Titles – I’m Not Your BoyFriend!!!
In a recent interview singer Chris Brown spoke about his relationship which Rihanna.
“Every interview I do, they’re like, ‘So, how are you and such and such doing?’ And I’m like, I don’t know you, ‘why you all in my business?’”
Let me get this straight, Chris Brown still doesn’t want to claim Rihanna? It made me wonder are titles still important?
When I first read his comment, it made me think of my younger days when I didn’t want to claim the girl whose hair I would pull, @ss I smacked, and got all sweaty with 2 or 3 times a week. I remember in depth conversations between my sweetie and I where we discuss the importance of a title. She would debate the need for one and I would claim that it was irrelevant. Looking back I know the reasons why I didn’t want a title to be present in my relationships. They are as followed
Options – When there is no title to a relationship you still have the option to sleep with other people. It’s the male equivalent to “You’re not my daddy” or “I don’t see a ring on this finger” I was basically leaving the door open just in case someone better came along.
Responsibility – With titles come more responsibility, just like in a job, if you’re a sales clerk you’re obligated to sell merchandise, but when you become manager you’re responsibility grows. With being a “boyfriend” you’re now obligated to do stuff that you weren’t obligated to do before, like buy pads, and make the bed after booty calls.
Expectations – Also with titles expectations grow, you’re now expected to be so much more. I think this is one of the reasons why sex confuses things in a friendship or relationship. People have an idea of what their ideal mate/boyfriend/girlfriend etc should be like and with a title you have to live up to that expectation.
