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Keep Your Man From Cheating On You
Posted in Relationships on 07. Apr, 2009
I got a tweet from a woman asking, what can a woman do to keep a long distance relationship fresh. Then I started thinking of all the things I would like done in my relationship. I thought that these things can be whether the lovers are far away or near each other as well. So I decided to give the ladies a little advice on how to keep their man from cheating. Now while doing these things can’t guarantee that your man won’t cheat, it will make him out to be a complete idiot to cheat on a woman who would do all these things for him.
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Was in a long distance, did all that-still cheated….he's a fool and a whore. he just can't help himself i guess lol
Damn how many dudes cheated on you? I mean wow! Sorry you had to go through this but i think it's more to do with your choice of dudes.
XILLAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! >:O
*head in hands*
FIXING A PLATE HAS ABSOLUTELY NO BEARING ON EQUAL RIGHTS!
And I know there are some women who don't understand that but the more we perpetuate the idea that traditional “wifely” tasks are some form of subservience or inequality the more you're gonna have women who don't know any better standing around with their hand on their hip, rollin their neck and suckin their teeth tellin you they ain't your maid….
Stop it, please!
You're right about all your other points but these are things a woman should do in general tho' not to keep him from cheating…
Cheating is a character flaw and no amount of head, sports talk, or anything else is gonna stop him if he is an idiot
You know how SOME women get when it comes to fixing a plate. I had this scutter bucket island chick actually tell me she's not fixing my plate while i was in her house… I was like wtf!! I mean nothing is wrong with me to where i can't fix my own plate but getting a plate fixed for you is so nice! But I didn't say this will keep a man from cheating… I said it would make him an absolute idiot to do so… But c'mon chicks don't just pull out dicks and start sucking them. This should be done but it's not.
And the fact that a chick will delay dck sucking for the sole reason that her man wants some head… it's all stupid.
Hold up now! He was the 1st boyfriend that ever cheated on me, i NEVER dealt with infideltiy until i met him….so he's gonna b talked about for a while lol, lesson learned tho, sluts don't change…
Do sluts change? Can a slut be a good girl? I know a good girl who is a slut!!! hmmm interesting thought. No offense, I just sensed a little bit of hate in your type!
Don't be mad though he did you a favor.
Yea i know now, i am really not angry about it….i just don't understand why people put sooo much energy to do wrong, its pathetic to me. There was no second chances when i caught his ass, he said i wish u never met me cuz i seriously ain't shit. I was like well damn, wish u woulda said this a year ago…lol.. He saved me a lot of drama in the long run, i am happy, but post like this get me thinking again about how lame it is to cheat, especially when u don't have to, just break up!….and good girl sluts are an oxymoron.
I know exactly how SOME women get about it but it’s because we’ve been made to believe it is beneath us to do it and men have in some cases unknowingly fed into the idea…
A man saying “I know women are all for equal rights and all, but….” implies that he believes it’s an act of inequality…it’s like saying “no offense” before you dish out a criticism even if it is meant to be constructive – it’s automatically inflammatory
I know this because I used to be one of “those” women and it was based on attitudes my own father displayed regarding women being beneath men – it wasn't until I began having relationships where men showed respect for women and what they do without thinking less of us that I learned it's not a bad thing to “make his plate” and was often surprised that the act was actually fulfilling when done for someone who appreciates it…
To this day I’d rather choke to death on my own tongue than make my father a plate but I have no problem doing it for my man
Men want more head and that’s reasonable but they might wanna stop using “suck my dick” as the standard insult whenever they’re pissed off or even joking – from little boys in the schoolyard to grown men ya'll often resort to “suck my dick” as the standard insult/diss – so ya’ll can't be surprised that decent women are conditioned from a young age to believe it’s a negative until we're sure that you really love/care for us and are not gonna use the fact that we did suck your dick against us later…
If the chick you (not you but men in general) are with doesn't just pull out your dick and start sucking you need to look inward, now it may be that she just doesn't like to suck dick which she's entitled to feel OR it may be something you're doing to deter her
When we're comfortable with you sexually and emotionally, it's not a problem, just like makin your plate
Jay-Z said it best. Once a good girl has gone bad, she's gone forever.
