Show Her Some Love

Posted in Rated Grown Up, Relationships on Mar 19, 2009

 

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Photo By Patrick C

I could have sworn we started at the end of the bed, but somehow we were now near the headboard and she was moaning and calling out my full government name, after she called on The Dear Lord’s name in ecstasy. I couldn’t tell if she was faking because she told me in the middle of sex, that she never inches back and normally she can take it like a champ. At that moment I wondered how could I make her reach this level again.

In my experience I realized that I can make a woman orgasm every time I have sex with them. So far I’m 5 for 5, making the last 5 females I’ve slept with reach orgasm. One thing I’ve learn is that smell is important, I’m a smoker so I tend to keep a small bottle of oil on my at all time and I wash my hands like crazy. Smell is very important for a repeat performance because it’s in the same region of the brain as the sex sensors… Not to get all technical but ladies, buy you man some smell good and spray it on him before sex if you have to.

Foreplay is equally important, and I’ve read that a foot massage can increase a woman’s orgasm by 30% Ladies if your man isn’t the type to give to much foreplay sometimes you have to demand it, while the two of you are watching tv, place your foot on his manxilla and demand a foot massage. Tell him what he should be doing, I like to use warming massage oil, because warm feet are the business. I run my fingers in between her toes, and run my thumbs down her foot and then i’ll run my hands up her legs and start to play with her lady spot, with one of my techniques to bring a woman to orgasm using my fingers. So she’s half way to orgasm before I even pulled out the manxilla.

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  • Empress
    i have to agree that foreplay is very IMPORTANT. im a girl that sometimes have a liitle bit of trouble having a orgasm, its not me its him, because sometimes men forget that when your f*uckin a girl you have to put some motion into it you cna't just beat up the p*ussy all the time. MOTION IS IMPORTANT!
  • Blacksand
    You are right. Foreplay is very important. Men either do not realize it's importance or they just want to hit. I myself enjoy foreplay. I like the anticipation that comes along with it. I enjoy watching the woman I'm with. I like seeing her nature rise as she goes through different stages of pleasure. I take my cues from her. I enjoy learning her and giving her pleasure. The better I make her feel the better she is going to make me feel. Again, some men don't take the time to put in work. I make it my business to make the woman I am with have an orgasm or get close to it from foreplay unless she states otherwise. But that's just me, I cater to the woman I am with. If she wants me to beat it up she'll let me know during foreplay because her mood/responses will be different. If she wants slow love, stroke love or ocean motion love I am game.

    All in all, men should be more receptive to fulfilling the needs of their partners. If foreplay is what she wants, she will get it in abundance. I feel you Ms. Empress. Some of us brothers are good listeners... :-)
  • @ Empress.
    Actually, it's up to YOU to climax and have an orgasm...not the guy.

    It's all about your mental and how you work your lady part....(i.e. kegel) during sex...

    I don't wait for a guy to give me an orgasm....I get it myself. :)
  • Blacksand
    I see the lips. Yes, it is Ness. Get yours!!
  • Lol.... :)

    Its' the only way know how ;)
    Once females understand their body and that it's not up to the man to make her climax is when she'll be able to make herself have the best orgasm known.

    Granted it helps for the guy to put forth some 'effort' but truth be told...I can climax on my own and I can climax when I'm with a partner lol.
  • Blacksand
    I feel you Ness!! You write it like you live it!! I like how you get down.. Caramel Delight all ove rthe place :-) You gonna make a brotha leave work early!! lol..
  • Leave work early huh?

    When was the last time ppl called out to stay home and make luv all day?...lol
  • Blacksand
    Indeed, I cannot sit here and read what you have written and stay. My mind is not here. After reading about 4" heels, moans, hands on A$$'s, gettin rough wit it!! WHAT!!! I need an afternoon/evening session..I'm going to be leaving here in about 35-45 minutes!lol!!!!!!!

    I used to do that twice a month but things changed..lol
  • Well have fun and make sure u have fun w/ her!!! :)
  • Already! I concur...I never wait for a man to "give" me an orgasm...I can get it on my own or I ask my man if he's ready and I work with him to get it! It is def all about the mental and kegels! You my friend are a go-getter like myself!
  • HeadMistress
    Move over Ness, here's anotha one in my damn head...LOL :-)

    It is definitely all about the "mental"!!!

    When it comes to your man the mere sight, smell, touch of him should put you at the edge if not over before it even gets to the physical

    Even if its a jump off situation and you're not that into him your mental should still get you there...same goes for "self-love" its more enjoyable when your mind is right
  • conversely, i get my "mind right" through sex lol...i start the day with sex or i make love to myself lol...and then i am more focused and ready to face the world. then when night creeps up...i am ready for round two and focused on that lol
  • Exactly....and when I'm ready I'll continue to have mulitple during one session lol.

