7 Ways Guys Lose On The First Date
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Fresh(less) 2 Def - In my opinion, clothes don’t make the man, they supplement him. However, looking whack, especially on a first date, can be catastrophic. I never claim to be a fashionista or the Louis Vitton don, but you should have fashion common sense. Wearing SB Dunks and white tees to a fancy restaurant, or rocking a 3 piece suit to the movies tell me you have a fashion sense deficiency. There’s no shame in asking opinions of your homeboys, magazines/websites, or female friends. Use your resources, not excuses.This also includes persona hygiene, such as:
- Smelling like a full court basketball game or as if swam in a pool of Fahrenheit
- No haircut, shape-up, or shave, looking like a celebrity mug shot.
- Breathe kickin’ like Chun Li, and teeth begging for a toothbrush
Talking about your ex: - Mentioning previous girlfriends elicits an immediate technical foul and ejection from the game. No woman wants to see a man sound insecure, bitter, or jealous. Even worse, women don’t want to hear constant comparisons between them and the ex. Keep your ex in the past, and out that conversation. It’s tricky if they either ask you about your ex directly, or the “Why are you single” question. Just keep it brief and try not to go into any detail. If the break up was either bad or recent, you may mess around and talk greasy about her like Wayne Brady
Going Dutch or Making her pay for the date: - If you let the woman pay for the first date, even if she says its cool, you will look like a whack dude. I don’t care what anyone says. It doesn’t matter who asked who out, who makes more money, or who looks better offers to pay. The man should pick up this tab regardless, or suffer from setting the first impression of a broke, clueless dude. You can always pull a gangsta move and split checks if you want. Ask Ms. Sex Ed how that works out for men.
Textual intercourse – There’s no bigger mood killer than constant texting during a date. We mostly live by the text in the 21st century, but some dudes will OD. Sidekick users I’m ESPECIALLY looking at you! Your AIM, Gchat, and Twitter page will survive if left alone for a few hours, trust me. She’ll conclude that the people you text have priority over her that night, and she’ll make a mental note. In other words, expect a handshake and/or head nod at night’s end. This goes for answering phones or checking them as well. Remember, cell phones have the time displayed (if yours doesn’t, please Plaxico yourself), so she may think you want to leave or you’re disinterested.Turn off the phone or silence it to minimize distractions. If it’s THAT serious, excuse yourself, send the quick message + brb combo, and get back to work!
Anything I missed – All my homegirls had a different way in which men commit a first date fail. I heard everything from “bragging about how light skin he is” to “bringing a friend on a date with him”. These were too outlandish to pass up, and even more crazy to post! You tell me what I missed, or what you would add.
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