The Art of Choking During Sex (Exotic Asphyxiation)

Posted in Rated Grown Up, Sexual Intellectuals on Jan 26, 2009

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  • The Multi Hand Choke: This method is used most by women when they’re on top. For some reason they think it’s okay to place their hands around a guys neck. Note to the guys, no matter how soft or hard you choke a woman, if she chokes you, she’s going to choke the ish out of you.
  • The Choke With Assistance: Once you figured out you and your mate like exotic affixation then it might be possible to bring in some help. By help I mean a scarf or some other form a prop. Besides one of the best dates a couple can have is a trip into a sex shop. Tons of fun.

In all before you start choking, know your partner. It’s no guarantee she’s going to like it, and if she say she won’t like it, more than likely she’ll like it if it’s done right. I find the best method is to apply a little bit of pressure just so she knows you’re there, but not too much pressure where she can’t breathe. The last thing you want to do is get time for busting a nut. Choking can be a very sexy and intimate way to turn your lover on if it’s done right.

Here is what my twitter friends have to say about it

  • yungmenace: Wow the funny part is my manager was telling me the other day about this chick that told him she loves being choked..lol..crazy!!
  • kingsmomma: Hell No, You can pull the hair, spank me, even playfully slap me but if i wanted to be raped i’d jog in Central Park after Dark.
  • melkyjns: slightly…not enough to pass out but definitely some pressure
  • kdizzle45: A slight tightening around the neck aint never hurt nobody. lol
  • Godiva06: why yes i do but not to the point i cant breathe or pass out just light pressure does the trick
  • TheJadedNYer: What the…? Naw, man, I watch SVU, that choking mess never ends well. Last thing I need is Benson & Stabler going thru my stuff!
  • myssmodelstar: yes !!! not to the point of turning blue though lol
  • SneakerKing: This chick I use to mess with did, that shit is a little weird, but she wanted it along with ranchy name calling ..

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  • Dizz
    I wish a dude would...he'd be kicked outta my bed PRONTO!!! I think it's just wierd but to each their own.
  • you don't know what you're missing. I'm telling you if he just puts his hand around your neck and lay's the pipe good you're going to cum so hard!! at least i do!! lol
  • Even if he just placed his hands around your neck?
  • Dizz
    Nope...makes me feel EXTREMELY uncomfortable, I don't like my neck touched at all.
  • I remember the first time I requested for my S.O (sig/other) to do that, he looked at me like I was crazy...but it's definitely something you have to be careful with..and the rush & slight lightheadness you feel just makes climaxing that much better. But to each his own, it's not for everyone.
  • but did he do it? I'm finding from the comments and emails I get from women that men are very conservative? Is this common?
  • yes, he did it..very carefully...and he enjoyed it b/c he saw that i was enjoying it.
  • monicakane420
    I love being choked, for some reason it turns me the f*ck on, if its done right of course. I find myseld having better O's when it's being done. :)
  • It's the air to the brain I believe. Do you request it though?
  • OMG I just got a good choke last night. I was up late reading your cinderella stories and I went to bed, rubbed up against my husband and got it popping and he was hittin it from the back and reach up and grabbed my neck and choked me. OMG OMG OMG!!

    To all the ladies who say they don't like that shit i say try it. At least once.
  • I concur all the ladies should try it at least once.
  • Christ on the Cross! WHERE do you get these pictures from??? LOL