@ my twin…
I am Ness and I approve this messge for all to follow.
LMAO that has so much inner meaning to me… you just don't know. I love jigga
Who doesn't luv Jay….
He's part of the G.O.A.T…..he says some real(ness) that all ppl can relate to
wow… some of the advice is well headed. I know chicks that cant fry an egg let alone make a plate BUT the whole “plan a date” issue bugged the hell outta me. Being undecisive is one of the most unattractive qualities a man can have.
Let's be clear, all these tips are for people who actually give a damn. If you care enough, it's not too much to fix a plate ot give some fiya brains or hell…let that nigga put it in ya ass if he's been extra good lol. Cause best believe, there's a bish right around the corner who will happily do all these things! And fellas, the same applies to you. I always encounter fools trying to see what my man won't do so they can do it for me smh. Sometimes all this doesnt work cause people sometimes just aren't that into you, but at least u can say u gave it your all!
I agree w/ust abt everybody here—-you can't stop someone from looking like an ass by cheating on you. Some fools are just gonna do it. I swear some of these idiots want to be caught too judging from the stupid shit they do. Guys (yes you Jack in particular)—when will you learn you never bring your outside woman where you live? as soon as you do–game over.
What I learned from this article is that while watching the game with my man I should show interest in the game then without him asking go fix him a plate bring it to him and while he is enjoying his plate…I should pull out his dick and start sucking it and do that well…then I should refer to Xilla's how to ride article for further festivities.
I ain't gonna lie…I'm one of those chicks who'll be like “Fix your own plate.”, simply because when I get home I have to deal with my little one and I'm usually just plain tired. I did fix my man a plate last night and he just had this big grin on his face. And I thought “Damn, I need to do this more often.” So I guess I could change my ways and be a bit nicer about it since it means so much to him.
LMAOOL!!!
Hey twin!!!
Now for the ladies in a long distance relationship, order your man some food. Find out the number to his favorite chinese spot, pizza joint or whatever and send it to his house. Dope!
^^^^
Wow. if that happened for me id be speechless. good post
ahh I remember the times when i actually was a good girlfriend material..lol i used to do all these things and more..shit i used to buy clothes for my boyfriend just because..i would order pizza and wings for him (and actually paid for it) and have it come to his house around the time he came home from work.. and this was alot for me to do for the mere fact i am a college student and money isnt a constant thang..sometimes i had to sacrifice..but thank god i came to my senses ..the men i was doing it for were not worth it at all..and still cheated..ahh well..now im jus a playa..lol
I agree 100% Ladies, relax and take notes. This is the truth!!!
LOL… you're funny as hell; and yeah that's basically what the article said.
No kidding though, I enjoyed reading it , and got some great tips.
You said it all, and your summation is really what men need to take with them always: “When we're comfortable with you sexually and emotionally, it's not a problem, just like makin your plate
”
The truth!
After reading this, I was inspired to write a response article on Associated Content. It's entitled, How to Keep Your Woman from Cheating. Due to it's racy content in some areas, I'm not certain if it will be approved. However, because I found your piece inspiring, among other things, I couldn't help but to write it.
People cheat for so many reasons. All we can do is whatever is within our power to prevent it by eliminating the excuse for another to step in. If you can honestly say you've done all you could, there's nothing left to do but let your partner step if you are incapable of satisfying a need.
Here's a taste of what you inspired:
“Listen, you like enthusiastic head, so do some of us. Sop it up, make it sound like you love it and we'll return the favor.”
Check me out in about a week or so once they release it.
This is my first time on this site. I'll be back.
Robin L. Jessie-Green
Yeah sluts can change……once she feels used up she will change her behavior..i think
Stop Ness……i need a lil hope here!…..I love Jay-z though
Apparently!!!
If u have to 'hope' then ur gone forever
lol….
WOW I'm mad that u called her a scutter bucket Island chick & had the nerve to be mad b/c she didn't fix your plate. Maybe she saw that u didn't respect her to begin w/ and felt insulted that u asked her to fix u a plate. *kissteeth*
Anywhore, it doesn't matter how good of a woman you are if a man thinks that he can get away with it he will cheat on you. The best of women get cheated on and tend to feel like fools b.c they've done everything on “the list” and never felt that it would happen to them. It's all about what the man wants to do at the end of the day. Cheating is a decision that he has chosen to make, point blank.
