Are You A Side Chick

Posted in Rated Grown Up on Feb 13, 2009

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What’s up, all my sexual intellectuals yesterday WQHT Hot97 NY’s number 1 radio station asked me to drop a pre Valentine’s day blog for their website, about side chicks. Since side chicks need love to, I provided them with 10 Ways to find out if you’re a side chick. Check out some excerpts from the blog, and what Hot 97 said about your boy:

BlogXilla.com, the number one blog all about sex and relationships writes a special blog post about Side Chicks. Here’s what Xilla had to say….


Bootlegs instead of opening night.
He says he can’t stand the crowds of opening nights, and his bootleg man “got those blockbuster DVD’s.” You rationalize it by saying Pop Secret is cheaper than $10 buckets of popcorn, but the real secret is you’re a side chick and you just been played. I take wifey out, I stay in with the side chick, it’s the main rule of having a side chick.

Voice Mail – When you call your dude, does the phone constantly go to voice mail, only for him to call you right back like a minute or 2 later? That’s because he had to walk out the house in order to get some privacy to talk to you. Some days he might even pick up, only to place you on hold while he walks out of the room to see what you want.

The Crib - This is very important, so pay attention. If you’ve never been to his house, could be because he claims he has room mates (which you never met) or you’ve have been to his house, and he has no furniture, only an air mattress, a six pack of Corona’s, a shoe box full of magnums and maybe a Xbox 360 you just might be a side chick.

The Big Day - If he’s trying to go out with you, the day before or the day after Feb 14th, or he simply stops by in his work clothes with some flowers from Pathmark, a card from Duane Reid, a bag of red M&M’s and give you a kiss, gets a quickie and bounces. You might as well consider your self the side chick of the year.

I hope these small bits of information have been helpful in your quest to figure out if you’re a side chick or wifey. So now that you know, which one do you think you are? The Wifey or the Side Chick?

For the full post check out Hot97.com


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  • HeadMistress
    Why choose to be a villian OR a victim? Neither is respectable...

    The point about Karma not only pertaining to issues of love was the smartest thing said in this post, very on point

    Karma is a bitch

    So while "Villian A" is sleeping with "Victim A's" husband, chillin in "Victim A's" house

    "Villian B" may be somewhere...

    stealing "Villian A's" identity and cleaning out her life's savings
    slitting her mother's throat for the $40 in her purse
    putting a bullet in her brother's back
    OR
    maybe "Villian B" is HIV+ and sleeping with that same married man...maybe Karma decides that today, the astronomically small chance that the condom won't prevent transmission of the disease, is today and "Villian A" now becomes "Victim B"

    Karma is a bitch....

    This reasoning that the husband is responsible for his wife's happiness and we as women don't have to respect and care for one another...???

    IDK, are we to apply that same reasoning to every aspect of life, beyond matters of the heart...if I see your child or little sister snatched off the street, dragged into a car kicking and screaming should I conclude the same... that "her parents are responsible for her safety and well being, ain't my problem, do nothing"

    Karma is a bitch - she issues her punishment indiscriminately...so don't think because maybe your heart is closed to love and romantic relationships that you won't be repaid by Karma, she can and will touch any aspect of your life, whatever is as important to you as that wife's husband is to her...
  • DomiMami
    And let the chuch say....AMEN. Well thought out and so eloquently spoken.

    I married @ 20 and have been married for 8 years.
    Im sure before I was married, I unknowingly was the side chick.I say unknowingly because I (personally) was brought up to demand respect from ANY man I am dealing with on ANY level. And If I played that position, he had to have been treating me like wifey for me to not know that I was the runner up.

    I most def had my side dick before, but I was not in any serious relationship and the other party was more than willing to be super duper side dick.

    I agree with women needing to be more respectful to eachother as well as our own body as far as not dealing with anyone who is supposedly "commited" to someone. I'm glad I am in a REAL PARTNERSHIP where I dont have to deal with none of that shit. Hell, If I get that craving every once in awhile for some outside dick (or pussy for that matter) all I gotta do is tell my husband and we would make that happen quicker than rabbits buck!
  • HeadMistress
    Thanks...

    What you have is rare, so cherish it and congrats on achieving it!!!

    I think what you said here - "Hell, If I get that craving every once in awhile for some outside dick (or pussy for that matter) all I gotta do is tell my husband and we would make that happen quicker than rabbits buck!" - is very important, the fact that your marriage and your communication with your husband is such that you can both knowingly and willingly make happen what you need to make happen is a subject that most couples won't even broach...

    An open relationship is not for everyone but if someone from the outside is invited in it should be at the comfort and knowledge of both partners in the marriage/relationship...there is no peace or love to be had in anyone's life/union when there are secrets and betrayals
  • Buzzy
    Everything you typed was about FEAR....and since i don't live my life based on FEAR....well......

    I think Karma is one of those things that is dipped in fear. Fear of living, fear of being happy, of living the life that you want to live.....do I believe in right and wrong....I guess to an extent yes, force is wrong, violence is wrong, oppression is wrong, etc, but these are things that are wrong on a soulful level, they are things that are wrong because of how they feel to the soul.....but having sex with a consenting adult doesn't strike me as wrong.....I think the whole point of karma is to believe that god will punish you for not following some word or order.....I don't believe in THAT god....I believe in the one, that knows perfection doesn't exist.
    For me this has nothing to do with a closed heart or karma, it's about me living the way I choose without fear, without taking away someone's free will, without oppression, without violence, all in peace and love......can you tell I grew up with open, hippie, granola eating, vegetarian, parents?
  • HeadMistress
    Everything I typed was about Common Decency.
  • Buzzy
    Yes, but I don't and won't allow someone to force me to conform to what they believe is decent. I'm decent, but I view it differently.
  • HeadMistress
    The interpretation of FEAR...the feeling of someone trying to force you to conform...you got all that from the opinions of strangers???

