Comments on: From The Vault: Don’t Check It, You Won’t Like What You See http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2008/12/05/from-the-vault-dont-check-it-you-wont-like-what-you-see/ The Premiere Urban Relationship Blog Online Sat, 21 Nov 2009 04:32:13 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.1 hourly 1 By: p-lo http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2008/12/05/from-the-vault-dont-check-it-you-wont-like-what-you-see/comment-page-2/#comment-7637 p-lo Thu, 18 Dec 2008 00:35:53 +0000 http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2008/12/05/from-the-vault-dont-check-it-you-wont-like-what-you-see/#comment-7637 but it's better to find out either way cause what if you'd never checked that phone? you'd still look lkike a fool thinking you're in a relationship...and you're right chating is not cool, but either way that shytt will come back to the person sooner or later... but it's better to find out either way cause what if you'd never checked that phone? you'd still look lkike a fool thinking you're in a relationship…and you're right chating is not cool, but either way that shytt will come back to the person sooner or later…

]]> By: Roxychic http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2008/12/05/from-the-vault-dont-check-it-you-wont-like-what-you-see/comment-page-2/#comment-7636 Roxychic Sat, 13 Dec 2008 06:23:51 +0000 http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2008/12/05/from-the-vault-dont-check-it-you-wont-like-what-you-see/#comment-7636 OK, so I've read enough comments to know i'm not the only thats fallen victim to checking your sig's fone. It wasn't something I did often, but I was bound to find something. <br>"....but it also shows me how men can sometimes have a disregard/ lack of respect for the woman they "love". " that was very true [to me]. I hate when dudes lie. I'd like to think I'm a big enough girl that you just keep it a 100 with me and *I* decide whether I'll stay or not. I DETEST lies. really.<br><br> he was one of those 'honest, yea im real' cats and i thought bc he was a friend first and hell, a 'good' person, i wouldnt have to worry about shit like that. but fbook,myspace, the way communication is it makes it so easy to have shit out in the open. so i always saw some bullshit that bothered me. he tried to play that role with me where "he tells all the girls about each other because thats being honest.. : / ...soooo I don't worry about his fone no more even tho i get tempted when he leaves his shit around [he used to but since we had become a lil serious he started NOT to, i caught that shit lol]. my main thing is now that i learned my lesson??<br><br>YOU ARE OF ABSOLUTELY NO USE TO ME BECAUSE I CAN'T TRUST YOU. <br><br>it's WRONG PERIOD to play with someones feelings,but it's not the guys fault if you stick around for his dumb shit AFTER you know he's not sincerely invested in what you and him can have together. OK, so I've read enough comments to know i'm not the only thats fallen victim to checking your sig's fone. It wasn't something I did often, but I was bound to find something.
“….but it also shows me how men can sometimes have a disregard/ lack of respect for the woman they “love”. ” that was very true [to me]. I hate when dudes lie. I'd like to think I'm a big enough girl that you just keep it a 100 with me and *I* decide whether I'll stay or not. I DETEST lies. really.

he was one of those 'honest, yea im real' cats and i thought bc he was a friend first and hell, a 'good' person, i wouldnt have to worry about shit like that. but fbook,myspace, the way communication is it makes it so easy to have shit out in the open. so i always saw some bullshit that bothered me. he tried to play that role with me where “he tells all the girls about each other because thats being honest.. : / …soooo I don't worry about his fone no more even tho i get tempted when he leaves his shit around [he used to but since we had become a lil serious he started NOT to, i caught that shit lol]. my main thing is now that i learned my lesson??

YOU ARE OF ABSOLUTELY NO USE TO ME BECAUSE I CAN'T TRUST YOU.

it's WRONG PERIOD to play with someones feelings,but it's not the guys fault if you stick around for his dumb shit AFTER you know he's not sincerely invested in what you and him can have together.

]]> By: HeadMistress http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2008/12/05/from-the-vault-dont-check-it-you-wont-like-what-you-see/comment-page-2/#comment-7553 HeadMistress Tue, 09 Dec 2008 06:59:23 +0000 http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2008/12/05/from-the-vault-dont-check-it-you-wont-like-what-you-see/#comment-7553 Yeah, the "history" changes everything...good call! Yeah, the “history” changes everything…good call!

