Comments on: Tonight On The Bleach Johnson Show

By: Shaneice.

Shaneice. — Sun, 28 Sep 2008 22:39:08 +0000

Wow. This is similar to a friend of mine, however her and her dude don't have kids together. He's like 20 years older than her. Yeah, that's right. He manipulates her, controls her and cusses her out at times. I've tried to help her get out the situation, but she feels the need to make up excuses and tries to use manipulation to get her way.

As far ol' girl above, she needs to escape asap. The kids will always have a father. That never goes away, but your safety matters. If this dude is acting a straight azz, you should know better. Go to court and get an order to have full custody. Move out. When you win custody, get your kids and be happy in your new place. Don't tell him a damn thing either. Your life is yours. Don't let some dude think he's the shiit, when he smells like it. Get it together girl. Yup.

By: e-dub

e-dub — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 02:04:37 +0000

cosign.

By: e-dub

e-dub — Fri, 26 Sep 2008 02:02:06 +0000

Gotdamn… I got tired after reading half of it… i gave up reading… but i get the gist. He tryna make you feel like he's the best thing you ever gonna get… bullshit.

Look, u got self esteem problems sista… what you need to do, is do the things that make you attractive to other men… You a little thick around the waist? watch what you eat, exercise… Not too sharp upstairs? Start reading. Not interesting enough? Step outside your box and do some interesting shit and become interesting. Basically do shit to better yourself, and trust… good men will come out the woodwork and take notice… 0 kids, 2 kids, or 5. It don't matter.

By: Mrz.Me

Mrz.Me — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 23:24:27 +0000

I couldn't even finish reading your letter. I have heard and have been thru this situation before. I will tell you this kids are more happy when mommy is happy, when mommy is sad they feed off your emotions. So staying in it for the kids is no reason at all. My parents use to argue all the time and my mom was not happy at all, I got more respect for her when she left that situation. She had girls that looked up to her. You are torn an d that is understandable you have been with this man for a very long time. But my question to you…Is it worth it? By you writing this letter you know your relationship is over but you are scared to leave and scared to see whats out there. It's okay to be that way but being scared can also be a handicap. It keeps you in situations that GOD himself is trying to get you out of. It doesn't get any better, he will continue to treat you this way because you accept it. But don't feel bad cause I did to and there is still plenty of woman who are accepting these things. But what really made me change was that i realized that i loved myself. And if i truely love myself i wouldn't let anyone hurt me or take away my happiness. Marriage is a serious thing and should not be taking lightly. And if he is treating you like this before you are married it only gets worse and then he will throw that you are my wife thing in your face. So then you become more of his property. I wish you the best and alwayz a peace of mind.

By: Ashley

Ashley — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 23:23:30 +0000

You said it yourself you work and cook. Your ONLY 28, believe me you'll find someone else. And you'll be able to be happy cause now you can get out. Your kids will have a better life if they see you happy. My mom and dad use to fight alot I got to the point I didnt want them together cause I hated seeing them mad at eachother. You kid's sees your hurting and they'll understand. He knows he's wrong thats why he keep putn that negative shit in yo head, to get you thinking about some bull shit thats not even true. Change is all good, Remember you can do bad all by yourself

By: SadiquaP

SadiquaP — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 22:16:19 +0000

i am scared for this girl.

he is abusive, demanding, and certified crazy. this can go badly in so many ways…including him killin her and the kids. why risk that?

By: tx_virgo

tx_virgo — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 21:23:24 +0000

Ionned, u gave great advice. I also went thru the exact same thing as u. I started dating the father of my 2 kids at the age of 14 and he was the first “real” boyfriend I had. He cheated so many time I lost count, I would always forgive him b/c I felt loyality was the most important thing. The straw came when he got another woman pregnant at the same time I was pregnant with our second child. Our kids are 4 months apart TO THE DAY!!!!!! My mother is very active in the church, and told me I had to forgive him and if I REALLY LOVED HIM we could work thru it. I really had to do alot of praying and HAD TO DO WHAT WAS BEST FOR ME AND MY KIDS!!!!!! I told him that I couldn't do it anymore it was GONNA B ME OR HIM AND I WOULD CHOOSE ME ANYDAY!!!!!! I was 26 yrs old and it was hard, I still am healing from all the abuse mental, emtional, and physical. I can also attest to feeling as if I gave him the best yrs of my life. I would always tell my friends that he got me in my prime, and I wasted 12 yrs on him. I haven't really dated b/c I feel it would be unfair to the next man for me not to be over this completely. U and ur kids will b much happier if u do what is BEST FOR U!!!!!!

By: Classyand Sassy

Classyand Sassy — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 20:14:29 +0000

Judging by how long this woman has been manipulated and abused, im guessing her family (mother, father, siblings) are not in the picture, which i am sure is exactly what this guy wanted. He has left her feeling alone in the world and completely dependent on him. Point blank sweetie, u need to leave him! If that means that u need to go to your local Womanspace to find refuge away from his manipulation and abuse, then do it! Also, just by reading the grammar and incorrect use of so many words, this girl needs to get herself an education. Self improvement and self love is truly the best way to take charge of her life and to become the best mother she can be.

By: what?

what? — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 19:52:34 +0000

I couldn't even finish reading after she said “I want to leave but want my kids to have both parents”…would you rather them see their dad treat u like that, then grow up thinking that its ok for men to treat them like that cuz thats what daddy did to mommy!!!! RUN BITCH RUN!!! Harsh but true, do it for the kids…u would rather have them be in a single parent home than an abusive one, believe me. U will be ok, u just have to believe!!!!!

By: kingsmomma

kingsmomma — Thu, 25 Sep 2008 19:45:35 +0000

i'm just shaking my head. I can't judge any woman but she is allowing this man to brainwash her. There are times when common sense kicks in and she knows better than to believe some of the things he has been saying. What exactly are you waiting for? Do you want your HIV test to come back positively or would you like to fast forward about 15-20 years in teh future to see your son beating his spouse and your daughter allowing some man to beat the daylights out of her?
He is talking about some man molesting his daughter when in fact that is what he is doing. He is molesting her mind by subjecting her to such an unhealthy relationship. No man will want you, not because you you have two children but because you lack confidence and strenth. You need to Dig Deep and find it and get you and your children out of this situation before it is too late.
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