Comments on: Be A Better Lover: What Do You Bring To A Relationship

By: p-lo

p-lo — Thu, 18 Dec 2008 00:52:23 +0000

::wipes one tear away::
I love this posttt!!
i agree with you 1000%.ppl sometimes jumps into a relationship just because, just to be happy for now, or because the person lives somewhere else and they get to visit that spot (damn shame but it happens) or just so they can telll their friends and show off to others. Now they have someone that is all that in their life-bull shyt!!
funny thing is they're so easy to say “i love you, and i'm in love with you” within weeks-bull shytt too!!
but within months or a year later they can't take it anymore, can't be a woman and be serious, can't be strong enough (lames) meanwhile they made the person thinks it's all about them when it's not and just fucks with their heart….I am single and planing on staying that way…I am happy now and improving my life, my self, my being, well being, progressing, trying to achieve my goal, I put myself first now..and if i ever get into a relationship again I know I have learned and I would make sure the person's worth my precious time, and have to proved their love for me!!

By: Roxychic

Roxychic — Sat, 13 Dec 2008 08:15:42 +0000

I've been told everything from “there's absolutely nothing wrong with you..”, “you're the perfect wifey” etc etc. But I'm in college. and that means I'm not necessarily dealing with the WISEst of the bunch. so they say whatever they want. but I have that confidence to know that already I'm a willing individual. i feel that covers alot of things from trust to lovemaking etc. I feel it's important that we are willing to GROW together. bc like you, that's what I'm about. Ultimately its working towards Gods design for each others lives as a TEAM. I don't have an issue with kids. I used to, but I don't. many young men are younger than 25 with kids, i had a 3 hr conversation with one the other night. his personal feelings are that its unfair he won't recieve a second look once they find out. he's very smart,attractive, charasmatic and sweet with alot to offer someone. so i won't hold kids against anyone.
how many people can count how many lovers they have had who has made it their personal mission to be held accountable for their partners happiness? its rough maintaining YOUR OWN. I have devotion. I'm a very caring person by nature,to a fault as cliche as that sounds. I want to grow into a relationship where there's understanding and appreciation that we both have the security and confidence in ourselves to form a union,taking eachother AS IS. I know its important to recognize each others strength and weaknesses. so we fill in where each other comes short. just make each other better.
on a side note, I look at Will and Jada as a nice model. they seem like such a TEAM, lol each wanting no less than the world. so they take it on together.

By: Thoney Gangstasweet

Thoney Gangstasweet — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 10:22:15 +0000

its the least i could do lol u done changt[yes i made up that word, since head gets to make up words hehehe ;D] my whole view on the chi, men here, etc…. lol i owed u 1!

don't over think it though. sometimes we can just want soooo much that we over do it….i don't think u would tho since ur going to be kinda far, but still….

By: Thoney Gangstasweet

Thoney Gangstasweet — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 10:13:39 +0000

u know that comes complete with a hand pushed out[like talk to the hand] and salute and erthang! i am the silliest most animated blogee u'll meet! ;D

By: Ant_from_Chi

Ant_from_Chi — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 09:36:25 +0000

Thank you sistas for your comments. Trust me I will pay heed. I already decided though that I was not going tobe moving fast. There's no reason to. I would rather take a long deep look at her and at myself before I make any commitments. I appreciate yall looking out.

By: HeadMistress

HeadMistress — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 08:26:00 +0000

@ Ant – thoney is soooo right

some of the strongest, long lasting, realest (yes I said “realest”, b/c sometimes you just gotta make up a word…LOL) relationships come when you least expect it, when you're not looking…and being content and happy with yourself and your life now is perfect timing b/c then you have what it takes to “not make” but “share” in the contentment and happiness that hopefully she is experiencing in her life at this same moment…

it's exciting but don't overthink it, let whatever is gonna happen, happen…naturally

By: HeadMistress

HeadMistress — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 07:59:20 +0000

ROFLMAOOL, yo you kill me with that capn crazy shyt!

By: Thoney Gangstasweet

Thoney Gangstasweet — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 23:12:47 +0000

WELL SAID! i couldn't agree more. i would hope that a man's child come's first, and i want to be first in his life, same with MY kid! UH!

By: Ness

Ness — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 22:51:14 +0000

WOW!!! Tht's crzy!!! No wonder he was set up on a blind date.

But I would've done the same thing b/c who gives a sh*t on the first date. And then he tried to call YOU a gold digger just b/c he has 2 kids?! WTF!

Some ppl need to get their mind right and their sh*t together...lol

By: Ess

Ess — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 22:27:53 +0000

Its not selfish, how is it selfish for someone to want exactly what they can give?
Tell me how can a man with a previous child give his new lady his ALL with a child or children from a past situation? He cant. Cuz he is giving some to his child and her mother of that child. Or Id hope that he is.

Actually a female who would accept that when she doesnt have the same situation would be accepting less and that love that she would be getting from that man would be conditional.
It would be under the conditions of, yes I love you and you are important to me. But the needs for my child comes first. Which is totally understandable and respectable.

Now as a female who doesnt have children, it would be MY choice to be involved with something like that and if I choose not to. Im far from selfish. I just know how important a man can be in my life and want the same in return.. w/o those conditions of being put to the side for a man's child.