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Tupac – Should You Respect Women?
Posted in Relationships on 19. Aug, 2008
This vintage clip of Tupac Shakur breaking down the basic principle of why you should dog a woman if you plan on keeping her. My partner John J always tell me to “treat a good girl like a wh*re and treat the wh*res like a good girl”. Today more and more women don’t want a man who is going to treat them like a queen, although they say they do. I believe it’s all part of the chase, a woman wants to chase a man and her getting dissed, pushed to the side, or cheated on only seems to make a woman want him more. I believe it’s because females are easily dick-matized. What do you think?
Uh no….. imo! I don't need to be disrespected or treated like a whore, shyt you treat me right and I'll treat you right!
Shyt you cheat you're gone fuck that I love ME TOO MUCH to be degraded by any ni99a!
You know the funny thing is he is right. No “real woman” wants to be disrespected. But there are alot of whores and such, you know who you are! Who answer to cat calls and ay baby's that make these ignorant fools think it is okay to continue that cycle with every woman. Then once in the relationship, they get worse and the women stays because of an apology or she is use to disrespect because of what she saw as a child or the lack there of. NE way a long story short, A man will only treat you the way you allow him too! Dont allow it, demand more, or close the legs!
PREACH!!!!!!!!!
But for real I totally agree with you, ni99as only do what you allow them to!
I feel that women are easily “dickmatized” …..in 2008. The pickins are slim out here. With this new era of jump -offs and buss it babies women are now able to put a title on things that have been goin on for centuries. Does that mean the woman does not respect herself……….no. You can still treat a woman like a Queen if you are a man who believes in treating a woman like a Queen.
Yes!!! Thank you, you get it!! lol
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**looks around**
“treat a good girl like a wh*re and treat the wh*res like a good girl”. …ok I heard this phrase last week from a couple I was doing a marriage counseling session with,the husband said that's the way his father told him how to treat women and I admit at the time I was a lil shellshocked for a minute after he said that.He said that was the reason he couldn't be faithful to his wife,and the whole time his wife sat there just crying,and I asked her was this the first time she's heard this,she said No,she had heard him say that before they were married,and All I could think in my head was Then why the hell did you marry him and why the hell are you staying married to him?! I swear sometimes it's hard for me to stay professional on my job because every instinct in me was wanting to shake the hell outta her and say BabyGirl wake the hell up and get some self esteem and self respect about yourself.You're right a man will only do what you allow them to do,if you now that you are trating him with respect and you're treating him like your king,then dammit he needs to be doing the same for you.I get so upset everytime I have to have one of those sessions and the wives are just so willing to sit back a nd accept the bullshit,You can do bad by your damn self.
Problem with this thinking is that it puts ALL woman in the same category. There are the tramps, whores and sluts, and then there are the woman worthy of queenship. The issue is men seem to have forgotten how to distinguish between the two. They've been wanting to queen up the tramps, whores and sluts and when that does not work or it blows up in their face, woman as a whole are blamed. I challenge brothas to identify the types of woman they are dealing with, treat them accordingly.. You can't turn a hoe into a housewife…stop trying. Find you a woman worthy of being treated like a queen…and hopefully she'll be that hoe you want behind closed doors.
*Sucks teeth* Whether we know it or not, we define ourselves. If you are being treated like a “whore” while thinkin' you're a lady, then chances are, there's something bout you that's not quite lady-like. But the problem is a lot of chicks allow themselves to be treated in a certin way out of fear. They're afraid that without a constant struggle, they won't know their man cares. They're afraid that if they demand better, he'll leave. And they're afraid that if he leaves, no one else will love them in his place. It's not about being “dick-matized” — although I am officially jackin' that word — it's really about being lost. And not knowing who you are. Cause without a proper self-definition, you very well could be the whore, while thinkin' you're the lady.
AMEN!!!!!!
AMEN and AMEN TheflyGIRL!! You have spoken and closed the book!
Women who know or feel they are worthy of queenship will treat a good KING like a pauper…In my experiences. That is y the majority get the catcalls, its just to weed out the riff raff
If a female responds then a dude will act according and treat u like a bust it baby.
The ones who ignore u are the one u come back at like a gentlmen
I'm surprised why no one has picked up on the fact that 2pac was a little sweet..I mean just a little skittles
a man will treat you a certain a way as much as u allow him to. if u dont stand for something u will fall for anything…so i was talking to this dude and i used 2 always tell him how much i care about him and so forth, im not gonna tell u dude called me a bi**h one time when we was arguing, so i asked him like did u really just call me that and he said no, and im like yes u did. anyhoo, i let him slide…fast forward 2-3 months later, dude call me on tha phone, while im at the trauma center cuz my dad was in an accident, and starts calling me a b out of nowhere. that was the beginning of the end of r twisted relationship. he felt it was ok 4 him 2 call me out of my name, but im not going 4 it. i know for sure it is never ok 4 a dude 2 call me out of my name, nonetheless not even be remorseful for it. he said oh if he call me a b, its because i said something 2 piss him off…knee grow please. like lauryn hill said, respect is just the minimum
why must ppl always go from one extreme to the next? if someone says ur too nice, that doesnt meant u gotta flip the script allll the way, i dont understand ppl's logic…
its just like the thing about girls wanting thugs and not squares like there is no in between
so what was the purpose of her coming to u?
exactly
Women don't want a man who will dog them or cheat on them. However, we don't want someone who will do whatever we say and who is easy to walk all over either. We just want someone who will treat us well, but at the same time, challenge us, keep us on our toes and always guessing. You can't help who you fall for. Good Post, Xilla
Wow this is interesting because even though I havent actually heard the phrase “treat a good girl like a whore and a whore like a good girl” I have seen that shit played out in my life and others around me. It is some bullshit but I agree with most people on here that say its only what you allow. Thankfully I remained a virgin during my encounter with a particular gentlemen who steadlily wifed up known hood rats, girls that got around and were obviously using him for his money and ignored me who didnt want anything from him except a spritually mentally emotionally truthfull and supportive relationship….but alas he didnt want that he wanted a prostitute. AH WELP! At some point you gotta let go of a man who cant appreciate you and love you for who you are and know that there is one out there who will. Also ladies dont get caught up in the ridiculousness that is “he too nice” hell to the naw. That is a mess there is a difference between a pushover and a person who is actually a kind caring individual learn that difference I suggest reading the bible for further guidance okay peeps im out………..and by the way I LOVE THIS SITE!!!! THE BEST!!!!