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7 Ways Guys Lose On The First Date
Posted in Relationships on 08. Apr, 2009
Photo of Mckeever K
Written by Streetz for BlogXilla.com
When guys meet women, bag the number, and set up dates, we tend to think the hard work is over. Many guys I know don’t stress preparation for the first date. We think: “What’s so hard about the first date? You show up, speak, and she’ll love you, right?!” These are the same dudes who wonder why a shorty didn’t return a phone call or text from them ever again. Men commit common mistakes on first dates which can end their season before opening day like torn ACL’s. It may take some focus, consultation from friends, or plain old common sense, but men must work to avoid the following symptoms of a first date fail:
Talking too much - Fellas, you go out on dates to have a good time, get to know an interesting young lady, and to see if you’re going to score try to chill with her again. She isn’t there to INTERVIEW you. Some dudes will sit and tell a woman their entire life story, without ever asking her one question. Then when she finally gets a word in edgewise, you cut her off and spit another monologue! After a while, she won’t care that you drive a Benz, co-starred on an episode of PTwitty TV, or shot hoops with Obama. If she decided to let you take her out, she’s already intrigued by something about you. It’s now your duty to develop and cultivate that same intrigue on your end by letting her speak. Communication is essential on the first date. You both need to find out about each other, so you know if shorty is a 10 or a fraction. Conversation is a two way street, so stop swervin’ in the other lane!
Lack of home training – If you consume your meal like kindergarten kids at recess (burping, food all over your face, etc.), your sexiness will drop 700%. If you drove, and your throwing back double digit drinks, that means you show a lack of care for your date’s safety. Not to mention that you’re drunk,which will spell doom for all you lushes, lightweights, and “drink till we throw-up” lookin’ ass dudes. If you open no doors, not even one, or show some type of chivalry, she will know, trust me. If you act like a douche bag to waiters, store attendants, and other people, she’ll see that and wonder if you’ll act the same way to her. NOT a good look. Proper table etiquette and behaviour demonstrate character and personality. You can pay for school but you can’t buy class! (c) Jay-z
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Exactly…I self analyze and work based on that.
I also make it a point to ask all my ex's wht problems they had w/ me so that I can fix it for myself and the next person.
I agree with everything!! I remember the time a dude had begged me to go out with him. When i did he couldnt wait to touch my me..straight turn off, then on top of that he took me to mcdonalds for “dinner” and couldnt even afford to buy me a meal…long story short..i bought my OWN meal and sat there with him while he watched me eat, and had the nerve to ask for me to leave a lil for him! I swear this generation is a mess!
LOL, my body language was horrible too, that should of been another hint. He had has arm around me and i had my legs crossed away from him with one arm folded on my lap, like a barrier…Obviously I was not feeling dude at all….I just needed that meal!! lol
Pre date though, we talked on the phone fomr MONTHS and you just never really get a feel for someone until u hang out with them, vibe wasn't there…oh well NEXT! ……well your cute….let me stop lol
You have to be jokin! Mickey Dees?! Did yall ever mess around b4 this? Dude was hella comfy to take you to the golden arches
You have to be jokin! Mickey Dees?! Did yall ever mess around b4 this? Dude was hella comfy to take you to the golden arches
We never messed around at all before…and this was his brilliant idea of the perfect first date..go figure! I swear this is the type of shit these Bmore men are on. They are all about Mc D's and Wendys
We never messed around at all before…and this was his brilliant idea of the perfect first date..go figure! I swear this is the type of shit these Bmore men are on. They are all about Mc D's and Wendys
Now if he would've took you to WAWA or Waffle house, then that would be ideal. Wendys and Mc Ds is sooo 1990
Now if he would've took you to WAWA or Waffle house, then that would be ideal. Wendys and Mc Ds is sooo 1990
Kudos to eSPECial!!! Very nice blog post.
My current beau took me to get ice cream on our first date. And we sat by the water and talked. The best date of my life. And I did give him a kiss as I walked to the train station. Our first kiss.
But for me by the first time I have a first date we have talked for quite a while so I already know there will be a second, third, etc.
High 5 eSPECial!!!
Kudos to eSPECial!!! Very nice blog post.
My current beau took me to get ice cream on our first date. And we sat by the water and talked. The best date of my life. And I did give him a kiss as I walked to the train station. Our first kiss.
But for me by the first time I have a first date we have talked for quite a while so I already know there will be a second, third, etc.
High 5 eSPECial!!!
I would be so inclined to find out why you would reduce a woman to “the pussy”. But by looking at your choice of words (“tridash”, “pulling em back”), maybe I don't, lol.
That's the other part of the problem and another blog entirely.
I would be so inclined to find out why you would reduce a woman to “the pussy”. But by looking at your choice of words (“tridash”, “pulling em back”), maybe I don't, lol.
That's the other part of the problem and another blog entirely.
That would be the difference between a woman, and a girl. Again, another blog entirely.
Girls who are dating these boys who allow this will continue to do so, because that is all they both know.
As a grown women of a certain stature, if you don't come correct, I will pay my own check, check his ass, and drive off on the 3rd lane of the West Side Highway.
That would be the difference between a woman, and a girl. Again, another blog entirely.
Girls who are dating these boys who allow this will continue to do so, because that is all they both know.
As a grown women of a certain stature, if you don't come correct, I will pay my own check, check his ass, and drive off on the 3rd lane of the West Side Highway.
I guess I'm the only one that wants to know about the ex. lol I just need to know she is definitely out of the picture. Especially if it's a baby mama……
What I don't like about texting is when guy's use it trying to get to know you before the date has even been made. I'm gonna need u to learn how to hit dial. I don't want to text you a whole conversation!
I guess I'm the only one that wants to know about the ex. lol I just need to know she is definitely out of the picture. Especially if it's a baby mama……
What I don't like about texting is when guy's use it trying to get to know you before the date has even been made. I'm gonna need u to learn how to hit dial. I don't want to text you a whole conversation!
That why i wrote what I wrote. I think Self-Analyzation is just natural. but i'm realizin that its just me. Anything i do the next time I'm wondering how to do it better. I mean i'm lookin at the other person to see body language and subtle cues. Now if I'm bored or I realize its a fail then i'm trying to wrap this up. Yeah we need a blog on How women fail on the first date…Can You go from being a Potential to bein a Smash in one date?
Funny tho when you look at some reality shows I hear my boys saying why the F*ck did he do that or say that…and i'm like Shyt you b doin the same thing…lol.
Sometimes its easier to point out the flaws in other than to see them in yourself.
That why i wrote what I wrote. I think Self-Analyzation is just natural. but i'm realizin that its just me. Anything i do the next time I'm wondering how to do it better. I mean i'm lookin at the other person to see body language and subtle cues. Now if I'm bored or I realize its a fail then i'm trying to wrap this up. Yeah we need a blog on How women fail on the first date…Can You go from being a Potential to bein a Smash in one date?
Funny tho when you look at some reality shows I hear my boys saying why the F*ck did he do that or say that…and i'm like Shyt you b doin the same thing…lol.
Sometimes its easier to point out the flaws in other than to see them in yourself.