Comments on: You Are Not My Mother

By: Slim Jackson

Slim Jackson — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 21:53:01 +0000

@ {S.T.U.F.F.}

You must have really have had it out for me a few months ago. I just came here randomly and saw your comment the noticed you followed me across the internet to all my blogs and left nasty comments. Sounds like you're the one that leads a sad existence. Hope you've addressed your own issues. Trick.

By: {S.T.U.F.F.}

{S.T.U.F.F.} — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 02:32:00 +0000

When you come down off of that 'holy' cloud that you have invented to guard your obviously fragile ego…maybe then, you'll stop the bulls**t & see both yourself and women for the King & Queens that we really are.
It's the grandiose, egotistical, narcissacistic, self-indulgent …{do I need to go on?…because I can!}… attitude such as yours that is getting in the way of progress. Dig your insecure mug out of your a** , EXPERIENCE a couple more years of life {your posts are indicative of the short-lived time that you have been on this earth. Real Brothers who have 'EXPERIENCED' life are not shallow enough to wear their cynicism on their sleeve}, take your high heels off, get some 'REAL' equipment, and for God's sake!, quit f**king whining!…
…maybe then, you won't be such a misogynist { S.A.T. word – look it up} !!!!

By: B says....

B says.... — Tue, 21 Oct 2008 20:42:08 +0000

Interesting Post….
I have question (or 2) for you though….

Are you trying to find the one worthy of having your last name or are you just having fun right now? Even though you love your mom on a different level, does that mean that you wont treat your girl with respect? Im asking because I've had a guy friend treat me like i was a queen. He always said the right things like “anyone worth having is worth working for”, but in the end, he didnt understand that I wasnt feeling him that way so he dropped off the face of the earth…..what does that mean to you?

By: Thatchicknik

Thatchicknik — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 23:45:08 +0000

…assuming we'd get to the point of marriage.

By: Thatchicknik

Thatchicknik — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 23:39:08 +0000

Not so much that you NEVER had a choice, but more so that women were typically the 'selector' in the dating process. Now it seems as though men are who makes the decision. Considering the female to male ratio, I agree that the tables have certainly turned. But some, not all, but some men have taken complete advantage of the odds being in their favor; an abuse of power, so to speak. Your choice of words “proving herself worthy” or “passed all the tests” just to get some love from, which would in turn be inferior to the love you give your mother?? Nah. Im not jumping through hoops to prove my worth to you as a woman. And I wouldnt want you jumping through hoops for me. Be yourself; if we dig each other, cool. If not, move on. – And not to throw religion in the mix, after all, im not the pillar of good christianity. But the Good Book, often a reference point when discussing morals and ethics, makes room for the argument that one should 'leave the nest' and 'cleave to thy husband/wife'. Which means I will now be your top priority, not moms.

By: Sowhatiff Jenkins

Sowhatiff Jenkins — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 23:24:33 +0000

While I can see the connection between the way a man treats his momma, and how he could potentially treat a woman he loves romantically, the two don't go hand in hand. There is difference between the way a man thinks and cares about his momma…and chances are you won't be on that level, nor should you expect to be. True, he learned the basic manners, etc. of how to related to women from her, but you don't want to be on the same level as his momma in the sense that he thinks of you the same way he thinks about her…the dynamic of your relationship is not the same.

Now if their relationship interferes with yours (it shouldn't if he's not a momma's boy), then you may have a problem…

By: Slim Jackson

Slim Jackson — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 23:20:35 +0000

You're right. I'm not the only lion in the jungle. But as men get older, the selection of women increases…especially for dudes who got their ish together. Yes, it's a double standard. Unfortunately, there's not much anybody can do about it.

And since when have Alpha males (not a Greek reference) not had a choice in who they court and wife up?

By: Qrazy

Qrazy — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 23:07:26 +0000

actually, it isn't about how he TREATS his mother…but how he views her. My ex hinted that he saw a physical altercation between his mom and dad and that his mom stayed. That same ex also threatened me and said something real foul about my son's communication disorder.
He treats his parents well, but obviously doesn't respect women.
He saw his mom take whatever from his dad….and expects the same from whatever woman he dates.
He treats his parents well because he was taught to….

By: DomiX

DomiX — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 22:52:39 +0000

Well shit, I already know how my boy and his mother are…….so I don't look at that as a reflection of how me and him will be.

By: kingsmomma

kingsmomma — Mon, 20 Oct 2008 22:08:51 +0000

I halfway agree with this. No man is going to treat a jump off the way he treats his mother but you can look at how he interacts with his mother to see his views on women and their role within a relationship. Things like that are passed down. There is a lot that can be learned about a man by watching the way he interacts with his mother. (If he has that Oedipus Complex they should only see your dust as you are letting the door hit you where the good lord split you)

You treat your mother well andthat treatment will not be given to any ol round teh way girl but your serious girlfriend or wife should be able to expect the similar treatment.

If a man disrespects his mother you should just RUN!!! There is no reason a man should disrespect his mother and if he can do that then you have no chance of being respected as a woman in his life.
A woman would be stupid not to look at how a man interacts with his mother.