]]> By: Ant_from_Chi http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2008/12/05/from-the-vault-dont-check-it-you-wont-like-what-you-see/comment-page-2/#comment-7552 Ant_from_Chi Tue, 09 Dec 2008 06:50:31 +0000 http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2008/12/05/from-the-vault-dont-check-it-you-wont-like-what-you-see/#comment-7552 I don't want to tell her. She and I have some history. Long, long time ago history, but history none the less. Now I am just really tight with her and her whole family. I'm even cool with him and made it a point to make him feel comfortable when we're all together.<br><br>I think he said that in front of me to get a reaction. Maybe he's trying to self destruct. What I have decided to do is talk to him. I left him a voicemail to call me, but he hasn't yet. I'm going to explain to him that I am not going to say anything to her about what you alluded to, but at the same time, you are on notice that I don't ever want to hear anything like that come from you to me and that you need to consider what you are doing and be a man about your shit.<br><br><br>No matter what though you're right. Tough situation. I don't want to tell her. She and I have some history. Long, long time ago history, but history none the less. Now I am just really tight with her and her whole family. I'm even cool with him and made it a point to make him feel comfortable when we're all together.

I think he said that in front of me to get a reaction. Maybe he's trying to self destruct. What I have decided to do is talk to him. I left him a voicemail to call me, but he hasn't yet. I'm going to explain to him that I am not going to say anything to her about what you alluded to, but at the same time, you are on notice that I don't ever want to hear anything like that come from you to me and that you need to consider what you are doing and be a man about your shit.

No matter what though you're right. Tough situation.

]]> By: HeadMistress http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2008/12/05/from-the-vault-dont-check-it-you-wont-like-what-you-see/comment-page-2/#comment-7551 HeadMistress Tue, 09 Dec 2008 05:45:16 +0000 http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2008/12/05/from-the-vault-dont-check-it-you-wont-like-what-you-see/#comment-7551 As a woman, I think this kind of news coming from a platonic male friend may be a lot easier to accept than coming from a female friend...<br><br>Another idea, provided it's your plan to tell her, is to give him the opportunity to tell her himself and that if he doesn't you certainly will, this however could also backfire in too many ways to name...<br><br>tough situation... As a woman, I think this kind of news coming from a platonic male friend may be a lot easier to accept than coming from a female friend…

Another idea, provided it's your plan to tell her, is to give him the opportunity to tell her himself and that if he doesn't you certainly will, this however could also backfire in too many ways to name…

tough situation…

]]> By: Thoney Gangstasweet http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2008/12/05/from-the-vault-dont-check-it-you-wont-like-what-you-see/comment-page-2/#comment-7631 Thoney Gangstasweet Tue, 09 Dec 2008 04:27:27 +0000 http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2008/12/05/from-the-vault-dont-check-it-you-wont-like-what-you-see/#comment-7631 lol sharing is caring and i don't wanna not mention that i relate to where u all are, i've been tempted but i practice restraint. my mother, sister, and most of my friends are like u....i see the hurt and energy wasted and its just ming boggling to me...<br>i think thas my prob mistress. i have TOO MUCH control. u gotta learn to let go and let love...i dunnooooo! lol sharing is caring and i don't wanna not mention that i relate to where u all are, i've been tempted but i practice restraint. my mother, sister, and most of my friends are like u….i see the hurt and energy wasted and its just ming boggling to me…
i think thas my prob mistress. i have TOO MUCH control. u gotta learn to let go and let love…i dunnooooo!

]]> By: Thoney Gangstasweet http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2008/12/05/from-the-vault-dont-check-it-you-wont-like-what-you-see/comment-page-2/#comment-7629 Thoney Gangstasweet Tue, 09 Dec 2008 02:53:07 +0000 http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2008/12/05/from-the-vault-dont-check-it-you-wont-like-what-you-see/#comment-7629 you don't understand correctly. he was a football player and i'm into getting my fitness on. he asked me to bring this underarmour wear that had been left at my house after we worked out. being a man and stupid he didn't time his ish right, and there ya go! i left the clothes on the porch and wrote a note "we are no longer TnT, as something a tad more explosive just drove past me. please return my fishing pole and donate whatever clothes i left here to charity" i know it sounds madd dramatic, but i'm just a bit more icy than most women. he's in the nfl to this day and will still try to occassionally fall back, explain. leaving things so abruptly f'd him up. had i done the typical crazy woman than he would have been able to let go of me more easily.<br><br>i have no respect for the women that reduce themselves to sherlock ho's, as that behavior its tacky and classless, but eh i'm an ass.[thus the pic lol] you don't understand correctly. he was a football player and i'm into getting my fitness on. he asked me to bring this underarmour wear that had been left at my house after we worked out. being a man and stupid he didn't time his ish right, and there ya go! i left the clothes on the porch and wrote a note “we are no longer TnT, as something a tad more explosive just drove past me. please return my fishing pole and donate whatever clothes i left here to charity” i know it sounds madd dramatic, but i'm just a bit more icy than most women. he's in the nfl to this day and will still try to occassionally fall back, explain. leaving things so abruptly f'd him up. had i done the typical crazy woman than he would have been able to let go of me more easily.