    and I love kingsmomma's response... running in Central Park after dark indeed! HAHAHAHAHA!
  • BlogXilla
    Wasn't that hilarious!! I wanted to include it into the blog like in the paragraph but i couldn't figure out how... Greatness right there.
  • HeadMistress
    Exactly, did somebody say Robert Chambers?! and don't be modest Jaded NYer that Benson and Stabler goin thru my stuff shyt was funny as hell!!!! LOL
  • Hustler Honey
    I can dig it... While I'm on top and he would wrap both hands around and squeeze... i would tell him that he couldn't hurt me, I was never at the point of passing out... But I had a huge orgasm!!
  • yeah that's the key you can't be trying to kill them you gotta know when to apply the pressure and when to let go... you can't get caught up in the moment as a guy you know.
  • Hustler Honey
    No no... I've actually tried to piss him off to get him to put more pressure on.... I've been sucessful a couple of times but for the most part, he's pretty soft... LoL...
  • I'm glad to see other women like being choked! None of my girls like it. I love rough sex and choking ADD to the sensation.
  • In the word of Michael Jackson You are not alone!! lol
  • i like light choking...i like it cuz that means in control n he's makin sure he's serving the d*ck up real proper. Its the excitement...plus if dude adds a deep kiss while his hand in around my throat then I'm in love...

    damn...i was already horny as hell this morning n then i come on this site and make it worse. Damn u Xilla....
  • I figured that's why you were here!! You've been on Vacation!! lol
  • Lorilea
    I love when my Bay place his big ole hands aroung my neck. Makes me cum quick quick especially if he calls me out my name. YUMMY
  • I feel you, I know the biggest turn on is finding out that my girl likes to be called outside of her name. That right there just turns me on to no end... rough sex in general im a big fan.
  • Aww yeah...if we're getting it on and I'm feelin real kinky, a lil "You like that bitch?" will turn me on lol!
  • i DONT KNOW WHAT I WOULD DO IF A DUDE EVER CHOKED ME DURING SEX, AINT NO BODY EVER DO THAT, IF THEY DID IT BETTER FEEL GOOD CUZ IF IT DIDNT I'M STABBING THAT NUGGA QUICK!!
  • Sweet1coochbrown
    I must be choked, and while he's choking me I choke him back, and may even smack him so he doesn't bust! And name calling while choking is all part of the game.
  • oh absolutely not! I'm always down to try new things but this might just be a little too advanced for me...
  • MissSexED
    I look forward to my first choking...should be an enjoyable experience. Vanilla sex is lame!
  • BlogXilla
    In due time, I'm sure you'll find the right one to turn you out on all your sexual desires. lol
  • MissSexED
    I sure hope so because I have a lot!!
  • I like the pseudo choke, the medium choke, the playful choke and the multi hand choke!
    It's something about it that does something!!!!!!! ;) and I LUV when he leans in a kiss me softly as I gasp for air from the light choking to the heavy breathing of him being in me!

    I even like to choke a guy whn he's on top of me lol...lol. b/c it turns into a 'struggle' and it heightens things more and more!
  • I just did a post similar to this on my blog....sexual asphyxiation....interesting...
  • BlogXilla
    So I spelled it wrong? Aww shucks!! lol
  • shayna
    naaa not feeling choking at all.
    shit is just an instant turn off for me.
  • BlogXilla
    Question? Do you like Rough Sex? because to me rough sex without choking is like dropping out of school in 12 grade.
  • taytatott
    lmao!! that's all I can do!! a good choke is a turn on though.
  • BlogXilla
    You like the pictures huh?
  • SugarTits
    Used to.........neva again.
  • BlogXilla
    Why you stop? So if you man told you it turned him on would you not do it?
  • SugarTits
    I don't have a man. Maybe I would, maybe. There is just something that makes me feel uneasy about it. I would really have to trust him....like REALLY REALLY trust him.
  • Chinky
    I love to be choked.The harder the better for me(as long as it doesn't turn into a real choke,lol)