    After it's all said & done...he'll say..."how many times did u come...dayum"....lol...

    We as females have that liberty & I use it to it's fullest, no waiting period to get my 2nd, 3rd or 4th one off :) lol
  • HeadMistress
    Hell yeah!!! LOL....sometimes you gotta be careful not to make a n*gga feel useless

    He'll be like "damn I ain't even do nothin yet"
  • oh believe me, they don't feel useless :)
    they feel so damn appreciated tht their ego is on cloud 9 :)
  • Blacksand
    CLOUD 9 INDEED!!!!!!!!!!!! After that, the Brothas Floatin!!!!!!!!!!!
  • onebaddboo
    I will honestly say that I've never EVER been a foot person. Yes, I've read that foot massages are the way to go but I can't bring myself to got there.... Never like people touching on my feet (even when I go to get my pedicures! lol)

    I think the issue is that more woman can't have an orgasm vaginally so they (we) rely on hands and mouth to do the trick... if there is no foreplay, we're kinda assed out, all pun intented!!!
  • HeadMistress
    Awww man :-(

    The foot massage sounds sooo appealing but I am extremely ticklish and its been my experience that when men find this out they think its cute to tickle, no matter what you say to the contrary.... >:O

    Xilla??? Permission to do a PSA???

    Ok thanks!

    I know I can't speak for ALL the ticklish, but fellas, if your lady is ticklish and she asks you not to tickle her, do her a favor and DO NOT TICKLE, EVER!!!

    She'll have to endure and giggle her way thru those first few massages but eventually she will get over it and trust you and then you can massage/touch all her ticklish spots - feet, neck/shoulders, underarms, waist etc - without her flinching or tensing up and pulling away

    Although tickling provokes "laughter and/or giggles" thats just a natural reaction, it doesn't necessarily mean its enjoyable

    Hopefully at some point I can get a foreplay foot massage *heavy sigh*
  • Agreed! My man and I got in a fight two nights ago about him tickling my tits! lol
  • HeadMistress
    ROFLMAO!!!

    They just don't understand that its the worst, I can't tell you how many fights I've had and how many nights have been ruined over that shyt
  • o hell yes! lol...that night and the one after were damn near destroyed! i HATE being tickled..and he doesn't care! Let me tickle his balls tho and all HELL breaks loose lol
  • HeadMistress
    Ooooo, good defense, never thought o' that one - I'll put that in my arsenal, hopefuly I'll never have to use it...LOL
  • It depends on the guy.

    If I'm w/ someone who won't make the first move then I would defintely step up to the plate. Starting out w/ soft kisses and nibble on his lip. Then I'll slowly reach down and grab mr. johnson and massage it as I'm still kissin on him.

    If I'm w/ someone that is aggressive then I play hard to get so he can be rough w/ me.

    The thing that turns me on the MOST is when a guy can switch it up. Like doing it rough and hard...or long and deep or soft and passionate. Adding a little kissin, licking, choking, carrying and dirty talking.
  • HeadMistress
    I am really learning to accept your constant presence in my damn brain... :-)

    I am HeadMistress and I approve this message in it's entirety!!! (but you already knew that)
  • @ HeadMistress (a.k.a...my long lost twin) :)

    Hahahahaha we need to turn our thinking into a business :) Great minds think alike ;)
  • Blacksand
    I am feelin you on this Ness. Yes, I am.
  • Thank you Mr. Blacksand :)
  • Blacksand
    You are welcome beautiful..
  • ur gonna stop complimenting me :)

    I'm blushing :))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
  • **CLEARS THROAT**
  • What's wrong Xillz....u got a titty stuck in ya' mouth lol...

    U want some luv babes :) Wht u want me to do 4 u.
  • My dear ness are you excited about part 2 of my Cinderella story? I'm dropping it tomorrow this was just a little preview. I'm just trying to see where I can fit in over here. Jumping in on convo's and stuff like that. and the only titty I have in my mouth is yours... see you this weekend. *wink* LMAO!!
  • Actually I am..b/c one of ur C.S was to be continued but that was like 8yrs ago lol.

    U don't have my titty in ya' mouth cause if u did...u wud pay me lol.

    How u gonna see me this wkend....r u stalking me now....lol.
  • yep Im outside of your office right now in bunny slippers and a wife beater!!!

    and i know it's been a while. This one should be good.
  • yelling (security!!!!) lol...hahahahahaha

    yeah most of ur C.S's are beyond good so I'm sure it would be a great way to start & end a Friday :)
  • Blacksand
    I speak my mind. What I read coming from you formulates my view/perception/visual of you. Therefore, you are beautiful and you will continue to be beautiful to me!! :-)

    And the lips have it!! Yes they do!!! lol
  • LOL....

    stop it...............
  • DC_REALEST
    LOL, Dr. Black Sand....as a friend and colleague, STOP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • Thank you Mr. (free) body guard lol....

