To Stick Or Not To Stick

Posted in Rated Grown Up on Oct 22, 2008

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The following was written by Just Steph for BlogXilla.com

There are some parts of the male body that should be strictly off limits. I happen to be very open, sexual, and enjoy all parts of my body being pleasured even that part, especially that part. It may very well be that I am even a bit “anal” (pun intended). The very idea of me, on all fours, a** in the air, being licked from the rooty to the tooty drives me wild. But, what about a man’s anal area?

The image of ANY man on all fours a** up, sends shivers up my spine. It’s very possible that he is not on the d.l. , but it still worries me all the same. Ill admit that I have tried this and it has left me feeling a bit weird. Sure, there were wonderful sensations and he agreed it was amazing. His a** in the air biting the pillow as I get to licking! I just can’t get over this mental picture in my mind. Hmmmm? I have read that fingers in the a** create an unbelievable climax for men-so I’ve heard, but never actually tried.

How do you approach this subject with your man? Do you simply take matters into your own hands and just do it? Or, do you bring it up during casual conversation over Monday Night Football while eating wings and sipping beer? I mean men are on all fours then right? Tragedy! It has led me to this final conclusion: neither tongue, nor toy, nor finger should ever be able to infringe upon this male territory. Am I wrong? Ladies (and some gents) to lick or not to lick? The even greater question would be, to stick or not to stick. Yeah, that’s an even better question.

Have you ever stuck your finger up a man a**? What happened? If not would you?


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  • Should I even answer this?
    Sigh...I will
    Yes I have, he enjoyed it obviously (I know because he would motion for me to probe him when drunk) but when sober said he didn't because he thought that made him gay.
    Fellas- don't knock it til you try it!
    Pay attention to how your body reactions when you are about to release...it the thing that tightens up can't do it, all of your pleasure is more focused up front.
    That was my adult comment for the year.
  • LADYNEWSOME
    Well why would he only like it when drunk. Is he more free to be himself or let go of all of his fears. See that would scare me cause it's a part of him that knows something is soooooo wrong with that. Also does it ever cross your mind that the right amount of liquor and in different circumstances would he actually be up for some DL action.
  • He was not a DL guy. He was a FREAK...wanted threesomes and such...was not
    for me. It was fun while it lasted.
  • LADYNEWSOME
    I totally understand but remember no matter what you do PLEASE be safe life
    is to precious and from your photo you look like a beautiful young woman who
    could easily get a man who would allow you to be his personal freak (no
    threesomes) real love dose not share and someday become someone's wifey
  • Oh, I know that...hence the words WAS fun. I don't share and will not accept
    a man that will share me or himself with another....male or female.
    I expect to get what I give. My current situation is MUCH better!
  • LADYNEWSOME
    Good sounds like you got a straight head
  • Thanks, and so do you!
  • DC_REALEST
    somebody say DL....sike im joking. but if he do...tell em holla at me. real talk. nah, im just bs'n.
  • LADYNEWSOME
    DC you are true to yourself but I'm gonna pray for you
  • DC_REALEST
    aye LADYNEWSOME... preciate that...i (we all) could use all the prayer.

    be easy....its been REAL
  • ANuJS
    I was not placed on this earth to judge any man....so I shall simple agree. We ALL need prayer!

    BTW I like u DC!
  • LADYNEWSOME
    Thanks and we all could use it peace be easy
  • ANuJS
    I know that it is a pleasurable sensation, but it is a gross experience. My bedroom double standard...God knows men have enough for me to have this ONE!
  • LOL Fair enough! If you ain't comfortable then it isn't a pleasure!
  • 404
    It's OK to lick......NEVA STICK!!!
  • ANuJS
    Licking disturbs me! Being licked?Not so much.
  • 404
    Awwww COME ON! What if that's what Mike wants? You not gone toss his salad? lol
  • Kee
    I agree JustSteph..."neither tongue, nor toy, nor finger should ever be able to infringe upon this male territory". I would imagine that it would have you feeling a certain way or thinking unpleasant thoughts when you think of your man actually enjoying it. (UGH)
  • Ess
    I dont appraoch this subject.
    This is the one and only reaction I expect if I were to ask my man if I can stick my finger in his asshole: "bitch dont make me punch you in your face.."