WOW I'm mad that u called her a scutter bucket Island chick & had the nerve to be mad b/c she didn't fix your plate. Maybe she saw that u didn't respect her to begin w/ and felt insulted that u asked her to fix u a plate. *kissteeth*
Anywhore, it doesn't matter how good of a woman you are if a man thinks that he can get away with it he will cheat on you. The best of women get cheated on and tend to feel like fools b.c they've done everything on “the list” and never felt that it would happen to them. It's all about what the man wants to do at the end of the day. Cheating is a decision that he has chosen to make, point blank.
I agree with this article 100%. I'm from the south and this is how our moms, grandmas raised us. It isn't even a question whether or not your gonna fix his plate or give him head. This is what a women is supposed to do. And I don't think it has anything at all to do with keeping him from cheating. People will do what they will do not matter how great your head is or if you know that the game went into over time (Go Hornets). The world would be a better place if all women realized this. We as women should want to please their man in any way possible. Not for him but for you. At the end of the day its all laginappe anyway. They need us alot more than we need them.
I agree with this article 100%. I'm from the south and this is how our moms, grandmas raised us. It isn't even a question whether or not your gonna fix his plate or give him head. This is what a women is supposed to do. And I don't think it has anything at all to do with keeping him from cheating. People will do what they will do not matter how great your head is or if you know that the game went into over time (Go Hornets). The world would be a better place if all women realized this. We as women should want to please their man in any way possible. Not for him but for you. At the end of the day its all laginappe anyway. They need us alot more than we need them.
I am so sorry but the only thing that will stop a man from cheating is that man. No woman can keep a man that doesn't want to be kept.
This blog post could have been just that short. LOL!!!
I am so sorry but the only thing that will stop a man from cheating is that man. No woman can keep a man that doesn't want to be kept.
This blog post could have been just that short. LOL!!!
PREACH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Woman need to understand they are here FOR man. And this is how the world works. I am not saying to be a door mat for him. But if he is a man, he will know his worth and act accordingly. If he is a boy, then that's what you get.
I bring him his plate, tea bag's his ass, etc. And because he is a man and knows his role he does what is required as a man.
PREACH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Woman need to understand they are here FOR man. And this is how the world works. I am not saying to be a door mat for him. But if he is a man, he will know his worth and act accordingly. If he is a boy, then that's what you get.
I bring him his plate, tea bag's his ass, etc. And because he is a man and knows his role he does what is required as a man.
Yep and the only thing that can make an addict quit is an addict, but it's those moments in that addicts life that plays a part in it all. Same with a cheater… It's not just a man thing. Some men don't cheat. Some women only cheat. It's a part of life.
But trust me there is always a reason a man cheats… ALWAYS might not be a good reason but it's a reason nonetheless.
Yep and the only thing that can make an addict quit is an addict, but it's those moments in that addicts life that plays a part in it all. Same with a cheater… It's not just a man thing. Some men don't cheat. Some women only cheat. It's a part of life.
But trust me there is always a reason a man cheats… ALWAYS might not be a good reason but it's a reason nonetheless.
I'm back. Unfortunately, AC did not find my content suitable for their site. The language was a bit risque. Please check out my response article broken down into two parts as an instructional “How to” on eHow.
http://www.ehow.com/how_4917204_keep-woman-chea...
http://www.ehow.com/how_4917217_keep-woman-chea...
I'm back. Unfortunately, AC did not find my content suitable for their site. The language was a bit risque. Please check out my response article broken down into two parts as an instructional “How to” on eHow.
http://www.ehow.com/how_4917204_keep-woman-chea...
http://www.ehow.com/how_4917217_keep-woman-chea...
think it comes down to..what you won't do..the next chick will. if you want to make it last, then do just that.
Well, I have been on a lot of relationship sites,and giving your man head has never been mentioned as a way of keeping him from cheating.
I will have to write that one into my next article!