    Hahahaha BlackSand knows it's all good....we kidd :)
  • Blacksand
    Yup, I enjoy the conversation! :-)
  • Great foreplay is the business. Great foreplay can get you to do things that you said you would never do. Like sleep with him.
  • outofyourmind
    I remember screwing the hell out of my man because he had on this cologne that I bought him. It smelled so damn GOOD!! LOL!

    I'll admit I haven't been up to much foreplay these days 'cause my life is just hectic. My man can usually give me a massage ('cause I'm usually just tired by the end of the day) and that'll get my motor running. A simple neck rub wil turn into a buckwild night of sex. : )
    But I have to agree with onebaddboo about the orgasm. My vaginal orgasms are rare so I expect him to do everything else to try to make me cum. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't.
  • HeadMistress
    I2I on smelling good

    Smellin good will turn me into that "Boom Chicka Wah Wah" supermarket girl every time
  • Haahahahaha now ur in my head....lol

    When that 1st came out...tht's all I was saying to ppl....

    LMAO!!!!! Booommm Chicka wah wah....and I'll gyrate my hips as I say it lol
  • HeadMistress
    LMAO! I f*ckin love that commercial
  • One thing that worked for me when I was learning how to orgasm vaginally (cause as a woman we do have to learn what works or not) is thinking of all the nasty freaky stuff that turns me on, watching the manxilla do it's dance in and out my kitty and becoming one with all the sensations and feelings and smells around you. DO NOT let your mind wander...and u know as women that is hard for us to not do. Stay focused on the goal! lol...u'll bust one everytime I promise.
  • True...true!!!!!

    I like to be in it 110%!....I want him to talk dirty to me...throw me around....do it every whicaway and watch as he goes in and out....

    I get into it....the touch of his hands on my a$$ and my waist...the sound, the physique, his moans.....EVERYTHING! I even fantasize about being watched :) And of course throwin on some 4" heels or doin it in diff places wil make it happen too :)
  • HeadMistress
    @ DO NOT let your mind wander...and u know as women that is hard for us to not do.

    Maaannnn, I have perfected that shyt, now I got trouble keepin my mind focused when I ain't supposed to be thinking about it...LOL
  • fa sho...sex is on my mind at the wrong times these days lol
  • HeadMistress
    And why is the "thought" at the wrong time always the best one you ever had?!?!

    Zonin' out at business meetings, puttin important conf calls on hold...all kindsa shyt...LOL
  • true true!sometimes i find myself thinking about what i wanna buy the next time i go to the mall & it totally ruins it for me
  • onebaddboo
    I'll continue to try that....Wish me luck ladies (prepares for battle, round #1 goes down TONIGHT!)
  • AmoraAtlanta
    That's very true with smell sensory because my ex used smoke cherry Black N Milds and That used to turn me on for some strange reason. But I need Some for some one give me a foot massage!!!!!!! I though my best friend was crazy when we go to nail shop and get pedicures and she would be like it makes her horny!!! Everyone has their psychosis in SEX and that's why it so interesting.
  • foreplay is soooo key & it's too bad not enough dudes know this! some just try to hop right into the panties and im thinking "damn can you get it wet first?"

    the top two things that turn me on is paying alot of attention to my nipples & getting rough with me.pin me against the wall,bite my neck;& im ready =D
  • TRJ
    something ladies have to understand is that we [men] dont really need foreplay all the time because just see your body naked and knowing whats about to go down is enough to get us ready however i do agree with you

    whoever your partner is should not have a problem with foreplay with you, sounds fun to me
  • TRJ
    if your good with your hands and tongue everything will follow. i love kissing and nibbling (if shes more than just a hit and run then she will get some special attention) so i give girls hickeys and think as if i was a vamp and suck on her neck until shes inching back. touch is everything. i know how to make a ladys kitty wett with a hug. its something i have worked on but now i can do it when ever i please. rubbing works but you have to know what you're doing. i only do the choking and pulling hair for the true freaks who can handle it but at the same time i dont do these things in aggression but with passion. a female's lower back is good place to touch. all of this brings anticipation and excitment but i suggest find what fits you and your partner. foreplay is great but what about roleplay. i love roleplay because it allows you to pleasure your partner through both physical and mental stimulation this is because not only do you have to know play your role, you have to find a way to incorporate sex into the the roles and you have to know when is the right time to finally get to business or yall are going to be playing doctor all night however you cant just get to it off the bucks.
  • missme
    I know THATS right TRJ. Damn...with a hug though?....I like that!
  • TRJ
    of course just b/c people hug all the time dont mean you cant use it for sexual purposes...it all in the touch
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