    ^^^ That would be acceptable in that exchange. My TYPE of man.. Would be offended by some shit like this.
    Im not interested in "milking"....NO MAN! GTFOH.
  • MayMay81
    Lmmfao @ "bitch don't make me punch you in your face..."!!! I'll take that any day over "yeah baby, play wit my booty..."
  • too funny!!!
  • LMAO!!!!
  • I would have to be drunk off my ass to put my finger up there...let alone my tongue. I'm not trying to pull out any stinky surprises.

    klj
  • Geneva
    I have played with the a**hole of my man before. I didn't stick my finger all up there, but a little pressure with the thumb while giving him head had him moaning like crazy. We both enjoyed it.
  • I do not lick ass Sam i Am. Not in the bed, no during head.

    This topic doesn't come up. it may be open for discussion for you to try it on me but we will not even have this talk. I'm not sure how that convo would go. Sitting around drinking beer and munchingon wing.

    "Shouts" TOUCH DOWN...by the way babe would you like me to lick your ass after i suck your dick?
    that indeed a penalty
  • Killa
    That is such an "OFF LIMITS" area...I would kick a dude out my bed and might try to fight him if he even thought about asking me that shit. I have NEVER thought about doing or asking...HELL NAW!!
  • whatsherface
    yes I have.. and my sister who is married gave me that tip and said it would make him go wild.. She was ohhhh so right.you just gently slide a finger smooth in his ass when he is about to climax and he will shoot so hard he will leave a whole in your throat..LOL. but it matters the dude and his confidence level.. and the way you get down in bed.. bc I think components of your intimate affairs are different for everyone.. my man and I have been together for over five years and I am not allowed anywhere NEAR or closely remote to his backside.. but you give him some fire a#@ brain.. and he is mopping floors the next day..
  • ANuJS
    Okay, here's my question? How did they get the fingers to fit? Did they lube? (More disturbing images) or was he already wide open (more disturbing images...still). I just am not sure how to get then up there. I've heard it was great....I just can't bring myself to stick my finger in.
  • no lube
    just lots of patience! lol.
    I guess mine figured he may as well try it considering the size of his object he wanted to enter my back door.
    oh I never licked his back door.
  • See, thats you my girl Steph!! I would look at my guy in a completely different light if he even took too long answering the question about letting me do it. The Down Low thing is so scary to me and though he may not be, thats the only thing that would be on my mind if he let me do it. But luckily, the men Ive dealt with said HELL NO with the quickness LOL! Oh, and ABSOLUTELY NO LICKING his anal area - call me selfish, but thats just for me.
  • *why
  • Reesethe
    My best friend from college was in a relationship with this guy on campus for two years. They use to try almost everything sexually and of course she would come to me and tell me SOME of the details. We went on summer break and when we came back in August her and the guy were not together anymore. She never talked about why they broke up. It was horrible because everytime they would see each other on campus they would walk the other way. Finally after a couple months she told me that he had brought a new sex toy for them and he wanted her to use it on him. It was a large strap on and she was totally embarrassed. She brokeup with him about two days after that. Even though it was like 5 years ago we still tlak about it to this day. lol. And what makes it bad is that he works in a building not far from me so I see him all the time.
  • LADYNEWSOME
    It's a known fact that most men are not good a wiping after finishing dropping a load. I know we have a variety of soaps available but why in the Sane mind world would you choose to lick someone's a--hole it just discusses me totally. When I see my husband I see my strength, a strong tower, way maker, everything that is solid in a world full of many ups, downs, and who know's whats. I do like to see him drained after some good loving but on all fours looking like a B--ch I don't think so. Once I experience something like that it would change the respect level and I would always question just how far would he go. Once it's licked it would see like a natural response to desire penetration. We ladies know once you lick it stick it. Me penetrating my man takes away the seperation of male from female to me. Why don't you just get a chick with a dick it your interested in penetrating a dude. We have liberated every damn thing that nothing is sacred anymore
  • Annamarie
    You are part of a dying breed which is a sad thought. There seem to be no limits any more. No taboos. Hats off to you for keeping your man on his pedastal.
  • LADYNEWSOME
    Thanks, it's good to know I'm not alone. Everybody is bending and
    compromising with the times but we wonder why there is such a lack of black
    women getting married because of this. No man can live off of just sex.
    Where are the true women who gave birth to a nation, who struggled through
    adversity,and be the odds no matter what. We have traded that to be video
    hoe's and super freaks. We have a nation of women who will lick a--,
    penetrate a man but can't cook a decent meal. I'm so over all of this sex
    sex sex this stuff is not new it started but when the Roman empire was
    founded people need to do some research. It was foul then and it's foul
    now. Good looking out and I wish you that all is well.
  • ANuJS
    I have been with the same man for 15 years (married 9) I am college educated -have a masters. I have been through so much and prevailed. I am not a video hoe and I realize that my good loving isn't ALL that has kept my man with me over the years. I am indeed a lady (all day) and a freak (all night) Believe me I can cook, I can clean, and this is only the surface of my talents. However, I enjoy sex and it is a big part of my married life. I enjoying talking about it and doing it. I am very open minded. I can't see making adult decisions in the bedroom as compromising myself in any negative way. Truth be told, if we really knew all the freaky stuff that went on after dark....we'd be suprised. BTW, I have no pedestal in my bedroom. When the lights are off (sometimes on) whatever floats our boat is what we do. Also I know from reading some of the other comments, that there are a ton of ladies who enjoy being licked but aren't willing to be stuck.
  • LADYNEWSOME
    Bravo you are a very intelligent woman and deserve to be applauded but this
    is a blog and everybodies opinion is open for discussion I was not targeting
    you I was making a blanket statement. if you consider the media black women
    are looked at as sex objects more than anything else and sex is an important
    part of any relationship but my views remain the same and not because there
    is a pedestal in my bedroom I can get down with the best of them I just want
    my man to be masculine not bitchy it's a turn off for me I like a man's man
    hard working and hard stroking. If you squirm like a Bitch I might feel
    inclinded to treat you like one.
  • ANuJS
    Agreed 100%. As a black woman-scratch black- ALL women, we have watched ourselves be devalued completely. Where ur booty size determines our worth. I understand completely about not wanting to see your man with his ass tooted up in the air. LMAO @ squirm like one be treated like one. Me now understands!
  • LADYNEWSOME
    I know you seemed to intelligent to miss my point mission accomplished keep
    on doing what your doing being a wonderful strong woman
  • Annamarie
    Your thoughts are so detatched. A (Masters), educated woman would never draw a comparison of herself to a 'Video Hoe, nor would you refer to your degree as merely a 'masters.' Titles do not define who you are. It's wonderful that your marraige has lasted this long and you should be proud. But seriously what delight can you achieve by watching your man on all fours while you enlarge his asshole. Is this a behavior he wouldn't mind you telling his boys about. If yes then how would he respond if the thought made one of his homeboys' dick hard? And if no, then why r you putting his business out there like that? I hope I didn't beat you up but i'm just blown away by the 'anything goes' attitude. I know when I think of my husband the thought of bending him over and having him spead eagle would be the scariest fucking thought imaginable.
  • Naw not my style, not for men or women.
  • DC_REALEST
    WOW! to lick or not to lick...

