Comments on: Let’s Go Out, But You’re Paying For Your Own Stuff

By: TheLovelyMsRedz

TheLovelyMsRedz — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 00:09:37 +0000

Thank you!!!

By: TheLovelyMsRedz

TheLovelyMsRedz — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 00:08:04 +0000

AMEN!!!!

By: TheLovelyMsRedz

TheLovelyMsRedz — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 00:02:46 +0000

That's the best way to handle it. But honestly, there would be nothing to think about after that. I wouldn't even consider seeing him again as anything more than a friend.

By: TheLovelyMsRedz

TheLovelyMsRedz — Fri, 03 Apr 2009 23:54:15 +0000

How can I say this gently... Fcuk what he thinks!!! Why would you even worry about that. He can THINK I'm indebted to him as much as he wants. He will be sadly disapointed.

Plus, if he's the type of guy that thinks a woman owes him p*ssy cuz he dropped some money on her, then he's a jerk and now I REALLY don't care how he thinks or feels.

Never let a man make you feel guilty or like you owe him something cuz he spent some money on you.

By: HeadMistress

HeadMistress — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 00:46:02 +0000

LOL @ “overly prepared” – that sounds way to familiar

I swear the epidemic of men just not being men and the GD golddiggers of the world have totally upset the balance and rules of dating…smch

By: HeadMistress

HeadMistress — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 00:32:01 +0000

Thanx *fake smile* but I'm gonna need more info....

WTF@ "women are putting themselves in this predictimant by trying to be to much like dudes"

Women aren't trying and don't want to be like "dudes"

A lot of men - not all, not even most, just "a lot" - are failing at being MEN so we have no choice but to pick up the slack where we can

Cause and Effect..period

Maybe it wasn't meant to sound chauvinistic but it does and its not the first comment you've made that reads that way....jmo

By: DaRuler

DaRuler — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 00:10:49 +0000

the whole situation was simply ass backwards. now he finally got the date and there's a chance she won't go out on another with him now beacause it was bad planning…

By: HeadMistress

HeadMistress — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 23:46:41 +0000

Exactly, and if he really didn't have it due to his “lost wallet” he should have either gone somewhere within his budget or postponed the date…

By: hazysin

hazysin — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 23:35:22 +0000

I completely agree with you on this one….I NEVER go out with someone without having my own spending money (my grandma taught me that). Plus having alot of brothers taught me a thing or to…i dont want any many thinking i and indebted to him for anything –especially not a drink or a meal.

By: onebaddboo

onebaddboo — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 20:27:44 +0000

I agree HeadMistress… I am ALWAYS prepared to pay for myself when I go out on dates. Sometimes overly prepared to the point where I won't let a man pay for me (probably a bit too independant in that case.)

I don't think there should be an assumption to who's paying. If you go on a date, despite whom asked whom, assume you will be paying for YOUR stuff. Assuming a man will pay for your food because he asked on a date is like a man assuming he's gonna get some by buying a woman a drink at a bar/ club.