    I don't ask for it from just anyone I have a friend that I use exclusively for rough sex cause he knows what he's doing.
  • BlogXilla
    Yeah I can, see how that is, you go to where you know it's good. It's like when i go home I know where the hot spot is for food and all that other stuff.
  • EbonyLolita
    Don't forget that you need a safety word, Mine was OrangeJuice. LMAO!!! Obviously you don't engage in this behavior w/ random ppl. In the context of a serious relationship is always better/safer.
  • Isis
    I enjoyed this blog, Mr. Xilla!!!!
    I have to agree with the first type of choking that you mentioned. Light choking and/or the imagine of his hand around my neck is a major turn on for me. I love agressive men so maybe that's why I'm a huge fan of light choking.
  • xilla
    I'm very glad you liked it I figured most women either stood on the opposite side if the fence with this topic. But I knew you would luke this one
  • J. "Louie" The King Jr.
    Makes me wanna go find a chick and put her up against the wall "Soul Food" style and choke her out!
  • outofyourmind
    Hell yeah baby! I liked to be choked but not too hard. And I do agree that we women will choke the hell out of a guy. I guess we just assume that he's a guy and he can take it. I did the multi hand choke while he was on top and yelled "Cum motherf--ker!" over and over and he had like the greatest orgasm. LOL! So choking is GREAT for us.
  • Mr_Jones
    I'm not into stuff. I think I would put to much pressure and really choke her out.
  • Ok Xilla i'm going to be open minded and try this one day and if it goes wrong i'm pointing the authorities towards your site (in my journal since i'd probably be dead)
  • xilla
    Ok you can also use this blog to bring up the subject with you dude. Be luke all these women were saying it's great. Yada yada yada but I am not reliable for the stunts performed on this site LOL good luck.
  • and i'll use Xilla as my safe word...I'll let you know how this goes
  • Reesethe
    I got put on to this last year. Been getting it done ever since!!! Loves it. lol.
  • Yo Jones
    Ahhhh....the ole' "Choking Game". Well known amongst the Rubber-ballers and surburban white kids found dead hanging from their bunk bed with their mom's nylons wrapped around their necks. It's nice to see it's trickled down to the Everyman. I say--Choke while you Poke. It's 2009 and the Puritanical mores of old have worn thin.

    XO,

    yo
  • MrMarcusX
    Fellas if ya ain't laying some good wood to the fire "don't choke" her...that's abuse...the dick better be diggin that pussy out...you get a choke pass when the dick is poppin'....lmao.
  • Im going to diagree with your reasoning Xilla. I dont think its the lack of oxygen; shit, if he's choking that hard that a woman has difficulty breathing, then there's definitely a problem. But I think its more of a male's aggression, which would include some physical restraint, that is the ultimate pleaser. I think women who are more submissive in bed, like myself, desire for the Lucy to be "taken", if you will.
  • nynikki
    I would try it, but it would have to be with a man I trusted and who knows what "light pressure" means, lol.
  • HeadMistress
    ok, I've never been choked but it is sounding more and more appealing

    those last two you can absolutely forget, no effin way, the "off guard" one, eh, idk, the jury's still out on that one but the rest sound sexy and doable.....and safe ;)
  • reddoll
    If dudes boning got me running off the bed... I damn sure don't want his hands around my neck... lol
  • i admit i've did it, but it was kinda weird to me. it wasn't because i wanted to. it was because this chick was really that big of a freak. she even asked me to pull her dreads while i was hitting it from the back. it was no holds barred.. i was like awww man..where the camera at?
  • nynikki
    LOL at "where the camera at". Having your man pull your hair while getting it from the back is great stuff! It doesn't make her a freak, just means she knows what she likes and she ain't afraid to ask for it.
  • oh, i ain't gon' front i liked it!
  • I must admit that I love being choked. When I told my guy about it, he told me I was a certified freak, but I'm not...I'm just a sexual intellectual ;). But just a little pressure and I'm good. When the guy is on top and hitting it real hard and then he reaches up and chokes me...Oh my goodness -- it's great!!! But yes, to all the ladies who haven't or don't think they'd like it, try it AT LEAST once but 0NLY with someone ur truly comfortable with and tell him exactly how to do it.
  • Already! That shit is hot...and don't let him choke you while giving it to you hard and kissing your ear saying some shit like "Damn you got some good ass p*ssy I been wanting to f@ck the sh!t outta you all day" (lol that was long)...man...it's pretty much a wrap for me at that point! LOL But yea, you gotta be comfortable with the person for it to turn you on.
  • outofyourmind
    "Damn you got some good ass p*ssy I been wanting to f@ck the sh!t outta you all day"

