just stop talking already you're stupidER than the blogosphere should allow!

if u haven't noticed i enjoy iggin U! goin back and forth is a fun way to pass the day before i go volunteering or shopping or humping! hehehehe! don't take me so seriously chile! sheesh! p.s. dummy mcfrumpkins, i never asserted that being ladylike means u take ish from people! who was “Being ladylike doesn’t mean you take shyt from people and let them walk over you, it has to do with how you respond to it not whether you respond to it” directed twd? if they asserted that i'll irk them like i irk you….

p.p.s. i never said thugs can't be gentleman. my brow specialist in the hood barely knew me and when they got to shootin, he picked me up and carried me to the back of the shop. if that there ain' chivalry i don't know what IS!? they also “get ta speakin good cuz hani talk like a whitegirl….u can't do everything around her” my sheer presence commands that so i'm not disaggreeing with u there. however when wego to the local bar i don't speak about stocks and sororities, i more or less chop up what i heard on the block, who'sgot the fattest _____, and how they can better improve their hustlin skills…. see the difference simpleton[thas a vocab word look it up]

limited?! before i turned 21 i did more than you could dream of and i'm still doin the DAYUM thang on a budget like a shoestrang! yayayadiiiiiig?!?! lol my experiences are wonderfully varried from dodging bullets and hustlin to personally dining with aristocrats/being pressured to join an elitist organization for the uppity niggras. i thank God for both as they are equally beneficial and valued….cut ya tongue for reducing the people and places and times in my life as limited! yes, i am young, and to have done all that i do i am thankful…sheeeiiiit i could be old and bitter and retarded like u! my how life would suck then!

Its almost flattering that I irk you to a point where reading comprehension and common sense escapes you…

Nothing in my comment even remotely suggests anything as extreme as your response…

Gentleman/ladylike behavior has nothing to do with interests, lifestyle or topics of conversation so YES you can be on a date with a “thug mugg”, behave in accordance with your company and still be ladylike…

Thugs can be gentlemanly – I’ve had thugs hold doors open as I entered a building, stop cursing when I entered a room, apologize if they let a foul word slip in the unexpected presence of my daughter etc and I’ve witnessed well dressed educated business men fail to do any of the above

Being gentlemanly to that woman who is all crunk and disorderly doesn’t mean treating her like a princess…it may simply mean making your exit from the restaurant/bar/party and making sure she gets home safely…

Being ladylike doesn’t mean you take shyt from people and let them walk over you, it has to do with how you respond to it not whether you respond to it, you can put someone in their place without stooping to their level

I’m sorry your environment and the people you know have offered you such limited experiences but it does explain a lot, but don’t worry you’re still young, all is not lost

some people grew up in places where they never saw “the right” thing to do. and in that case you show them. NICELY! “open my dayum door” will be better received as “bay, you should walk on that side or open the door for me. what if a bommaloom try to man me down? you'd be jealousand sad right? ok then![insert smile and pinch on his man muscle]”

the gesture will be seen as cute and girly and u'll turn him on a lil bit squeezin that area….i can teach u this game fa free.99 yaDIIIIG?!?!

IS FRIGGIN RETARDED LIKE TWO LEFF' SHOES IN HIGHLITA BLUE!

unless you're an alien, most people i know treat people according to how they were treated! you sense out a situation and if ur on a date with a thug mugg, you don't speak about things that won't interest him or behave in a fasshion that more on the bougoise side of boughetto….if a woman is all crunk and disorderly, you won't treat her like a princess and go the extra mile. if i'm at a drive up and the server is extra mctrashy i'm not going to tell her to have a great day, i'll say rejoice inur employment and get over it…see what i mean?

i am THE MOST ladylike person you'll meet while still holdin on to some necessary hood qualities and i definitely don't treat every person the same…my home trainin is nawlins bread and i know what to do where and how but i will skip some steps if the situation or person calls for me to do so. exercising that judgement is a true display of gentlemanly or womanly character!

True chivalry and/or gentlemanly behavior has nothing to do with how the woman conducts herself and true ladylike behavior has nothing to do with how the man conducts himself

Those behaviors should not be limited to something you do on a “date”

So what if you opened my door, took my coat and pulled out my chair, if I spot you on the city bus the next morning seated while an elderly lady OR man is standing in front of you hanging on for dear life and you don't offer your seat, then you're really not a gentleman after all and I'm turned off regardless of how respectably you conducted yourself on the date AND the same should hold true for you, if you see me walking down the street spitting and cursing with a 40 oz in my hand you're gonna be turned off – won't matter that I didn't curse, had a pleasant demeanor and ordered some fruity lady drink on our date

You either are a gentleman or you're not – you either are a lady or you're not, neither should ever be dependent on how someone else conducts themself

There is nothing demeaning or offensive about a man being a gentleman or respectful. Being in a position to accept a kind gesture doesn't make a woman inferior

Also, equal doesn't always have to mean “same” and people tend to have trouble separating the two. Traditionally men have the roll as the breadwinner and woman as the caregiver/homemaker – those rolls balance each other out, neither is greater than the other.

We've become too quick to assigning higher value to one task over the other instead of looking at it's importance in the bigger picture…yeah he can go to the office and close that big deal securing a nice commision but how successful will he be on an empty stomach sportin a dirty suit and ring around the collar ??? also she can be the best cook in the world and know how to keep a perfect house but if there is no money to shop for the food and the cleaning supplies or to even pay for the house, then what ???

Very nice to see a man that knows chivalry and gentlemanly behavior has nothing to do with equality and I believe feminists were the first to confuse the issue on that…

There are some very important basic “human” rights that have been fought for and won as a result of the feminist movement, but overall I believe they have taken it too far – they have woman wishing and fighting for something that we already possess

In addition though I am always the person who says thank you to everyone for everything, or have a nice day when I am the customer. This has nothing to do with equality but more with respect, ethics, and morals. I do not believe that chivalry has anything to do with equality, other than the fact that some women wish to be seen as equals and in doing so shun away from chivalry from any male.