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Tricking 101 – The Do’s And Don’t Of Tricking
Posted in Relationships on 06. Jan, 2009
Listen to your favorite hip hop radio station and you’re bound to hear a rapper say “it ain’t tricking if you got it.” Well I’m here to tell you that yes it is tricking, but it’s all right to trick. Dudes, it’s okay to buy gifts for a woman, we don’t need to make “It ain’t tricking if you got it” into the new “No Homo”. Today I’ll break down tricking and explain why a man should trick, when to trick and how to trick and finally why it’s okay to trick, but only if you got it.
Why Men Trick – Men trick for one of two reason, either we like you, or we want you in a hot Cinderella story type of way.
A lot of women are weary of men spending money on them because most of the times men spend money because we want to have sex with a girl. Understandable, but think about this. Are most male, female relationships driving by a sexual attraction? Think about it would you get into a relationship with someone because you like how this person shakes your hand when they greet you? I’m sure some people do, but for the most part it’s because you find this person attractive and you want to do things with them that you seen Mr. Marcus and Havana Ginger do on Zshare .
They say a woman knows if she will sleep with a man from the moment she meets him, and the rest is just a matter of time. Well, it’s the same with a man, but in our case it falls into two categories: we really like you and want to be with you, and don’t mind spending a little bit of money to have a good time, give you nice things or just want to spoil the girl who we want to be our future wife. All other times we just want to smash. (have sex)
Even with this I say what’s the big deal? As a sexual intellectual, you should have control over who you sleep with and how you dish out the vagina. If a few gifts control who you give it up to, then you need to hand in your sexual intellectual card and go stand in the hoe line. Let a guy trick on you, if he’s willing to spend as a woman it’s you dutie to be willing to except. Just be cautions when giving up the vagina.
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very well thought out and argued. I don't mind a gift or two that is thoughtful, unique, and n't make me feel cheap. The problem of tricking arises when I feel like the only reason Im getting something is because he wants something in return. That's when I fade to black.
Very true, I tried for it to be balanced and thought out when I wrote it lol But doesn't everyone only do things because they want something in return?
Yes everyone wants something iin return he problem is when its more than a thank you and company that is desired.
If a guy is spending or anything too excessively I would be cautious of what he lacks in other areas, why do you feel you have to buy my love (if his desires aren't purely sexual) do you feel your personality, convo, sex game is lacking and you make up for it this way….If it all about the sex I would be concerned as to how many “tricks” there have been before me…I mean either way you look at it tricking is trick….
And lets clarify if you are buying a gift for someone you love or hope to love oe dy that's not tricking….tricking is Money and or gifts in exchange for some azz period point blank….Gifting your girl is gifting your girl…..when TI is buying Tiny all those purses thats gifting his girl…..when the jump off on the Tour bus gets on that tricking!!
I thnk everyone has the potential tor trick on someone.
Sometimes guys do it more than females but there's some females that will hit a guy off w/ money or gift just b/c he got her strung out on tht vitamin D lol.
I never really accept “gifts” unless it's from someone I'm dating or have been involved w/…tht's just my personal pref. I've alwys felt like if I accept a gift from the wrong guy, he may feel the need to pop at the my place of residence or job…& tht's not cool…lol
It's cool to do somethng nice 4 sum1 u care about
just as long as the line of communication is clear 
lol @ “strung out on that vitamin D…its so true though. And them females is the ones that make it harder for us. I aint giving just any man my money/ gifts, I dont care how good it is.
Xilla, what about dudes like T-Pain that talk about tricking strippers in the strip club? I get tired of hearing about tricking and it sounds like a guy that does all this tricking has nothing else to offer other than gifts and money. You are right, money does not buy love.
Oh yeah, and TI's “Whatever you like” is another tricking song that gets on my nerves. Just saying.
I ain't spending my money on no nigg** I'm old fashion i'd have to be damn near married before I give up a dollar. in a ten year relationship and If i gave up a dollar i had my hand out for it back. no sir no maam. I believe it's the man job to court that's just me….
All I got to say is this:
If u gonna throw it in my face later—-don't bother!
If u think u are getting something back GURANTEED—–don't bother
If ur too broke to put gas in the whip (on Empty), then spend $100 on dinner it makes u look corny, tryin too hard, we notice…
Just cause ur ex girl liked it, doesn't mean I will too. I may HATE Coach and prefer Dooney. Pay attention to what she/he likes/needs. I'd rather get a gift that was thoughful and needed than another one of something I already have 50 of.
Very True!
That is all true, I have a friend that tricks on me. I work and have 2 kids, he looks out for me and my mines and never even tried to hit. We have a strong friendship and a understanding. He always tells me he like me alot and the things he buys for myself and my children is not an attempt to get into my pants its just that, thats his way of showing me he likes me.We've been friends for almost 4 1/2 years. My one friend tells me that he is stupid for doing for me since he never tried to hit. I'm like how, you must have not had a man do for you or buy you anything without having to have sex w/them. She's the only friend that thinks that. I sounds like she's jealous and hating that I have such a friend that will spend some money and not expect nothing in return. What do you think?
Ness, I'm going to need you to be the hell quiet, LMAO!!
I told ya'll in the last blog the man did some shit to me sexually a bitch went out and bought a ring. I buy him nice things all the time. But not material things. For instance, he moved into his new place. He laid it down one night, I went out and got his ass a toaster oven, kitchen curtains, and all his bathroom amenities.
Yea, the Vitamin 'D', will have a bitch shopping, LOL!!! But all in all thats my baby, and the love/buying is reciprocated.
LMAO!!!! hahahahahahahahaha!!!!!
PRECISELY!
Nothin worse than gettin some shyt you don't like, want or need just because every other simple bytch he knows would sell her soul for it!
I had this chick who use to fill up the tank and buy a brotha a fit when I would come down to do what a do…. If you slang vitamin D you got a gift brah, females say it cant happen to them until they up in the morning servin pancakes with eggs lol sunny side up please
yea they do. whiteboys send the random bird of paradise just because. brothas buy the 1/2 dead roses offa the e-way then wanna rub on yo booty afta work. i don't understand how w/in our culture being thoughtful is tricking, while in others its just “what u do when ur dating”
Its tricking if ya got it. The rappers do it because most of those jokers are ugly as hell and before they had loot they couldn't get no play. I had a “girlfriend” who used to get money from a couple of ball players to help me pay the rent. If I was short, she used to make a call.
dunno about that being objective crap. im gonna lay it to you straight. dudes trick because they want to have sex with you or they want to marry you. Forget about that “just hang out crap”. If a dude is tricking off on you and yall havent had sex yet, he wants to hit but he doesnt have the balls or the know how to get the job done so he will “hang around” hoping that it happens one day. A woman is more likely to buy gifts from their heart but some do it just to keep a dude around. My advice is to go 50/50 while dating. you pay for dinner or whatever this time. she gets it the next time. If you dating someone without a job or got kids and crazy bills, thats your problem.
As far as tricking off in the strip club goes, If he has a girl and is in the strip club tricking off, then his girl isnt fulfilling his sexual appetite 100% (example – he likes a big ass but you dont have one). Getting to know what your man wants sexually is scary as hell so if you want to know, be ready for the unexpected(if he aint scared to tell you). If a dude desnt have a girl and cant stay out the strip club, he's a trick period. Its his money so he can do whatever he wants, but he still a Trick. End of story. keep it pimpin and im out.
men do trick women for their personal need. great informative post. I like it very much.
AWESOME Post!!!
Never had it broken down quite as objectively as U have here.
THANXXX for the greenlight on tricking…when I got it!!!