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The Complex Mind Of A Heartbroken Man
Posted in Entertainment, Relationships on 19. Mar, 2009
I can’t help but feel bad for Chris Brown, because I know he’s hurting because he lost his boo. Unlike a woman a man can not deal with being heartbroken. One gossip sites report
The singer appeared depressed and desolate as he stared blankly in the back seat of a car. Brown has been charged with assault and making criminal threats after an alleged bust-up with RIHANNA last month. His bleak mood comes after yesterday’s reports he and Rihanna are “taking a break” from their relationship, with Brown busy recording music in California and the pop beauty hitting the social scene with pals.
Men go through a bunch of different feelings when we are heartbroken. Which are as followed
Back Together - We want to get back together, so we end up calling a bit more than we should, and the female won’t take our calls or give us logical explanation as to why we can’t get back together. Wasn’t our love stronger than needing a break?
Revenge - There comes a point when we want you to feel the same pain we are feeling because even though you might be hurt to us it looks like you’re having the time of your life. We start to think so what I cheat, I was f*cking I was going to get right back. So we think maybe we should embarrass her, or sleep with her friend.
Many Women - Then eventually we decide we are just going to be the biggest male whore on the planet because since this woman hurt us it’s now women ain’t sh*t but hoes and tricks. Sure the logic is jaded, but my heart is torn into pieces and we can’t think straight.
So at the end of the day you have another man on a mission to ruin some unexpected woman all because his ex girl wouldn’t pick up the phone and talk to him because HE cheated on her. And to a man… somehow this all makes sense.
Ummm I could feel bad for him if she dumped him out of the blue. He didn't LOSE his boo…HE BEAT HER ASS!! CB wasn't the best example to use for a man with a broken heart.
She hit him first… but i'm not referring to chris brown just men in general.
It doesn't matter if she hit him first…he's a man and shouldn't put his hands on a woman. I could have dealt with him holding her down or something but he hit her more than once. I didn't see pics of his face f*cked up. Just sayin' another example may have been better. Abuse is a touchy subject.
I did not know men have feelings too…..thats' news to me..
Heartbroken? men? for real..Wow
See it's this reason…. LMAO!!! lol
just because we dont express our feelings through crying and throwing your clothes out the window like females do dont mean we dont have feelins we just handle them differently or dont deal with them
so that means that women should have a totally hit free pass and the guy should just endure?thats so wrong…everybody should keep their hands for themselves…
we all have breaking points.
dont matter who you are, as humans we have our limits.
and when that limit gets crossed, shit is bound to pop off.
EVERYONE, i guess mainly women expect men as men, to have that
self control aspect to “be a man” a walk away. you know what i mean?
but we are all human. we make mistakes.
i sure as hell am not taking up for anybody who is a violent abuser.
i just think that in this situation with ol boy, lines were crossed & he slipped.
theres a difference between a MONSTER and someone who f–ked up.
however i believe that if you as a man are in a relationship that is as toxic as someone constantly pushing you to that point where you feel like you
might lay a hand on her, just leave.
theres no point and its not worth staying in a relationship like that in which you both are going
on a road to nowhere.
IMO, i believe Chris Brown got tripped up.
he f–cked up. the media is tearing him to shreds.
its a sad situation for the both of them.
Damn………………..co.sign the post
@ Xilla I feel you dawg i was raised never to hit a woman and never have but i came as close as i ever have last year. I dont care what anyone says if anybody man women child infant sucker punches you in the jaw or nose its gonna hurt and you are gonna snap true you can walk away but what happens if it happens agian? The only thing that kept me from mashin on her was jail and my future and i wasnt gonna throw it away on her and she knew that. So my advice to all my brothers no scratch that ANYONE IF SOME BODY HITS YOU ONCE THEY ARE GONNA DO IT AGIAN ITS NO MISTAKE ITS NOT CUZ THEY ARE DRUNK HIGH WHATEVER JUST GET THE FUCK AWAY
To avoid all of this men could JUST ACT RIGHT….just a thought!!
This my friend, is why women are so much smarter than men! LOL
@ sexyma and what. Its only funny till its your brother or son
Good Shit! Are you sure your not my bf? lol
I wish the word BOO would die a horrible fuckin death…alright moving on…..
that mofo didn;t get dumped like someone else said he the beat the shat out of Rhianna WTH..I don't feel sorry feel sorry for this bicth made ddue at all and Rhianna gettin back with him never should have been an option period……still he needs his ass whopped for the redord BTW………
and thats simplified view of heartache……its complex and layered. but you did point out some key points…..
nice post but i'd have to say i'm a little sick of all the exscuses men make to act like complete jackasses, women and men are both sexual beings yet this society has made it okay for men to blame all bad, disrespectful, lewd, and doggish behavior on thier “nature”. Yeah…….. As for Chris Brown and Rhianna that's just a ripple in the pond, this type of shit happens everyday, for most women it's much much worse, this is America today we are a violent and hyper-sexual society, men shouldn't hit women but then again the average age of the entry level prostitute shouldn't be 13…..
Oh God! This all sounds tooo damn familiar!
It does sound too familiar and it shouldn't. We are all witnessing the moral decay of society. This post while being an excellent one brought up a lot of painful memories for me.