    If you truly believe you're decent, disagreeance from other's shouldn't matter...

    So as long as YOU'RE sure about your choices, carry on and be happy, from all your posts it sounds like you believe that you are...
  • Buzzy
    Oh, I don't care if you disagree, I'm just stating my viewpoint....just a good old fashion discussion....different viewpoints, and different opinions.....nothing serious. You gave your opinion, i gave mine. And is being and saying you're happy some evil sceam to destroy the world, because saying you're happy seems to rub some folks the wrong way.....
  • HeadMistress
    I'm not knocking your happiness nor does it rub me the wrong way, other people's happiness detracts nothing from me, in fact it makes life better, miserable people are the worst, more happiness is needed...

    Everyone has a different belief system, I can respect that without agreeing, and I don't believe for one minute that you should care about my viewpoint, but YOU replied to MY initial comment... sooooo maybe the lady doth protest too much
  • Buzzy
    Nope, just was enjoying the conversation. Sometimes these discussions can get really heated face to face, so when you can have a good, calm discussion with people that have a different belief, it can be fun, and rewarding. And I think you expressed your viewpoint well, I just wanted to throw mine in the discussion.
    And yes miserable people are yuck....so we can agree on that for sure! :)
  • Buzzy
    wait did i say "just was"....I was just enjoying the convo......
  • HeadMistress
    Definitely agree there...I can't imagine my life before BlogXilla...LOL...human behavior is soo intriguing, and a noninvasive peek into other peoples experiences and viewpoints can definitely be beneficial...
  • sexyma078
    Buzzy I dont know how you are so proud to be a homewrecker....I mean okay you have a man who is a liar and a cheat we get it...you are so low down that you would go where his wife and kids reside...check we get it...REMEMBER KARMAS A BITCH and it will bite that azz!!! and I am a very Happy individual I dont feel the need to say it (or Type it) every post...maybe someones masking something
  • Buzzy
    Huh? I say it every post? I didn't realize that.....maybe after living in a rough marriage for so long, I just want to scream it from the mountain top :) I don't believe I'm a homewrecker, I'm not trying to break up his home.....I really hope he stays.....i'd never trust him, and he'd never trust me....I know that wouldn't work. And I don't really beileve in monogomy so as far as Karma, well...........
  • Buzzy
    ok let's see, I've been to the movies with him a number of times, even though I don't really feel to comfortable with it.....as far as VM goes, I dont care....been to his house every other week for 6 years, or he's been to mine, sooo yeah....and V-Day, I don't care, I normally have fun with my kiddies....we're going shopping tomorrow...yippie! Am I a side chick, A mistress, the other woman? Sure, but above all of that I'm HAPPY!
  • Quiana
    Damn, I think I'm a side chick.
  • Isis
    Well I have played the other woman (no I'm not ashamed to admit it. Sometimes its easier being the villain rather then playing the victim). I have been to the crib (numerous times) The only time I've ever gotten VM was when he was at work. If a movie came out and I wanted to see it that day we went. And we spent V-day his b-day, and Christmas together (its all in scheduling ppl. . lol). . .

    @ Sexymama078 I take it that you've been a women scorned (not judging because I've been there more times then I care to share with ex fiance) but you can't blame the woman for the man whose breaking your heart, yeah shes also wrong but shes not the one lying, creeping and cheating he is and karma bites all involved. And I've also learned that you can only break up a home that was already in pieces (you dont have to even be trying)
  • KiitheFABone
    Isis i fell you 110%! i myslef have been the villian and the victim, but must say that being the villian was a far more rewarding postion! it's on the man to protect his woman's feelings and see to it that she doesn't get scourned! karma comes along with many situations this being just one of them! Oh and the part about the home in pieces...BAAAAABY that there aint nothing but the truth!
  • Isis
    Thank you, Thank you , Thank you. . . . .
    Especially the man protecting his woman feelings. Hes the one who ''claims'' to love her so isn't his job to protect her especially the one thing she given him that could break her (her heart) and also about the karma part. Karma comes with anything you do in life but for some reason ppl seem to only associate it with issues of love.
  • sexyma078
    do i have to be scorned in order to know right from wrong....NO....but why brag about the sh** to me it just shows how low our society is when you can brag on being the other women....have i done it yeah years ago when i was younger and I did not know that I was the other women because I demand the best and ensure it is givien to me...but say what you will on a post....I have seen many a miserable side chick jump off what ever you want to call it so im not buying the oh i have less to deal with its easier to play the villian bull...period...point and blank...me I have been married for 10 years has he cheated...he would never be fool enough to give me an ikling ( i like that post the other day to Xilla) but this has nothing to do with my PERSONAL situation it has to do with what I feel is right and what I feel is wrong
  • Isis
    Who's bragging ???.
    I to have seen many miserable side chicks but I know from experience they cause their own grief they began to love with the wrong parts and demand more of the man then he ever agreed to give. You don't have to buy it because it is what it is.

    I demand the utmost respect from any man i deal with and simply deciding to be on the side doesn't make me any less of a woman then the next (because it was my decision it wasn't chosen for me).

    Congrats on the ten years of marriage

    But since you feel he would never be fool enough to give u an inkling would u wan to know ???
  • I guess I never been a side chick b/c those never happend to Ness lol.

    Let me stop...I knw I've been the side chick(in the past past), but I got treated much better than tht.... (almost like I was the main chick) :)
  • LovelyLia
    Being a side chick isn't always that bad especially if you know your position and play it well because then 9/10 times you will get treated better than or just as good as wifey.....
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