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I'm not totally guilty of these. Once a month I'm "out of commission"; he gets the point and leaves me the hell alone. I'll only talk about friends if they are having serious man issues and a man's perspective would help; then I relay the advice without saying where it came from (only works if your man is tactful or he'll ask your friend about her issue first chance he gets). I don't think there's anything wrong with talking about 1 or 2 exes that helped shape who you are; it can give a man a better idea of why you do certain things in the relationship. But this is a one-time convo, no bringing old dude up over and over.

Men never tell your girl about your friends or family...bc a lot of women are trif....but a lot of times they learn that behavior from someone they've dated. I actually want to hear what happened with the ex...just to see how he talks and to watch his mannerisms. Now if I have cramps he is gonna have to listen to it....Sorry future guy!!!

my man or not, ill spare anyone the gruesome details. apart from that, there is nothing i don't feel like i can talk about with my man. he's not only my lover, he's also my good friend and the same thing i can take to a female companion i can almost always take to him. as long as im keeping it respectful and decent, nothing is really off limits

if i cant call another female slack without having to worry that he'll try to sex her, the relationship is not for me

I know one thing women shouldn't talk about......WORK! I mean, I am guilty of talking about co workers that I can't stand or how so and so got a raise, etc.. If a guy asks how was your day, it should be, "fine" and that's it. And he doesn't know half of the people you are talking about anyway, so why talk about these co workers lol?

good post xilla! i think the subject of the ex and friends goes both ways. fellas can sometimes run off at the mouth bout there ex too! i know in the past this guy i was dealing with had this one friend and he would talk about how his boy was this that and the third...blahblahblah and all it did was make me want to know what the hell he had going on to keep that many women that happy...i'm just sayin...

I agree with you Kii. It goes both ways. Did you ever satisfy your curiousity? That is all it is. It's like the saying goes. Curiousity killed the cat but satisfaction brought it back. Peace & Blessings

I sure did! LOL Curiosity was killin me...i just couldn't help myself! the best part was I satisfied my craving and did no harm to my situation...it was a win win for me!

If I talk to a guy that I'm see, dating in a relationship and sleeping with about my period then he should be happy that I AM talking about my period. Or would he rather me say I'm late, I'm having it and I need child support for the next 18yrs?...lol (I'm just saying....better b glad she has her period that month) ;)

If I talk about my ex's in a good way it shouldn't make the guy I'm with feel challenged...just b who u r b/c at the end of the day...dude is my EX for a reason ;)

If you man sleeps with your friend then he ain't sh*t and your friend was never really your friend....(refer to the "reasons why she'll cut you post" LOL)

#1 thing women shouldn't talk about is farting and doing a #2. Tht is totally unacceptable! And fellas we don't want to hear about it from you either so don't share ;)

No Ness I have the craziest story about the # 2 thing. . .

This guy I was dating years back broke up with me (after about 10 months of dating)b/c he claimed I wasn't normal. his explanation was he never heard me fart, say I had gas, had to do the # 2 etc.
And it kinda threw me b/c I'm like that's not lady like why would you want to be privy to that. He literally was asking my brothers and cousins did I, he really believed something was wrong with me. . .

Wow....he's weird.....tht's just something that doesn't need to be talked about at all.

I hate when I'm in the bathroom too long and a guy thinks or assumes I'm doing #2 lol....so not lady like ....

IDK, I think when you're in a long term relationship no one really cares anymore about normal/embarrassing body functions.

I still care....

I can be w/ you for 5yrs & u'll never know that part of me...even if we lived together...and I would hope he feels that same...

It's just nasty....and I'm a lady ;) no matter what.

LOL. . . .its like the first thing a guy will think if you spend to long in the br. . . .smh

Sorry Ness, I have to "borrow"...

I am HeadMistress and I approve this message!!! LOL!

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It's all good....we're twins remember :)

My best friend has sex on her period, she goes by the "if you can walk through mud philosophy"

The only time I would bring up a ex in a current relationship is if the guy asked something about the relationship I had before him.

The friend thing. I don't care what I say about the chick nothing better happen besides you saying hi is ever she pass through (b/c the women in my fam always said never bring an ish around you man)

i hate when a female talks about their ex. ladies you must know the more you talk about your past experiences with ex-boyfriends and your current friends, you reveal alot of things about you, good and bad. based on these things you reveal depends if your man will have the same feelings and respect about you just by your stories and the way you explain these stories. for example, if you talk about how your ex-boyfriend used to put his hands on you but thats not why yall broke up. yall broke up over a completely different issue, dont be surprised if your man gets a little more aggresive or sensitive, depending on what type of nigga he is.

I truly don't beleive this. If this is my man, and especially somebody I plan on being in my life for a long time, he should be able to listen to anything. Now will I tell him all the gorey details, no. But I truly enjoy the fact that I can tell me boo anything.

I don't talk about my ex at all. He's an ex, he no longer matters.

My friends, (not chicks I know) know who he is, may have met him once or twice. But trust I do not even talk about him to them. I talk about him TO him. I learned along time ago from my mother women don't need to be all in your business, cause they'll want to be in your bed. We don't do the double date thing, all that buddie buddie shit does not happen in my world.

Therefore, I dont have that problem with friends covorting with my boo.

But a good post nonetheless.

Call me old fashioned, but there is NOTHING I cant talk to hubby about.
I guess being together 9 years is the reason
Hell, he'll go get me pads, talk shit with me about people from our past as well as hold conversations about friends. AND to top it off, he aint gotta go out and snif new puss, Mami brings it in!
Call me lucky.

I am so glad to here this. I have never understood why women even bother to tell a man something like that. I would never say some like that. I noticed also that men don't ask you nothing like if you don't bring it up. I have never been asked about it.

Plus cycles are prehistoric and dinosuar age. Dr.'s have been perscribing birth constrol pills for the last 20yrs - telling women how not to break on the seven days of your pack. But to continue taking your pills non -stop and you don't have a cycle. Now about 5yrs ago they came out with pills you can take and not have a cycle.

I ask my dr about this new pill and he told me -its the same pill but now they prescribe you a pack with 28 pills per pack and they sell them now in a 3 paks of 28 eight together now.

Plus the woman taking pills don't suffer from all those other problems or is easily aggitated because her hormones intact when taking birth control pills. But the best thing I like about pills is that I don't have babies unless I want to.

this was so TRUE! women should also never talk about bodily functions! the friend i mentioned in the other post, well his ex would fart all the time or talk about how it was funny or how gas ain' that bad or natural.... that's a big no no! bodily functions period shouldn't be a topic of convo....

Secondly, based on what I have my girlfriends say to their men and what they have told me - most men don't have problem with it. As a matter of fact it seems like to me the guys were pretty eager to their hear stories and if you ask me from what I have heard they guys are pretty nosey and concerned about those days. But personally I have never had a conversation with a man on this level or subject.

I have to admit I do say I wish a man had a period so they know how it feels but I don't discussed with him though and I don't ask him to pay no pads neither

i just saw the cutest old whiteman buying pads and such for his wife...my girl and i were DYING! "shit hun. now there's plus ou san flaps? [with or without wings, he was canadian] then he's like ok grande plug or petit...there's a lot of many options just use Bounty or something..." we were crackin up! those damn canadians i tell ya....my first white boyfriend was canadian and he was cool like dat...HA! i still aggree with xilla...i've been blessed to only be outta commission for 3days and its supa light so there's no need to discuss alla that with the boo. 1/2 the time he don't even realize when i'm on which is GREAT[i was totally bread for humpin lol]