A man is not to raise his hand to a woman. I don't care what she has done. The dmage it does physcally and psychologically is devastating. When I was between 16 and 19 years of age I had to fight my best friends father a lot to keep him from beating her mom and her. I had never seen fear like that on anybody's face and pray that I never see it again. His excuse was the alcohol and stress from work. I hate to imagine what would've happened if I was not there those years.
Nuff respect to you Xilla, you are stronger from having gone through what you went through. It helped shape you into the man you are today. Your story undoubtedly will help and educate a lot of men out there. It helped me write this. I had not spoken of those events in years to anybody.
As far as C Brown goes, he is reaping what he sowed. He shouldv'e never hit her. It does not matter that she hit him first. I hope they both receive the help they need to move beyond this and help people out of their situations.
I'm out. Peace and Blessings!
More like mad his career is going down.
I have a hard time wondering why a man would stay with a woman who is abusing him. Help me out please.
it was a bad choice of photo if you didn't mean CHRIS BROWN, and that rape apologistic bull about, “she hit him first” is just pathetic. unsubscribing from this blog now! damn. *shakes head*
I feel sorry for him because I see both sides of the issue. I know that at this point it's going to be a downhill battle and he has the hard task of climbing his way back to the top. Right now, he's feeling sorry for himself and he's upset at Rihanna for involving other people in their personal lives. I can relate, but I've seen both sides of abuse and it is touchy. I'm a woman and a girlfriend did hit me before and even then I sympathized with her reason but I had to leave because anger is destructive. Chris knows what he has to do. He has a good guy looking out for his career. He'll be okay, but he has to get help for his emotions. She needs helps too, but he even more so this doesn't happen again.
Oh and one more thing… why are dudes so afraid to cry? I mean, damn, you don't have to cry alone all the time, your woman might want to comfort you because guess what… deep down we know yall are sensitive too. That macho ish isn't fooling anyone.
most of you are forgetting the fact of nature that men are biologically built to be stronger than women. not matter how angry she is, a woman could never do as much damage you as you do to her. EVEN if she hits you FIRST, as a man you can EASILY get her under control. the same force that you would use to kick her ass, use to hold her down. most men in this thread seem like they are the abused victim in their relationships, therefore making if OK to hit the woman back. have you ever considered calling the police? how are you going to let a woman shred you with scratches and bust up your lip before you control her or call the cops to come get her crazy ass.
men who hit a woman “back” do it because they feel like they have been disrespected. self defense is rarely the incentive. you need to ask your self why your with a woman that disrespects your strength in the 1st place.
next time your 4 year old kid or senile grandmother throws a tantrum and hits you 1st remember to punch the shit out of them
Q you are right. I say this all the time. My brother to me is a prime example. His biggest fear is being alone with no one to love. He'll never admit though. And he will never have that problem since he's 6'7 with light brown eyes and makes $85,000 a year.
Most of the time as men our value system is based on our ego and how things look to other men. We refuse to look bad. So if our heart is broken, we take that as an attack on our manhood and we'll go into another relatioship quickly or we'll sleep with a bunch of women to prove “we still, go it” or I don't need that chick anyway. Or our value system is that we are not a man if we don't have a women and some money. That leads men to make bad decisions.
Truth is, when as men do we have anyone to listen to us? Even when we were kids and we cried we were told to SHUT UP and BE a man. Or remember when you were in school, The guy who listened to women and was sensitive, never got dates. Even in most relationship I've witnessed, when a guy has a problem and opens up to his woman, she tells him he needs to figure that out on his own or call me back when you get your stuff together. Women on the other hand will express themselves, even when we don't want to hear it.
Great point. How old is he? Is this really any different than what happens on a college campus with a football player and a cheerleader? Although it's not right, it won't be in the press this long.
Yep. The male ego will not allow him to ever open himself up for fear he'll be hurt again. Immaturity.
Could you please define what ACT RIGHT is?
To most women that means “let me have my way.” and if you do let her have her way and it doesn't work out, “you should have been a man and not let me do it.” So how does a grown man stop a grown woman from doing anything?
I've never seen a women comfort a man who cried about something that wasn't death related.
I was in a relationship once with a girl I was giving the world to. I don't ask for much, just bring to my life what I can't buy. I held nothing back from her. I could tell though after a while that somthing wasn't quite right. It took attention from another female for me to recognize what was missing. My girl never listened to me. I try to live my life so I don't have to lie. So I sat my girl down and explained to her how I felt. I didn't yell, wasn't condescending. I looked her in the eye and poured out my heart. That was extremely difficult and it took tears to do it. I didn't mind. If a man can't cry with his girl who can he cry with right? The outcome: I've never felt so humiliated in my entire life. She still didn't listen and acted like what I was asking was unreasonable and she would do me the favor of doing what I wanted. Funny thing, it wasn't too long after that she complained that I never tell her how I feel like I used too. I don't blame her for it. Our relationship was the most postive one her family of 4 sisters and a mother had ever witnessed.
Sure, I'm stronger, but the licks she's throwing out doesn't tickle.
this is so on point!
I do not feel sorry for him losing his boo. If she was that priceless, he would have handled her with care no matter what.
damn i just got dropped myself, i went thru the back together thing,
now its many women. thats deff the truth
Wait, for real? Did we forget he beat her ass? F*ck his heart.