    LOL! All dudes must use that line 'cause mine tells me the same thing. And by then I'm usually getting spanked and flipped all around the bedroom.
    Another good one is if you're spooning and he's got you by the neck and pulling your hair. WHOO!
  • DomiMami
    How flippin appropriate. I just got choked tonight......With a scarf. LADIES please do not try this with other objects until you are comfortable with your partner, married even. LOL. I have to be getting licked/softly biten there too so it takes the focus off actually getting choked. The SHIT~!
  • I friggin love when a guy chokes me during sex that shit turns me into a raging river down below...yea, I'm a freak so what!
  • DomiMami
    Hey Freak!
    Your in good company!
  • Hell Yeah. It's rare that I can find someone who can do it as well as the guy who introduced me to it so I opt out now (really don't want "death during sex" in my obituary). And it's not always the easiest thing for me to bring up.

    But when it's right it's good.
  • YehYouLikeDatHuh
    I think the whole choking thing can be good- if your man knows not to take it too far...
    At the end of the day, I believe women like the idea of being raped, and getting choked out is close to it (minus it being a real rape).
    I think women like to be controlled and dominated to a degree where we know a guy can and will do just about anything sick and nasty/kinky to us, and he wont think we're weirdos at the end of the day...and we won't charge him with rape in return...
    Some chicks just want a man to take the pussy, take it like sex deprived maniac in a back alley....
    yup!
  • shelly
    OMG...I LOVE IT. So hotttttt!!!!! Choke me Out!!!!!
  • Ayo! I was never down with the submission position but quickly became Chuck Choke Out when I lived in Japan. A lot of encounters I had with the asian community was really on this. When the first one asked me to choke her first thing I thought was Rising Sun with Wesley Snipes. I'm not trying to catch a body! Once I finally put my hands on her though.....WHOA! To see the excitement she got out of it was amazing.
  • Snatchandgrab
    I've been telling folks about that 4 years....it drives them (women) crazy. I told my homeboy to try it, but he got a little too rough and she beat the hell out of him.
  • MayMay81
    OMG!!! There is nothing better than getting stroked out from behind with a hand around your neck. That ish is like rainbows and unicorns... Or missionary with a little choking combined with lots of deep kissing...whew...**sending SOS text to the Dealer**
  • Janee
    I really cant do the choking thing...I'd get scared and tense up...just not comfortable with him having my life in his hands. om gonna pass
  • Yeah, I'm creeped out by being choked out. Somebody tried that on me once and never did it ever again. I was like oh hell no, not down, nope.
  • QueenofEngland
    Da hell?????? Don't you mean EROTIC not EXOTIC, I'm just sayin........
  • p
    choking is fun.i like when my man does it but h gets carried away sometimes.....but i love it
  • Erin
    I love being choked as hard as possible for a short period of time.
  • Mal
    I really had no idea how much shawties enjoyed getting choked until today. I mean I know ive heard people talk about it n joke about tha shit, but i didn't know it was DAT real. I was talkin to a friend of mine who said she enjoyed bein choked n I looked tha shit up online. I came across this n saw how many other women enjoyed it. I bout 2 try it out lol, but not too aggressive cuz I agree with JadedNyer, Im not tryna see SVU comin 2 my crib...
  • Aykay
    I love it when my boyfriend holds me to him with his arm while taking my from behind. sooooo hot
  • Sammy
    See lol, I told my sister to let a dude choke her out and she didnt believe me. Funny blog :)
  • Sammy
    And...about the saftey word...How u suppose to say orangejuice if u can't breath? U gone look real stupid trying to get them words out. hahahaha.
  • Kris
    MMM.. hell yes. I recently found out I LOVE it when my man wraps his hands around my neck during The Deed. I'm a huge fan of rough sex, and the added sensation is crazy good. Last night while I was on top he was pulling me down by the hip with one hand, and the other was on the front of my neck, pushing me up. Left a couple awkward to explain bruises, but DAMN was it good!
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