    I know most of you will hurl (get over it) at my comment but here goes...from the DL side. This is most likely thought to be "normal" for the DL fellas but its not. I agree with LADYNEWSOME most dudes don't wipe good...so if we ain't just get out the shower that dead meat. now on the receiving end...its not a must but a plus. as for the fingers...naw...i'll pass.

    I wont go any further as it is lunch time for most of us...and I don't want anyone to loose their lunch....so i'll pass other comments
  • ANuJS
    Pardon me DC, but I may be curious. You can tell me more. I already ate and digested my lunch. But just because, I really would like to know. Inquiring minds want to know?!
  • DC_REALEST
    iight Steph, you asked so here goes. i was going to say that if ya'll think licking or giving a dude da fingers is nasty. on this side (can't speak for all...) but the ultimate turn off is when u fcuking a dude and he shyts on ya stick. OMG, and the smell. its like u busy trying to keep rythem...but the smell is like yo...WTF! this is most likely to happen to dudes you don't know on da regular. LOL, i'm dying laughing even typing this...but its true. we call it "painting." i.e. i holla at one of my boys the next day and be like shawdy from da club/line whateva was good but he "painted" on me. that why i said a shower is a must for all that four play. now if i just getting some brain...suck me off and keep it moving.
  • ANuJS
    I can see where this would be a turnoff. Painting? I love the name-it's so polite.(Yuck!) After he paints, you don't stop? You finish your business? I guess that this is in fact the downfall to anal sex. :( Thanks for schooling me!
  • DC_REALEST
    LOL, basically. you'd be surprised at the names and acronyms. the funniest part is how many of them have made their way to the "straight side" not to mention the whole "sagging phenom" i remember years ago in the club we call them "fcuk boys" b/c they be walking round with their pants hanging off da ass like come fcuk me...but i've digressed.
    so yeah if shawdy paint...i just light the jay back up...continue to hit from the back and handle my bi. this is not the case in frequent fcuk buddies or your lover b/c everbody or most now they will get talked bout afterwards.
    but on the flipside...when im with a female (yes, i tell them) and she got the hairy big sacks in her mouth...i push that head down there just like a dude and she do what she do...same ish.
  • Annamarie
    Assholes are not for licking, they are for shitting. Why don't people get that.
  • Bill
  • slimjackson
    Nothing goes in or around my A, well unless we just talking about the taint...

