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i would have no problem with giving him my password if he gave me his as well, otherwise he can go kick rocks =]
but nah if a im in a committed relationship with dude, he should trust me enough to know that im not doing anything shady behind his back, and me the same. i mean theres definately going to be people out there trying to eff ish up but as long as neither one of us acts on it all is good.
the main point is that EVERYTHING written online, whether its an email or message 9x out of 10 they are going to sound suggestive and not as innocent as they might actually be.

If Im in a committed relationship I'm not looking for anyone to holla at me neither my ex or otherwise. Im not setting the tone on my page that its appropriate for them to do so. I would hope that my partner would trust me enough on Myspace, Facebook, or whatever the network preference that I'm not being shady.

I believe that we all need some things to be private because even if you were to allow them to have the password to one or two accounts whose to say there isn't a second. It just starts up way too many questions. Like Budden did to those people. She wasn't checking for them so why is it an issue? I'm a individual that had a life before him and I don't need to answer for everyone I speak with. If he gonna sit there and doubt me we shouldn't be together anyway.

In plan terms NOPE!

and with trust, i've always gone back and forth with what that really means.

Is trusting someone opening up your life completely to them, and giving them the honest truth because you have nothing to hide, or trusting someone taking what they tell you as the complete and honest truth and not needing to second think/guess them about anything?

Hell to the nah. For what? I'm not saying I have anything to hide but what's the point of it. It's not that serious.

Fuck NO!!!

The coupla folks I deal with don't give a shit & they wouldn't find too much of anything outside of men tryna holla. That is not an issue because I'm single. My business is mine and theirs is theirs........

NO..dont think so LOL.

If he did check my page he wouldnt find anything out the norm in there..but my INBOX is a different story.

If I was in a relationship I'd let him look at my page...who cares...nothing to hide.

no he does not have my password.

all that duz is cause problems.

you never know when your ex is gnna decide to send you a messege on myspace, and even if its innocent its still gnna look bad.

And thats also why i have an "application lock" on my text messeges on my phone. very good feature of motorolla phones ;)

I agree Valerie, even though you may not be doing anything, what if you get a message from a friend. Even if the message is innocent he is gonna look at it like why you talking to him. And that causes nothing but problems.

That is soo true.

But if you have nothing to hide, why not?

But then again, i think it all depends on where you are in the relationship..

Exaclty, if I'm in a commited relationship, what is there to hide, and if I'm in a commited relationship why am I on myspace letting dudes holla?

Exactly.... if you're not using myspace and the internet to make a living... I mean cool It's an invasion of privacy but all I hear is it just causes trouble or hell naw! You know what that tells me killa.... they got something to hide and they may be up to no good!

" all I hear is it just causes trouble or hell naw! You know what that tells me killa.... they got something to hide and they may be up to no good!"

I Co-sign that right there...

So you mean to tell me if your girl asked to look at all the pics on your hard drive or external hard drive you would let her do so? And you know what pics I'm talking about. Because it starts with a MySpace account but where are the boundaries?

well me personally, and my relationship, yes. I personally don't have anything to hide, and the fact that nothing is a secret or hidden from my wife makes my life much easier.

I commend you for being open and honest with your wife about what you are doing. I agree it does make life easier when there are no secrets to hide.

im not giving my password to him and dont want his either, for what? unless im gonna fix his page for him

theres nothing to see...sometimes i get messages from dudes that like me, but if he's my man then he already knows what it is so it shouldnt even concern him

& it doesnt matter what u have on your profile if u are cute some random dude will try to holla, you dont have to be seeking attention or trying to do dirt

if he's upset about that then he has insecurity issues

"I don't have to make this shit up"

Joe Budden makes some good points..

Why you trying to holla at somebody's girl when you have never done 'WordPress"?!?

That's corny.

AND a true etiquette has NOTHING to hide.

That's also very corny.

No problem because Myspace is more of a promotion thing then trying to "holla"

Super corny.

And as much as I love computer slang, sometimes we take it TOO far. "When" should only be spelled "When" ALWAYS! ( ween?!?)

Mad corny.

When i had one i didnt have a problem with him checking my myspace page, even though i didnt mind he never asked, but he would have found numerous messages "yo ma you mad pretty" that were read but never replied to, and the rest would have been friends spilling their secrets in messages because they didnt want them put on a comment board, party invitations, and me and other homegirls trying to figure out what we were doing and where we were going for the weekend or an afternoon lunch.
Truth be told myspace can break up alot of relationships and spoil MANY friendships. I've had people ask "why am i not on your top" or "Why am i so low on your top friends" Boyfriends jealous of best friends because i always put my best friend first and best friends jealous of boyfriends because he talked me into changing it. Myspace is full of drama thats why i keep my Myspacing to a BARE MINIMUM now-a-days, because i cant deal with the drama.

Even if I was stranded on a deserted island for 5 years, I would NEVER let my girl check my MySpace. Letting my girl check my Space is like letter her see whose numbers I have in my phone.

Okay Joe Budden is lame for feeling like he needs his girls myspace password. Can you say insecure!! If you know you've got your girl you shouldn't care about any random negroes on Myspace. Reading messages that were not intended for you can only lead to future misconceptions and problems. Nothing worse than being in a relationship and having to have fights over nothing because you're with some insecure clown. Joe obviously has no respect for his girls privacy. Which in my book makes him LAME!!!!!