Xilla Mail: Do Str8 Men Like Anus Play?

Posted in Rated Grown Up on Mar 24, 2009

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The emails I receive, never cease to shock me. Here is the latest from one of my loyal readers.

I love your site….im a daily fan. I was hoping you could anwser this for me….maybe post it to get comments..

Ive beeen knowing this guy for 3 months. He passed out drunk at my house after a good sex session. While deep in his sleep he started fingering his ass! I thought he was scratchin at first! Needless to say I kinda got turned on. I didnt know if he was “actin sleep” and doin this to see if id be cool with the ass play. Either way I wanted to “test him OUT” To make a long story i ended up fingering him and eventually sticking my vibrator in with concent. Yes I tossed the salad….IM A FREAK! Back to my question….DO STR8 MEN LIKE ANUS PLAY?

BTW….i str8 up asked if he been with men. He says no….not attracted to men. So is it gay if he fools with men or is it okay cause im a woman?

Wow, this is a weird case right here. I would say the guy you’re dealing with might be on the DL. Here are the signs: He was fingering his own ass, in his “sleep”, and he let you stick a plastic penis in his butt. But to answer your question, yes some straight men like anus play.

I’ve had my salad tossed before and it felt great, and now while I’ll never come out my mouth and ask a woman to do it, I wouldn’t mind if she did, as far as anything going in me… I cringe at the thought, but I have read that a lot of men like a finger up their butt and that it actually feels really good. I’m not that comfortable in my skin to try that, but it is a practice that a lot of men have done to them by women.

Just because a guy likes for his butt to get a little attention from a woman doesn’t make him gay. It doesn’t mean that he is likely to have a man do those things. It simply means he likes the feeling of his booty hole getting attention. But in my opinion when a man starts letting a woman stick vibrators and dildos in his butt, chances are he’ll start wondering what the real thing feels like, so I would tell you to take care of yourself and never sleep with him unprotected.

Xilla


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  • Dizz
    Wow...ok... most men i've dealt with would Chris Brown a woman for even breathing on thier booty much less tossing a salad, fingering or whatever. Now who the hell fingers thier own booty in thier sleep, sticking a vibrator in his ass?? Come on now he was dropping hints...that dude is D to tha L for real!! How do you even respect your man after you stuck a fake dick in his ass??
  • "How do you even respect your man after you stuck a fake dick in his ass??" EXACTLY!! I wouldn't be able to take him seriously after that.
  • Kee
    So agree..that's some bullshit and yeah everyone likes to get a lil freaky but when my dude wants or allows me to stick my finger yet alone a freaking dildo up his butt..WE GON HAVE SOME PROBLEMS and the 1st problem he gon have is losing me cause I'MA BE GHOST! I mean I would be embarrased for him...YUCK
  • yeah I agree... lol
  • maybe not.....it's the guys who r ready to chirs brown a woman who u have to look out for b/c they're so anti gay that they most likely are on the DL....

    It's like when u accuse someone of doing something like cheating and they get defensive....if they didn't do it then there's no reason to be defensive or angry, but if u DID cheat then of course ur gonna try to get mad so that person would shut up.
  • You have a very valid point, there Miss Ness.
  • Thank you Mister BX :)
  • Dizz
    Umm Ness no, not everyone is so open to accept homosexuality and , I myself am a straight woman and would be offended and ready to throw down if a female approached me sexually, I find it nasty and have absolutley no desire or attraction to be with a woman, I just think it's wrong. So i can see a man reacting the same way I would if he feels the same way I do about it. I have never cheated on anyone and when I was accused I got defensive NOT because I did but because I was offended that he thought that low of my character that I would. Just my opinion.
  • Yeah...but why throw down just b/c someone approaches u or finds u attractive...
    It should be handled in the same manner as a man who ur not attracted to approaching u.....no need to want to cut someone over it.

    And the same applies if someone accuses u of something u didn't do....I'm not gonna go crzy and get mad just b/c u think or thought something.... even if someone accused me of hitting their car...if I didn't do it...I'm not gonna scream and shout..I'm just gonna say, I didn't do it, ur mistaken, get in my car and go about my business.

