her at all!! But he and my bff are in love. And to make matters worse, our girlfriend just recently gave the dude head!! Too too much.
I have not an iota of a clue why women would look twice at a dead beat guy, other than the fact that they think they can change him (never) or that they like the bad boy type, goon type, hood type kinda guy. No education, no respect. But they like the "excitement" of dealing with an immoral, law breaking guy. I guess ...

SOUNDS LIKE THEIRS SOME HATE IN THIS POST LOL

to answer the question about falling for bad dudes:

it's a matter of self-esteem and like Kiki said, daddy issues. Although i dont fully believe that w/o a male figure, a female is more likely to be bouncing from man to man..it's about who she lines herself up with. there are females out there that need constant approval or reassurance from a man or relationship and don't often care that the men treat them like garbage. it's human nature to want to feel wanted and i think that's where a lot of the problems come in..

It will be nice if the writer of this gives me a glimpse into his own life so i can tell him if he is or aint s....? And its amazing how people would rather hope that its not the first time and he will hit again rather than believe since he has been good its probably the first time and this is just out of character..why are people so desperate to have chris be the bad guy? chris isnt a bad guy and he never will.....so whoever you are get a life instead of trying to paint chris the bad guy.

Please don't say Chris ain't sh*t! He effed up yes, but ain't sh*t is harsh. The women swoon because he is sexy as hell and other than that one incident that we still don't know everything about, he seems to be a nice guy too.

i agree wit some of these comments about chris..then i dont..but this is my two cents..this isnt about being close minded nor dumb(however you want to take it) when me and my sister heard about this i was like damn chris went off then the picture i was like ok the picture doesnt co sign everything this girl said..true she look beat the hell up but take away the lump and busted lip all there is a a crying girl.. i not condone domestic violence at all i seen this happen to my mother and this is not the case..my mother would walk around with busted eyes broken finger and even knock the hell out by my step dad..i wish i could send you a picture of a batter woman because if you ever seen one rihanna pic doesnt come close...if chris really wanted to he could have made that girl look alot worse than that believe me. i notice some people bring up home bring..this only plays a small part in a situation..when i was chris and rihanna age(i am 25 now) but when i was 19 me and my guy use to fight one minute than love each other the next..this is called puppy love...he hit me once yes he slap me i bet you guys are looking like omg you let him hit you!!!! NOPE i was choking the hell out of him with a phone cord.. and then he smack me!! that was the last and first time he ever hit me...i cant even count how many times i punch and slap him(too many to count).. we know chris was caught getting a text ok how many of you just gonna let a text talking about hooking up with your guy.. and just be cool about it..if youy say you would then you are lying thus making you a fake ass person..we women think with our hurt..rihanna is hurt and scorned..she flip out and went off..chris tried to put her out(if a guy is abusive he will not try to kick you out of his car he'll just beat your ass in it, you will be trying to get out) she didnt want to leave because of the fear of her man going to be with this chick..so what do you do, you saying naw i'm not going nowhere, if you going to meet up with her i'm going with you and i starting some sh*t over there to..you and her as* is grass!!lol rihanna felt her man slipping away and she was trying to save the relationship but she felt like many women do she had to fight for it even if that means fighting him....we dont know chris to say he not sh*t and we dont know rihanna to say she was done wrong and she is innocent.. we dont know what went on that night but i dont think chris should be the only one in question in this situation..it doesnt matter if a guy is stonrger because a guy who doesnt beat women wont never use all his force on you(thus again look at the pic) but a woman who is trying to fight will..how do i because i been there and done..if you havent been in that situation or know someone who been in something like that then you dont know nor understand that situation.so there for shut the hell up and watch