    If you don't know about the taint, go seek that knowledge.
  • nichellewalker
    If a man gets upset about his ass, or even a talk, than most likely he's on the low a real man would not call you names are beat yo ass he would just say it's not my thing!!! guys on the low who don't want to admit that they are gay get defensive in my opin if I had a guy get all mad because I asked him this than I would think something was wrong with him that he's trying to hid something. Real men know what they like. And just because you get your ass licked doesn't make a man gay. Now putting toys up there that’s a bit much for me. I couldn’t do it at all. But if you read on the down low JL King says that if a man gets upset about sexual questions because that means that there's something to hide that he was the same way.

    I don't think for one minute licking ass has something to do with why men are dogs or the down fall of our community it's all about what we accept as women. What goes on behind your closed doors is your business so if you lick ass okay if not okay, it doesn't make anybody wrong are right. I’m sure licking ass has been going on as long as head has.
  • hottnikz
    I'm good on anything that has to do with an ass, especially my mans! That's bitchassness at it's best. I had a guy ask me to put a thumb up his ass, during phone sex. Thank God that was before anything went down between us. Needless to say he never got another call from me again. But my homie, she gets a kick out of shit like that. She is the initiator most of the time. Most dudes I imagine would be ready to snap the fuck out if asked to participate in this, but she obviously knows how to pick em. I think she gets a thrill out of totally emasculating a man, seeing him bitch up like that. Too weird for me, but oh well. If she likes it ,I love it, for her.
  • kos ummak
    kol khara
  • VIChick
    I'm not down with that. If any man ask me to do anything round his ass I will have to slap his ass to fucking hard.
  • SheLurks
    Me and the same friend I mentioned from the other anal story also engaged in this... well I licked it lol... it was something we talked about a couple of times and I was curious so I did want to try it. anyways for the record I was INCREDIBLY DRUNK when this happened and if we didnt talk about it the next day I would've forgotten all about it. it All I know is I was givin head and then he started to move and ended up on all 4s... keep in mind i was Not in my right mind and all i knew was that there was ass in my face and i remembered what he said "lick and jack him off @ the same time" so i did that for like 20sec then we changed positions and continued on w/ the session...

    I was incredibly drunk and it only lasted for 20sec... does this even count?? lol
  • Mac
    AAaight as a straight male i think thats just homo, thats one place on a man you dont play. Hell if you wanna get us off good finish the job, there is no better feeling when you cuming and ya gurl steady sucking u off, it feels like she's suckin every ounce of energy outta u. and she aint even gotta be close to ya ass
  • Regina
    I'm sorry, but I could have sworn being gay means being attracted to the same sex and/or having sex with the same sex. So my question is how having sexual intercourse with the opposite sex, whether it be licking ass or not, make a man gay?

    I would want a man you is a freak lol in the bed and most importantly comfortable enough in his sexuality. Now if he just doesnt like it or isnt into it, thats another story. But to say a man who doesnt mind getting is ass licked by a woman is automatically gay, I think is totally wrong.
  • BeautyIsMyGift
    THIS SHIT IS GAY!! if your man wants him anywhere near his ass he is homo!!! My man would beat my ass if I even asked him 2 look at his ass, and that's how real men suppose to be!!
  • LADYNEWSOME
    Beauty I wouldn't have used those words but I agree totally
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