    In NYC there are gay guys everywhere....if my beau is out shoppin in and he's in a store where a guy guy look at him I don't expect hm to wild out....all he has to do is ignore it...
  • Dizz
    I hear you, but that's YOU and how you handle yours, you are accepting to different lifestyles which is your choice, but that doesn't mean the rest of us should react the same way or have to accept it, and by no means does it mean if you react in a way other than accepting of it, way you must be DL or something. Based on how I feel, I don't find it acceptable for a woman to approach me in a sexual way it's not a part of what I want to deal with, but like I said...that's just me. There is a big difference to a gay dude looking at your beau and actually approaching him in a sexual way (again imo).
  • I'm not saying the way in which u handle it is wrong.

    There a reaction to every action and there's an underlying meaning to everyone's reaction to something that's all.
  • lipstickkilla
    Ness I totally agree with everything you've said.....why throw down because someone approaches you??? Take it as a compliment and move on....as long as you're secure with your sexuality and know what the deal is who gives a hoot on who thinks you're attractive, same sex or opposite! But I understand Dizz as well, im a straight female but have gay friends, i don't condone what their doing but I won't alienate or judge them either because only one man can do that...plus all sins are equal, but I can see how me being cool with gay people may effect the way i'd handle the situation if a girl approached me, so I feel both of you guys.
  • hazysin
    @How do you even respect your man after you stuck a fake dick in his ass??

    I COULDNT AGREE MORE.......EVEN IF I LET THE FINGER ISSUE SLIDE...WTF AM I SUPPOSED SAY ABOUT SOMETHING SHAPED IN THE LIKENESS OF A DICK?
  • riri
    She needs to run far away ASAP...He is mos def on the DL..a dildo in his ass..helllo??
  • Kee
    CTFU...SERIOUSLY...I mean good post but if you gotta ask after all of that "gay" activity then WOW
  • HeadMistress
    Great........a Cinderfella Story.
  • WOW... Uh, definitely agree on the DL, a finger is something totally different, but a vibrator? I'm sure that you don't have little vibrators, so I'm guessing your toy was around 6 inches. Yeah, he's "straight". Like a fork in the road, we both know he's gonna go to the left, to the left. *smh*

    I've taken some adventures down that lane before, but if I was to stick a finger back there and you enjoyed it, we have a problem. And for the love of everything freaky...if I do decide to toss your salad, the SECOND you throw your legs up in the air, I'm done!
  • Just Saying
    Wow...I agree w/Xilla and the others, you need to run or at the very least be cautious with this one. Fingering your ass in your sleep in questionable. Having your woman finger just shows your curious but letting her put a dildo in you ass is mad suspect and like xilla said soon he'll be wondering what the real thing feels like. The boundaries are fuzzy. With our culture being the way it is right now, everyone is mad suspect on gay tendencies because of the ever present DL brothers. Everything was mad suspect to me but the dildo in the ass just crossed the line. As previously mentioned, most dudes would be very hostile or at the very least hesitant at someone going anywhere near their asshole so it makes me wonder this was not his first time. You've been warned.
  • UPTStunta
    That n!gga sweeter that July Jam on a Hot Summer Sunday!!
  • b
    real talk how could u call your self a man after u let a woman put a fake man up in u this is just gross bruh check your gender again these days u can tput it past nobody thought to each is own but know your damn status
  • If there weren't any gay ppl in the world, would we feel like his actions are out of the ordinary?

    Probably not.....?

    A guy can orgasm through anal play and if he's comfortable with his manhood to let the female he's dating do that then more power to him.

    I agree on your advice to her when u said to protect yourself, but tht's with anyone...not just a guy who likes anal play.
  • HeadMistress
    @ "If there weren't any gay ppl in the world, would we feel like his actions are out of the ordinary?"

    THAT'S A DAMN GOOD QUESTION!

    @ "Probably not.....?"

    You're probably right...I've heard that there is some gland or something back there that can give them the ultimate "O" but as we know most are not willing to go there because of the implications...