i have no respect for the women that reduce themselves to sherlock ho's, as that behavior its tacky and classless, but eh i'm an ass.[thus the pic lol]

]]> By: HeadMistress http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2008/12/05/from-the-vault-dont-check-it-you-wont-like-what-you-see/comment-page-2/#comment-7630 HeadMistress Tue, 09 Dec 2008 02:17:17 +0000 http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2008/12/05/from-the-vault-dont-check-it-you-wont-like-what-you-see/#comment-7630 Gotcha, sounds like you got it under control...<br><br>Someone is bound the benefit from your experience...gotta love this blog...Sharing is Caring :-D Gotcha, sounds like you got it under control…

Someone is bound the benefit from your experience…gotta love this blog…Sharing is Caring :-D

]]> By: cristalbubblin http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2008/12/05/from-the-vault-dont-check-it-you-wont-like-what-you-see/comment-page-2/#comment-7635 cristalbubblin Tue, 09 Dec 2008 01:29:44 +0000 http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2008/12/05/from-the-vault-dont-check-it-you-wont-like-what-you-see/#comment-7635 It's crazy because I've only done it once EVER & that was this weekend LOL I just wanted to have evidence of my suspicion thank sweet baby Jesus I was wrong. On the flip, I've been called cold or uncaring(if thats a word) because I didnt go thru his stuff. As many people have previously, stated if u go looking u will find something & really that shit is not cool especially if you aint payin the bill on dat ho!! It's crazy because I've only done it once EVER & that was this weekend LOL I just wanted to have evidence of my suspicion thank sweet baby Jesus I was wrong. On the flip, I've been called cold or uncaring(if thats a word) because I didnt go thru his stuff. As many people have previously, stated if u go looking u will find something & really that shit is not cool especially if you aint payin the bill on dat ho!!

]]> By: Ant_from_Chi http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2008/12/05/from-the-vault-dont-check-it-you-wont-like-what-you-see/comment-page-2/#comment-7550 Ant_from_Chi Mon, 08 Dec 2008 21:34:46 +0000 http://blogxilla.com/blog3/2008/12/05/from-the-vault-dont-check-it-you-wont-like-what-you-see/#comment-7550 Xilla, I have a topic to debate. You probably already covered this, but I must have missed it. Anyway, I had a party the other night and one of my favorite non sexual lady friends was there. Her man came later. Me and a couple of my friends were in the kitchen eating when he came in. He walked to us, gave pounds all around, then joined the conversation. I asked him if he had seen the fight and he says "I didn't see it, (Blank) thought I was there, but I was somewhere else. I had to call one of the homies to get the info so that when she asked me later, I would know what happened."<br><br>Now granted, he didn't say that he was out fucking around, but he certainly alluded to it. My question now to you is, what would you do in a situation like this. Keep in mind that she is the one that's my friend and I know him through her. I already know what I am going to do, I just want to know what you and the rest of the community have to say about this. I'm really tempted to tell her because they are about to buy a house together and they have kids, but you know how it could go. What I am going to do though is call him and let him know that he is going to fuck up his relationship, among other things. And that he should be careful who he says these type of things in front of, especially since one of the cats who heard it was trying to holla at (Blank) before he got there.<br><br>Anyway, the party was great. a couple of people got in trouble because they was out too late and/or up in some chicks face they wasn't supposed to be in. Good times. Wish you all could have been there. Xilla, I have a topic to debate. You probably already covered this, but I must have missed it. Anyway, I had a party the other night and one of my favorite non sexual lady friends was there. Her man came later. Me and a couple of my friends were in the kitchen eating when he came in. He walked to us, gave pounds all around, then joined the conversation. I asked him if he had seen the fight and he says “I didn't see it, (Blank) thought I was there, but I was somewhere else. I had to call one of the homies to get the info so that when she asked me later, I would know what happened.”

Now granted, he didn't say that he was out fucking around, but he certainly alluded to it. My question now to you is, what would you do in a situation like this. Keep in mind that she is the one that's my friend and I know him through her. I already know what I am going to do, I just want to know what you and the rest of the community have to say about this. I'm really tempted to tell her because they are about to buy a house together and they have kids, but you know how it could go. What I am going to do though is call him and let him know that he is going to fuck up his relationship, among other things. And that he should be careful who he says these type of things in front of, especially since one of the cats who heard it was trying to holla at (Blank) before he got there.

Anyway, the party was great. a couple of people got in trouble because they was out too late and/or up in some chicks face they wasn't supposed to be in. Good times. Wish you all could have been there.

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