Ask Xilla: Can Twitter Break Up A Relationship?
More mail from one of my readers. I always like getting emails, asking for advice. This one is an interesting topic, that keeps popping up in my inbox. I thought I should address this one in public.
Hi, my name is “Tasha Tweet” and I have 1 question. Do u think twitter/fb/myspace is enough 2 break up? This morning a coworker of my boyfriend says im messing around with someone on twitter. He gathers this b/c in a reply 2 my status about it snowing, a guy said if it snows, come over here. Like 5 days later I replied what if it doesn’t snow?? Ok. That’s it. Now my bf won’t talk to me over offing twitter. Do you think lightweight flirting over networking sites is enough to break up a relationship?
Continue reading for my response.
Dear Tasha Tweet,
Your boyfriend is very insecure. This can be for one of a few reasons. More than likely he is cheating, and it’s something called projection. Where people put their dirt on you. IE Bill O’Rielly. Another reason can be simply because he’s insecure and honestly I don’t feel like anyone should be with an insecure person. It leads to too much drama.
I think twitter, myspace, facebook are bad for relationships. It makes it too easy to bring up drama. Take Twitter for instance, it makes it almost impossible to lie. lol Not that you should have to lie, but sometimes it’s called for, but if you slip up and send out a tweet, then all hell breaks loose. “I thought you were with Suzie? Well she was washing clothes at 2:15pm see her twitter update.” All of these social networks are essential tools for stalkers and insecure people.
At the same time you should have nipped dude in the bud as soon as he came at you like that. You have a boyfriend, and if he lets you get away with small flirting, you’ll flirt even more and maybe even cheat. He should have spoke with you and communicated his feelings in a more mature way. Not simply stopped talking to you and speak to someone else about it.
~ Xilla