    I can't knock a straight dude who is comfortable enough to explore different avenues of reaching an "O" but truthfully I would forever be VERY suspicious, he may not be gay/bi but I would have to respectfully make my exit from that situation, we can still be friends tho ;-)
  • Kee
    DAYUM...(LOL) I'm laughing but its not funny...ANY DUDE THAT OUT HIS OWN FINGER IN HIS BUTT OR LETS YOU PUT VIBRATOR UP HIS BUTT IS DEF GAY! C'mon now!
  • agreed! i know...i dated a suspect dude like this and ALL the red flags directed me to swiftly end the relationship
  • Bitchiemood
    U know what ness i can totally see how a man who likes to have things put up his ass may not be gay...he could just be a freak and like his ass played with!!
    BUT I SAY STAY ON GUARD!
  • Exactly....he doesn't have to be gay at all.....

    But b/c of our society...it raises red flags....so it is wht it is....

    He might be a super freak, super freak...lol.
  • TRJ
    but i dont see how a man can still feel like a man after he decides he wants something put up his ass and then it not just the fingering part but its the vibrator. would you think a dude is a super freak or gay if you went to his house and saw a vibrator laying on the floor?
  • HeadMistress
    Yeah, I have to admit the finger is semi-acceptable...I have never and have no desire to stick my finger in any dudes ass, but it's just a finger, attached to a woman, it's kinda on the same level as gettin ur d*ck sucked by a woman, I guess, o_O ... but a vibrator - that's CLEARLY "male"!
  • hazysin
    IM WITH YOU ON THIS ONE MISTRESS...EVEN IF I LET THE FINGER THING SLIDE ......WTF AM I SUPPOSED TO THINK OF THE DILDO?
  • Bitchiemood
    BUT i would have a hard time respecting my man after that. it feminizes men.
  • Sexy N Sassy
    WOW!!! That story is crazy, I have a better understanding know since I read Xilla's reply. I will never stick my finger in any man's ass,I'm sorry! The thought of it makes my stomach turn. But different strokes for different folks. I always thought getting your salad tossed was when someone eats your butt.
    If I was chicky chick I would have immediately thought he had sugar in his tank when he begin to finger his own butt. Now that I think of it, I wonder how he pulled that off. It just seem like it would be complicated to do. How do one self decided while sleeping, Oh I'm a just finger my butt, then in front of a female he hardly knew. I could go on and on, I just always looked at a butt being an exit only not an entrance.
  • getting your salad tossed is getting your butt licked... it does not mean getting a finger or vibrator in your ass!! that's just sick!
  • ok...let me say this...NO straight man will let anyone at anytime put anything in their ass!! this man is obviously in the gay parade! second, most straight men will nut up if your hand even touches a booty cheek...hell, my man ran in sheer TERROR the other day and yelled at me for tickling the side of his ass cheek lol! tossing salads is not an option for him, but to each his own, some men like it and it doesn't make them gay...but a full on butt fuck?! woooowww...i think you knew the answer when u wrote that email. just the fact u asked lets me know u had doubts about his sexuality urself smh...don't feel bad, we've all gotten duped by a dl man at some point smh
  • Xilla,

    That dude is MO! A dildo up the butt? U serious? What more info do you need?!! Shorty better watch out. Toilet tissue only gets access to my a-hole fam!
  • GoGetter
    My man let me toss his salad but won't allow me to put my finger in his ass..I'm cool with that cause if he did I KNOW I'd be looking at him different..we just enjoy having good sex!!!
  • ahill2climb
    My man is the same way and I totally agree with you. We just like great sex.
  • TRJ
    idk about all of that i mean ima freak to the utmost but there are things i believe as a man you should not do at all and well that stamps it. as stated before he might be on the dl so make that ni99a strap up. then its one thing to ask a female to do it but to do it in your sleep means alot. did you ever wonder what might be going on in his dream? just something to think about.
  • I don't think he was really sleeping lol...