@Nieka
>>> Wow, that was...profound; big ups to Nieka for her bearing of her soul!!! You know, I didn't want to come off like blaming Rhianna, not at all. I just don't like the fact that Chris is getting the worst of it, like his music not being played and the likes, I can imagine Rhianna being hurt, but I think that stuff was in that text message that set her off, I mean, it was reported that that text was like 3 pages long. And what's more important its who the text came from; this is where everything gets deep; It was reported that the text came from Tina Davis, and she's been sleeping with him from age 16! Wow, this shit just became....serious! I mean, people grow plants, but Tina is growing dick (Paul Mooney joke, I couldn't help myself)!
How did Rhianna know that Tina and Chris had something in the past, 'eh? I mean, she did say it in her statement to the police. I think Rhianna felt like she was battling something that was way beyond her, real talk! They even had excerpts from it saying that the texter, Tina, said that she had power over Chris; man, I'm a man and if I read that shit I would have lost my mind too.
Nieka, like it or not, Chris is a victim of child abuse, that is if you're using the "mainstream" definition of the word. For guys, we look at it from the perspective that it was/is good experience, I mean, if you can "hold down" a woman who was/is 2X your age, then you must be doing something right, don't you agree, Nieka? That's the only "upside" to all of this: the fact that she taught Chris how to fuck. But the down side is far darker; in the long run, Chris, unconsciously, will grow to hate Tina, and might even grow to hate his mother for knowing everything but yet still remaining slient. He'd have been robbed of his childhood; Why can't Tina just leave Chris alone, 'eh? Why can't she realize that she and he, in no way, shape or form, have a future and Rhianna offers him so much more?
Who knows what else Tina did to sabotage their relationship; she seems like the sort of person that might do such a thing.
Now, looking at the last time he went to court and plead Not Guilty, she was in Barbados and did want him to plead out. But he's looking at 2 felonies, not misdemeanors, shit that'll get you time. This realtionship is done, don't believe the stuff you hear 'bout they're still together, the fact that he was hesitant to say "not guilty" and his lawyer had to force him to say tells me that she's talking to Chris, and trying to get him to take the plea, I guess telling him that they'll be together and all, but that's a bunch of BS!! Rhianna has gone "white", not to say that she was every "black," but she sees this as a career move, but didn't count on him trying to fight it in court - good for him!! If he takes it to trial, it'll come out that she did admit to hitting him 2x before and him not hitting her back, it'll also come out that they were also broke up BEFORE he went to Europe and he was forced by his and her people to take her to the Clive Davis dinner; look at the video of him and her, I mean, he didn't want to be there, at least, not with her, you know?
But the thing is that, after all is said and done, all of this drama, and how Rhianna fought and got beat will weigh heavy on Chris, in his heart, he now respects Rhianna, but its sad that she's now moved on with Brody Jenner, you know, the latest hollywood white boy sensation; he's just like his sister, no talent just a face and he's like 6 years older than Chris; oh, and they're stories 'bout him: Valtrex and girls AND BOYS!!! BTW, Bruce Jenner, his father, frequents gay clubs in LA, I mean, take from it what you will, just had to mention it!!
Well, I said enough, Neika, Orange and every one else, have a great life!

Too many of our young women are suffering from low self esteem and lack of self worth. I often defend women who are promiscuous and think they are in control because I know the sharing of your most precious gift with many men is a cry for help, not an act of stupidity. A woman who values herself and knows that what she has to offer a man is good, will not be so quick to jump into relationships and share herself with men she doesnt know. But truthfully, becoming a self assured woman is a process. It doesnt happen over night. We must allow these women to grow at their own pace until they realize that what they are doing is hurting them rather than helping them. Our women like bad boys bec they are working from the mind of a child who does not know what isgood for them rather than from the mind of a woman who does.

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@ Shayna

You listen to these people for their music not the lives they lead. You know who Roman Polanski is?? His crime doesn't take away from his ability to be a great director that created critically acclaimed mastepieces. That's one thing that disturbs me about the youngin's; yall' fail to realize that from actors to recording artists these people were signed for their ability to perfect their craft....not to live up to your expectations of their lifestyle.

Amen sista!!!

ditto!!!!!!