Comments on: How To Talk To Red Bones

By: TK4life

TK4life — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 11:53:59 +0000

…this is pure sh!t. Just learn to treat all women with respect. You can't act like their sh!t don't stink too. Regardless of her color, just make sure you get a girl that's not brain dead.

By: I'mSoMe

I'mSoMe — Sun, 14 Sep 2008 13:54:58 +0000

I agree with everything you said Kiwi, but I don't think he meant it that way. He was merely stating that this is an issue within the media and everyday life, because it is. However, the issue is not within other races, its within “us” ourselves. And by “us” I mean the Black Community. But I ask Xilla and other fans of this topic…Is it that the media is not recognizing dark skinned women as equal…or is it that “WE” are not recognizing them that way? And again…by “we” I mean the Black Community. Ever hear the phrases “I am my worst critic” or “If I laugh at myself first, it won't seem so bad”? Why criticize our women so harshly when everyone else sees them the same? Why are we trying to beat them to the punch? “WE” look so f***ing stupid because “EVERYONE ELSE” always gets the last laugh. This shit is so old and nonrelevant (yet so relevant) that sometimes I wonder…..

By: I'mSoMe

I'mSoMe — Sun, 14 Sep 2008 13:32:52 +0000

No disrespect Blogxilla, but if you wanted us to comment on the “source site” then why post it on yours? Second, I don't think darkskinned women are treated differently than lightskinned, its just in how they look at themselves. I've heard it a million times before…the lightskinned girls will fight tooth and nail to land a role in a video or film while the chocolates don't think its always worth the fight. How far you get ahead is all in the woman herself! They generally allow the media and dumbass men (light and dark) to intimidate them with this light and dark shit! This is why black people, light, medium or dark (for those who have forgotten how many shades we come in) will never advance beyond our white counterparts. The truth of the matter is…black men (and women alike), have our people separated down to a color code. Take a look at the media and real life…the white boys aren't separating the browns from the blues, or the blondes from the brunettes. Things they could look for in a woman, but they remember one thing…THEY'RE ALL WHITE!!! You do the math!!

By: LiteBrite

LiteBrite — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 11:21:37 +0000

@kyas_mami ..as a light skinned female with light eyes i completely understand…and it frustrates me that when colorism is discussed..that particular side of the story is never told..Sure there are red bones that think they are the shit for just being bright..but not all of us are like that. Just like there are stuck up dark skinned girls..I hate that i meet alot of dark skinned females who seem to blame me or any other light skinned gurl for the light over dark mentality when we neither came up with this nor do most of us agree or perpetuate this foolishness. Its just another way to conquer and divide the african-american people and sadly its a pretty successful tactic
Moral of the story there are pretty red bones and dark skinned girls as well as ugly light and dark skinned girls..and oh yea BLOGXILLA i love ur blog but i feel like this only perpetuated the stereotype of stuck up light skinned girls when in reality a lot of females fall into those categories regardless of skin tone

By: yes

yes — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 11:14:21 +0000

this is absurd

By: Ms. Smith

Ms. Smith — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 08:45:26 +0000

Wow just wow! Objectifying women on any level sucks! But since we are going there, I have decided to no longer date chocolate brothers. That's right, I am going cold turkey. It is taking some effort but I have decided that chocholate brothers have been in too long and it is affecting there attitude. I am officially only dating light skinned brothers! My theory is that they no they are not in so they will treat you better. I am giving this test 3 months and will report back on the outcome.

By: coco

coco — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 02:22:42 +0000

Well, I have now heard it all…Xilla these comments you quoting are pure ignorance. I aint offended, cuz I guess thats how it is. Im glad you can appreciate all women!

By: ANuJS

ANuJS — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 00:54:10 +0000

Agreed, but about that “taste better” shit from above..SMH

By: ANuJS

ANuJS — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 00:53:16 +0000

I agree. Light skinned women couldn't have possibly sat around and decided they were the shit. I think it just stems from slavery and we refuse to let go of this mentality. I personally think that SOME blacks have a lot of slave mentality. (As a teacher, you just wouldn't believe the way some folks can act….SMH) However, I have always been mystified by the men who are so shallow to JUST see light vs. dark. I have seen some U-G-L-Y girls being chased b/c of how “fine” they were and the only thing fine about them was their hair type and skin color. It's true that beauty will attract, but it takes more than this to keep them. I think that it all just boils down to thinking “YOU” are the shit and everyone else can only think the same way about you. I struggled for years and it took my best friend (who wouldn't be considered a beauty in most peoples mind) to show me that it comes from within. I personally can't hate a women for being pretty or light skinned. It is amazing to me that society can only accept one idea of beauty. Perfect example is Kelly Rowland not as pretty as Beyonce? In order for me to be pretty do I have to be thin, light skinned, and have hair to my waist? This depresses me b/c there are a lot of fat, dark skinned little girls with short nappy hair that will forever struggle with whether or not they are pretty. This is what upsets me.

By: mia

mia — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 23:54:36 +0000

I can understand where dark skin women are coming from. I'm mahogany brown, and when I was younger, like jr high years, the boys all chased the light skin and hispanic girls, mostly the hispanic girls. I was self concsious cause I didn't think my skin was pretty. Even though all my life I've heard, “you're so pretty to be dark skinned” (I truly despise that phrase. I'm still like WTF everytime I hear it), I didn't really think so, but as I grew older especially my last years of HS, I grew into my own. I began to appreciate my mahogany complexion and my body (try being the only 8th grader with ass & dds). I think it might've helped if the videos we saw had chicks that looked like me. Even in dance class that they always put the lighter chicks in the front row. I think black women in general are a hot commodity. I mean yeah we bicker amongst each other, but who do most other women try to immulate??? I think that once we get over our own fears and prejudice toward on another, then we can work on others. Besides as far as I'm concerened everyone is intitled to have a preference. Like me, I thought that I was genrally open to most men, but when I evaluated I noticed I like big tall men, kind of like a line backer, and I like them dark and handsome. To each, its own.