    I don't have my bed mate saying..."hey u was fingering urself while u were asleep so I put it in...lol..

    when was the last time ur shorty said u was jerking ur d*ck in ur sleep lol
  • TRJ
    true i have never beat off while i was sleep, or at least i havent been told, but i have been told i suddenly "got up" so she gave me so lip service lol
    tho there was this one time i woke up and oh never mind t.m.i. lol

    that makes it that much more worse if he wasnt really sleep i dont think any str8 dude thats into that would just stick their finger up their butt out the blue it sounds to suspect to me
  • Hmm.....every guy "gets up TRJ...lol...tht's the best part about waking up in the middle of the night or in the morning :)

    It's niiiccceee! :)

    Pls do tell...I want to her TMI... :)
  • TRJ
    i wouldnt know about other guys and if they "get up" or not its not a question i would want the answer to lol

    i would tell you that other thing but i rather not post it for everyone to read
  • True...true... :)

    Well just as long as ur have no problem rising to the occasion then it's all good lol
  • horribly disgusting, but to each his own. if a girl touches anywhere near my dookie shoot, she's getting put out. period.
  • panamanianbeauty
    i cant toss no salad for no dude or ass play fuck that, i dont see men as being as clean down there as women, what the hell i look like sticking my face in a hairy man
    ass fuck that shoot me first
  • i had a homegirl that said she used to fuck with this older cat who liked this type of shit. smh @ the the thought... ain't no way in hell. if it's went that far you have homosexual tendencies and more than likely you a batty bwoy!
  • yes
    u got it xilla, that nigga suspect!! fingerin ur own ass? wtf!! lol
  • Blacksand
    Yeah, I would say DL for sure.

    Toss Salad = Acceptable
    Anal Penetration = NOT ACCEPTABLE!!

    Once that happens there is no turning back. He is ready to change teams!
  • Schoolu
    Just because you THINK a man is on the DL shouldn't be the only reason why you make him strap up . A real DL guy makes every effort to keep his secret to make sure you don't suspect him at all so I doubt anal play would come in the picture with him. If a gay/DL wants something in his butt more than likely he will get it from another guy Thats why African American women are the fastest growing HIV cases, STRAP UP ALL THE TIME!
  • the salad tossing thing, cool. him fingering his own ass in his sleep is suspect. the dildo situation was the tell tell sign that dude is probably bisexual. he probably lied to you. sorry to break the news to you, but i had a feelilng you probably already know.
  • hmm.all the dudes i have been with would knock my ass out for even grabbing their ass playfully.but once,i was w/this dude,and while we were having sex i started grabbing his ass.my finger accidently slipped in & he made this orgasmic sound.i was suprised,lol. im guessing he liked it!
  • OooLaLa
    That dude is on the road to some DL mess.
    I was with a dude who kept asking me to do things to his ass all the time... I just could look at him the same anymore. He lost my respect and my attraction to him.

    P.S. :Wrap is up All The Time1
  • ralph
    see there thats a problem a DILDO? Any man that wants a object in their anal cavity is on his way to wanting the real deal. Having a women toss your salad is ok, even playing around the hole is ok. The second he allowed a dildo in she should have got out! As a man who likes both men and women that even scares me. I remember being with a lady and her husband, and during sex she wanted to see me and him go at it. When i told her i only pitch and don't catch, she was happy to know that she was going to watch her husband take it. Here i thought i was there to please her. I always wrap it up and he wanted it raw. He wanted me to take off the condom and go at him and his wife agreed with him, but i walked, cause i have no kids and no disease and dont want one.
  • 3 months is long enough for her to get up and go!

    How does he even finger his own azz?
  • theFOXXX.
    three words.

    that. nigga. GAY.
  • Only if by playing with the anus you mean me playing with her anus with my Di*k!
  • uhhhh
  • SexySagi
    I think that some str8 men do like it, but are afraid to admit to their women they do because of what the ladies might think of them as far as the sexuality thing. Just because a man likes his booty fingered, eaten out or played with doesn't automatically mean he has gay tendencies, ladies!! However, the vibrator thing may definitely raise an eyebrow or two, but don't trip without more proof!! In case you didn't know. the male g-spot is located in his anus and when stimulated, the guy will tend to enjoy it although some won't admit it. I feel that the male who has a open-minded mate will feel less uneasy about reveal this secret pleasure.
  • sade01
    So i can see a man reacting the same way I would if he feels the same way I do about it.
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